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Archived questions from: 11 October, 2009 (see latest in Sex category)

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Sex: Help and advice

Does this happen to you??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - has this happened to you??? on several occasions my wife and l have had fantastic morning sex before l go to work. i mean fantastic sex and not just a quickie. my wife always climax's during intercourse. on several times this has happened she has ...

I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I awoke in the middle of the night last night wet and horny. I must have cum in my sleep, although i don't remember what I was dreaming about. But I'm female and I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?...

Do men sleep with anyone they can?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - In your average friends with benefits situation so obviously we're talking frequent sex here, do you think a guy would sleep with just anyone? I mean if a guy is good looking and he knows it surely he would choose someone that he finds attractive? ...

She sees me as a lover and has developed feelings for her friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Ok here is the situation i have been dating my girlfriend for 9 months now and ever since we met i has been a quickly advancing relationship now i live 60 miles away and am still going to high school. we have always had problems not huge ones mid ...

What happened and why is it so hard to move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years . I have had a lot of loss over the last 4 years which caused me not to be in a relationship for a longtime . I felt all these years of being alone and I mean alone I didnt go out at all or date ...

I am not sure if I really screwed it up this time or what! What should I do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5304 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I met this guy in May, we went on a couple of dates and made out, and had some good chats on msn, and emailed me when i left the country to study. he said he wasn't ready for a GF, and btw he was the one who suggested the girlfriend thing. But we ...

Does my ex still really love me or does he just "want some"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - So me and my ex have been broken up for about two months. Ever since the break up I've regretted it and i have tried to do ANYTHING that I can to get him back. He has only told me that he doesnt feel the same way about me anymore and has pushed me ...

I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...

I lied to her and she knows it! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Okay well i thought id post my problem, Start of summer this year i went to a party with my friend, i didnt know many people there and through the night had a bit to drink and got talking to the girls,(Baring in mind i go to a girls school so there ...

My ex is confusing me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - me and my ex broke up a couple months ago after she cheated on me with the same guy she left to be with me. Over time I forgave her and tried to be friends. We would text each other every now and then. A few weeks ago she texts me and says she made ...

She won't acknowledge our past and wants me to be friends with her new guy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Who is being selfish here? "Jane" and I have been friends for about 5 years now, but for the first 15 months or so it was something more than that. Now, going forward, she wants to disacknowledge there being any history between us to any new people ...

I am cheating and want to be with my lover but it seems like he is backing off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (?) - I am a 38 yr old women. I have been married for 18 yrs now, I have been seeing someone that is 9 yrs younger than me. I am so in love with this guy. He has shown me how I should really be loved. Just recently he told me that he loves me but he can't ...

Shattered and Lost!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I'm about to graduate high school and, unlike my classmates, I am dreading it! When I was 13 I was kidnapped and abused, I also suffered from amnesia for 5 years. I didn't remember anything about my family or even my last name. I end...

Does he just want sex from me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - i have been txtinga man i met on internet for the last 7 weeks. early into it he said he tught he had alein love wit me. he txts me every morning all day and nite.he is vey thoughtful and every message is accompanied by him calling me babe and love ...

I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out of the closet, she is reluctant to try anything.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Im a gay girl and out, and 16 and so's my best friend (though shes not out). I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out, she is reluctant to try anything. I'm dying to kiss her and would love for us to be together , but i ...

What do you think is going on in her mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I had been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years - we broke up in April of this year - I suspected that she had been meeting with someone else for a while - as things hadnt been good for a while - she seemed to be trying to cause an argument all the time ...

Break through bleeding on the pill!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I started taking the pill several months ago and never had a break through bleed until about 5 months after taking it. I went off it for a while when I was single again (having no sexual contact during that time) and have started taking it again now ...

I'm 14, have had one abortion with complications, and I think I may be preganant again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Well im 14 yrs old and will be 15 February 3rd. I am in a relationship going on a year january 3rd and had an abortion september 1st. For my follow up ii was told that there was a blood clot left in my stomach ! ii believe they got it out but the ...

Could I not be a virgin any more because of getting fingered too hard?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Hey guys, well I have quite a straight forward question, well a while ago a got fingered by a guy, and well afterwards I was really sore and my vagina felt like it was burning, and so I had a look and it looked like it was bleeding but the blood ...

Do I love him for the sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - This guy that Im talking to, isnt my bf, but i call him my boo. we have been talking for over a yr now, and my feelings for him are really strong. i more then just like him, in fact im in love with him. well i think i am. i think of him all the time ...

I love her, and don't want to think about her past. Will these thoughts go away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5305 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now. We are very serious and talk about marriage. She told me that she was pretty promiscuous during the two to three years before we started dating when she was in the military. She even used the word ...

My mum broke me and my boyfriend up because she thinks he is weird, She wont let me be upset, Help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Well i was with my bf for a whole year. he two years older than me but we have known each other for years. I knew him from when i was in year 7 (grade 7) and he was year 9, now im in year 11 and have been with him since the begining of year 10. He ...

Do I have a medical problem after getting fingered?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend stayed over and for the first time i got fingured it was through my undies though and i pulled him off now i have got a sore stomach and have had it for two days what does this mean? please help. ...

Is he pushing me into sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - i have only been with my boyf. for a day and he already is saying that he wants to have sex And im not ready at all but if i dont i will get called fridged and i dont want that to happen so am i just going to have to have sex with him or is ...

Is my teacher flirting with me or am I overreacting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Sorry it's so long but it's been bugging me for a while... She teaches my favorite subject, drama. Last year we got on pretty well and on drama trips she'd always sit near me, like in front of me or something. and i could tell she was listenin...

How do I move forward in a positive way after divorcing a sex addict?.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I want to know how to move forward without guilt after divorcing my husband of 20 years because of a sex addiction he had. I want to feel less guilt that I ended the relationship even though he wanted to work on it and try. He is still in ...

He said "not now" when I asked him if he would get with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Okay.. there is a guy I really really like and he sort of likes me back. He said "not now" when i asked him if he would get with me. Then he said to my friend that he doesn't "fancy" me now but he thinks he will "fancy" me in the future which is why ...

I'm only 13, but I am pretty sure I am ready for sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5308 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - im only 13 and been with my boyf. for two years he wants to have sex and im pretty sure im ready (even though im still a virgin ) he is one year younger than me but im worrying about bleeding or what to do. im really excited about doing it and im ...

Is my first love just a long distance booty call?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - long story put very short.. he went to college 7 hours away. I stayed back in another college . now everytime he comes he always wants to hangout with me and we end up saying some stuff like we miss eachother we love eachother etc. but I can't help ...

I don't know what to do, should I speak to him to try and stop him feeling bad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hiya. I recently came out as gay after a long period of not really knowing and I have felt alot happier now I've come out. One of my friends intoduced me to a gay friend of hers and at first we just spoke online and had a great day together as ...

Sexual desire for my ex is still so strong, is this normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend of 2 years split up with me a couple of weeks ago and it was very very painful. Anyway, we met up yesterday for coffee- for no other reson than to try and clear the air a little so we could both move on (we both live and work in a ve...

Should I take A break from my long term Relationship to explore options or not??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Please help! I been with my mate for goin on 6 years and everything has always been ok. to my knowledge he had never cheated on thats what i believe. and we have had some rocky times in our relationship where he may have slipped up and or I slipped ...

Please please help!!!!! Me and my close cousin are in love!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5297 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Ok so I am a teenager... Just a teen, my cousin, who I've always had a huge crush on lives in ca and I live in florida... He and my uncle recently stayed at my grandmas house this summer for twomonths... I stayed with them... The whole time my uncle ...

She tells me she loves me and I love her too, but lack of affection and sex is really getting to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - So I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months. We are both 20 and are in college. The relationship started great, we used to spend alot of time together, sex was offered/given/recieved a hefty amount, and we both lost our ...

How can she be so loving and say she wants me, for certain, in her life, then put up a wall?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are trying to get back together after having a serious fight. On Monday, she came out to visit me. We haven't made love in almost two months, but we have been communicating beautifully, were affectionate, told each other how much ...

We are talking about marriage, but he can't tell me he loves me more than his best friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - So I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. His best friend is a girl. They have been friends since they were 13 and now are 27. They have hooked up a few times during their friendship, even cheating on one of his girlfriends which he ...

What can I do to feel a spark and passion again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I'm in a 6year lesbian relationship and I have an 8yr old from a previous relationship... we also have a 7month which we conceived with infertiltiy treatment... I love being a family but I'm bored and my feeling are not as strong as before.. what ...

I kissed another girl after my girlfriend left the party.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hi i ran into some problems at a party tonight. it was my girlfriends best friends birthday and they were pressuring me to kiss her so i did and then after she left another girl came up and kissed me on the lips. I feel really bad and i dont know ...

Does the bible speak against having sexual relations with your first cousin's widow ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My first cousin past away. His father and my father are brothers. Does the bible speak against having sexual relations with your first cousin's widow ?...

I don't know if I should let this go on because I am going into the National Guard.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Two weeks ago, my friend introduced me to this guy. He liked me since that day, I didnt really even think of him since I just broke up with my BF a month ago so. Even if i didnt seem interested in him, he took my friend and me out and we had s...

How do I dump him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4660 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...

He broke it off with me and went back to his wife. Now he is trying to get back with me again!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My fellow left his wife x 2 months, then he went back to her didn't call me for 9 days then started calling with the excuse he wanted to check on me see if I was all right - when he left it was clear he was letting me go sat at my table and said so ...

This just isn't the lifestyle for me... I feel trapped!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I'm 26 years old and identify myself as a bisexual male. For a couple of years now I have been engaging in relationships with men while still retaining my attraction to and even longing to be with women. More and more I have been feeling trapped ...