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age
41-50,
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writes:I've been dating a girl on a once a week basis, partially because we both live busy lives and I'm always traveling. In the past she has been by my standards permiscuous, for example sleeping with someone who has a girlfriend. By no means is she a good girl but she insists that she doesn't sleep around. I would like to know if I'm being played. We text more than we speak onthe phone. Two days ago it had been a few days since we heard from eachothrr so I text her. She then invites me to a movie date yet to be determined. Yesterday, Tuesday, I texted her asking if we had plans that day as the week before we mentioned we might hang out on that Tuesday. She replied back asking if I drank too much the night before, suggesting that I had thought we made plans that Monday when she asked me to the movies. I text her back asking if she wants to hang out the next day instead and I haven't heard back. That next day is today. She played the silent game once before so I called her a day later and picked up where we left off. A simple answer this time would be nice. If you like a guy and invite him out, why would you ignore an invitation? When we are together it's obvious she's into me, but I can't help think that she has me on stand by while sleeping with someone else. Do I call her out? Wait to hear from her as the ball is in her court? Or text and ask if she's ok? I just think it's rude not to get back to someone that you are sleeping with.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (15 July 2009):
Well it's hard to know what she's doing. It does sound like she's playing games though. However, she could be thinking that if you wanted to go out on a date with her, that you would initiate the asking and set a date with her. Wait a few days, then maybe ask her if she wants to go see a movie or go to dinner at a certain date and time. If she's still not responsive then definitely don't contact her again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): The question you 'should' ask yourself is whether you are willing to 'lose' this relationship you have with her. In other words, if losing this relationship would have a major impact on your emotional and mental core. If not, then I would suggest you step back and let things happen on their own time while you maintain your personal dignity.
Whether she is important to you or not, is subjective to the scenario and potential and of course, relative to your mental process. May I suggest that you find another hobby to tend to in the meantime. Consider her an experiment that hasn't gone very far.
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