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Archived questions from: October, 2015 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Is there any way to show people that first impressions of a person were wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

31 October 2015 (M) - I recently started dating this girl, she's 20 and has a 4year old son. I ended up making a horrible first and second impression on her parents and I despartely need to redeem myself. Three weeks ago her parents were away when I got a call while I ...

I'm dating my married step uncle...help? I need advice on what to do, please?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3096 days ago

31 October 2015 (F) - Ok hi. Completely new at this. So to get right to the point. I'm dating my step uncle so (my mothers step mums son) so not. Definitely not blood related. He is married (not separated) tho like typical situations (is going to get a device an...

The man I am dating refuses to introduce me to his family

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

30 October 2015 (F) - Thanks for ur replies so far concerning my previous question.i am a 25yrs and the guy is 36yrs we've been dating over a year now becos when he ask my hand in marriage as at last year i refused becos i dont know much about him before i excepted him ...

I love my husband to be but I know my parents are ashamed of him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

30 October 2015 (F) - Im getting marry with my fiance next year. We had been together for 6 years. Hes caring and people can tell he loves me deeply from how he treated me. His family loves me and always include me in every event and gatherings they had. They also e...

We are looking to move in together, yet he won't be flexible! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

30 October 2015 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been in a long distance relationship for two years. I am 33, he is 30 and we live 3 hours apart. We are looking to move in together. He wants me to move to his house which is in the countryside. There aren't any jo...

How to honor my parents, without shaming his?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3099 days ago

29 October 2015 (F) - Hi, Aunts and Uncles. My fiance and I are tying the knot this January in Las Vegas. We've been engaged for years, but have put off getting married because, like everyone else, we've been struggling a lot financially. Knowing how badly we wanted t...

How do I cope with their arguing and nasty comments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

29 October 2015 (F) - I have just had a massive argument with my ex and his wife and I don't know what to do. I split up with him nearly 5 years ago and we have two children together. We share custody and after they have been to see him I pick them up from a child min...

Why can't people just accept not everyone wants children?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3098 days ago

28 October 2015 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 2 years and have no children because we chose not to have any- we are both very happy with our lives and children are not for us. My cousin who got married 8 months after us has just revealed she is ...

I am the parent to my teen brother - our parents are deceased. My brother is now 14. How do I raise and discuss talking about sex and all that to him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3100 days ago

28 October 2015 (M) - When i was 16 i held my baby brother in my arms and said to dad "god he's small, i'm not baby sitting". Well i think i changed his nappies more times then mum used to. Honestly a few years later when i went off to university my biggest joy coming h...

He wants our son to meet his new girlfriend. But he's imposing restrictions on our son's contact with my boyfriend. How can I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3103 days ago

28 October 2015 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles, ive got a question what would you do in this situation. I was with my ex for five years, we had a child together. We got back together but in this time I didn't realise he had met someone else. He had moved away and would...

Why now? Was it an excuse? Will we resume? He has said we need to take a break to focus on our children

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3103 days ago

28 October 2015 (F) - I am in love with a man, who loves me. I have 3 kids and didn't want him to get involved too closely with them so I made sure we started slowly. He has 2 children as well but from different partners (A little niggle). My question is he has sai...

My Bf is going on a trip, with his sister, and without me. Do I have a right to be upset?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3102 days ago

28 October 2015 (F) - my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and 5 months ago, him and I started planning a trip together. He would come down every weekend, we would look at various places to go, kept checking prices and overall, talked about it all the ...

My mom is toxic! What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3103 days ago

27 October 2015 (F) - This is a difficult problem and any help would be greatly appreciated. My mum has always been an attention seeking, malevolent narcissist. She likes to play the victim and does so at the expense of everyone around her. She has ruined her own and my ...

How do you cope with the social pressure to get a girlfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3104 days ago

27 October 2015 (M) - I'm 27 and haven't been in a relationship. Although, I'm average looking enough that I probably could be if I wanted to. But more and more people around will tell me to get into a relationship: my parents, my siblings, and my friends. I don't re...

I want to be a family but I am scarred from what my boyfriend did

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3099 days ago

27 October 2015 (F) - A few weeks after I had given birth to my baby I found a load of sexting texts on my boyfriend's phone. I knew the person to be a girl he works with and when I asked him about it he said it was just flirting and that I did it all the time. Before my ...

How do you deal with being the ugly duckling in the family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3105 days ago

26 October 2015 (F) - I'm really struggling with my self esteem lately and it's making me want to stay inside just so nobody will look at me. About two years ago something bad happened to me that made me very depressed and I ended up taking pretty strong anti ...

I do not want to be hurt again by my first love. Any words of wisdom, please?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3104 days ago

25 October 2015 (F) - I have not long met up again with my first love. It was passionate buthe ended up really hurting me. We separated for over 20yrs and I have a grown family. We linked again a few months ago and the chemistry was still there. A few months later be...

Which issue could derail us? Our age difference? His drinking? Or his use of drugs?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3106 days ago

24 October 2015 (F) - Please help me. I really do not know what to do here and I am desperate for advice. My bf and I have been together for 2 yrs now. We live together. My bf is now 27. Before we got together we discussed at great length the age difference an...

How can I find out if family members are being honest with their charity work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3106 days ago

24 October 2015 (M) - This is probably a silly question but my instincts tell me something is wrong with what is happening. My Aunt and cousin both collect for charity, my cousin proud in her uniform even though i cannot ever recall her being in the armed forces. Last ...

Do you think I should tell my husbands boss to mind her own business?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3106 days ago

24 October 2015 (F) - Dear cupid, Do you think I should tell my husbands boss to mind her own business? My husband who is a licensed RN took a school nurse job that pays 20 grand lower than his market value than he would be making in most other nursing jobs. To ...

Was I overreacting by complaining about the frequency of the family friend's visits to our house?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3108 days ago

23 October 2015 (F) - hi dearcupids, my parent's closest friend used to come home daily twice, thrice. my uncle (I call my parent's friend as uncle since childhood) is a very nice person, he is like family. he also treats me like his daughter. But as his frequenc...

I'm humiliated by the reaction to ill-fitting clothes, what should I do now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3108 days ago

23 October 2015 (F) - I'm a female who's had self-esteem issues for as long as I can remember. It's only been a couple of years that I am starting to get back myself. But something happened that threatens to push me back. I like wearing short clothes. Nothing cheap or...

I don't like lying to my parents but they don't give me much independence

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3108 days ago

23 October 2015 (F) - Hi Agony Aunts, I am 17 in 3 months and I feel like my parents kind of treat me like a kid. Its like this : Whenever I want to go out, I would tell them where I'm going and tell them who I am with. BUT, they would never let me walk on my own to meet ...

Is it okay to date my step dad's godson?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3109 days ago

22 October 2015 (F) - My mother married a man that she has known for years and he is now my step father.. My step father has a God son and I am attracted to this God son. We have known each other almost 8 months now.. I found out I was pregnant before knowing him ...

How do I protect my children from the unwholesome things online?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3112 days ago

19 October 2015 (F) - Hi I am a 31 yr old mother. I have 5 yr old daughter and 3 yr old son. Now a days the children are tech savvy. Even the films, their promos show some porn like scenes, objectinable language, offensive actions like raising middle finger and sometimes ...

I'm not ready for marriage but my parents are forcing me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3111 days ago

19 October 2015 (F) - Dear cupids, I am 25 yr old girl. I am a struggling engineer. I have great plans about my career. But my parents want me to get married. But getting married is not my priority. Right now nothing is important for me BUT my career. I tried telling ...

Advice and Help or shall I give up.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3111 days ago

19 October 2015 (M) - have recently separated from My wife and I did not want this she did. Due to a number of issues. Which are 1.A family member causing a Rift and I was not there for her properly during the 1st pregnancy 2. Me making silly mistakes 3. Not...

My brother uses my depression against me when it is convenient for him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3113 days ago

18 October 2015 (F) - I am having an issue with my brother. We currently live together, and cannot move out due to various familial reasons. He does not do his share of the housework, and I am constantly picking up after him. The most common offences are leaving food out ...

Should I meet my boyfriend's siblings now or later?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3114 days ago

17 October 2015 (F) - My bf and I have been dating for 3 months. And we get along very well, and he understands me. I have social anxiety, and although I am capable of going outside and being around people. When its one on one or a group, I get very nervous and don't ...

Why he does not stop taking to this girl who is married?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3115 days ago

16 October 2015 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years and we have a child together. He recently turn 30 and it was very hard for him. I am a year younger than him. He recently met this girl who was not married when he met her she was engaged and was ...

First time sex, and not wishing to cause my Gf to get pregnant - lots of questions, if you can advise please?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3114 days ago

16 October 2015 (M) - Hi Cupids, I am a 22 year old and my girlfriend is 21 year old. I need some honest opinion about sex. I live in a more conservative country, Singapore, where we are told to have sex after marriage. Recently, my girlfriend and I have mo...

Checkout confusion - flirting or just friendly customer service?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3108 days ago

15 October 2015 (F) - There's a cute cashier at the grocery store I frequent in my town. It has been a LONG time since I dated or even really flirted with anyone and I'm not sure how I'd signal my interest to someone I don't know that well or only in a "profess...

How do I push my bf to leave his parent's house?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3116 days ago

14 October 2015 (F) - My bf and I have been dating for 3 months now. He is 26 and im 22. We both are very alike, and very much comitted to each other. He even gave me a promise ring. I understand that we are still very new to each other since, we've only been together ...

My parents are splitting up and I need help to work out the best options for celebrating Christmas and where?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3117 days ago

14 October 2015 (F) - Hi, sorry if this seems a really petty comment.. So last December (2014) when I was in my final year of University my parents told me they were selling the house. When I asked where they were moving to, they told me separate places. That was...

Is there any way around his refusal to sign these documents? It's stopping me from travelling with her.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3117 days ago

13 October 2015 (F) - Is there any way around getting my daughter a passport when her father is refusing to sign for it or let me borrow any of the legal documents needed. He isn't apart of her life and never has been but when she was born, he came to the hospital...

Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3116 days ago

13 October 2015 (M) - Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...

My daughter thinks my husband and I should date other people but not divorce

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3115 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - Had a strange conversation with my daughter and need opinions. A little history: I married very young at 18 because I got pregnant. My husband at the time was 9 years older. We were in love, only had 1 daughter and we made a life together. I ne...

What's the best way out of this situation? I feel like my kind husband doesn't deserve this.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3119 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - Ok so before I go into my problem I want to start by saying that it's all my fault, I've been selfish and now deeply regretting my decision. I'm a terrible person and I need to know the best way out of my situation. I grew up living in a tiny 2 bed...

He discredits all I do do for him. Tells his family when we argue. Yet he's pressuring for marriage? What's his problem?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3119 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We do not live together- about 30 mins apart. Neither of us have been married nor have children. Just wanting some advice and opinions. It really bothers me how I help him out a lot and i don't feel lik...

He thinks I don't like him. I'm feeling cautious about dating. What do I need to consider if I do date again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3120 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - I'm a single mum to my 5 year old daughter. I have raised her on my own since she was born and I have been on my own since her father left me. I joined a dating site but I've found a lot of guys don't like the idea of a 23 year old with a 5 year o...

Five years together. Am I just staying with him because I'm scared to be alone? Or are my doubts due to the other guy's crush on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3051 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - Hi, it's been a while. I have been with the same guy for going on five years now... In those five years we have split up (once) for a period of about three months. We have been back together since last October, so for about a year now... That b...

I want to be a stay at home mother, but also earn an income from home. What are my options for work I could do from home?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3119 days ago

11 October 2015 (F) - I am 19 years old and I have recently decided that I would like to be a stay at home mum when I am older. However being realist I know that I am going to need to have my own source of income. Do you have any suggestion for jobs which I would be a...

What can I do to ensure he doesn't give up on me, when he's facing family pressure?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3122 days ago

9 October 2015 (F) - please help.I am 20 and my fiance is 19.he still lives with his mother and she doesnt kno were still engaged.she hates me for no real reason and has been trying to force him to leave me for about 9 months now. she recently found out that I came to ...

How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3112 days ago

9 October 2015 (F) - I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...

My mother still wants her adult children to accompany her on ''family'' vacations. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3124 days ago

7 October 2015 (F) - Is it normal to go on family vacations every year? My mom has forced my brother and I to go on vacations every year, almost twice a year since we were young. Over the years my Brother has protested against Travelling with the family. On my part, ...

How can I be happy doing what I do at home?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3125 days ago

6 October 2015 (F) - im a 34 stay at home mom for 11 years. im grateful to raise my 3 kids, but im depressed being at home cleaning and taking care of the house. this last year i started drinking in the day.. at first it made cleaning more fun, but i need to change. i ...

My boyfriend lost it when I told him I wanted to look in on my brother as I'd promised my parents!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3123 days ago

6 October 2015 (F) - Am I in the wrong? My parents are away on holiday and my brother has been left home alone (he's just turned 18, can't cook but he can heat up soup and do beans on toast) and my parents have asked if I can go out each day to cook supper and make ...

His parents check on him regularly. But is it too much that he will even answer his cell phone in the middle of having sex with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3125 days ago

5 October 2015 (F) - My significant other was in a bad car accident in his 20's. His parents became super protective. So he always calls them and lets them know where he is going, like on trips and when he arrives back home to appease them and ease their minds. I ...

Should I pay for a relative's meal on my birthday where my significant other reluctantly paid part of the cost?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3123 days ago

5 October 2015 (F) - My fiancé's parents are in there 80's and the dad is able to get around. The mother needs a lot of help walking due to overweight issues. The are still both mentally sharp. I have an aunt in her 90's and she is mentally sharp too and gets a...

I want my widower boyfriend's adult step-children out of my life, they are very unkind to me. Can I ask that he distance himself?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3125 days ago

5 October 2015 (F) - I am dating a widower. He was my first love 35 years ago. I was always on his mind. Our parents are friends and he was my first so he claims he has loved me for all these years. His second wife died 11 months ago. They were married 16 years. ...