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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

I don't want to have an arranged marriage, but I don't want to disgrace my family either! Advice please?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - okay heres the dealio. I am an 18 yr old Indian girl, and my family are thinking about getting me an arranged marriage which i have already refused to. they're not forcing me or abusing me to get married they just keep nagging me about it. I a...

Should I foster or adopt a child against my boyfriend's advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend of six months who is against my idea of fostering a child. My idea is to adopt a child if i dont get married, and i would like to start with fostering. I realise i have been puting my plans on 'hold' waitng for marriage.I havent ...

I'm worried he'll spend every weekend driving his children around and not be a proper step-dad to mine!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - Hello Aunts/Uncles I really need opinions here. I have been engaged to a wonderful man for 6 months now and although we do not live together at the moment, the plan is for him to move in next year. I have two children living with me from my first...

How can I make our break-up easier for the children? They are very upset and confused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - My husband of 16 years has left the family home, me and my two young children. He says he does not feel loved enough by me then says he feels suffocated by me. I am very confused and don't know what to do to get him home. We all miss him very much ...

I'm scared to go against Indian society and marry a white man!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - hi, im 25 yrs old indian female. i was in a livin relation with a white man who is 17 years older than me for about 8 months and we didnt have any fights or arguments during that period of time. this was in USA and after completion of my studies i ...

I am in love with my sister's boyfriend's son!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts. Please Help. A Few Months ago I Got together with my sisters partners son. Hes 16 im 20. it took a while for us to admit how we felt and 1 thing led to another. my sister then split from her partner and he and his son left. i ...

I'm Falling for a Married man, "my boyfriend"...I Need Some Advice.(affair)

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - Im Falling for a Married Man,were having an affair. Ive allowed him to consider me as his girlfriend, and hes my "boyfriend" Ok, I will tell you all the informantion i think you need to know to understand what im going through, from beginning t...

I can't trust women and it's ruining my life!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - I can't trust women (it's almost like a fear, I guess and yes, I am a girl). I know why, though: I was bullied when I was younger because I couldn't speak English very well, all my female "friends" have stabbed me in the back, and most of all my ...

We just met on the phone and he's talking sex, kids, and marriage!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - I spent a whole night...last night...talking to a friend I know on the phone. I don't really know what happened, but we started talking about sex after I described the outfit I was wearing. We met through a mutual friend of both of ours and though ...

Is it wrong to want to have sex with your first cousin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - Is it Wrong to want to have sex with your first cousin? I have liked him since i was very young, around 14 or so, first it was wishing i could kiss him(which ive never done) but since i turned 17 its been to actually have sex with him...(ive had m...

My Boyfriend's Brother hates me and its been violent!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend's brother hates me. They tell me he doesn't, at least at first they did. But eventually they all started to see what I've seen for a while now. I've know both guys for about 5 years now, we all went to high school together. Before...

How can we get to grips with these terrible rows we're having? I know it's just pressure...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - I am having terrible rows with my partner. We have got to the stage where we row about everything. He is a really nice man with children from previous relationships and in the main is fair and decent. Try as I might I don't like the fact that he ...

Is he looking for a family or mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - Thanks for all the help. Ok so I have been dating this fellow for a year. As of three months ago he moved into my house with my son and I. I do think it's a bit fast however he lives a hour away and was here evey-night anyhow.. Most of his st...

I need to get over these feelings for my best friend's husband!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - I write this in tears. I have fallen head over heals in love with my friends husband. YES I KNOW THIS IS WRONG and HORRIBLE in everyway. I REALLY do love my friend. She is like a sister to both my husband and I. I've been married about 15 years and ...

Who do you turn to when your family isn't there?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - What do i do when i cant even trust my family? well i have this issue that i have things to tell my mo but i wanna wait till the right time because if i just throw it all at her she not gone take it so i got to give it to her slow and at the right ...

I don't like or respect my mother. What is wrong with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (M) - OK I'll get straight to the point. For some reason i don't like or respect my mother. She never seems to stick up for herself and i hate the way she does things. Our home is full of junk that has come from her sister (my auntie) and she just doe...

How to reach a happy medium between him and my mum?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I am friends with a guy whom my parents dislike due to his previous history of illnesses and the shy/rude way he came across when they all first met. Me and him get on fairly well, and he is very chirpy and fun around me. We used to hang out in town ...

I had a one night stand with my cousin!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - hello, there is no one else i can talk to about what im going to tell. what ive done is illegal and could get me into alot of trouble, here is my story. okay so my cousin moved in with me my brother and my mom at the be...

What to do now he knows?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - The other day I texted my crush/ friend that I had a little crush on him. After that he wasn’t much different acting that I noticed and there was one point last week that I thought he told people but he didn’t tell anyone. I don’t know why he would ...

My fiancee is not pulling his share of the load!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - My partner is not supporting me, not easy to talk to about domestic issues and is not pulling his weight, how should i approach him about this? Me and my fiance have been together for almost 4 years and have a sixth month baby. We rent a house and...

Stuck in the middle between mum and my fiance!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - my fiance and i have been together just over 1 year. we bought a house after 7mths together, got engaged about 3mths after that, and we wanna get married next june. He's 43 in december and i am 27. We love each other very much and are soulmates. ...

Could this be incest? or our imagination?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (M) - >my wife told that she saw some thing at her home some times back. once she stayed at her maternal aunt's house, and she observed that her aunt and aunt's son are very close that mother changes in front of son and some times son enters moms ...

How do inform my friends and family I'm living with a new man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I am 27 yrs old and I ended my 5 yr marriage 8 months ago. My family loved my ex husband and were upset that we're getting a divorce. We have 2 children a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old who live with me but he sees on weekends. We decided to end our ...

Love triangle, my boyfriend, me and his sister?!?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and I've been there for him through a lot of family problems. He lives at home with just his sister (with no parents) and he's 19 years old. I just feel like his sister takes full advantage of him...

I'm jealous as my cousin gets to go out more than I do!

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21 November 2009 (M) - I don't get out much often and I get jealous when other people do. My cousins they go places all the time and I get a jealous feeling towards them. My cousin tries to make me jealous because she gets all in my face saying imma have fun and what all ...

My cousin jokes about a future with me in it, are his intentions honourable or should I be worried?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - My cousin nowadays says that if he wanted a girl it would turn out to be only me but later says that he was just joking and the next day he would say something like he would like to marry me because he would like me to be with him throughout his ...

My ex boyfriend and my sister.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

21 November 2009 (F) - Two years ago I dated this guy. I really liked him but we got into a stupid fight and broke up. No one knew about us except for my best friend and his younger brother. Anyway, I recently found that he is very close to my older sister. She doesn't ...

My mother is a compulsive hoarder!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - My mother is a compulsive hoarder. She has been for as long as I can possibly remember, and once my father left it took over everything. I remember rushing to clean my house on my tenth birthday, so the friends I had invited over wouldn't see how ...

Help needed!!! How can I improve my relationship with my in-laws?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I've just recently got married. My husband is Hispanic and comes from deep religious background. His parents are pastors. I am African American and I was raised by a single. We had talked about married when he proposed I said yes but he didn'...

Problem - evil step mum!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I was adopted by my stepdad when I was 8, he is the only father I have ever known.. We have always been close, but became even closer when I was pregnant with my son and my husband left me, my mum and stepdad were there will I gave birth and ...

Will he ever come back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I were wonderful, he started to have financial issues in his family and then decided to take some finacial moves to help, one was moving away. About a month or two before he was to leave he told me we couldn't be together, i deserve ...

A time to self reflect.

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19 November 2009 (F) - -Self-reflect- Most of the time when anybody has problem in a relationship, they basically blames the other party and rarely themselves.. Y? Well, i would say its human nature to point 1 finger to the other party, while not realizing that t...

New girlfriend vs daughter from ex wife

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - I've been divorced for over 2 years now. I've got a 4yr old daughter that lives with mom. I see her on Mondays and have her every second weekend, holiday etc. The divorce was easy, friendly and we're still friendly. I've been dating the girl of ...

Are they husband and wife?Cousins? Or brother and sister?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - My son married my best friends daughter a few yrs ago and have a kid. 5 months ago i hooked up with my friend and now she is expecting our kid. How do we figure this out. The new baby will be both our kids half sibling making them not only related ...

I want to spend as much time with her as possible but her family are getting in the way!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - Hey guys, Me and my GF is in a long distance relationship right now. We haven't seen each other for 7 months and counting. Now, I'm going to visit her soon, and me and my whole family are going out of town to a nice beach resort. So I asked my GF...

My girlfriend had a one night stand before she met me and my family knows about it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - I lost my virginity to my recent girlfriend and she has slept with two people before me. Only one of them bother me since it was a one night stand which she ended up having sex with twice. My cousin was there in the same house the first time she did ...

How can I get the intensity back that we once shared...?

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19 November 2009 (F) - My story is super complicated! I do not and want bore you with the details. I just need some advice. Im in my first relationsip. It has been a 3 year long distance relationship. I visit her she visits me and so on. NOt as often as we would like. We ...

My parents don't like me talking to boys I'm not related to, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - Ok, so i like this boy he is 18 and he is American, I am younger than him by a few years. My problem is that my parents say I am not allowed to have a boyfriend or date or communicate with any boys I am not related to. All my friendz know about ...

Should we work at this for the sake of our daughter?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiancé for eight years. And we just recently had a baby girl five and a half months ago. Things are rocky and are not the same it used to be. Were no longer happy. We rarely speak,have sex, or even show love with a kiss or a hug. ...

I have a boyfriend but no friend to talk to if I have a problem or just for fun. What do you think?

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18 November 2009 (F) - Hiya everyone :) Its not really a question question, just kind of needed some other people's views and opinions, or someone to listen really! I have a lovely family who i am quite close to, however when i was growing up they always kept themselves ...

Did the father of my baby give me Gardnerella Bacterial Vaginalis?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I want to know what people think are the signs of a cheating man. I am currently pregnant - about the half way mark...and the father of baby has been on and off with me for most of this pregnancy which I finally told him point blank am fed up of the ...

I'm willing to compromise in my home. How can I get my daughter-in-law to pitch in?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - My husband and I both smoke. I know it's a nasty, unhealthy, disgusting habit but we have it, nonetheless. We don't smoke in other people's homes out of respect for their space but feel we have the right to do what we want in our own home. ...

Problems in the family...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - I am turning 22 this January. I have a problem with my dad. He has a mistress. My mother is always upset with him. My father left our house and went to live with this new mistress. I am really bothered, because I don't want my family to come to ...

He's introduced me to his family. Does that mean he's serious about me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - Why would a guy introduce you too his family and bring you around them? I personally wouldn't bring any guys around my family unless I was planning to keep him around. The reason I asked is because I met all my ex boyfriend's family and was always ...

My girlfriend's mum is a pain in the bum!!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - ok i recently posted about my gf and her mum well her mum has used her brains to get her daughter to think she was ok so she could text me. The following thing: I am warning you... dont ever contact my daughter again... she is 19 and does not ...

I need your advice... I'm in love with my first cousin...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I'm in love with my first cousin but he lives far away from me, we talk alomost every night but i rarely see him, the problem is that we are only teens so we can't travel alone, I want him to visit me but its gonna be hard for him to do that as my ...

They wont let us see each any more!!

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18 November 2009 (F) - Okay so, I've been in my relationship for 1 year and 2 months so far. We've gone through a lot and overcome it all. The fact we didnt see each other after we met for 5 months, was because we had to get each other's parents to like us, and the fact ...

I need 'alone time'! How do I get this with others around all the time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I never have time to 'be alone'.... and no I dont mean like sleeping time, like 'me time' to make me happy and explore. My dad or his girlfriend is always here so I can never get done what I am trying to do. How do I get some alone ti...

My mum calls me fat, now I'm feeling depressed...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Most days i feel really down and i think i may be depressed, i cry a lot and the smallest things can make me cry. i feel like everyone around me dont love me, i think my family hate me, i think my boyfriend hates me, i think my friends hate me. me ...

How long will my boyfriend stay in jail for assaulting me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - am 17 years old and i was dateing this guy who is 19 years old. we currently brok on saturday. because the police arrested him for hitting me on the street i guess people saw him hit me so they called the cops so they arrested him becasue i am a ...