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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Stepmom thinks I'm gay!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - My step mum thinks im gay, which theres nothing wrong with, but its annoying. How can i convince her? ...

The annoying thing on my mind

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hey, I'm a 16 year old guy and will be 17 in 2 weeks. Me and my gf both lost our V plates to each other when we were 15. My girlfriend is 3 months younger than me which makes her a year behind me in education. Thing is, even though now we ar...

Are we responsible for her even though she chose to move out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - My 16 year old daughter has decided she cannot live with our rules. As much as it is killing me to let her move out, I think for her it might be the only way to learn that our household rules were not that bad. She has always been very strong ...

Disowned by family, homeless and with a child.... Help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 154 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi me explaining my situation might take a while but i need help.so please dont get bored.im 21yr old muslim and i am also at university.my family are very respected in the community but iv brought shame to them by getting pregnant without being ...

Why do some people get over a family death quickly and others take years?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hoping people will have insight here and thank all who answer. My friend and I are about the same age. I am a little older. I lost my dad when I was in my twenties. It was horrible, awful but I had to carry on. I grieved but had to get on with life, ...

Engaged, but I don't want to marry him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i got engaged ...but now i dont want to marry him ..he is not the kind of husband i thought of...i want to marry my love means my boyfriend ...i cant tell my family about this nor my fiancee ...pls help me what should i can do now?...

Falling in love with my sister

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 107 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - My sister and I seem to have feelings for each other. She has a boyfriend and I also have a girlfriend. I feel like I should tell her that we can submit our feelings to each other. Can I give a try incest and what it feels like?...

Fatherless and always get attached

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, my parents got divorced when I was about five or six years old. My dad has been in and out of my life. It's been really hard growing up without a dad. I usually get to see my dad twice a month, but these past three months, I haven't seen him. I ...

I'm about to kick out my 17 year old son

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am about to kick out my 17 year old son. I am a single parent of 3. I teach and my older son has me in a depressed state every so often. I earn good money and own two houses. Second house that we live in needs attention. I want to do it qu...

Dad wants me to be a nurse..I don't want that! How can I get him off my back over this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - i need some help, i posted on here before about this but here i go again!! I am 20, a student nurse in 1st year at uni and i donot want to do this any longer. i don't know why, i just don't want to continue to do this, or be a nurse, which is making ...

Why does he keep going back and forth and not just choose one of us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - [Moderator's note: Please concentrate all the details in one question next time. It is harder to give accurate opinions on pieces of a fragmented question.] Help my mother is making me insecure. My mom doesn't like my boyfriend and she always says ...

I'm tired of taking care of his mother and living this way

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - i am tired ,exhausted of problems. today i argued with my husband because of his mother, all this because she is diabetic and he always tells her to not eat things that can bother her but she never cares and always we have problems . alwa...

HELP! Getting married in 4 months... But I still think about my first love!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I definitely need some guidance and advice! My first love from when i was 13 we were on and off until 3 years ago when I met my fiance (I am now 23). We always talked secretly throughout the years when we were with other people, or when he had a...

I'm not happy with his past and thinking of leaving

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Do i stay with my boyfriend or leave. my partner is 43 and im 24 and we have just had our first baby together. he has been married before and has 2 children with his ex wife and he also has another child with another women. This women keeps comi...

My boyfriend's ex wont allow me around their daughter

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for 2yrs this August, I am 29yrs old and he is 33yrs old. My boyf has an 11yr old daughter and I have a 10yr old daughter. My boyfriend ex wont allow me around their daughter. She allowed it on NY and NYDay but said ...

I don't know how to talk to my son about his choice of a partner

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 162 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - My 16-year-old son is gay, he came out to me about a month ago. He's about to finish school in a month anyway and is doing well in his studies. I'm not shocked - it's an alternative lifestyle choice and if it suits him I'm happy with it. My husb...

I can't trust my mother and it hurts me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I droped a drink on the floor at home and my mum strated yelling at me so much, even though I said it was an accident, that I was sorry and that I would clean it up. BUt she was still mad. And then she kept threatening to hit me and then she raised ...

One child, one on the way, do not love each other, should we stay together for the sake of the children?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I'm in a difficult situation - as I suppose everyone else here is as well. here goes: I'm 28 and in a relationship of 4 years (we are not married but have lived the life of a married couple for ~3 1/2 years). We have a 2 1/2 year old and one on t...

Keeping sex all in the family

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - okay i had sex with this woman that i knew for a while then i had sex with her teenage daughter now i want to have sex with her daughter's cousins who's 21 is it wrong because i'm not in a relationship with neither of these ladies?...

Worried what my parents will think of my older boyfriend when they want me to marry someone of their choice

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i am 17 ie turning 18 in this july.i have a boyfriend who is 32.we are in this relationship for about last 5-6 months.i love him very much but i am worried about my parents.actually my parents want me to marry a guy of their choice.well i too know ...

Should I expect more than this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi I have been down a bit for the past while over my boyfriends friends and family. I feel like I dont fit in with them no matter how hard I try. The friends are very laddy and sometimes dont say hello to me - they rarely ask how I am and usually ...

Troubles with my boyfriends family....we just need to get away from them!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 160 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, i dated this guy in 2005 for a year and a half, he went to America the last six months of our relationship and in that time, his father tried everything to break us up.. i never knew why.. and he got it right.. we broke up for a year ...

Chance and choice, how scenarios happen

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I wonder how much our life effected by chance,and how much on our choices? Right now I think chance is more dominant ,than choice. Like a bad marriage I live in, can determine your life for years, and if you have children ,its not easy to get out,...

Is this enough proof to get him in trouble?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 135 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - my friend is 17. she is dating a 22 year old. this girl is my friend and this is my brother she's dating. recently he broke up with her and shes been so unhappy. i found out that her friends want to call the cops on him because of their age...

How can I help my sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I have a quick question. My sister ask me some advice but I have no idea what to say to her b'cus I have never been in that position. She's having an affair with a married man and he says he wants to leave his wife. Aparently he told his wife he...

My life is in ruins, how could another human being do this to me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - i had been happily married for 12 years to a beautiful woman who i loved dearly, something i always thought was mutual. we had about 5 years together before we both decided to start a family, and were overjoyed when our first child was born in ...

I cant let go of my younger lover

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - How do I let go of my lover? I am in an unhappy marriage. I have asked my husband to leave so many times but he refuses to because according to him, he wants our family to be complete. We have one son.We talk only when absolutely necessary, mo...

We were so good together but he cant cut off ties with his ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I thought we could make this into a great relationship but hes turned around and said he doesnt know if he can cut ties off with his ex who he has kids with, saying i might get hurt in the long run as hes not sure how he feels about her, im so upset ...

Sister rivalry!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I am the younger sister (19) and I am finding it really hard to live/get alone with my sister at the moment. There seems to be a tense horrible rivalry and jealousy between us. She has admitted that she has always between jealous of me, ever sinc...

My mother doesn't approve, but he loves me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - im 16. my boyfriend is 18. he knows how i feel about sex and he is able to wait until im ready. im still a virgin. we've been together 3months. just recently him and my mom got into a huge arguement.. about how she is overprotective. she got pissed ...

He's beat down with addiction, but I love him. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - have spent 7 years raising child alone .casually dated over years never introducing child to any dates. lived next door to man a year in a half ago.hated one another.he was a single dad raising two teenagers on his own.daughter started watching my ...

Help with better self esteem without therapy!?!?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Please do NOT judge me. Okay, so I know I have an eating disorder- not like anorexia- but I won't eat in front of anyone (including my parents) except my sister. I mainly eat infront of her because she was anorexic and I'll do anything to keep her ...

Married to the Mob

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I was married to a man whom I felt I no longer loved, so I divorced him and a couple years later, I met whom I felt was my dream lover. He swept me off my feet for 3 years we dated then finally I agreed to marry him, well almost immediately he ...

Heart broken in two...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I need help I cant decide between two guys. I was dating this guy that I was totally in love with but we had to break up because he was going to rehab we had been going out for a year and i really thought he was the one my family wasnt too fond o...

I'm irrationally scared of one of my family members going missing or dying

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Ok, here's my problem: I'm irrationally scared of one of my family members going missing or dying. It's gotten to the point where I can't relax at all if my mum or brother leaves the house. I'm not sure why I feel like this... I can't pinpoint the ...

Mum's threatening to chuck me out if I don't pass my exams!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Is it normal for my mother to threaten to throw me out of the house and make me repeat 3rd year if I fail anything or if I do pass in the subjects I want...

My mum thinks my boyfriend is abusive but I want to move closer to him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 166 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - okay my family LOVED my boyfriend up until we had a massive argument and I told my mum everything that he's done (he's not done anything abusive, but he does small things like reads my texts, hacks my email, reads my msn history, doesn't let me talk ...

Bad reaction from my family about our relationship, what do I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - I am 20 years old.I am in love with my GF who is 34 years old.She is divorced and not having any child. Her husband was impotant hence she didnt have sex before.She loves me lot and she is very much caring for me too.I am from middle class brahmin ...

What should I do the next time I see this girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 181 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - i was at a party the other day with my mom side of the family. I was in the living room watchin tv with this girl who i know for a few years now but havent seen her for a while. She is my 2nd cousins cousin i think. im 100% sure im not realted to ...

Was what I did wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

25 May 2009 (M) - Hi I am a virgin 19 yrs old.. while I was ill my aunt used to sleep with me. one day while sleeping i felt my penis touching her private area it was not erect...I was in an illusion and made two or three strokes while doing so it again touched...

Mom won't let me go to Greece to be with my b/f!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 181 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 3 months is Greek, but study's over here in the city i live in for most of the year. I see him every day, and although we haven't been together for a very long time, as we have spent so much time togther we have quickly fallen in ...

I lied to my Mom repeatedly and now she doest trust me. How can I get her to trust me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 181 days ago

25 May 2009 (M) - Im 15 and i lied to my mum about going to a party, i isaid i was sleeping at my friends house but she found my ticket and now she has grounded me for the rest of my school holidays and she even said she hates me and that she can never trust me ...

Are middle children loners?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 181 days ago

25 May 2009 (M) - are middle children loners.do they have problems making friends.as middle child i feel traped and alone and no one to turn to.lost and alone,is there any middle child out there like me and feels like me...

Troubled friendships...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - I'm 13 and until a few months ago my life was brilliant but then my group of friends fell out and coz i sided with a certain group im gettin slagged off constantly over msn, rumours are going round the school about what me and my boyfriend have ...

I'm stuck in the middle between a problem relating to my mum and my sister and I hate it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 182 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - hey guys am in a real tricky situation... my mum recently found out about my sister's boyfriend whom is a different religion to us... they claim they want to get married and my mum is realllly upset about it... for the last two days she has been ...

Family and relationship problems. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 182 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: There are 2 problems here} wow ok i need ALOT of advice, i have no clue what to do on so many things. first off my mom is an alcholic and she drinks like every other day and i cant stand it...she divorced my dad for being a drun...

Boyfriend's ex constantly asks him for things and he's too nice to say no... What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 181 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - Im seeing this great guy, so kind and caring and we get on so well. He has two children, this was hard but i accepted this, its hard sometimes as we cant spend loads of time together, but the real problem is his ex.....the kids mum, he can't say no ...

Twenty-eight, family still dictates, no friends, no boyfriend, miserable as heck, please help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 182 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - why is being middle child a nightmare.i always treated like i am stupid.i am 28 years old and my father is still telling me what to do.telling me where i can go and what i am allowed to spend my money on.telling me what i am able for or not.i have ...

Mom and dad separated, but dad still lives with us, people talk about him behnd his back, what can I do to help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - ok...real problem in my head right now... my mom and dad are seperated but he still lives in our house because he has no where else to go... but he's really making my mom mad because he takes stufff without asking, and acts all high and mighty ...

Wrong to have sex with my cousin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - hi im a singal gal n i fall for my cousin who happen to be a hunk. he came n stay with my family for about 2 yrs now cus he studin near my place. last week my parent were out so i was along with my cous. i wore a set of black semi-tra...