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Archived questions from: September, 2021 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Is there anything I can do to smooth things over between my parents and my friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 936 days ago

30 September 2021 (M) - When I was in high school, there was a fellow classmate, Justin, who bullied me for being gay. He was downright mean to me. We graduated about 15 years ago. Eight years ago, he got my number from a mutual friend and called me out of the blue....

I want to see my very ill cousin but I don't think his family will allow it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 936 days ago

30 September 2021 (F) - Thanks to all who respond to this question. My cousin has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and I would like to see him soon. He has been having a hard go with the chemo. He has told his sister in Vancouver that he is not going through with it anymor...

My sister's inlaws trashed our apt by the sea and she doesn't want me to talk to them about it

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 935 days ago

29 September 2021 (F) - Several years ago my husband and I purchased a 2 bedroom apartment by the sea to use as a holiday home. We let our family and friends use it too when we don’t and we don’t charge them anything - they are responsible for buying their own...

My married father is having an affair with my wife's sister

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 936 days ago

29 September 2021 (M) - Names have been changed here to protect identities. I've been married to my wife Tarnya for 8 years now, we've been together since 2007. The main problem here is an issue concerning my dad. I confronted him over rumors that he'd been having...

My 8 year relationship ended for the second time and I am devastated. How do I take care of my autistic son in this state of depression?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 936 days ago

28 September 2021 (F) - I am in a great deal of emotional pain and I feel depressed, to the point where I cannot even get out of bed. And I have a son to take care of. I NEED HELP. A few days ago an eight year relationship ended for me. The man I was with was married...

Why was it so hard to tell my mother the truth about how I wanted to be a girl my whole life ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 938 days ago

28 September 2021 (M) - I found myself interested in girl's clothes as far back as I can remember. I rarely went outside other then to go to school and even then, I was laughed at and made fun of. One day when I was about 14, my mother asked me if I was wearing ...

Our daughter took illegal testosterone and we don't know how to handle the situation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 939 days ago

28 September 2021 (F) - Last night our daughter Sarah who's 17 told us she had a confession to make. We asked what it was and were expecting it to be something really serious or drugs. As it is, me and my husband are not that hard on drugs since we're not really squ...

Should I walk away from the marriage and make some saving and build my own home for my children

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 937 days ago

27 September 2021 (F) - I have been married for 6 years and i am 36 years, and we have two children together with my husband. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that i take care of. My husband is 45 and has fairly paying job. We live in a house that is shared ...

My husbands comment seemed very controlling to me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 941 days ago

27 September 2021 (F) - Went fishing with the husband today and caught our first fish together, cooked it up and ate it. Later in the evening I made a comment about the dog being in my lap and he blew up - "did the dog feed you today?" I live with my husband and his ...

What could make a man just walk out on his wife like that and move in with a young couple?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 942 days ago

26 September 2021 (F) - I'm from South Dakota, but have lived in the Bronx for 13 years now, enjoy it here. It's not me who's got the problem in this question, but Mom. Mom told me the other day that Dad's just gone and left her, and left a handwritten note which sa...

I want to divorce my husband because he changes his mind all the time about plans he makes

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 942 days ago

24 September 2021 (F) - My husband has a son and wanted to join the military. So we made all these plans to move and pack everything. Before getting swore in he backed out of joining. I was upset because I told my job I was leaving and my family. For months my husban...

Do I confront my cousin or leave it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 942 days ago

24 September 2021 (F) - In 2019 my husband and I got married. We had a very lavish wedding costing us around £50,000. We both worked extremely hard for a couple of years and made lots of sacrifices to be able to pay for it- we didn’t have any handouts. My cous...

I had an emotional affair and now my whole family has turned against me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 943 days ago

21 September 2021 (F) - I have made a massive massive mistake, I feel like I’m the past 2 years my husband of 20 years and I stopped looking at each other in the way we used to, our sex life was none existent and we where living like room mates, cue a lockdown lift meal ...

Should I change my plans for her son's 18th birthday?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 942 days ago

21 September 2021 (M) - The question I'm needing help with is this: is it okay to NOT go to my girlfriend's son's 18th birthday celebration? Here is the background: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 years and, therefore, have been a part...

How do I deal with this unfair situation going on in my family?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 945 days ago

21 September 2021 (F) - My fiancé and I are planning a wedding for February. We are both in her 40s and not sure we ever thought this would happen. My parents offered to pay for the wedding or offer up some thing. Today though I got a different story My brother, who is ...

Did I do anything wrong for leaving my dad's company? Is there anything I can do to help repair my relationship with my dad and brother?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 947 days ago

19 September 2021 (M) - My dad owns a welding company and I been working for him since I was 16 years old (I started out as cleaning the bathrooms and stuff like that and I went to trade school to become a welder myself). I love the work and my dad always told me that he ...

How do I set reasonable boundaries with my mother?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 951 days ago

14 September 2021 (F) - My brother physically abused me for the majority of my childhood and into my teens, and my mother blamed me for it and didn't make any effort to try and help me. It's had some long term effects into adulthood. (Abandonment issues, identity issues, ...

How does a first time father prepare for triplets?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 955 days ago

12 September 2021 (M) - My wife is pregnant with triplets. We are prepared with all the stuff they will need like diapers, bottles, clothes, beds, etc, but I am not mentally prepared at all. Twins run in her family but I never thought we'd have triplets. Especially not t...

It's the third year anniversary of my dad's death today and my boyfriend doesn't seem to care

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 955 days ago

11 September 2021 (F) - My dad died on September 11, 2018 and today is the 3 year anniversary of his death. My boyfriend is not supportive of me at all and it feels like my grief is an imposition on him. It is a hard day for me but he doesn't seem to understand. He h...

My husband's family would not come to our wedding because I would not get vaccinated

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 957 days ago

11 September 2021 (F) - So, I married my partner of two years last weekend. His parents feel very strong about covid and the Vaccine. Before the vaccine was developed, I was allowed to be around his family. I chose to not get the vaccine and since then it has been so much ...

Do I walk away? He ignored my daughter growing up

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 955 days ago

9 September 2021 (F) - My daughter and I have a good relationship overall. However, when I divorced form her father I was 25 and met a new partner who was 5 years younger than me. 28 years later we are still sort of together - we have separated many times but always got ...

Do I stop having a crush on my friend's brother?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 957 days ago

8 September 2021 (F) - Where to begin... I've gotten to know my good friend's family and they are super nice. My friend has siblings and this particular one he's close with, so when his family is hosting events, I'm invited and I help. During these events, I've noticed ...

Is it selfish that she organised this party knowing our wedding will only be a few days later?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 949 days ago

4 September 2021 (F) - My partner and I are getting married in a few weeks time. His sister has organised a birthday party for her kids a few days before our wedding and invited 30 kids and lots of the guests who will be attending our wedding. We are worried that if one ...

There are far too many red flags. Is this guy worth it?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 961 days ago

4 September 2021 (F) - I’ve been seeing my partner 6 months. I’ve previously been in a business relationships which affected me and my daughter who is 16 so I am cautious. Until I met my partner I was happy with my kids on my own but on times would like company. Generally ...

What can I do about a ranting, shouty husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 962 days ago

2 September 2021 (F) - I've been married to my husband for 14 years now, we married when I was 28 and he was 29, and over the past few weeks he's started ranting about every single thing and obsessing over porn. I am mum to an 8-year-old daughter, Katie. I'm an...

I feel betrayed and dissapointed by my family

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 960 days ago

2 September 2021 (F) - I feel betrayed and dissapointed by my family. I'm not sure is it me or what i'm doing wrong that i deserve this kind of treatment. Basically it's favouritism just because i'm a daughter and not a son that develop into some kind of trauma that ...