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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Like father, like son, in sexual habits! Should I talk to him or be worried?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and have since the very beginning been very comfortable and sexually open with one another, more so than any of our previous relationships. He has several unique fetishes and I've never thought much of ...

Am I being used by my girlfriend and her mother?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Hi everyone I will try and keep this brief. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, we have been going out for about 6 months now and in that time we have never been anywhere without her mother, I stay at her house 7 nights a week and I feel like I am ...

Will our relationship survive once I move?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - i have to move house with my parents and leave my girlfriend that ive been with for around 3 months. Basically my mum and her boyfriend loves wales and the go there quite often camping, and had been looking for houses to buy without me reali...

I'm tired of being burdened with issues. Can anyone help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have graduated highschool but returned for a semester; not because of poor academics, but because I was not in the right mindset during my senior year to be thinking about University.. It was a year when I was just really getting to finally know ...

Emotionally abusive daughter in law

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My daughter in law in emotionally abusing my son. I stepped back from their relationship some time ago as they were having problems. My support or advice was not required by his wife. Her mother and I started to contact each other by text or email ...

I need advice on my relationship with my sister...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I am really just needing some good advice new friends: I am a only child of a single mother. I was a lonely child amd always wanted siblings. I met my sisters at church when I was a teenager and they were 4 and 5. We did grow up togather. They...

How do I tell my parents I'm pregnant again?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 49 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Im pregnant for the second time and how do i tel my parents,my first baby is three years and my parents are pastors and wel knwn people they wil b ashamed of me wat must i do...

I'm in love with my older male cousin

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Okay.... I have a cousin complex. Meaning, I'm in love with my cousin. We never saw each other in a couple of months(maybe even years) so I don't know how he looks like in awhile. But yesterday(09.27.09)at my other cousin's(his older brother's)...

Fiance wants to go away with another man to meet his parents

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - I am in a unique relationship as I am living with my fiance and our baby girl (6 weeks) and my fiance's bestfriend. A gay male. Now when I met my fiance she was living with this man, her gay friend. They met in the gay bar scene and are really c...

My sisters keep telling me I'm fat! What diet can I try that will help me lose weight?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Hi, i dont exactly have a problem although its getting a bit much.... My sisters keep telling me i'm fat, although they are properly joking about it, but it really does hurt my feelings. I wont say i'm over weight, i'm 1.56 and weight 66kg and i'm ...

How do I deal with the mother of my stepdaughter?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I have a loving husband and we have been married for a year now everything have been going very well until we started taling about staying with his daughter the stepchild(6) next year.I love the child to death but i dont want to deal with the drama ...

Is my fetish a way of coping with my troubled childhood?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - In my early teens I always thought submissive women were weak, forced into their situations and probably beaten by their boyfriends/husbands. I did extensive research on the subject; it truly interested me. I could not understand "these people" for ...

How do I deal with my girlfriends strict parents?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - my girlfriend and i have been talking for about seven months now. her parents are really strict so we like never get to be together. i met her mother not so long ago, she seemed to like me! but its her step dad that is really strict. i want to ...

My boyfriend's family drama

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm getting pretty serious with my long-term boyfriend and I'm really happy about that. I just have one issue. His family has a lot of drama. I'm not wanting to be judgemental about it because it's not his fault, but I'm just concerned as to how ...

His more affluent family treats me like trash!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - So here is my situation: my bf and I have been dating for a year and a half. We both just finished law school, and have jobs lined up. My job is with a small firm, and it pays substantially less than my bf's. He got a big law firm job. I we...

My daughter told me she was abused by my ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My daughter who is now 18 years old, told me last night that my ex-husband sexually abused her when she was 12 years old. I need help! Can we still press charges against this sexual abuser? The incident occured in New York. Can we presecute him? ...

I like my brother's friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - well I like my brothers friend, I always have liked him but never admittied it to anyone cause i dont know how my bro would react to it. recently the feelings I have for him have started to surface alot more and my friends all found out i like...

After dating 6 years I wasn't included at his sister's birthday!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My bf and I are home on college break. We are having a great semester so far at school and we shop together, cook together, go hiking, dancing, etc. We have only been back home for a few days and he is back at home w/his mother who literally tells ...

I'm about to lose my best friend my sister!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - How do you get a 21 year old girl to see your point of view and worries? My sister left right after work straight for a party then she didn't come home till 11:30 in the afternoon and she was obviously to drunk to drive. Then a few days before t...

Our mom s too clingy and our nan has just passed away, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - hi hope you ca help me its about my mom my moms mom our nan died nearlly two months ago and it was hard for everyone she was like our second mom too were a close family since then though its been really hard with my mom ,ive moved out living with ...

Do I tell my parents or hide it longer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - over the last few years i have had several crushes consisting of both sexes. I struggled alot with coming to terms with it and have now accepted myself as bisexual. However admitting it to myself is alot easier than admitting it to anyine else. I ...

Am I stupid for giving him another chance when nothing has changed or am I expecting too much too soon?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 39 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I started dating my boyfriend July 07, he is divorced with 3 children who he sees every weekend for the whole weekend, so we spent every night together outside of the weekends, he decided to move in after just a month but went back to his parents at ...

Son can't get job because of semi pornographic photos found when he was younger

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - My 19-year-old son applied for a job this week, I wished him good luck. He did OK in the interview until the interviewer said they would not be able to hire him due to a background check. They said they'd found pictures of him "in the raw" on ...

Why does my father act the way he does?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - i fell out with my dad september last year and he was still comong to visit my mum ( they have a strange relationship) and i hated it i started to self harm. however they have fallen out now for good witch i am happy with although we made up. my ...

I need space! My family is smothering me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 58 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - this is regarding my family--i am the only child born to a woman who has three, for one reason or another, childless sisters. i am constantly under their focus and attention. i can't go a day without my mom calling me. if i go a couple of days w...

I'm concerned about a friend's sister

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Ok, I'm in a little predicament. There's a kid i'm friends with on facebook. He goes to my school, and he's in our little group of friends. Well I don't talk to him much cuz ever since elementary we've fought constantly, so it's awkward around him ...

Messed up life...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - i have been with my husband for 7 years i had left my whole family for him ever since i have been touch with my family on and off for the past few years over the fone iv not seen them i give up for a couple of years then ring them again for ...

Am I wrong in thinking he likes me...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 49 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - It starts off like any night would.... So my will-be stepbrother and his mom came over last night b/c they and my dad had an event the next day. We all sat on the couch watched movies and just had a good time. Our parents finally said at 10:30 th...

26 and tired of my dad butting into my life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Im sick and tired of my dad trying to butt his nose into my life. He's forever giving his opinion on the men i choose to date and the friends I have. Im only 26 but he tells me that ive messed my life up just because I havent been to uni or gone ...

Parents suffocating me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Okay, so I'm in my early twenties, and I've never been in a relationship because my family has conservative values, and they praise education over anything else. So I focused primarily on school for the past twenty years or so. I don't go out as ...

Any advice toe help my stressed boyfriend with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half. We are extremely happy and we are planning our lives together. The only thing is that lately he has been having a bunch of problems at home. His parents have been getting ...

Dating my stepbrother and keeping it a secret from our parents

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Is it ok for me to date my stepbrother? My mom and step dad have known each other for a while now and got married last year. I have known my step brother for almost ten years now but I have never considered him as a brother. We have lived together ...

How can I find my real father just a first name?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - ok guys. i realllllly need some help here. first the basics.. im 17 years old, i have a step dad and 2 younger siblings (6 and 7). ok, so ive never met my real dad. i know that he was a bad person, he hit my mum (and worse) and has been in and out ...

Has my sister's man been molesting their child?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I have a younger sister who is in a very abusive relationship. Eleven months ago she had a baby by this person. A few months ago they broke up and eventually, he wormed his way back into her life. She just found out (by a doctor) that she has her...

Do you think he is having a second guess about breaking up or am I waiting for nothing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend ended our 6 year relationship 3 weeks ago, he said he doesnt feel he loves me anymore. He works from home and we have a 2 year old boy together. We spend 24/7 together, even share the same hobby. We have the odd disagreement but ...

I feel my boyfriend's mother is overstepping a little with our plans for the baby!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I don't know if i'm thinking to deep into this matter or wether or not i have some valied resson for concern. Me and my partner are expecting are first child in a few months but frew out the whole pregnancy I have had some concern as to wether or ...

Visit my son in jail? Or write a letter telling him how his behavior is affecting the family?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My son ended up in jail, after several probation charges with shoplifting and others, to support his drug habits. Now it is the 10 th year of this struggle. We tried to help him,many many times. Right now ,I'm hesitating if I should visit him in j...

His sister walked in on the two of us while we were nude and kissing. Do we talk to her about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - My friend and I are bicurious and we were having some fun (both of us were fully nude and french kissing). He is 19 years old and I am 24 years old. While we were nude and kissing, his 14 year old sister walk into the room (next time we will lock ...

Pregnant, no job, no money, no home of my own, and no boyfriend... I need advice and support!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - I'm in the bigest mess ever and i've never felt so vuerable and helpless in my whole life :-( I'm 32 weeks pregnant leaving me with 8 weeks left until my due date. I'm homeless as iv'e only just plucked up the courage to leave my boyfriend of 6 ...

Brother? or twin brother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - I have a problem. About a month ago, after going out and drinking a little bit too much, I made out with this new guy in our grade (lets call him Van). Since then, he has been really sweet and cute and caring towards me, we've gotten to know each ...

Stay Married or Separate - Stepdaughter issues

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - I am in my second marriage now for 7 years as of February 2010. I am contemplating separation due to my stepdaughter and I don't feel as if I love my wife. My stepdaughter is 22 now. I came into her life when she was 15 and I sort of knew that this ...

Help?? I am a grumpy snappy cow...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - Please help, I don't know what to to with my life. I am a 32 year old mum of 4, my husband and I work and seem to be like ships in the night, now the credit crunch has bitten us and things are tight, so the work arragements has to stay as they are. ...

I told my wife I would leave if my MIL moved in with us!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 45 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - my wife and i have been together for 6 years now. ever since we've been together either her sister, her brother, or her mother is living with us. we've been by ourselves for 5 months out of the 6 years of our relationship. her mother is 41 and she ...

My husband doesn't LIKE me - What to do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - History: Married 4 years, 2 children ages 2 and 6 months, own house, I'm a stay at home mom, he has a good job with promising promotion capabilities, we are financially stable but not rich :) Problem: He is a very loyal person who believes tha...

Should I ask my son to live separately on his own?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (M) - My son recently got married. He is staying at our place with his wife. Time to time we catch them play kissing games, or making out openly in the living room and everywhere in the house, although they would keep apologizing if they get caught. As ...

Creepy ex using our daughter to get to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - Hi I have a question regarding visitation. I have full legal and sole custody of my daughter due to the fact that he never showed up for the court dates. Child support is set up, but he has not paid a dime and he owes about 1,000 dollars. He is set ...

Do I really love him or is it just love you feel for a family member?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - Hi. Ok my problem sounds small but its pretty big. id like all the help i can get. So i was talking with my Boyfriend the other month because my father made me so paranoied by saying we are related, so my boyfriend went and spoke to his mothe...

My friend is living a different life and I am concerned about her family!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - Well, this post is about my friend/co worker. I have been very close to her and share most of the fun she is into. She is younger than me and is very beautiful, most men who see her would always second glance at her. She is almost perfect. And life ...

Single mom still in love: I need my family complete again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 60 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I need help! I am 24 and am madly in love with my ex. He is 31,we were together for 2 1/2 years.. we also have a daughter together, she's 2. Ok so here is my problem, like I mentioned I am so in love with him! We have been broken up for a little ...

I hate my sister-in-laws sister and its causing problems in my family relationships

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 62 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I am having a real problem with my sister in law and her family. She is married to my brother with whom to be fair I have an ok relationship with. We are close in age but not close to each other. We email eachother on average once a week but then we ...