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writes:hi dearcupids, my parent's closest friend used to come home daily twice, thrice. my uncle (I call my parent's friend as uncle since childhood) is a very nice person, he is like family. he also treats me like his daughter.But as his frequency for coming home increased, I used to find it as interference. After all family is family. I used to get irritated by his presence for many days. He is like family but not the actual family no... Once I told it to my mom but she shouted to me and told my uncle not to come. Now he is not coming home since some days. did I overreact? I just needed some privacy for myself and my family too. I'm sure he got hurt but I don't want to hurt him, never. Even sometimes my parents found it odd but it was like, just because of me, they told my uncle not to come. Please help me, did I overreact? How to repair all this now? Reply to this Question
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (24 October 2015):
Speak to your parents about this issue. You did not explain yourself properly how you feel. If you did not explain properly, they would think he was interfering you, touching you are trying to get with you. Yes you over reacted because you did not explain your situation nor did you talk to your uncle to understand how he felt, his reasons to coming to your parents home. You also did not ask your parents how they felt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2015): You're old enough to have your own place. I think it was very impolite to hurt his feelings, and out-of-line telling your parents to whom they should offer their hospitality in their own home!
Even you are there on borrowed time, my dear! You should be off starting your own life. You are a much welcomed and preferred house-guest; because you're blood-related, their baby-girl, and loved very much. He loves you too!
Now you've gotten what you've wanted. So call him and apologize and let by-gones be by-gones. If not in the mood for a visit; excuse yourself and take a walk, visit a friend, go shopping, go to the library, or find some place to get out of the house when he's visiting. He is in-fact, a part of the family; and has been so many years. He has watched you grow, and he appreciates the love your home offers him. Try to be patient; or get a job, save your money, and get your own apartment.
The fact is, it's your parent's home; and he is welcomed as long as they want him to be!
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (23 October 2015):
Nah.. its okay.. wanting privacy is normal.. Don't think too much about it.. But be nice to your uncle the next time he comes over
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