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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

I'm 16, and my 20 year old boyfriend has 3 kids, am I in over my head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I am sixteen and seventeen in under a month. I am with a guy who i've been with now over a month he is 20. And even though it's only been a month i am really falling for him, he is amazing when i'm with him he makes me feel happy. The only problem ...

I love her but her behaviour and mood swings are making me question it all, please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - I need some really good advice. Please... My fiance and I have been engaged for about 6 months. We met one year ago. I realize most people will think that was way too soon to get engaged. It was a little fast but i don't regret it. I love her d...

His kids are preventing us from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Stats: I have full custody of my child. We have known each other from school, over 20 years ago. We reconnected almost one year ago. I’ve been divorced for nearly 10 years and have one young daughter. He has been divorced for one year and ...

Her parents are keeping her from me but I love her, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5226 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - my girlfriend's parents are against the whole idea of having a relationship. Recently, they saw my relationship status on facebook with her and caught us. Her cell phone has been taken away, and she has been locked up in her own house. Things have ...

Involving boyfriends kids

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my BF for nearly a year. We are in out 40's. I've been single for nearly 10 yrs. He has been divorced for 3. I live a distance away. He says he is serious about me and wants to look to marriage. His 4 ...

My older bro want's to mess around...Help?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Hi this is all a little weird for me, but I need some help. My older brother and I are really close, since we were little. But recently we have been talking and innocnetly I told him about a dream I had about him and thought he would just call me ...

It breaks my heart to see my parents apart!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - im 14 my parents are in a fight how do i help get them back together? My dad has a a does not think before he says and regrets it. My mom and dad have been together for 17 years now i i cant live without my mom and dad being together it just breaks ...

Can an unclebe attracted to his niece?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - surely not? can an uncle be attracted sexually to his niece? when i was with my partner(ex now} i had nagging gut feelings to the way he was around his niece.this is his sisters daughter by the way. shes 18 hes 42 and she was staying at her grans wh...

How do I get my parents to compromise with a little freedom?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - my problem is having a boyfriend. My parents won't allow it. I'm 15 in my last year school, and he's my first boyfriend. I really like him, i usually don't pay attention to stuff like that, but i felt that he's different. He likes me for who i am...

B/f says I'm selfish and keeping him away from his family

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and living together for 3 years! We have a two year old boy and i am pregnant with our second!! I know our relationship has never been the best in the world or the healthiest Lately we have been ...

The old question: In love with a straight guy part infinity!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - (MOD NOTE: POSTER'S ORIGINAL TITLE) I'm a just turned 20 year old (gay)guy who always attract straight guys. But here is the problem: I like my brother in law too much then i actually should. Everytime he looks/smiles or even talkes to m...

I'm caught in the middle of a family fight!!! Please, I need your help!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I am stuck in the middle of three sisters one my Mums side of the family and a bad relationship with my mum and my Dad's sister. I try to be nice to everyone in My family because I hardly see them and when I do I like it to be a good, happy time, ...

Why does my brother try to steal my girlfriends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - why the hell is my brother tring to steal my girlfriend when he knows i love her and she loves me to make matters worse he has a girlfriend. my girl is not what he likes, she is not his type, but hes giving hints and shes falling for them....

I don't have any parenting skills and she has a 2 year old...should there be some instant bond or something?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - I have met a old flame from school, I havnt seen her in 6years. When we met the same chemistry was still there and we hit it off as though we hadn't stopped seeing each other all those years! She has recently came out of a relationship as have I. ...

Can I tell my family I'm pregnant without disclosing the relationship information?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Okay - i am preganant and living with my folks. Most of my family still believe me to be a virgin, they have no idea that i had a boyfriend for a few months a little while ago. This is gonna be hard because they will not exspect it at all - if i was ...

Its complicated...please some objective input?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi there I've searched for and read so many of the emails from guys in the similar situation to me. I can never find one "relationship situation" that is exact to my particular situation, but at the end of the day, the expected answers I will g...

My 2 children don't know their father! Should I contact him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - hi i am married woman the mother of two kids,the man i am married is not the father of my kids , they are from relationship before my kids do not know there father we separate when one was one year and other was not yet born i do not see father ...

Mom's short skirts are causing me to have troubled sexual thoughts

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5216 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi, Hope i can get some advise here. I am 22 now originally India only a son for my parents. I got a small traditional family back in my Country. My mother she is 37(5'4" tall, medium built, dark complexion) and my dad is 56(yes nearly 20 years ...

Is our relationship ever going to settle down? Is he ever going to change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5214 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I met my bf when we both werent looking for a relationship. we never wanted to be apart, he made me feel wonderful, he was inspired to change his outlook on life, we were both so alike(and still are in some ways). passionate, kind, thoughtful...

Last day in Spain, I have to go home, but I don't want to leave. I'm so sad. Please advise?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5148 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Hola, For those of you that don´t know me, I´m an aunt here on this site. I´m always glad to help, and I try to give very direct and sincere advice without judging people. I´m here because I´m feeling a little sad today and I´m not really sur...

Is it wrong to wish he'd just pass away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My dad has been a severe alcoholic most of my life. He was emotionally dead when I was a teen and went through a brief point of sobriety when i was in my early 20''s. for the last couple of years, he's cheated death several times. he has survived ...

Should I ask out my cousin?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Okay, this is a... predicament, so i will remain anonymous for obvious reasons- Here's the story: I recently traveled out of state to visit aunts, uncles, cousins, and so on... I was hanging out with one of my male cousins, when two girls ...

Do you think he hates me for all the stupid mistakes I've made?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - this is a relatively long question/story, just warning you. In December of last year, I started visiting a chatroom especially for the iPod touch. I was pretty bored, telling people I was 17, and I'm 14 was 13 then. I did not have pics, since...

Age difference and disapproving parents?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - i decided to go back to college and further my education. I am a bit older than normal college age (late 30's). While there I've met a woman that I fell for. She tells me that she has the same feelings for me, but her family disapproves of it ...

Do I try and show her father I've changed? He's a cop.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5230 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Ok , I live in a small town wehre everyone knows everyone. As a teenager and in to my ealrie 20's i went through the whole bad boy stage. Ditching school , drinking, fighting, racing cars, drugs, tattoos, I did jail time for break and enter and drug ...

How do I handle this habit of my mothers....she wants whats best for me, but we disagree on what that is...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My mom has this strange habit, and I´m curious as to what it means. I´ve never been married and not sure I want to be. I have this childhood friend, and I only think of him as a friend. He´s a good friend and I like him as a person but he is...

Ex leaving threatening messages!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5230 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I have recently emigrated to another country with my 9 year old son. I am a single mother and have been for some time. My son has had very little contact with his father during his 9 years of life (even though his dad lived only 5 minutes down ...

Is there anyway I can change this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I'm so upset right now...when I was 10 years old, my brothers molested me. I am now 18 years old. Everything was solved, they spent their time in jail. I'm upset because my one brother's parole officer came over (my other brother isn't in jail, just ...

My husband leaves all family responsibility on me, how can I be happy again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - i am married now for 2years i was married with two kids i work and he works also, my salary is smaller than his but i pay more bills than he pays and he spends his money in pubs with friends, i feel very bad, i am responsible for all, for my kids...

Creepy Cousin

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Well when I was about 5 or 6, my teenage cousin raped me, not molested. He actually penetrated me. Anyways 2day is my 16th bday and my cousin and I have the same bday. So his mom called and told me happy bday then she gave the phone to him. As he ...

We're in love but my mom and his dad doesn't like us going out.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5192 days ago

29 December 2009 (?) - Ok, so Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a very long time now, and we fell in love, I love him soooooooooo much, he's everything Ive ever wanted and Id rather die than live without him. But my mom HATES him! Idk why, she just does, and she ...

Unsure of how to deal with my mother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - My parents have been divorced for about 15 years now and my relationship with my mother has always been rather rocky but I feel our problems have particularly escalated recently. It all started when I moved in with my boyfriend in Pennsylvania....

Family isn't nice to the guy because of his looks

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - My parents are normally pretty open minded and supportive of what I do, I am 23 yrs old and have been dating Matt(25) for almost 4 months now. He is the leader singer in a band, has over come an addition as a teenager and has been clean ever since. ...

My sister is embarassed by our mother, can you help our mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - i am asking this question on behalf of my Mum because she cannot use a computer. My sister is 32 years old and has disowned my Mum because she is "embarrassing because she is poor". My mum works so hard to make ends meet, bought her first house la...

I can't just get over the situation? Any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5231 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Hi, sorry to blab on but i am having some difficulties getting over this situation.. So i was on and off with this guy for about three years, our families are very close well our mothers are very good friends so he is someone that has been ar...

I still love my baby's daddy, do I have to let him go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I have 1 son with my baby daddy and I am pregnant with another baby boy with him but he left me when I was 3 months. We were arguing a lot because he was the only one working and I was going to school.after I finish school I found out I was pregnant ...

Should I euthanize my daughter's rabbit to save on vet bills? And not tell her? Help!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5217 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - Thinking of killing my daughters pet rabbit! The rabbit is ill, it has a tumor (possibly or an abscess behind the eyes) which is visible about the size of one eye and oozes puss. It requires twice daily eye drops and medication which I administ...

Should I speak to my mother again? I really need help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - my "mother" is a terrible person. She makes me feel worthless everyday. I try talking to her and all she does is make me feel like I'm not worth anything. I am a college student and I am having difficulty adjusting with all the stress in my life. In ...

I have fallen for my brother's friend and he has fallen for me...What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I have a dilemma..I am falling for one of my brother's really good friends. We realized that we had a mutual attraction to one another over two years ago but we did not know it then. We both decided not to say anything to one another about it ...

Her brother is trying to break up our marriage...what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (?) - hello....okay Well i taken leave and went home. im in the military. I went to this party and we was all drinking. i seen this girl named J. who was sitting at the table. i didnt really think much about her but i know her from a really close fre...

Am I worthless??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - Evening everyone.I just feel so worthless at the moment....You know how everyone has something they are good at? Well im rubbish at everything. I failed my driving test, i didnt get a work promotion despite working late and training up several ...

I got slapped on Boxing day, he says he will not drink again, I'm scared!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - i have been with my fiance now for 2 ans half years we have a 9 month old baby together. the whole time through our relationship was amazing i knew he had a temper because i had seen it towards others whenwe had been out, he always get very ...

He hasn't contacted me in 5 weeks since father's death--tradition?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - i need to know all the rituals of a death in saudi arabia especially when its the father how does the sons react i feel. for five weeks he has not worried aboiut me where as before he had to go home to attend his dads funeral we were starting a ...

My work colleague has left his wife for me. Should I get involved?

This question has 31 answers - newest was posted 5175 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I have been working at my work place for 11 months. It became obvious 6 months ago that one of my married work colleagues had developed feelings for me. He constantly hung around my office area during his lunch. I steadfastly ignored him. Even some ...

She says she is happy with her new relationship, do I keep telling her how I feel?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - ok 2 1/2 months ago my gf and i called it quits after 7 years and two kids, we both did a lot of hurtful things to each other verbally and some physically and she said she finally couldnt take it anymore so were done, the thing is i still care for ...

Any advice on leaving?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I am 40+ and have been with the same man for 11.5 years. We have had our ups and downs. We have 5 kids between us and the relationship he has with my 19 year old son is terrible. He doesn't live with us any more. Back in the Spring my son acted ...

Is it ok to break ties with my unloving mother?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - Do I have the right not to have contact with my mother, if I feel she is very damaging for me? I had been thru a lot at the last few years, with my kids and marriage, and she can't stop blaming me for everything , what has gone wrong. So now, it ...

I'm pregnant and can't decide whether to be with the father, be with the ex, or go it alone?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5196 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I am 30 years old. My live in boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me, and moved out and into his new girlfriends place in May 2009. A very good male friend of mine, split from his wife, and I let him stay with me until he could get on his feet. He ...

My In-Laws are causing problems!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5214 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - [Moderator Note: Confusing Reference to Addams family Removed. Family is not anything like the Addams family.] My husband is the oldest child and only boy in a family consisting of the following: The dominant mother who never worked a day in her l...

How do I forgive the person who raped me when I was a child?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - For years a family member molested me from the age of 4 till I was 12. When I was 9 he started to rape me, I use to be very sore for days and I bled alot and I got infections and couldn't walk properly. I never told anyone as he always threatened ...