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Archived questions from: October, 2017 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I don't know if I should ask a colleague out

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2361 days ago

31 October 2017 (M) - I'm 26 and have been single for around 7--8 months now since splitting with my gf of 3 yrs. I found that break up hard and I'm unsure if I want a new relationship. However I've only been with 2 girls in my whole life and I'm desperate to "get out ...

My ex wants me permanently in the background and have a baby mother too!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2346 days ago

31 October 2017 (F) - Im good frinds with my ex. We are very close. We broke up 5 yrs ago, but during those 5 yrs we have been sleeping with each other. We talked about getting back together and trying for a baby.... But I told him im not ready.He was ok with this...

I broke up with my fiancé after 5 years together, she is begging me to come back!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2368 days ago

30 October 2017 (M) - Hello, We live in one of the bigger cities on the West Coast. Met my ex-fiancee (wow, writing that still hurts) 5 years ago. I run a couple successful tech companies so for the last two years I've been traveling back and forth (spending together...

Our 7 year relationship is in shambles. Is it over? Should I accept defeat?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2367 days ago

29 October 2017 (F) - I have been in a relationship for 7 years, and throughout the relationship we obviously had ups and downs like any other couple. However, one huge problem with us was that I had suffered some sexual trauma in my past which left it difficult for me ...

Am I seeing something that isn’t there and maybe she is just making excuses so I won’t hate her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2368 days ago

29 October 2017 (M) - After about 4 years my girlfriend and I broke up. It wasn’t one that I wanted at all as I was ready to purpose She has distanced herself but not totally as we still have some contact I have informed her that I am moving and we are supposed to ...

Girlfriend lost feelings for me - is it her depression?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2369 days ago

28 October 2017 (F) - Hi there. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I will try and be informative but brief! Myself and my partner (now ex) couldn’t be more perfect for each other. We were together just under a year and our relationship was great. We rarely...

How do I tell my online guy friend that I won't be able to keep talking to him every night when I move in with my boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2369 days ago

27 October 2017 (F) - So to give you a little bit of context - I've been talking with this guy over the phone for a little over a year (we met online) - Let's call him James. He lives in the US and I am in Canada. We used to talk dirty to each other over the phone during ...

How do I end a FWB relationship and just be friends?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2371 days ago

27 October 2017 (F) - How do I end a friends with benefits thing? I'm 18 and he's 21 and we were friends for about a year and a half before we started sleeping together basically, and he took my virginity. There was a point before we had sex where I thought I had ...

My boyfriend took small amounts of money from my purse! What should I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2373 days ago

25 October 2017 (F) - I was dating a guy for 3 months, who I love, and knew was broke/unemployed. 2 weeks ago, $15.00 was missing from my wallet. I thought I miscounted, so the next time he came over I took a pic of my wallet, so I knew for sure. $20.00 went miss...

Guys, do you miss the other woman if the affair ends suddenly?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2367 days ago

25 October 2017 (F) - Guys, do you miss your mistress when your affair ended suddenly. I just ended my affair with a married man. Without stating the reason why. I know it’s wrong to be in love with him. So please spare me all the nasty comments. I feel kinda ...

Was he trying to deceive me?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2369 days ago

24 October 2017 (F) - Was he trying to deceive me? There are two aspects to an action. What was the intention behind something (the mental part) and what action was taken/not taken (the physical part). What is bugging me on an issue is what was the intention behind...

I'd like to help them save their marriage!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2376 days ago

24 October 2017 (F) - Oh boy. I have two friends that have been married for ten years. The husband has been having an affair off and on for three years with a chick he refused to ever completely sever ties with. The wife has taken off with other guys during their splits ...

Am I being played here, or does he really associate being my boyfriend with one day marrying me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2376 days ago

24 October 2017 (F) - My ex-boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me last month, we had a pretty amicable breakup (he told me that we have a good thing and it was hard because he loves me but he just doesn't see himself married to me one day and tbh I don't either since ...

Do I keep trying to contact him? Or cut contact despite his debts to me?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2360 days ago

23 October 2017 (F) - Dear Cupid. I think I know the answer but I need some advice... So, I have been helping out an ex from seven years ago with rent while he's jobless for the last six months (He rents out a room in a house) (I offered to help him) on top ...

How do I make him feel for me the way he once did?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2376 days ago

22 October 2017 (F) - Guys, I need help. So my boyfriend broke up with me and it's different from most relationships so I don't know what to do. Let me explain our entire relationship, we were best friends for 3 years and one year he really liked this girl and couldn't ...

Why would a man get distant when time together is limited?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2376 days ago

22 October 2017 (F) - so i have been seeing someone for about 2 years now, we are both military and it is now the time for me to rotate to a new duty and he will not be able to come with me. We both love each other very much but the closer i get to leaving, the more ...

Most of the things he does really gets on my nerves!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2379 days ago

21 October 2017 (F) - I have been going out with a guy for almost a year now, when we first started going out I thought he was really sweet and I really liked him, we see each other every week but now it's been nearly a year I feel like things have changed, he still ...

He is not being supportive and I am literally broken because of what is happening!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2377 days ago

21 October 2017 (F) - Hi, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months and a few days ago I found out I was pregnant. We both currently live 100 miles apart and only get to see each other once a week. We decided an abortion was the best option for us as it wou...

A year after my break up I still haven't been on a date and no one has shown any real interest in me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2378 days ago

20 October 2017 (F) - I'm 22 and the only relationship I have ever been In lasted 3 years before he came out gay. It was a very complicated break up with a lot of mixed feelings and we would still spend time together and end up sleeping together for around a year ...

How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2369 days ago

18 October 2017 (F) - Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....

What should I do about feeling inadequate?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2380 days ago

18 October 2017 (F) - First off, this is quite the premature question, but tonight, its all I can think about. A year ago, I had to escape a mentally, physically, sexually, and verbally abusive relationship. It was difficult to say the least. A few months after we ...

My boyfriend used to be a nerd but now acts like a 'Gangsta'

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2381 days ago

17 October 2017 (F) - He's a middle class white boy whose parents pay for everything including his Mini but he keeps acting like he wants to be the "gangster hood" stereotype and idk it really annoys me for some reason. My parents are also middle class but I was raised ...

How do I handle this meeting with him after the news that he's trying to reconcile with his ex in Italy!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2375 days ago

12 October 2017 (F) - I met an Italian guy recently. We talked on-line for a few weeks. Then he was in Italy for a month. We met when he came back. I was a little suspicious as to why such a long holiday in Italy as he has no children or parents. We met for the...

My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2382 days ago

11 October 2017 (F) - At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...

I think I deserve better. I'm pushing too hard to make this relationship work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2388 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - Hi all, Ive been dating this guy for the past 4-5 months. He's very different from my part relationships. I had a bad pattern to go for unavailable men but I changed it consciously. My relationship is going well with this person and there were a...

We broke up because he was obsessed with women

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2389 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - Looking for some feedback, especially the guys out there, interested in your take on this. My relationship has very recently ended and was a long time coming,This man made me feel uncomfortable, disrespected, less than and so much more. The worst ...

How to move on after a bad relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2389 days ago

10 October 2017 (F) - Hi my name is Danielle and I am 24 years old I am currently single and living with my parents. I am writing this because I do not know how to go on and to move on with life. About a year ago I left my ex boyfriend.. I thought we were soulmates and ...

I feel I am not good enough and cry everyday

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2390 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - I am 25, single and VERY lonely. My now ex bf recently broke up with me because he lost feelings for me. I think it is all my fault, but he says it is not. He says his feelings fizzled out over time and insists there is no new girl. I am scared of ...

How soon is too soon to ask her out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2390 days ago

9 October 2017 (M) - Ok I use to give this girl a lift to work and we got on really well and have so much in common. 2 weeks ago she split up with her boyfriend and has moved so I longer have to give her a lift. At work we have been speaking a lot more since she has ...

He found the girl he dumped me for was too costly and wants me to take him back.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2391 days ago

9 October 2017 (F) - So, this guy and I were dating for almost two years and he proposed to me in May. A few weeks later he tells me hes going on vacation with his old crush/ friend since high school there both 28. But they have been friends forever. So, he breaks off ...

My boyfriend is sad after his ex girlfriend's revelation!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2390 days ago

8 October 2017 (F) - Hello, I have a story to tell. This summer my bf and I got together. He had a girlfriend but he cheated on her to be with me. At first we were friends and I knew he had a girlfriend but I was so in love with him and I was trying to resist for so ...

Should I kick him out of my house and my life?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2391 days ago

8 October 2017 (F) - Hi All!! First thank you for taking the time out to help me... Ive been dating the same guy for 5 yrs now. And for the past couple yrs he has changed into an unpredictable screaming heartless prick towards me. Im always caught off guard when he gets ...

My ex bf new gf texting me how good their relationship is

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2392 days ago

7 October 2017 (F) - I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. We've had our ups and downs but we pulled through. We also had lots of arguments. On our last argument we had I went to work, came home and he packed his things and left. My ex bf now, left a ...

Should I suggest to my ex she seek professional help?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2391 days ago

6 October 2017 (M) - I recently went through a bad breakup with a woman I thought was the one. Even though she did it in a cold hearted way I still care deeply for her and have been told that she loves me just not like I love her. The relationship is in the past so I'm ...

Is this just a slump in the relationship or should we part ways?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2394 days ago

5 October 2017 (F) - So I desperately need some relationship advice please! Me and my boyfriend have been together about 2 and a half years now, we're both 22 and we live together. We both have very good jobs and we stay at his family house (all his family live away...

My boyfriend stole money from my purse, I broke it off but am feeling sad.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2393 days ago

5 October 2017 (F) - I am 48 years old and in a telation with a man my age ,we r engaged but since i knew him i felt that there is something missing in the relation and i wasn't sure that i love him and kept postponing marriage.he is so kind with me and generous in ...

Why does this love feel different?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2367 days ago

5 October 2017 (F) - 2 years ago I broke up w/the 1st guy that I ever loved. We weren't compatible as we had different political and religious views (both things are very important to me). I was completely and utterly in love, felt like a total dream. He took me for ...

Is this a positive sign or is she just being nice?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2393 days ago

5 October 2017 (M) - My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I had been working on the things she didnt like about me and I sent her an email updating her on how I have been changing i.e getting better and that I love her and hopefully in future we might cross ...

How do I go about being just her cousin again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2397 days ago

2 October 2017 (M) - I am just 20 and I hate to be called inexperienced because I have been in two solid relationships before. I grew up in the city of Abuja. so early this year I went to my hometown with my dad where I met my first cousin once removed. after a while we ...

I'm heartbroken but he said he wouldn't get back together with me because I was acting crazy!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2397 days ago

1 October 2017 (F) - Okay so I'm looking for a little perspective... I was dating this guy (both in our early to mid 20s) for 6 months. During this time it got very intense. In the beginning he was incredible... suggested we go on holiday together after 1 month, a...