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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I just found out that he has a girlfriend, I'm distraught, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Ive been talking to this guy from ireland on msn for about 7 months and im really in love with him. He told me he really wants to come see me and that hes saving up to see me. I never btw pushed him to come visit me it was all him and his idea. I ...

Is our relationship ever going to settle down? Is he ever going to change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5213 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I met my bf when we both werent looking for a relationship. we never wanted to be apart, he made me feel wonderful, he was inspired to change his outlook on life, we were both so alike(and still are in some ways). passionate, kind, thoughtful...

Might be Pregnant again after break up

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - ok here goes... I've been in an on again/off again relationship with a mn 11 yrs older then me since February this year... its been a wild ride including a miscarraige ... the thing is before I found out I was pregnant I had given up on the idea of ...

I'm staying for my son basically but I Want to know how to remove myself from this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have only dated my bf for a little over a year. He had previously dated the girl before me for 4 years. 4 months after we started dating we found out I was pregnant and 3 months into pregnancy I started having nightmares about his ex, ...

Nice guy that got away or Sociopathic Player?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Hey Everyone, This is my first time writing here, but it’s the holiday season, and it has been kinda ruined by my ex. So here goes a little background info: My ex and I were first platonic friends to this date we have known each other for 7 y...

He gets upset about my b/f. Does he still love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - ok at the beginning of the year i met this boy online called simon. he lives 2 hours away from me and he is the same age as me. i`ve got loads of pictures of him and we have chatted once on the phone. the first time we talked he asked me out and he ...

I cheated on him and now he won't respond to my texts!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I like my ex boyfriend and I’m unsure whether he likes me or not. We have a bit of a history so I don’t know whether to say anything to him or not. We’ve been out 3 times and I know that sounds really bad. The first time we went out things just did...

What can I do to get him back and mend all this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - hi, my partner and i have just broken up after 2 years. we were living together and ive had to move out with some of the pets. my ex broke it off because of a misunderstanding between me and his boss. ive explained and apologised to him but he d...

I want to stop thinking about him sleeping with her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I need help and advice, something is playing on my mind and is detrimental to my relationship. My boyfriend has a good female friend, and they always used to flirt and I did wonder if anything was underlying. Me and my boyfriend had a month or so of ...

Need advice on how to top thinking about him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I need help and advice on how I can do this, finally let go of my ex... Today after 10 years and 3 years seriously I have finally realised in my heart, soul and head that my ex partner has to be gone from my life. He is so bad for me, fo...

We are on a break,what should I do to show her that I love her more than anything?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - Hi, Me and my girlfriend are on a break,what should I do to show her that I love her more than anything?She says that she needs space and some time apart from eachother and says that I must not see it as a bad thing,but I don't know what to thi...

We won't be getting back together and it hurts

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Well, ok... I am in love with someone and I never felt this way about anyone in my life. We broke up and we are still really good friends but we have talks. We still love eachother and still tell eachother we love them. My only problem is that we ...

I still love my baby's daddy, do I have to let him go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I have 1 son with my baby daddy and I am pregnant with another baby boy with him but he left me when I was 3 months. We were arguing a lot because he was the only one working and I was going to school.after I finish school I found out I was pregnant ...

Why did he break up with me after a month? How do I get over that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5229 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Hey! You seem like you give good advice, and I'm in need of some! Please, help me! My name is Jodie, I'm fifteen years old. Well there is a boy called Tom in my life, he is a former boyfriend, and I'm madly, in love with him, so much he's...

I am genuinely confused here..can you all help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - Well...Here's the thing... At 16, first year of college, I started seeing this guy who I knew back in Primary School. I found out I was moving and we ended it. Even though we were moving, I started dating someone else...a second year in college....

I lost my gf to a drunk driver 3 years ago..and it still haunts me! How do I cope?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - im having a bit of a problem here. About two years, gonna be three Jan 5th, my ex was murdered by a drunk driver. Last year wasn't as bad but this year I keep seeing her everywhere and each time it happens I feel like someone punched me in the ...

My husband left me for another women on boxing day!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5214 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...

Am I stupid for wanting to be with him again or am I wasting my time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - my ex bf and I broke up a few weeks ago. He didn't tell me why but I think it was because of my medical condition as i got really sick when I was there at his place. ever since then I can't stop thinking about him, every time i see his pic i ge...

I really want to move on but how do I tell my husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - i really hav a mess sex life with my husband,i tried all i could,i tried to talk to him about counseling either but he keep on saying we don't we hav problem to take to counseling and he says that's just wast of money,we had been tryiny to make ...

I have a sensitive heart!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - My first love broke up with me the other day and it's been hurting me real bad and nobody seems to understand that I have such a sensitive heart and that it affects me more than the average person but she did it because we had a couple fights ...

She says she is happy with her new relationship, do I keep telling her how I feel?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - ok 2 1/2 months ago my gf and i called it quits after 7 years and two kids, we both did a lot of hurtful things to each other verbally and some physically and she said she finally couldnt take it anymore so were done, the thing is i still care for ...

Any advice on leaving?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I am 40+ and have been with the same man for 11.5 years. We have had our ups and downs. We have 5 kids between us and the relationship he has with my 19 year old son is terrible. He doesn't live with us any more. Back in the Spring my son acted ...

Why does she say she loves me and wants me but doesn't want a relationship right now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - so we have been apart about a month now. we dated for a year and a half. we broke up over stress and fighting to much i kinda brokeup with her first. after we brokeup she said she wanted to stay friends she didnt want nothing to change but she just ...

She abandoned me for Christmas... who does this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - In an effort to express and vent, release my story and pain out there and possibly with hope, get a bit of healing in return, I am posting this painful thread here. Her and I were real, serious. Just a few weeks ago, we spoke of marriage, life t...

I am going through a divorce but I still love her!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5123 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - I have a problem and I need advice. I am going through a divorce and I have custody of my very young children. My wife is severly mentally ill and her mental condition has really collasped over this past year severly bad. She abused the kids so I ...

What is he thinking and how do I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - Just wondered if you could give me some advice on my break-up please? Any comments or ideas would be greatly appreciated! So here it is - My ex boyfriend and I broke up just over 2 months ago. He is 27 and I am 28. We started off having a long...

He's ignoring me and breaking my heart! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I've known this guy for three weeks we were together for two weeks solid and then I left to go home. he said he would call me. he didn't and just left for his sister in min but he didn't say he was leaving but since he's been gone I've text him alot ...

Trying to get over a very recent break-up during the holidays...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - Trying to get over a very recent break-up during the holidays...we were together about 9 mo, very close and believed we loved one another..we haven't been getting along on some things and we both agreed maybe we should go speak to a third party and ...

I am in the friend zone and want to move out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - Oh what am i to do? and why do i get myself in these situations? Ive been talking to a girl for a few weeks whom ive known for a while but just started to actually get to know.. i feel theres chemistry there but she has a boyfriend.. one who she ...

I ended the relationship, so why am I having a hard time getting over him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5222 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - I just ended a two-year relationship. I initiated the breakup, but why am I the one having a hard time getting over him? Here's the background; it's complicated, so please bear with me: We met in early 2008, and we clicked immediately (he ...

Is my ex stringing me along?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - My ex boyfriend of 2 1/2 years told me he was moving on about a month ago. I met with him after a week or a half after that and told him all that I had realized about our relationship and how I thought we could fix things. He started crying when I ...

How do I forget the intimacy and move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I have lingering doubts about a recent break-up, even though many told me the relationship was unhealthy -- and I believe they were right, to an extent -- because him and I were compatible in so many other ways. I have a difficult time remembering ...

Should I listen to my priest and forgive her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - went to church this am and while the priest was saying the homily he looked in my direction he said u must strive to forgive, love unconditionally, and be understanding. He looked in my direction and said you have to be the one to do this no matter ...

Should I leave? I need an outsiders point of view please..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - I find my relationship problems difficult to talk to with my friends and family. I dont like them to see me as weak or troubled or i guess burden them with my troubles so i normally keep everything to myself and try to deal with things. But i have ...

I want to help my ex but I'm not sure how, please advise?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5152 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - Ok guys, this question is kind of a follow up to the original problem I was dealing,with, but seems to be a whole different monster, my girlfriend of 8 years, has a very unique and beautiful quality about her, but it is also a double edge sword, she ...

Do I even have a right to be angry that I was led on even though he never fully committed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5234 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - Ok now where to start? I met this man at a bar (o such a wonderful place to meet them) sarcasm by the way. We were friends for about 3 or 4 monthes. At that time i stupidly suggested we have a friends with benefits relationship, and of course he ...

I am unhappy in my marriage, should I get a divorce?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5234 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - I just told my wife I am not happy in our marriage of 2 and 1/2 years. We dated for 5 years prior to getting married. We have no children and both of us are skeptical about even having them. Which is weird cause when we first started dating we ...

We had an argument, I kicked him out and he found someone else. I want my husband back!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5234 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - i was with my boyfriend for three years and we got married on the 7th june this yr beleive it or not. wat a joke. i had a bad arguement i told him i didnt love him and kicked him out, but i lied i do love him i just said it in anger. now his gone ...

I have been building a house, if we broke up, would fiance get the house?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - im building a house for the last eight year s with my own money my fiance never wanted anything to do with it were together six year s and have a six month old baby who i adore if we broke up would she be intitled to the house ,...

I don't like his marijuana usage, he won't stop! Is it time to break up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 months now. We've have a somewhat rocky relationship. I caught him cheating on me with his ex 4 months into our relationship. However, he sincerely apologized and begged for another chance, so ...

Is it normal to still be in love with someone a year after it ended?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Is it normal for people to still be completely and utterly in love with someone a year after it ended? There's been no contact, I haven't seen him and yet I still think about him every second of every day and still can't help but beam when I talk ...

I did nothing while we were on a break, but now he says it's over because he thinks I cheated!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up on Saturday over a heated argument, he went out that night and mingled with other females and enjoyed hiself according to my friends. He also reactivated his facebook account, which is something that we got rid of because ...

Had a child, gained weight and now I'm missing my cheating ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - I was in a relationship for 8 damn years and I went through the cheating (with strippers) lying, and just plain old dogging out. Now we have a baby.. and of course after we have the baby, we break up! I actually kicked him out, because this man...

I love him, I love him not, I love him, oh dear I love him not!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5234 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - so i have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months and we say we are in love, which i am. so recently i broke up with him and made out with another guy, then we got back together - broke up, got back together - broke up and now were back together. ...

Summer Lovin' .. I want my summer romance back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5234 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - This passed summer my best friend's brother and i got really close and ended up together, well the whole time she and i didn't speak because of a few other issues. We had this amazing relationship for about a month and then suddenly he just stopped ...

His family is breaking us up...i am pregnant with our second child and don't know what to do. please help me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - I'm 7 months pregnant with my ex's child and he wont answer my calls, letters, emails, or texts. I'm 20 and pregnant with our second child. We have a 19 month of baby girl. We're expecting a baby boy in early feb. He has currently been to a universi...

I can't get over him & it's killing me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5236 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - I have not long ago came out from a 2 year relationshp with the most wonderful guy. The relationship wa sunexpected at first and it was pretty weird how we met suppose things like that happend. We were friends at first then I found out he start to ...

His family won't let him marry her because of their religion

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5236 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - hi thier is one guy whose relationship has been ended with his girlfriend since the girls parents dont allow her to marrya person who is not of their caste he is my friend from childhood and he also has purpose me in school days but due to my ...

I need help making sense of the events, which caused our break up, help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

22 December 2009 (M) - My g\f (now ex) was not jealous, possessive, aggressive and didn’t mind me seeing friends\family but was so controlling in other ways, especially domestically. I couldn’t wash up properly, clean properly, make the bed, i was clumsy, a grot etc. If ...

He broke up with me 3 days before Christmas, Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5224 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - Yesterday my boyfriend came home from a ski trip. When he came back he told me we should break up. He said that the reason was that he felt like more of just a friend then a boyfriend and that it was better for him. I told him we can try and fix it. ...