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How soon is too soon to ask her out?

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Question - (9 October 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 10 October 2017)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Ok I use to give this girl a lift to work and we got on really well and have so much in common. 2 weeks ago she split up with her boyfriend and has moved so I longer have to give her a lift. At work we have been speaking a lot more since she has been single and I am thinking of asking her on a date but I don't know when is best time to ask because she only recently split up with her boyfriend. I don't want to make work awkward for us either. I think she likes me too but I want to know for sure before I mess anything up. Any tips on how long to wait and ways to find out of I have a chance or not? Sorry if this makes no sense I'm not good at this

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (10 October 2017):

N91 agony auntWay way way too soon. The last thing on her mind right now would be dating someone else.

Who knows how long it will take her to get over? A month? 6 months? 2 years?

I agree with the other posters that you really shouldn't mix romance with work. It's really not the place you should be looking for potential partners.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (10 October 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntI think from her point off view it is very soon. She is only single two weeks so am sure she needs time to adjust to being single again. Also it really is never a good idea to date someone you work with. Imagine if it went wrong and you had to work together every day? Surely that would make life extremely awkward? The best thing to do is find someone who you don't work with to date.

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (10 October 2017):

It is never good to date a co-worker. I'm sure you know that. But your hormones are probably running high and it doesn't sound like you have enough game to find somebody outside work. So, just a couple of things: You've already been giving her rides to work, so your relationship is such that she may see you as subservient and not a challenge. Don't continue with the lapdog relationship or she'll see you as pathetic. Start slow...workday lunches are a good way to determine whether she really has any interest in you or is just being nice because she thinks she still owes you something for those rides. And read my first sentence at least 10 times a day until you get this thru your system.

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