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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

Love Triangle.. how can I forget him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend he said he loves me and i love him but he now he does not and he love some one else what i can do now and i am still in love him?...

I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his ...

Who should initiate things again when we are both afraid of the relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - He was deeply hurt by something he thought I caused. Time has passed and now he knows I did not cause the action. We talked about it and he has overcome this and sees he was wrong. But his reaction caused me extreme hurt and I mean extreme and he ...

Should I stay with my bf in this circle of revenge?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. So I've been going out with my boyfriend for just a little over 10 months now. We have had two major problems throughout our relationship, otherwise everything has been great. In about the third month of our relationship he started to ...

Why is "No Contact" good for break ups?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Yeah I know I am smart and intelligent and mature enough for my age to know the answer to this but my heart is contradicting it. I have been 3 months apart from my ex, obviously, I still love him as this gives me the reason to write here. I ha...

I love him amd know he can be a better man, but his past demons creep into our lives

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship for just over two years. The man I am dating has had financial problems from the very beginning. Of course I have helped him out but this has put a strain on our relationship. IN addition to this he has also lied to me ...

I try to break up with him when he's mean, but then he goes back to normal again. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Why can't I make up my mind? I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Lately he's been acting weird- he's acting rude and careless towards me. So when he's like this I get so mad and I prepare myself to break it off. When I go to do this though, ...

I am fed up with being hung up on him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - hi im 15 and new to this so please help. i was going out with this guy for about a year. but then he dumped me a year ago today. he didnt give a reason. im still in love with him. how do i get over him? please help:)...

He keeps on running away from me but I know he still loves me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - im a 18 yrs old girl..i have problems with my bf.okay....here's the story....my bf was being trapped by his own cousin, his cousin smashed his car windows and until now i don't even know what is the exact reason. This happens in a sudden and he ...

Am I being unreasonable and does this guy deserve another chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Here's the story. Eight months ago, I met a guy online. We were instantly attracted to each other, met up and quickly fell in love. We met during the Christmas holidays, but I was working abroad at the time. I eventually had to go back to work, but ...

I'm scared to leave in fear of living alone in a tiny rented flat for the rest of my life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I'm 35 and in a bit of an emotional mess. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend/partner for 10 years and while she seems happy, I'm not. She is 10 years older than I and this has never been a problem (and suits me as I don't want ...

How can I make my girlfriend fall in live with me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 107 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - out relationship is just three months old and she is scared because she thinks i dont love her and i would dump her when i finished my schooling. i have tryed to make her to understand that i wouldnt leave her, but she just made up her mind on the ...

How do I get past this block and break up with my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - okay. i have been with this guy for a little more then a year now, and i have wanted to break up with him for a while now. i havent liked him for months, but i can't break up with him for some strange reason. now i have asked some of my friends ab...

I love him and want to be with him, but I'm tired of waiting around for him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 108 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I just broke up with my ex bf a couple months ago because of a stupid argument. I wanted to talk things out a couple days later only to find out (from myspace) that he already got back with his ex-girlfriend 2 days after we broke up! We didnt talk ...

I don't know whether to carry on and to hope that I'll feel like I did, or to let him go.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Basically, to try and cut a long story short.. I was in an abusive relationship for 11 months, i got cheated on and there were kids behind my back etc.. And at 16, getting knocked out by your 'loving boyfriend' was pretty horrible :( as i finally ...

Just want him in my life...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - We started seeing each other a year and a half ago. We have never been committed, and we have done a lot of terrible things to each other. I love him. I was finally moving on (because he started being really horrible to me) and seeing another g...

Living through a nightmare with her family! I'm scared for her and for my family!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Until October last year I was living with my fiancé and our 2 little boys aged 3 and 1 but the oldest child has special needs and also he isn't my biological son but I treat him no different, love him as if he was my own and there isn't a day that ...

All I want is to find a girl and develop a relationship like most normal people!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. Just looking for some advice. I am 23 years old and i seem to be having a real problem with finding girls. When i was youner i was often described as a "player" and often messed girls around. I then found a girl who was perfect for me. ...

Puzzled over break up!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Where do i begin. I met this girl on a mates stag do last July in Barcelona. We were both single and not out looking for a relationship. But on that night are eyes met and that was it. Exchanged numbers at end of night with a kiss. Came home and the ...

I just ended an abusive relationship. I'm scared of what my ex might do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi everybody So I finally got the courage to leave my abusive (mix of verbal, physical and sexual) boyfriend this week. I ended up having to do it online because after talking with some friends they suggested doing it in person would be too dang...

What are my rights on a lease contract with my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Im from australia, and i was wondering what are my rights on this.?! Me and my dickhead boyfriend got a rental house together. Both names are on the lease contract but tonight he kicked me out, and said once the 6 months are up hes going to leave an...

I ended our relationship because he is too close to his ex. Did I make the right decision?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend talks of his ex girlfriend's body or what happened between them, He call her and she calls him he says she is only a friend and a close friend I got angry and upset and I said to him I don’t want him to have any contact with her or t...

How can I get my boyfriend to trust me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I dunno what to do, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for about 2 - 2 1/2 years. We split for about 6 months in 2008 and i had no idea that in 2009 we would get back together. When we split after i while i decided to try dating again, and i ...

Why does he keep using delaying tactics to avoid paying what he owes me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My ex and I recently met. We had 2 "unfinished businesses" to finish. One got done but the other not. He owes me some cash. The meeting was 2 months after the break-up, he was all over me..crying and begging. Prior to that, he told me he'll pa...

Should I leave my boyfriend so I can ask another guy out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - this is gonna be long so be prepared.... I have a boyfriend that i have been dating for 5 months now. i know this sounds really bad but i met him cause he was my ex's best friend and he was on the football team with one of my best friends. I lo...

Is it wrong to break up with with ur BF for another guy??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 114 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I recently broke up with my BF for my EX is that wrong to break up with somebody for another guy?? ...

I feel so belittled and want to break up with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I used to have the most incredible relationship. For the first year and a bit, he'd go out of his way to talk to me. He'd sometimes call me the second he woke up. He would tell me I'm beautiful right out of nowhere. But for a ...

How do I prevent his mood swings, that make him break up with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - It's an interesting situation, actually... You see, I'm in a long-distance relationship with someone who's a few years older than me (though that might not be relevant); I guess you could say that he's a... 'mercurial' boyfriend. I read about that ...

Tell me how you broke up with someone, I need some ideas!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Can some people let me know stories of how they broke up with people and how that person responded or how you responded. I know I need to break up with my boyfirend, even though I love him, it's just not right. I've been with him for almost two ...

Does he want to get back with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - okay, so i was in this relationship for 6 months... i was in love with the guy ..when the summer started things started changing becuase he was broke and we coudnt really go out and have fun .. so it was if the relationship was fading but the love ...

Need help with steps to get her back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - hello, I am 21 and have been in a relationship with a girl for a little over a year. We were coming up on our anniversary with the titles as boyfriend and girlfriend. she just just broke up with me last wednesday because she fell out of love wit...

I cheated. How do I prove I'm not that person anymore?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I cheated on my ex bf for about a month in April. We lived together 5 out of the 7 months we were together. Things got really difficult because he was having financial and family problems while i felt we were drifiting away. I realized our fla...

If I impress her will she want more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - Hi, please help im getting sad :) I have worked with a girl for a year now. up until 2 and a half months ago i had a girlfriend. i always liked the girl i worked with but would never dream of cheating. the girl from work dated a guy from work too...

My ex asked my best friend out! Was he trying to make me jelious?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - please help on this one ok i had a bf then we ended it before school ended about a week after that he asked my best friend out and but it only lasted a week but he knew that i had feelings 4 him was he trying to make me jelious?...

Why did I act as such a fool? Have I lost him for good?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hello there, I'd like some advice on how to stop feeling like a complete fool and move on after breaking up with my bf of 9 yrs. I'm sorry if this is a bit long, bit here goes... I met him 9 years ago at Uni, fell in love hard and fast, and 2 ...

Why did she lie to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I was dating a girl for a while and when we got together she told me she was single, now I come to find out that she would go back and forth between me and her ex boyfriend. We would be pissed about it but she tells me she wants to be with me and we ...

Am I right to have pressed charges? And why would he do these things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I am taking my ex to court, for fraud theft and dwoc, I am due next week to appear. I was seeing this guy for 6 months, we had a lovely relationship, (so I thought) basically he stole money from my bank account by stealing my card. And taking...

Finished with girlfriend but now full of regret!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 113 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I recently finished with my girlfriend after a second attempt at the relationship, i was having silly niggling doubts and thought it was moving way to fast so i called it a day, however my friends and family all said to me i was way to hasty and ...

Messy breakup is leaving me out of pocket!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I just got dumped badly from my girl after 11 years. I am 29. We purchased an appartment 2 years ago and the home loan is in both our names. Her parents gave us $60000 towards the place when we bought it. She now wants to sell and her lawyers sent ...

Why do angel boyfriends turn out to be monster exes?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Question to all males: My boyfriend always tells me that he has never met any female who has the kindest, most white heart he has known as me. (I am the only woman he seriously dated) I was always understanding to him, never calls him names, even ...

The thought of my ex with another guy is bringing me to tears!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - this is gonna sound dead weird but ive split from my ex girlfriend 4 weeks ago and normally i get over relationships in no time but with this one we agreed to be good friends and went out today together with a few others - durin this time she harped ...

My BF broke up with me, should I stay and fight or come back later.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me after a year of dating. We had a great relationship until the end when things got tense. I started pressuring him to go to the next level and the tension just snow balled. He says he's convinced in his heart and so...

What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years? I've tried before but I hate making people feel bad. You have no idea what it does to me. But I have to do it, I'm miserable. I do love him, but it's just not the same ...

She broke my heart before, and now she seems to be acting the same way again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - hey, basically, i really like this girl, i have liked her for about a year, and we acted like a relationship. (we went out together kissed had sex blah blah blah) but it wasn't official, and when i asked her about being together she kept saying i...

How slow is too slow?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My ex is giving me every indication that he wants to get back together even talking about why we split up...even to the point of saying people don't agree on everything. However he seems to be taking things very slowly. He is very emotional and ...

Can you make a mistake when it comes to thinking whether they are "the one?"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Have you ever been in a relationship, thought there was no way this person is the one, broke up and later realized they were the one and wanted to go back?...

Should I forget him or give him a second chance if he comes back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I went out with this boy last year for about a week but then I ended it because I didn't want my heart broken. I still had feelings for him...we didn't talk for a couple of months.. then he started going out with this girl and I kind of got ...

Do I just let him go and forget him, or do I keep trying to make this work?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend or try and make it work? I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years (he is 25.) We are mostly happy but have broken up a few times, and have had periods of intense arguing and ...

How do I make him stop playing with my heart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 118 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - my bf and i broke up a few months ago becouse he wasnt giving his all and i was..plus i found text messages to other chicks in his phone....he denyed having sex with them but couldnt deny the fact he was doin wrong...so i broke up with him but ...

I don't know who to breakup with because I love them both!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 117 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - i love 2 boys and they love me too. ive been going out with one of them for three months me and him dont get along, he says he loves me but i dont think so and the other one its been 5 weeks. the first one i went out with his brother cousin and his ...