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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

Breaking up--I want to be single and enjoy life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 51 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok, I'm going to try and keep this short and to the point. I love my girlfriend, but recently we have become distant (we have a long distance relationship, I'm in college, she's in high school). I have been thinking about us for the past week ever ...

I struggle to trust men and I think this has taken its toll on my relationship, how do I stop my boyfriend from leaving me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone ! I need some help. I have ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him a lot and so does he. But in the past i had unsuccessful relationships and due to my past i couldn't trust my boyfriend. I always fought with him and blame ...

Am I being used by my girlfriend and her mother?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Hi everyone I will try and keep this brief. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, we have been going out for about 6 months now and in that time we have never been anywhere without her mother, I stay at her house 7 nights a week and I feel like I am ...

How to tell my girl of 6 years that its just not there anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 51 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok so i have been with a girl for six years and we have had our ups and downs like every one else, but the problem is ive sat down for a long time and asked myself do i really love her? i have feelings for her and i do like seeing her but not being ...

How do I let him down easy and as painlessly as possible?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I recently moved from the town where I'd been living for 5 years. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy ("Bob") for 2 years, and we have been broken up for 1 year. In that time, I started a relationship with another guy ("Steve"). I go...

You don't know what you've got until its gone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - my ex and i had a very complicated relationship. he is in the military and early on in our ldr he was asking me if i would consider moving with him in the future. he sort of pushed the topic on me and ended up pushing me away. i closed up, and soon ...

New and improved boyfriend or more limbo land?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 47 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Okay, so I told my boyfriend of 5 years that I wanted a break. He just didn't seem that into me. We are both 48 and he just wasn't popping the question. He kept saying when the house is finished that he is building, he'll figure the rest of the ...

Maybe if he thinks I'm sick, he'll drop the tough guy act and want to get back together?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - i want my bf back but idk how long or if that will happen and i dont want to wait around for him to realize what he let go and what we had. do u ever really get over ur first true love? our break up ended bad and we havent talked since, iv e...

Is this a sign I should just let him go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend of almost 4 years told me yesterday that he needs a break because he has not slept with any other girl. He said if I don't want to wait than we can break up. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me more than anything else and on ...

Was I right to break up with him over abortion?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I was on here recently discussing an issue I was having with my boyfriend of six months. He doesn't like to spend time with my family and friends, and said he doesn't want to. http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

How can he end things with her without hurting her? I want us to be together.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - 4 yrs ago I was dating a guy named Jay, we had a great relationship and we loved each other very much. We ended up breaking up because I was moving across country for work. We kept in touch and remained friends. During the next few yrs he went ...

Was he even into our relationship or just looking for a way out the whole time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I just found out that my ex boyfriend of 5 years started seeing another girl from his home town a week after he broke up with me. Im so upset, its a girl he knew and was friends with during our relationship. I didnt know her as I live in a differnt ...

She's the love of my life but do I need to quit kidding myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years, in the main its been great, travelled the world together, have lots of fun and hang out all the time. Then out of the blue she said she needed space. We are both at college far away for away from each ...

I don't understand what's happening with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My ex split up with me 6 weeks ago, making me leave our home, in that time he told me he still loved me and wanted to work things out but hed had issues with himself and who he was which is aparently the reason we split. For the first 2 weeks he...

Once unsure of your love, do the feelings ever come back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up one month ago because he was unsure if he loves me anymore. After a few days, he said he came to a decision that he does not love me. Love according to him is a feeling and full acceptance of a person without expecting ...

I feel like my ex is just using me now...how do I get over him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My ex broke up with me after 5 years together about 6 months ago. We had been together since I was 17. We've been sleeping together pretty much since we broke up. In the beginning he would say things like "You're a girl I'm thinking about marrying ...

My boyfriend blows hot and cold on me, do you think he wants out of this relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - How do men act when they really want to end the relationship but they don't have the guts to do it themselves? My b/f of 5 years goes through extreme mood swings. One day he'll be sweet and wonderful, and two days later he's yelling obscenities at ...

It really hurts that he could move on so quick! How can I get over this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi there. i broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago due to him having feelings for this other girl. for the past 3 weeks we have been keeping in touch and he still told me that he loved me. however he has just started going out with this new girl(the ...

He cant get over his ex fiancee and wont let me in

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - okay, so my boyfriend and i broke up 4 days ago. This is a really confusing story - so try to stick with me... I moved back to my home town, after living in the city for 3 months, and when i got home, my bestfriend - Whitney* and i hung out ...

I've messed up my relationship due to my mood swings and now I have lost the best thing that ever happened to me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hey guys, I have messed up a relationship due to my moods and strops i have now lost the best thing to happen to me and i dont know what to do. These are texts that my ex has sent to me today its the first time we have spoke in over a week sinc...

My ex is claiming that I raped her and was violent towards her, what is my best course of action?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok,I had been dating this woman for around 9 months and things seemed fine. I then found she had cheated and lied throughout our time together. I took it really badly and shouted at her. We took a small break and I decided to forgive her. We rec...

Why am I so heartbroken over a girl who lied to me and cheated on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok, I had been going out with a girl for a whole year and just this week we have split for good. I am totally heartbroken. Thing is,during our time together, I got nothing but lied to, talked to like crap, not allowed to have any feelings, cheated ...

Is my relationship falling apart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok first off let me start by saying I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months, we dated a little before but we have been "official" for 3 months. We started going out back in the summer and everything was great! We saw each other every day and ...

How do I tell him I don't love him anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi everyone. my problem is that ive been with a a guy for many years now. i have put up with a lot for the sake of my children and because i was so in love with him. i thought we would eventually get married and stay together forever that he would ...

Was our relationshp sabotaged?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My guy and I dated for a year and were about to commit exclusively to a long-term relationship Without any warning,and perplexed by his sudden change of heart, I knew something went wrong. Just before he abruptly broke off with me, a male co-wo...

I talk to him and fear what might happen if I stop.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 54 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - how can one tell what to do when they're so confused? sometimes, i just want to remain friends with my ex boyfriend, because i can talk about anything with him. sometimes, i start to trip out on how far he can go with things...he never physic...

We just broke up and he's dating my best friend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - So, i need some help. My and my boyfriend of 6 months just broke up and now he's dating my best friend. I have to see him with her everyday since i have no other social connections. We broke up saturday while she was over at his house they started ...

I still love him, should I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, i have a problem, ok.... Me and my ex broke up almost 3 months ago after a year and a half relationship because he ended...to be honest i dont even really know why, something about me being clingy and moody and jelous of his best gir...

Is he feeling trapped and just needs a little time away from me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 53 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago, it got really ugly and really bad. We both did things that really hurt each other and iv asked him repeatedly to try and make things work because i still love him very much and miss him more than ...

Why is she acting like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - i am 21. i had a relationship with the girl of my dreams but due to some silly reasons and some miscommunication we broke up 6 months ago in a hassle. it even got a bit ugly for some time for the both of us. she never used to return my calls and ...

I want to know how my ex feels but I'm afraid to call him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - im still heart broken over the break up of me and my bf. he left for college about 2 or 3 weeks ago and we havent talked in about 2 weeks because my mom blocked his number from my cell phone after me and him got in a fight. i looked on his facebook ...

Worried about my ex, he looks and sounds awful..I want to get back with him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Ok, so my Bf broke up with me at the beginning of this month. I was devasted and shocked, because it was out of nowhere. We were a week away from moving in together in an apartment. Anyway, he would occasionally text me with empty stuff like ...

My b/f ended things but now wants me back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I love my ex bf, Ryan. We broke up 5 days ago and he says it was because of these emails blasting his best friend. He knew I didn't do it but still ended it. I got like six dates planned this week and Ryan wants to talk to me. Thing is, why?...

I'm finding it so hard to let her go, but if she wants to live her life like this should I just accept it and move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - I have been married for 19 years, I am 64 my wife is 48. We have a son aged 15. It has been a happy marriage, we were both in love and have a wonderful life, great house, great cars, health, great holidays. My wife also has a great stable ...

There's going to be heartbreak tonight!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - Hey, I am a 15 year old boy, and I have to chose between two girls in a few hours, both of whom I have feelings for, and neither of whom have an indication of what internal turmoil I am currently going through... The first girl, I had met...

Why does he want me back when he clearly couldnt accept me the way I am?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My ex bf just told me he wants me back, but he is the one who broke up with me in the first place. During out relationship he was always pointing out all the things that he didnt like in me, such as my values and beleiefs and just generally my per...

Should I leave him and start my life over again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Please help. I am so confused. I don't know what to do now. I date with this guy for 2 years now. He is 8 years older then me and he said I am his first girlfriend. He said he use to date before but nobody take him serious. He is kind of plain (ugly ...

How do I keep him from depending on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - help me, i don't know what to do. i was with someone last year who early on seemed like he would easily help turn our budding relationship into something seriously dysfunctional with time. as a result, i tried to not get too involved or buil...

How do you break up when your boyfriend won't let you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - So I have been back and forth on this for months now. I've had this boyfriend that is very clingy, immature and I just don't see it going anywhere anymore. He had a history of lying in the past so I don't trust him anymore either. We've been tog...

I've never had to get over anyone before -- how do I do it?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 34 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - i was having an affair wed been seeing each other for about 7 years, his wife found some texts id sent nothing too bad, and hes managed to convince her that im nobody..im supposed or at least i thought i was the love of his life lol so now im not ...

In love with him or are we just very sexually compatible?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - So I've been going out with this guy for 6 months now and I've decided to end it. Things just aren't working and I feel the relationship isn't really equal. He seems way more into me than I'm into him. The thing is, I'm not in love with him an...

What is this supposed to mean?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 48 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - How can you tell if this is real or something else . Met a girl at work a couple years ago . We talked once in awhile , mostly about nothing . Then one day we were going by each other and she stuck out her pinky to shake pinkies . Well that little ...

Are my resentful thoughts called for and how long should I allow myself to recover?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - My partner left me after 18 years together. Three weeks later I found out that she was with someone else. She wasnt upset in anyway and ended it with a twn minute coversation in a supermarket coffee shop with her friend sat next to her. It really ...

Has he moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Hi Men, Would you like a girl that screwed up and said stupid things like e.g if you dont email me,you think I am stupid I can find out through people etc..I didnt mean it but i was listening to peoples advice and I apologised to him and he said ...

We broke up but still say I love you and still text! what's going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Okay so i had this serious relationship for almost 7 months. The guy and I were each others 'first' and I was his first girlfriend. We discussed a future together and everything. I really love him, and up until yesterday he said the same. Weve been ...

Three years together and now he says he needs time for himself

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for close to three years and have been through a lot together. He has always been there for me. We are different in many ways but in the important stuff we are so good together and very much alike. We each ...

I'm questioning if she loves me the way that I love her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - k...so not sure how to go about this one. i'm 18 and i love my fiance with all i am, and i know she loves me. the problem is, she left me to go to college and i'm questioning if she loves me the same way i love her. we've been together for a little ...

How do you stop all the feelings and get over someone fast?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - so im back. I asked a question about my girlfriend leaving me. I was told that i would get over it and able to stop this numbness that I feel. its been a couple months. I still think about her everyday, I look at my phone every couple hours. just to ...

I love him and want him, so what's holding him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - My ex-boyfriend and I had been together for 4 years. During our relationship, we became best friends. During the last year of our relationship, I experienced lots of stress from trying to finish my senior year of college. I slacked on our ...

I feel inadequate! Advice, insight needed!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - i'm sorry if this question is too superficial...or, is it? i don't want it to, but it keeps eating away at me... i met a guy last year, who was very unstable, but who i actually liked without much effort put into feeling positive towards hi...