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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I ended the affair but how do I get over him?

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22 November 2009 (F) - I was married for 15+ years. Events in my life occured and I had an affair. It went on for a year. He never promised me anything. I knew it had to end because it was tearing me up inside. It wasn't fair to my family but I fell in love with him. ...

How do I remind my ex bf of the good times we had together? Any suggestions for getting him back?

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22 November 2009 (F) - Hi, Here's my problem. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up around 5 months ago now after 1 and a half years together, because things were just getting a little out of control - we'd argue over little things and I hate to admit it, but I was gettin...

Boyfriend is ignoring me and I don't know why

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21 November 2009 (F) - How do you get over a breakup when you love and care for someone? My boyfriend of 9mths indirectly broke up with me, he just has been ignoring me for the past month and i havent done anything wrong: no cheating, etc...he just stopped texting,...

Dating again but fear looking inexperienced and self-concious to the new guy! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

21 November 2009 (F) - Hey guys...I could really use some help please. I was with my ex for 4 years, and we broke up 2 years ago. It was generally a very happy match and I was pretty gutted when it ended. While I've dated a few other guys since we broke up, I've only ev...

How do I leave my marriage without hurting him?

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21 November 2009 (F) - So I have been married going on 2 years and lately i have not felt anything for my husband, I do not want to be sexually active and I take any chance of being away from him take so extra shifts at work what ever it takes. My husband says that he ...

Unable to deal with the breakdown in my relationship, will he come around? What should I do!?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are having problems at the moment . He though he was pulling me down so he dumped me . But we started talking again and we were joking around about old times then i asked him why cant we try again and he said we cant its to late ...

How do I proceed to go out with this guy... and how is my ex going to take it?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Hello, I was just hoping some people would have some advice for me on a subject. So I had the FINAL/6th breakup with my bf about 2 weeks ago. 6 breakups in 6 months because he was so immature, a liar and a control freak. I have been emotiona...

If I take my ex to court..can I get sole custody of my daughter?

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21 November 2009 (F) - my ex and i have been divorced for about 4years. our daughter is now 9. we have split custody but he hardly ever comes to see her, call her and hasnt got her annything for her bday xmas. Or helped with any of her school, personal expences, doctors, ...

My friend sabotaged my relationship, but my boyfriend still doesn't want me back!

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21 November 2009 (F) - About a week ago, me and my ex broke up because we barely talked and hanged out. My best friend, I found out, actually planned this by deleting his calls and texts from me and saying bad shit about me to my ex and vice versa. But I found out a day ...

I told him a very personal thing about me and now all his friends are calling me names. I don't know how to handle it any more. Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

21 November 2009 (F) - Last night i told my boyfriend of 10 months that i had been raped before we got together and that is why i do not wish to have sex before we are married as i am scared and any time i think about sex i see His face. its horrible. Even for my ...

Can anyone help here? How long does it take to move on...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted yesterday

20 November 2009 (F) - I would really like some advice on how long it takes to get over a relationship. I was with my ex for 3 1/2 years and have since been split up for 6 months. We went cold turkey for a few months then got back into contact. We became very close again ...

I sit there every day and think about him (my ex) and cry.

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20 November 2009 (F) - Me and my ex split over 3 months ago and recently even though he has a new partner he has said he isnt actually happy and he thinks he may be going through a breakdown, because we share 2 children together and we were together from a young age for ...

Am I a slut?

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20 November 2009 (F) - Am I a slut? A few people have said it to me and sometimes my friends say it, in a jokey way, but I think they kinda mean it sometimes. I'm 16, I've only ever had 1 proper boyfriend and we went together for about a year. About 10 months in...

What does he mean by 'give it some time'?

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20 November 2009 (F) - What does it mean if a guy says "Give it some time we"ll work stuff out either way"? I am going through rough time very stressed, I caused a fight with my boyfriend and said some mean and hurtful things to him and broke up. I have apologiz...

I've loved her for all these years but she's married

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20 November 2009 (M) - Hi I dated my class sweet heart in high school for 4 years, I went into the Army right after school, I broke up with her the day before school got out, because I was off to the Army the next day. 8 years later I got out, about six months later...

How can I explain this to him so we end on good terms?

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20 November 2009 (F) - I met my ex boyfriend through work although i didn't want to start anything in the beginning because i had just broken up with someone and he lived a very long way away from me. After around 6-9 months we started talking every day on the phone, ...

How do you forget the person you are in love with?

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20 November 2009 (M) - Hi to all. Anybody who can give some effective tips on how to forget a person whom you love so much that you can't live without him. I am waiting for your tips. Thank you....

My husband claims he will change if I go back to him but I don't trust his word!

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20 November 2009 (F) - I left my husband, we were working together on cruises, saved money to build a future together for 5 years, I am from latin america he is eastern european, first of all he choose living in his country, despite i suggested a neutral country, after I ...

He doesn't show any emotions even though we are on a break! Do you think he loves me or is he just hiding his emotions to appear "manly"?

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20 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are on a break. I've been sad, but he doesn't feel any emotions at all. He's broken up with me at least four times, and each time he wasn't coming back. Each time he told me he doesn't love me anymore, but in the end, he come...

Does this mean his still likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Okay, a week ago me and my bf ended it. I did. Today I texted him telling him I wanted to talk. He said sure. After class, he asked how was my week without him. I said good and asked him how his week was. He said um good. Does that mean he like me ...

Secrets to Getting an Ex Back - Find Out What 3 Things Those Who Got an Ex Back Have in Common

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20 November 2009 (F) - Do you want to get your ex back? Are you tired of hurting and feeling lost and alone? I've written this article to try and give you hope and some help in winning back your love. It can be really difficult to think rationally when you are going th...

Should we just be friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I have this problem.I started dating a coworker when we started working together,he was just getting over a divorce.We had a relationship for two years and right before I go for a family visit he was telling me about his plans for us and talking ...

Has anybody taken a break and everything worked out in the end?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted yesterday

19 November 2009 (F) - Ok so I'm 23 my bfs 25 we were dating for 4 months yet we have gone thru so much in so little time... yet he asked for space to make sure what he wants n to see if he's ready to make the next step which is marriage, yea sounds fast but we know each ...

I haven't dated in a year!!! Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - hey, i was in a really close relationship that ended a year ago, but since then i just havent dated anyone. when i go out with friends i sometimes notice when a girl is interested but im so shy around girls i think they assume im not into them and ...

I feel as if I'm hanging on by a thread here...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - I was dating my ex for nine months and i broke it off with her. We kept on talking every day and hanging out like we were still together though this went on for about a year where she wanted to get back with me and have the title and i wasnt sure i ...

How to support someone I care about who is going through a divorce?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - How do I play this? My boyfriend has broken up with me. He is in the process of divorcing his previous partner and has discovered in our relationship that he has not moved forward emotionally as much as he though he had - he keeps worrying that our ...

Do I stay with him even though I am not sure about him?

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19 November 2009 (F) - ok, well I am in a somewhat serious relationship for about 12mos. I really care about him but I dont feel completely happy. and for some reason i'm falling in love with a man that already has a partner also. what is wrong with me? what do i do?...

Ex wants to get back together but she has a boyfriend

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19 November 2009 (M) - My ex told me she wanted to get back together (dated 4 years), but she has a new boyfriend (dated a few months).She told me that breaking up with him would be hard, and she'd do it "very soon"--that was 2 days ago. since then she hasn't called me or ...

How can I move on and be more social?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - hi I went out with a guy for just over a year and in that time found out he was a compulsive liar who lied about his age, (he said he was 23 and he was 27) relationship status (hes married) and having a child. Im glad that I dumped him but Im having ...

Will he ever come back to me?

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19 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I were wonderful, he started to have financial issues in his family and then decided to take some finacial moves to help, one was moving away. About a month or two before he was to leave he told me we couldn't be together, i deserve ...

He wants to get married in the near future but he's not sure if I'm the One!

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19 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating my bf for two years. I am co_dependent /insecure so breaking up has always been hard for me. We have a very loving relationship, except for the marriage issue. I am 28, he is 29. He tells me he wants to get married in the next...

Am I stupid to still care about him?

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19 November 2009 (F) - i was in love with dis guy 2 yrs back,he showed me love he made me forget about all my past we had 5 mnths but it was like many years.everything changed when he want to marry me cuase he wnt kids i suggested we get tested before.he tested positive ...

How many frogs do I have to date in order to find the one?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I have written for advice in the past and still need it. I dated a great guy and we broke up afte six months of dating. He only was divorced one year. I have been single for ten. He went through a lot of bad stuff with his divorce. He never ...

I'm so dependent on my boyfriend and now he only wants to be friends!

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19 November 2009 (?) - My bf asked me to be friends because there were too many problems in our relationship. The thing is we have been living together 1yr. and 1/2... I love him very much, but I am so hurt. Every time I try to work it out with him he wants to, at ...

Is it possible just to give up on love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - It's been 8 months since my ex dumped me. I tried being friends after the break up which was a mistake and just hurt me more. Her and I are over. I kind of want to send her a message saying we can't be friends but that would be pointless. I've ...

Should I stay in this relationship or move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - Should I stay in this relationship or move on? I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend of 3 years and I am deeply in love with. She loves me too but not anywhere near the intensity or passion that I have for her. I accept that, because we all l...

My husband and I are usually miserable. Is it worth fixing?

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18 November 2009 (F) - ive been married for two years and with my husband for almost 6 years all together.. i love him . but all we do is fight. the sex life is terrible and we have good days were we are happy but most of the time we are miserable.. should we call it ...

Do I still like my boyfriend more than a friend?

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18 November 2009 (F) - Hey, I'm in a relationship and I'm thinking of ending it. I've always been an undecided person, so I'm seeking for a bit of advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 months. We're both 16. He really is a great guy; Calm, kin...

Should we work at this for the sake of our daughter?

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18 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiancé for eight years. And we just recently had a baby girl five and a half months ago. Things are rocky and are not the same it used to be. Were no longer happy. We rarely speak,have sex, or even show love with a kiss or a hug. ...

My boyfriend left me, but hasn't turned in the key! Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend moved out without warning. He was a horrible communicator. His name is on the lease and he said that he would give me the key when the lease is up. Why keep the key?...

I broke his heart when I was young and want to show him he can trust me again.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - Okay so this is going to be a little long and little confusing, but I'd really appreciate any type of advice, so please read it(: When I was 15 I met this guy who we'll call Rob. He was 18 at the time and we hung out once but he basically ignore...

Did the father of my baby give me Gardnerella Bacterial Vaginalis?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I want to know what people think are the signs of a cheating man. I am currently pregnant - about the half way mark...and the father of baby has been on and off with me for most of this pregnancy which I finally told him point blank am fed up of the ...

Is it possible to change a man's mind once they've settled on a course?

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18 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I've written before about my boyfriend who is going through a divorce and that I feel as though he has been showing less interest in me as a person recently and been a bit complacent towards me - even though he did make the effort to see me...

I am desperate to meet someone. Why am I having trouble?

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18 November 2009 (F) - Hello, I am a woman in my mid forties. I was in a relationship with a man a while back but, broke up. I still see him since we travel in the same circles. It took me a long time to get over him. I really fell for this guy and it has been...

My wife intends to file for divorce to be with another man!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - I have been married for 13 years to the love of my life. Like so many other men on this site I too became comfortable in our marrige, and did not give my wife the attention she desired. We have four beautiful children together. I found out about ...

How should I act around her when we hang out? I want her to want me back.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, but we still talked a lot and hung out and she still tells me she loves me. We broke up because we were fighting a lot (which was usually because of me being a ass) but since we have broke up I have ...

I've never had a penny off my ex-husband, is it too late to do anything about it?

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18 November 2009 (F) - i left my hub 10 years ago we stopped friends. ive never had a penny of him. is it to late to do anything about it?...

Is it a good idea to quit my job and let him support me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i been dating for 3 years. we been through so many break-ups. he is a very jealous person. he can be controlling also. he is a great person when he wants to be. there's one problem though. i met him at my place of employment. im a ...

How can I show my ex I've changed and that I want her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - I really want to give things with my exgirlfriend another go and i think she does too but im scared she will turn me down. We were together for 9 months a few years ago, and we're were very close. I stupidly dumped her when she became depresse...

I feel depressed, unhappy and ugly.

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18 November 2009 (F) - I feel depressed, unhappy and ugly. My first love and I broke up 3 months ago because he doesn't want to deal with our relationship. He basiclly put me in the depression I'm in and then left me. He also now tells me that I am not attractive to him ...