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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I feel like sometimes I am more of a annoyance than a friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5561 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My ex and I were together for 5 years and split up for 3. We were best friends going into the relationship. Now it's definitely not the same. I've moved on and so has he. Which we both are totally comfortable with. He always says he wants to hang ...

I'm much better looking than she is, why did he dump me for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5561 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hiya I still have contact with my ex bf, we speak everyday and see eachother still, Anyway basically he tells me about all these girls hes been sleeping with and how this one girl he sleept with her 7 times in one nite, then again, the other ni...

Should I assume its never going to happen, or should I wait a little longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5561 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I've had an emontional relationship with a guy at work for nearly a year. We've never been too physical with each other because I was married and he had a gf. We've been good friends for almost tow years. But within the last year things have been ...

I love him but I didn't want to have sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5546 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - im a 22yrs old and i lost my virginity last month to my bf of 11 months. i was saving my self for marriage b\c its part of my religion. my bf pressured me into doing it but i started to cry during it and he stopped. the next day he tried again and i ...

I want to help my ex but I'm not sure how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I was dating my boyfriend for a year before we broke up last week. We have broken up a few times. He has gone through a lot of tough stuff in his life, and he often gets depressed about it and pushes me away when I try to help. I don't know how to ...

Without A Word

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi! Okay, my boyfriend felt disappointed and decided to leave for good because I said that I was moving away. I stayed a while before I decided to move away because I thought he would come back and talk to me. I came to find out that he had a new ...

My ex is playing mindgames with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi, well me and my boyfriend have ended our 14 month relationship at the end of November last year. He emotionally ended with me while I was the one who actually said "I think we shouldnt be together any more" and he said "well if it makes you feel ...

I just want to know if he's okay. Should I get in touch?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I wrote to you guys a while back regarding me and my patner who cheated on me for the whole 10 months we were together with his wife who he never left. I broke it off with him a month and half ago, I could no longer trust him, I felt sick every ...

Do I have any chance of reuiniting with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5558 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I appreciate all the advice I can get and thank you all ahead of time fort reading and your thoughts. So me and the guy ill call him D had been together for just over three hours and it was amazing, we were so happy and had begun to seriously sta...

All my life, I have tried to show everyone that my family didn't beat me, and now I don't know how to deal with my problems.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5561 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have had a problem for quite some time. I need some help with it. It started with my grandmother, she was very controlling, and manipulative, just generally a sick person. My dad was the first, and he was the favorite. There were four kids a...

He says I don't need to know anything about his "female" friends!?!?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5562 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have been dealing with this guy for 10 years with 1 year of us broken up. We got back together 2 years ago. I'm not the type of person to give up on a relationship. Today I found that my guy has signed up for single web sites, which i found ou...

I really miss him but I want to be close to him as we were.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5562 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My ex keeps contacting me via email, we only split 2 weeks ago, or should I say 1 week ago, coz he kept coming round crying and saying he loves me and kissing me. He even said he didn't wanna know me for the rest of his life. Now he wants to be f...

My ex says he wants to be with me but he can't..how am I supposed to get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Hey everyone I'm here for a little bit of help, me and my boyfriend of 4 years have broken up. He hurt me really bad and i just dont know what i want to do anymore. We are going to be attending College together everyday for the next year and t...

Will having sex make me feel any better?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - i recently went through a pretty rough breakup with a girl i had been dating for nearly 3 years (she was my first)... and every once in a while it still hits me pretty hard... i have been getting involved with someone in a "friends with be...

Should I go back out with my ex or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of half a year about 3 months ago for the forth time. The first time I broke up with him was the worst night of my life and consisted of me at a party standing in the middle of a cirle of my boyfriend's close friends ...

Why did my boyfriend lie about the mystery girl he was texting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Why did he lie about something like that? I have a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been on a break since november. Until around christmas, we had very little contact. For about a month, he didn't answer my calls or text messages, etc. B...

I just want him back soo much and just need some help on how to do this.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, my boyfriend has just slpit up with me of 3 years for someone else. We were engaged as well, now he has a new girlfirend, he said he just wants to stay friends and he does not have feelings for me no more. I just want him back soo much and just ...

I messed up! What can I do to get my girlfriend's trust back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I tried X the drug, well her mom hates me and the step dad also. My girlfriend's mom took all her stuff away for me to contact her with we have been sneaking around to see each other, she's 17 and I'm 19. What can I do to get her ...

Will their relationship last?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 7 years has split up with me and is seeing a 16 year old girl, he is 23 will their relationship last?...

I think I like him in 'thataway' and I know he likes me. I'd love to take the change, but I'm literally terrified.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm not really sure where to start.. It's been a long time since I've had to post anything on this site.. I was going out with a guy up until about 18 months ago. We broke up because he was controlling, critical, emotionally abusive, a habitual ...

Break my heart over and over...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hello, I love her. But she does not love me. I think she just liked me as a friend. She broke up with her boyfriend a time ago. But still loves him. We've seen eachother from time to time and I thought she liked me. She flirted, she was smilling ...

How can I lift his spirits? Is time the only healer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years. This is the second time it has happened (the first time, we had one year apart before giving it another go), however this time we are living together. I feel so terrible, as there is nothing ...

I just can't stop thinking about my ex....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - i had a breakup with my ex about four months back.i have moved on into a rebound relationship after that. my new gf really cares about me. i never had a very comforting relationship with my ex, but we shared some really wonderful time together. my ...

How can he change so quickly???? I KNOW he's hurting here too...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am a 30 year single mum of 4, over 3 years ago I split with a violent ex. I met a fantastic man last year, he was a few years younger and didn't have children of his own. We met online and we chatted for 8 weeks, sometimes we were up all night. He ...

He went out with my b/f and it still hurts

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend went out with my best friend after we had broken up for like a week and i only found out two months later. I always thought there was something between them because during our relationship we had so many trust issues and problems ...

I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Well, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year with another guy. Now I feel like I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships... do you have any advice as to how to break it off with him? I know there is no ...

Was he trying to change me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5540 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had been having problems in our relationship for a while about his ex girlfriend who looks exactly like me, in which they hadn't been together in 15 years. Our relationship was absolutely amazing until we went to a party and his ...

Is my ex fiance playing games with me I'm so confused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My fiance in the military of almost 2 years broke up with me out of the blue but after the break up I didn't contact him for a month, then I initiated the first contact he replied to my outmost belief quickly when we talk he talks about the future ...

Did I have the right to be insecure in our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm trying to gain some insight on things.. I wish my ex would come back but I have questions the situations that happened over the course of the 3 years I was with him. I wanted to reveal some aspects that made me feel insecure which led to a c...

How do I have my fun with other guys and make sure he waits?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I went out with this one guy (let's call him X) for two years. Broke up for the second and final time almost two months ago. First time is a bit controversial, so we won't get into that. Anyway, the first month getting over him was crap...I was ...

I feel like I am the other woman even though he was with me..she's still in the picture

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I am so deprest, this year has been a very hard year for me. My fiancee and I broke up like 10 million times last year because he cheatted on me. I called of the engament but I woul always find my self accepting him back. This year he cheated on me ...

How to deal with a breakup without "replacing" that person

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5564 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - How do you get over someone who kinda started to mean a lot to you if you were in a relationship when you met them? Then, you decide to end it because you realize it's not healthy or sane to care for someone when you're already spoken for. But ...

I want to break up with him, but it hurts so bad!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5564 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together over a year. he is pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to me except he hurts me so much. I find myself crying over him ATLEAST once a week. However, i always find it in myself to forgive and ...

I can't believe him, did he ever care about me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me. The sad thing is I had a feeling he was cheating on me. I kept asking him did he still want to be in the relationship and he would always say yes I am in love with you. I would ask is there someone ...

How do I get over my ex, of seven years ago?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Help!! It's been seven years and I cannot get over my ex. I don't know what's wrong with me but I still think about him everyday. We are not in touch but I have a fairly good idea of where he is now. I've read loads of "How to get over your ex" ...

He left me, went back to his wife, now left his wife again and wants me back

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5545 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I met my boyfriend shortly after he had split up from his wife we had a wonderful relationship for a few months then i couldn't believe it when he sat me down and told me he was going back to his wife he had been feeling really low recently and ...

I didn't think I deserved him so I let him go but now I know I want him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Here's the story..... For the last 2.5 years I've been having troubled relationships. I've dated 3 guys 2 of which had serious mental and relationship problems worse than me! The guy I dated in between the 2 was wonderful! Everything a gir...

Is there hope for us? He wants to have more children and get remarried....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 6 years. We have 1 son. I found out on his phone he had been cheating while working out of town. I divorced him but, we never legally separated. He's here. I am trying to deal with the pain. It's been ...

I don't understand why my ex still wants to be friends.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 2 months, broke up nearly six months ago now, but have remained friends since. His reasons for the breakup were that he wanted to concentrate on himself (his family, studies etc). For many of the...

Help needed... I'm so screwed up at the moment I feel exhausted.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Ok me and my ex split in october just gone, he dumped me to go back with the mother of his daughter, anyway that didn't work out, and we started sleeping together like once a week, as like fuck buddies. We still remain friends but, he's now ...

It's really over and now it's hurting so much.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend broke up. I'm so hurt. I really fell in love with him. I know I'm young and I never thought I could fall in love this young and share my feelings so strongly with another person but this boy was amazing. We were so close and ...

I broke up with my g/f but its killing me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I broke up with my girlfriend and it is killing me but i dont let it show. I didnt want to but i felt like god told me to, and i did. I have suspicions on her cheating on me but ill never know, im hurt by all this, i am sure its for the best. She ...

Is my paranoia sabotaging my relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5544 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Right well let me just start with something about myself. I have cripplingly low confidence. Seriously, it is abnormally bad. I am so harsh on myself that it's crazy. I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I am on antidepressants to ...

My ex is acting strangely towards me and I think we need to talk. What should I say?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - After breaking up three weeks ago, I'm already sick of being the "ex". Me and my ex are at university together, and since we broke up things are completely different. I assumed things would change, but I can't understand why it seems to have ch...

I want to let go so we can be friends in the long run

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - ok so my ex (21) and I (22) were trying to do the friend thing. it was difficult because the relationship was brought up frequently (on my part more so). he would keep on telling me how much he loves me, misses me, and wishes he could be with me and ...

Why is 1st love so hard to get over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Why is it always so hard (so fucking hard) to get over my first love?! It’s killing me inside really. Well, not really, but it’s almost equivalent to something eating me from the inside. Is it harder to get over someone you’ve lost your virgin...

Why is he behaving like this? Does he still care?

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26 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend of 1year and 2months, broke up nearly six months ago now, but have remained friends since. His reasons for the breakup were that he wanted to concentrate on himself(his family, studies etc). For many of the...

Does he really only want to be friends or does he just want time to do his own thing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend broke up nearly six months ago now, but have remained friends since. His reasons for the breakup were that he wanted to concentrate on himself(his family, studies etc). For many of these months i was const...

I don't know if he ever really loved me which sucks.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Hi so there is so much going on in my life know first of all i had a boyfriend and he was my first one but we live together and I told my ex best friend and she told him and he denyed it and broke up with me this has happened 3 times and he has ...

What does she want? Are we FWB? Are we dating again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, My girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago, but two days ago she texted me how much she misses me and stuff, then she came over at my place. We cuddled and just talked in bed, no sexual stuff. We didnt talk about us getting back tog...