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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I think he lied to me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - okay so im 15. my boyfriend of 3 mo nths told me he loved me atleast 100 times. im begining to think that was a lie. see we have a long distance thing going on and ive been seeing him as much as i can lately but i guess that wasnt enough. i know i l ...

Am I wasting my time or should I let it ride?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5434 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - I need someone's opinion who knows what's going on .... I am 20 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, Shane. He's 19. I do love him sincerely and care enough about him to spend the rest of my life with him, as naive as that ma...

Should I just completely give up on him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - My ex broke up with me. I apologized to him and was truthful to him. He made it clear that he didin't want me. there were times when he gave me mixed signals and I responed and then the next time I talk to him he would be negative again. I loved him ...

How can I move on from them?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Well...my ex broke up with me a day after we did stuff, and went really far. It's been 2 weeks and I was crying about him because I still love him, and my best friend was like it's okay, he's a jerk , he's not worth it and everything. Then I find ...

Engaged, but I don't want to marry him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i got engaged ...but now i dont want to marry him ..he is not the kind of husband i thought of...i want to marry my love means my boyfriend ...i cant tell my family about this nor my fiancee ...pls help me what should i can do now?...

Help me win her back!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Okay..... Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 1 month love each other very much. But i recently made a huge mistake. At my graduation they was a group of people who dont like my girlfriend. And i hung out with my girlfriend the entire night, but i ...

My husband and I separated, having an affiar, feelings growing, but he also has a long distance girlfriend, am I asking for trouble?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am recently separated from my husband of 4 years. I dont feel anything for him anymore because he was controling and abusive and did alot of things behind my back that hurt. A couple weeks ago I started a fling with a coworker who I've always ...

Affair with married co-worker, ended it, he will not let me go, obsessive to a fault, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I have broken off an emotional affair with this guy that we had a relationship two years. i work with him and its hard but i have learned that your can cure it but you can manage the pain of a broken heart. Now he is hysterical. he always wants to ...

Why do guys want to get back with a girl that they broke up with?

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30 May 2009 (F) - What reasons do guys have for wanting to get back with a girl they broke up with? I was with my bf for 8 yrs, then he left me, and I found out he'd been advertising on adult dating sites, sending explicit pics of himself to strangers and receiving ...

Does he love her more than me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I don't know if i should stay with my husband after his affair last summer. I still cannot get over it. He says he loves me and there is noone else for him. He has been really nice to me recently. However i live in eternel pain, as i honestly ...

Should I pretend that I am only interested in friendship with her and see what happens?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Where to start I wonder? I am a 39 year old male who was dating a wonderful 33 year old woman for around 5 months last year. We had so much in common and spent a lot of time together. We travelled a lot and were making plans to move in before ...

Was moving an excuse to break up?

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30 May 2009 (?) - My boyfriend of more than a year recently broke up with me [via phone] because he said he was permanently leaving town immediately to start a new job. He said he was absolutely devastated and sorry he had to do this, he was sobbing and kept...

Broke up my first serious relationship. Talk to him or distract myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years yesterday. We're both 25 years old. This is my first serious relationship and as such my first heartbreak. The reason of our breakup is because he lied to me again and again and I couldn't find it in my ...

I feel abandoned for wanting a serious relationship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - So tonight my boyfriend and I broke up, but I'm confused about the whole situation. Over the whole of our relationship he's sort of imposed his ideas (not living together / not wanting children / not wanting to plan for the future etc) and I pretty ...

I have just broken up with my married boyfriend but I don't know if I've done the right thing...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Last year i met this guy and i didnt know he was engaged,we were seeing each other almost every night in my place,we were getting on with each other so well and after 5-6 weeks his fiance called me and told me that they are engaged but i didnt tell ...

How can I prove that I want to be with him and not my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I got into an agruement just because I told him I still love my ex. We have been together for 3 months, but when I told him he broke up with me. Just 2 months ago he kissed a girl behind my back and he claimed she was a friend and I ...

Together since we were teenagers, our relationship has deteriorated with time!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Ok so I will be as breif as possible. I am 24 and my Special other is 28. We have been together since I was 16 and lived together since I was 17. We were a great couple up until about 3 years ago. Something just changed. Neither of us are interested ...

I'm not happy with his past and thinking of leaving

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Do i stay with my boyfriend or leave. my partner is 43 and im 24 and we have just had our first baby together. he has been married before and has 2 children with his ex wife and he also has another child with another women. This women keeps comi...

How to break-up without breaking a good man's heart

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - who to choose? how to break up without breakign a good man's heart? 5 months ago in Munich I met a silly, skinny Swiss boy. ok, he's 24 and I'm 22, but still... we laughed, got drunk, kissed, snowball fought, poked, and danced our way into l...

How can I stop this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - I have an ex from over 16 months ago, who I found was seeing someone else from where we work. I walked away no trouble very hurt, wishing her well since that time I have tried to achieve a friendship or normality and she has simply been very...

I love her, but she's completely inconsistent

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Hey everyone well how to start im 17.. my ex is 18.. we went out for about 1 year .. i love her to death, i would do anything for her.. she broke up with me about 1 month ago, the day she broke up with me she went to some party,got drunk,high, ended ...

She has hurt me 3 times, I still love her, friends say don't, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I dated this girl for 4 years and we broke up in January. I was going to propose to her and I still love her. We started talking again in March and then she suddenly stopped. Well she got in touch with me just recently and acts like she wants to get ...

He wants space and I want him back! Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - hi...my boyfriend left me saying tat he needed space...and i still love him and i want to be with him..he says he also wants to be with me but at the same time he does not want to be with me..please tell me how should i get him back..!! i really ...

Do I dump my current bf and go for this other great guy? Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I am a thirteen year old girl, in a relationship with a great guy and i really like him. But yesterday, one of my best friends told me that the boy i have had a crush on since i first met him likes me. This boy is so much like me, we have so m...

He only wants me back now I'm dating other people!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My ex bf broke up with me, but now he wants me back. He showed no interest in me for so long during our relationship and kept pushing me away etc, no matter how hard I tried to be a good gf to him. Then he broke it off and didnt speak to me again. ...

I'm confused by the mixed signals!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - So, last night, my ex that I was with for 5 years came over to my house. He said he was coming over to help me forget at least for a little while about a friends death. He came over at around 10:00pm and left at around 2:00am. He did try to have sex ...

What do you do if you can't get over someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - what do you do if you can't get over someone? I'm 14 (almost 15)and there's a boy i like who i kind of made hints that i liked him and i'm like 95% sure that he KNOWS I like him. I've waited for some kind of reply but nothing ever happened...

What should I say when I talk to him to get him to stay with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - So my bf wants a break because he misses what he had when he was single. He also says i pushed him into saying "i love you" (but he eneded up saying it after i let it go) When i asked, he said he still has romantic feelings for me, but he...

Follow my head? Or follow my heart?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5420 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - myself and partner have recently split up due to his paranoia,behaviour and attitude towards me,i went out saturday night and got talking to this guy he was very nice a real gentleman even sang to me which suprised me i was really flattered.he gave ...

Should I tell her I had sex with others while we were apart?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - If you lied to your significant other about what you did sexually during a brakeup period (not just a temporary split) , should the other person know everything? I wasnt fuly truthful to my g/f , she knows I messed around , but not that i had sex. ...

Girl, You Can Get Over Him: 4 Tips

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5432 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - The story is as common as air - boy meets girl, boy dates girl, girl falls for boy. Soon girl discovers boy only wants one thing. Girl gets wise and rejects boy. Boy begs girl to take him back – he claims he will change. Foolishly, girl gives boy ...

Is this enough proof to get him in trouble?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5403 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - my friend is 17. she is dating a 22 year old. this girl is my friend and this is my brother she's dating. recently he broke up with her and shes been so unhappy. i found out that her friends want to call the cops on him because of their age...

I think my "soft" approach has backfired and she's gone back to her ex...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - well i have been "dating" this amazing lady since March - we are both in out late 30s. Everything has been perfect. Our emails and texts have been out of this world and we both agreed that we can't get over how much we click. Recently we started ...

How do I make him see that I want to be free and happy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Please Help. I have been in a relationship for a year nearly, it has been very good, but we have our ups and downs. Due to personal problems my BF closed off for a while. I went away for a week and I was able to think about us. I decided I couldn't...

Ex bf says he will change his behaviour, is it possible?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My ex whom I was with for 2.5yrs is begging me for 1 more chance. He was emotional abusive but was always saying things as "jokes" n I told him this is unacceptable but he says he didnt realize it made me this upset til now. He's 26 but is very ...

Overwhelming sexual chemistry...should I do something about it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Is it strange to get in contact with someone you met at work a few months ago and found out they were interested in you but couldn't reciprocate because i was in a relationship at the time? A girl was doing some surveying at my company a couple...

My life is in ruins, how could another human being do this to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - i had been happily married for 12 years to a beautiful woman who i loved dearly, something i always thought was mutual. we had about 5 years together before we both decided to start a family, and were overjoyed when our first child was born in ...

I don't trust my own judgement anymore.....should I leave him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Don't know what to do, I have been married for 17 yrs. 4 yrs ago my son nearly passed away with head injury he had lots of surgery has recovered thankfully.That same year my husband started a new job and started acting wierd not being a very goo...

Is it wrong for me to be texting other guys when my ex is still in the picture?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My ex want me back but until he proves to me he changed im not sure. Deep down he prob wont and i kind of no this. Anyway do u think it wrong 4 me to be texting and possible other men that could possibly give me what i want. I dont know why i feel ...

We were so good together but he cant cut off ties with his ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I thought we could make this into a great relationship but hes turned around and said he doesnt know if he can cut ties off with his ex who he has kids with, saying i might get hurt in the long run as hes not sure how he feels about her, im so upset ...

Should I forgive him, do I even have the right to be mad at him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Ok so my bf and I were together for 4 years, and he was always a great bf. We were in long distance relationship and eventually things became difficult and over the last year have been on and off. We stayed in touch, and when he came back to ...

Fell out of love with my wife, want to move on with a new love

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4264 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Ive been married for 6 years with a 3 year old. I feel that Im not in love with my wife anymore, although she is a great mother and wife. Shes a stay at home mom. We just went in different directions. Life goals, humor, hobbies, etc. Im a ...

How do I win back my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Hi. after over a year of dating and talks of marriage, my boyfriend breaks up with me. We had had a huge argument that we never seemed to get over and things fell apart from there. Well, in the first few weeks I tried to win him back but he was ...

I feel as if he was "the one". How can I get him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - So, I am a little lost. My ex boyfriend and I, who were together for 5 years. 3 months ago we broke up. I need advice on what to do. He tells me constantly that he doesn't want me back at all. That he is not interested in being back with me. But he ...

Help with better self esteem without therapy!?!?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Please do NOT judge me. Okay, so I know I have an eating disorder- not like anorexia- but I won't eat in front of anyone (including my parents) except my sister. I mainly eat infront of her because she was anorexic and I'll do anything to keep her ...

He SEEMED like a genuine, caring guy, but I'm starting to feel that his words don't match his actions.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I feel a little lost. My (ex-)boyfriend of two years recently broke up with me several months ago. During our relationship he cheated on me and disrespected me in many ways. I have been very down, but I have been going out with friends and trying ...

Heart broken in two...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I need help I cant decide between two guys. I was dating this guy that I was totally in love with but we had to break up because he was going to rehab we had been going out for a year and i really thought he was the one my family wasnt too fond o...

We've grown apart, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I am dating this guy that i like alot we have been on an off for the past five months now an i think that has really put a toll on me it has drove me crazy. When we first started dating we did everything went to the movies played pool hung out at ...

I have never loved my husband, and although he tries really hard, I never will. Should I divorce him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2267 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Hi. i'm 30 years old. I've been with my husband since I was 20. When I met him I was fresh out of a relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything new. However I met him and he was different than anyone I had ever dated..sweet, ...

Hurt, my husband has left. Was it the porn or his family?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I feel so hurt because my husband stopped loving me. And what hurts the most is that we have children together. I told him it was his porn or us meaning his family. And I want to know was I wrong to make him decide porn or us?he is using me and I ...