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Can a person 20 or 30 years older fancy someone who is 16-20 years old?

Q.   Hey guys, I have one question for you. Do you think it's possible that somebody who is much older than you (20 or 30 years) fancys a girl who is 16-20 years old? Especially if that somebody is in position of power (like for example boss, teacher,...

A.   7 November 2008: It's entirely possible. No laws on attraction. ... (read in full...)

I'm really jealous, and can't help but envy her when I see them together holding hands.

Q.   I moved to a new school around 8 weeks ago or so for sixth form. There's a boy in my English jt. class. He's lovely, charasmatic and such a nice guy! I haven't known him long, and he confided in me some troubles his family are going through - which, ...

A.   7 November 2008: I can understand that your reccomendations are to distance myself from him; but it's hard when you're in lots of the same classes... I was in the libary studying today, and I looked up and saw him with her. And in my mind, I said "YAY, ****'s ... (read in full...)

I'm scared !

Q.   hi. me and my boyfriend had sex. we got really carried away and just pulled our pants down and he stuck his penis in me. he didn't put a condom on cuz it was just in the moment. so we had sex and i guess he pulled out before he cummed and it got all ...

A.   5 November 2008: When smoking has affected a man's sperm count - he's been smoking for a long time and lots of it! We're talking later 30's at the earliest for a bad smoker. Not in your case. Get tested - it is the only way.... (read in full...)

I'm scared !

Q.   hi. me and my boyfriend had sex. we got really carried away and just pulled our pants down and he stuck his penis in me. he didn't put a condom on cuz it was just in the moment. so we had sex and i guess he pulled out before he cummed and it got all ...

A.   2 November 2008: To not tell a doctor or parents means your limiting yourself to your only options. The pull out method isn't a risk free contraception you know - there is such thing as pre-cum, which will have settled inside you. So you can't be sure. Go buy a ... (read in full...)

I don't want sex

Q.   me and my fiance and had a baby 1 year ago and since then i havent wanted to have sex or do anything sexual at all! i can count the amount of times we have slept together on 1 hand! my partner was understanding at first but now i can see hes star...

A.   31 October 2008: If you're comfortable with not having sex, then it isn't a bad thing. But you need to tell your husband that it is exactly that - that you just don't want it and don't find it at all necessary. It is then his choice to make what happens within the ... (read in full...)

HE CHOKED ME..THEN BLAMED ME FOR BLACKING OUT

Q.   MY BOYFRIEND AND I WERE FIGHTING (VERBALLY) THEN IT GOT REALLY HEATED! HE PUT HIS HAND AROUND MY NECK THE NEXT THING I REMEMBER WAS REALIZING I WAS ON THE FLOOR! WITH NO MEMORY OF FALLING, HOW I GOT THERE, OR ANYTHING..... BUT WHAT MAKES THIS ...

A.   29 October 2008: If you have no recollection - then I say OF COURSE you blacked out. If your boyfriend has the guts to strangle you in the first place, he can lie about it too. Get rid.... (read in full...)

Does My Teacher Fancy Me Back?!

Q.   I've really fancied my teacher for just over a year now, and shes pretty much got this sussed. I got moved to the front of her class, realllyyyy close to her desk. She always singled me out, never got me in trouble and made sexual innuendos ...

A.   28 October 2008: I think you should avoid her to be honest. If indeed what you're saying is what she intends it to be, she's almost breaking the law. It's not you who should have to be the responsible one, but if you 'care' about her, then take precautions as to not ... (read in full...)

Daughter kicked out!

Q.   My husband kicked out our 17 year old daughter for dating a 25 year for the last 6 months. This was his decision. I have 4 other kids, he says it is her or him, either he will leave or she can come back. What should I do? ...

A.   28 October 2008: I don't believe it was the smartest thing to do when your husband kicked out your daughter. Typical teenagers do tend to do the opposite of what they're told; ie. her older boyfriend will probably be supporting her at his house rather than your own ... (read in full...)

Do women find penises attractive?

Q.   Do women find penises attractive? As a guy I know I'd get easily turned on by thinking of vaginas and boobs, but do women think the same way about a man's penis?...

A.   27 October 2008: I agree that the first time I saw one I was taken back more so by curiosity than much else. I still don't really find them 'attractive' - it's odd to know all the women so far DO. If i see them on tv i have the urge to laugh because they look funny ... (read in full...)

How do you know that you're bi-sexual?

Q.   How do you know that you are bisexual?...

A.   26 October 2008: I suppose you just 'know.' There's no dividing line. You find both genders attracive in a sexual manner.... (read in full...)

What is the best form of contraceptive?

Q.   What is the best form of contraceptive?...

A.   26 October 2008: A male condom. 99.98% effective if used properly.... (read in full...)

Did I do something wrong during sex?

Q.   Sometimes when my boyfriend and I have sex, I'll get on top. But a few times when I was on top, out of nowhere, he said "owe". I immediately got off. Then he asks what is wrong and I don't answer him because I'm confused. Then he says that he thinks ...

A.   26 October 2008: Do you mean he says 'owe' in a painful way? As if you're hurting him?... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin.

Q.   Okay this is really embarassing. I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin. I'm really nervous about having sex with him because I want him to enjoy himself. I want him to love me even more than he does now, and he really REALLY ...

A.   26 October 2008: Trust that the first time never really goes to plan. And it'll hurt mate! 99% guarantee lol.... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin.

Q.   Okay this is really embarassing. I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin. I'm really nervous about having sex with him because I want him to enjoy himself. I want him to love me even more than he does now, and he really REALLY ...

A.   26 October 2008: I agree with rcn. You're focussing too much on his experience, and how you want to be better than anyone he's had so far by making him 'come big time.' As for him loving you more than he does now, can love be measured like that? If he loves you alot ... (read in full...)

We were experimenting... could she be pregnant?

Q.   Hi, me and by girlfriend were experimenting the other day. She was wearing shorts and her pants and I had my penis our rubbing against her (on top of her shorts). I didn't cum, and there was hardly any pre-ejaculation cum (was practically dry). ...

A.   18 October 2008: No, HIGHLY unlikely if not impossible. If you don't know about what can get girls pregnant, DON'T do these things altogether.... (read in full...)

Why hasn't he told everyone my real age?

Q.   I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16. His mother's side of the family know I am 14 but his dad's side think I am 15. The two families don't talk. He has recently started a new job, and goes to collage once a week. He has told all of his new friends that I ...

A.   18 October 2008: I don't think he's ashamed. Just feels a little odd about the age gap, or more so what his friends will think about it. Don't be scared about confronting him, it's your right so he shouldn't get cross.... (read in full...)

He said he loved me, but each of us found someone else so why am I sad that he kisses another girl?

Q.   I have this friend...lets call him R.F he said he loves me, i say it back....he leaves for the weekend, comes back and tells me he found some one else. Even though im with some one...after he tells me he kissed this other girl... and i cried about ...

A.   16 October 2008: I don't think it bothers you really. You can't have your cake and eat it too, if you know what I mean? You're only young - things will be fine.... (read in full...)

Should I tell him how I feel, based on this information?

Q.   There's a guy I work with, we flirt alto, and he calls me every night to see how I am and stuff, we've been one date, and it was great and were planning on a 2nd date this weekend. He says he wants me to come shopping with him then he's going ...

A.   9 October 2008: So far, the relationship between you two just seems like your normal, flirty, butterflies-in-the-stomach experience! You haven't been 'together' long, so if you feel like you LOVE him - I personally wouldn't confess that undying feeling just yet. ... (read in full...)

Should I give up my studies to become a model?

Q.   Hey, I am 19 years old. Do you think giving up my studies and doing modelling is a good option? I really am interested in acting and modelling but I am doing medicine, pursuing to be a doctor. I don't know if its worthwhile. Advise please!...

A.   9 October 2008: Modelling isn't a stable enough career for you to give up the dream of being a DOCTOR - i mean, WOW?!? That's just amazing if you have the brains and skill to go that far. GO YOU! I suggest finishing whatever education you're in, get the ... (read in full...)

I have just found my daughters diary while sorting out her clothes for washing.

Q.   I have just found my daughters diary while sorting out her clothes for washing. I know I should not have done but I read the last few pages that she had wrote on and I am worried she is going to do something stupid. The last entry says that ...

A.   9 October 2008: I'm a little older than your daughter; 16 precisely. I too have a diary. If it was my mother who read mine, i'd be VERY embarassed and would discontinue the TRUST me and my mother share. You should't've read your daughter's diary. No matter how ... (read in full...)

Could he tell I was a virgin?

Q.   I was too ashamed to tell this guy I was a virgin and we ended up in bed, he fingered me (which hurt!) then put on a condom and we went to have sex. Thing is he kept losing his erection (from coming quite a lot before and being on medication for a ...

A.   5 October 2008: Sometimes I wonder why girls are ashamed to say they're a virgin. There's zero things wrong with it, and it's just worry over nothing.... (read in full...)

Why does it always rain on me?

Q.   I don't know if im enjoying life to much but im doing the best i can. Im a really nice person, so i get told. If that's the case i don't understand why i get the treatment i do off others. I just started college this month, made some nice ...

A.   30 September 2008: Lovely, i don't think you're the problem. You have opinions and you stand your grounf when you express them. You'll fit in soon, they just need to get to know you and understand how you work. The girl who said you called her stupid is just a bit ... (read in full...)

Are there side effects from masturbating 5/6 times a week?

Q.   i mastrobate 5 to 6 times in a week and i really wanna know if it will affect my health, or it is natural? or is there any side effects of that...sometimes i licked up some semen? so plz tell me that if its ok or shud i reduce it to 2 to 3 time...

A.   28 September 2008: It's perfectly find, and i'd save the average for a guy of your age.... (read in full...)

Why are fine-looking women so worried about their appearance? Do women have some kind of competition or acceptance problems with each other?

Q.   Alright, I just wanted to express my opinion. From a male perspective, and not that of a guy who looks around hungrily for sex. Women seem really image conscious, a little too much I'd say. I mean it's surprising how much women actual...

A.   28 September 2008: I don't think it's competition with each other at all. If you were one of us, you'd know that we regularly stick together on these issues. Ie. we'll talk about together how beautiful this woman is, or that woman is and how we'd much rather have her ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend fingered me & menstrual stuff came out... WHY?

Q.   My boyfriend fingered me the other day and menstrual fluid came out.. Only the like start stuff of it but it was definitely that! But a few hours later it stopped coming out so it didn't trigger my WHOLE period.. Just like a bit of it. I'm ...

A.   28 September 2008: If you haven't bled before, then I strongly believe that THIS TIME he did break your hymen. It's not something to worry about.... (read in full...)

I turned down my coworker as I am married and love my husband, but why then can't I stop thinking about my coworker?

Q.   Hello. Just a quick post before my husband catches me using his computer! There's this guy at work who had the cheek to ask me out a couple of months' ago. I turned him down *of course* - but have not been able to get him off my mind since. In fact ...

A.   28 September 2008: It might just be the flattery of being wanted, even though you're married. It's quite an achievment. You DO love your husband though, and wouldn't change him for anyone. Don't be misguided in thinking you like this co worker.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend fingered me & menstrual stuff came out... WHY?

Q.   My boyfriend fingered me the other day and menstrual fluid came out.. Only the like start stuff of it but it was definitely that! But a few hours later it stopped coming out so it didn't trigger my WHOLE period.. Just like a bit of it. I'm ...

A.   28 September 2008: Have you bled like this before when he's done it to you?... (read in full...)

My psychologist wants me to go out on a date, as I never have had that experience before. The problem is that I have a boyfriend who lives in another state....

Q.   When I went to my pshycologist today, she told me that I need to go on a date with someone. She doesn't care if he becomes my boyfriend, she just thinks that the experience of going on a date with someone would help me, because I've never had that ...

A.   28 September 2008: Does your psychologist know you already have a boyfriend? If you're willing to do this, your boyfriend will understand your psychological issues and allow you to go out on a date knowing it is just for the experience and nothing more. No doubt he... (read in full...)

I want to know if I had sex while I was drunk last night!

Q.   Me and my friend drinked at her house with 2 guys we know, i got so drunk that i don't remember what i did. My friend told me that me and the 1 guy went 2 the room, came back a bit later, how do i know what happened, what feeling must i have on my ...

A.   28 September 2008: The only possible way to find out whether or not you had sex, is to ask the guy you did it with. That is, if you trust him enough to tell you the truth and even, was he sober enough to remember? Don't get as drunk the next time.... (read in full...)

Am I too young for sex?

Q.   hi im 13 and want to lose my virginty.im i too young? what will i feel like after the sex? and worst of all i want to do it with my cousin whos the same age as me. i've like him sence i was 2 and i think he likes me back.what do i do.how do i get my ...

A.   28 September 2008: As other Aunts and Uncles have confirmed - yes you are too young to have sex. When you're older, you'll find someone who isn't related to you, who will have condoms and yourself will be able to access birth control. Stop living in la la land - keep ... (read in full...)

My dad is dating this girl that hates my guts!

Q.   My dad is dating this girl that hates my guts and has no respect for me. I don't really like her when she's over I just igorne her pretty much or go a friend's house. She treats everyone like crap (cluding him). He treats her like gold. Befor...

A.   28 September 2008: You need to talk to him and explain how her behaviour and lack of respect for everyone - including your dad, takes an effect on you. You obviously don't like to see your dad treated that way. He's your dad, he'll hear you out. Not that I bargain on ... (read in full...)

Does he really not care at all?

Q.   I broke up with my bf of 4 years about a week and a half ago. The reason I broke up with him was because he wouldn't make a commitment to me as in living together or marriage. I've been back and forth with my feelings. Sometimes I miss him a...

A.   28 September 2008: I think it's time to let go now. Read these signs as him wanting to part from you, just as much as you wanted to part from him. Sending him texts saying you miss him will, I think, just aggrivate and annoy him. He never committed, and he's showing ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend fingered me & menstrual stuff came out... WHY?

Q.   My boyfriend fingered me the other day and menstrual fluid came out.. Only the like start stuff of it but it was definitely that! But a few hours later it stopped coming out so it didn't trigger my WHOLE period.. Just like a bit of it. I'm ...

A.   28 September 2008: It's possible that this time he was rough enough to break your hymen - and that caused the slight bleeding.... (read in full...)

What could this stuff being coming out of me?

Q.   I have been having a white/clear liquid coming out of my vagina... what could it be?...

A.   28 September 2008: It sounds like vaginal discharge. It is normal for women to get this a year or two before puberty and for a while after the menopause. It's nothing to worry about :). Read here for more info; http://www.netdo... (read in full...)

If your hymen is broken before you have sex for the first time, will sex hurt?

Q.   I've been told something, and I just want to know if it's true or not. If your hymen is broken before you have sex for the first time, sex won't hurt. Is this true?? If so, can you break your hymen yourself?? And will it hurt??...

A.   28 September 2008: No, this isn't true. During my first time, I didn't bleed - which, suggests I had broken my hymen previously somehow. But from the bottom of my heart, I thought someone was stabbing me when it happened. Your hymen doesn't effect the 'width' you are ... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with him? I told him I love him.

Q.   I am a 16 year old girl, I'm a virgin, and I have been in love with a guy for 6 years. I know he has never felt the same, but we are planning to have sex together. I trust him completely, and I feel so ready to be with him. He's nearly 19, and all ...

A.   28 September 2008: I think the fact you're asking says a lot more than you think. If you were ready and willing to have sex with this boy, you'd know and feel sure. I don't think you'd need to ask. Whether or not you love him, does he love you? Would you want you... (read in full...)

I never know when my violent boyfriend will lash out and hit me again!

Q.   Hi there. I have recently separated from my husband and met a guy who I really like and I fell in love with him. We have been together for about 3 and a half months, the only thing is he hits me. He does not hit me in my face just my body like my ...

A.   27 September 2008: This isn't play-fighting between school children. He hits you so hard it bruises you. You may be in love with him but that's different from liking his character. You can't like someone who causes you pain. I suggest you end it. But if you fear he'... (read in full...)

2 days after first time (unprotected) sex, I feel pain while on the toilet and can see a tiny faint bit of blood when I wipe myself, could this be an STD? How can I help the pain?

Q.   Okay am worried. I lost my virginity 2 days ago. I'm on the pill, n we didnt use a condom. well now wen i go to the toilet it really hurts so bad that i want to cry and i been needing the toilet more often. also wen i wipe myself there is a tiny f...

A.   27 September 2008: Go straight to the doctor. Always use a condom with a new partner, you don't know where they've been. The pill just isn't good enough to protect from STD's. As you're not registered with the doctor yet, go in to town and find your local clinic - the ... (read in full...)

In a bad marriage, but have a "male" friend

Q.   I am in a bad marriage and recently met this single guy and we have become "friends". We seem to be drawn to each other.He always praises me to my colleagues and we talk a lot. Recently we went to a business meeting and afterwards we sat in our ...

A.   27 September 2008: He might've just mis-read the signs and assume 'coffee' meant something 'more' - just explain to him you weren't initiating that.... (read in full...)

Should I Marry Someone That I Am Not 100% attracted to and may become fat in the future?

Q.   Should I marry a woman that I am not entirely attracted to and might get fat in the future? She is one of my best friends and has everything I want in a woman... but I can tell she does not work-out enough to maintain a healthy body and always finds ...

A.   26 September 2008: Attraction for some people is plays a big part. Other people aren't that bothered. If you think it will put you off her, then don't. But she isn't overweight yet, you think she might be in the future - a prediction you shouldn't stress yourself out ... (read in full...)

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