How can my girlfriend say she loves me, when I feel like I am her enemy most of the time?
Q. Dear Cupid, How can my girlfriend say she loves me, when I feel like I am her enemy most of the time?.... I am a 27 year old international student from Norway currently studying and living in Australia. I have been seeing my girlfriend, who i...
A. 5 November 2009: Oh boy, the baby sure complicates things!
I'm a bit of a romantic at heart too, so my gut reaction (even before I read about her pregnancy) was to stay with her and WORK on you're relationship. I can see that you are putting in heaps of work but... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 30 October 2009: "Is there such a thing as an honest, moral, christian, slightly geeky girl that will not betray me?" Yup :) Sounds a lot like me (bit complicated on the christian point tho). I know a handful of women that also fit this description. ... (read in full...)
She says she can't stand me asking if she's seeing someone else, but she never wants to have sex! So she must be cheating, right?
Q. My girlfriend and I are having a problem seeing things from the same point of view. We've been together for almost two years and I have told her from the start that as long as we have sex and I am sexually satisfied, that we'll be happy and I w...
A. 28 October 2009: "I asked her why she doesn't want to have sex and that the only reason I can think of is that it's because she's having sex with someone else."
Geez Louise! That's the only reason you can think of? There are soooo many reasons chicks don't wa... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to put some excitement back into our love life?
Q. Hi Ive been with my partner for about 14 months now, we live a fair distance away so we mainly spend weekends and holidays together though we are looking to move in together soon. Thing is, we get on fine, but our sex life just seems flat now...
A. 5 October 2009: Take her lingerie shopping this weekend :) Buying something that makes me feel sexy usually spices up intimate times with me and my partner. Don't expect her to wear it every time though! (Garter belts take aaaages to attach to stockings!)
If sh... (read in full...)
21 year old in need of wise words!
Q. So here's it is. I'm 21 years old and have never been kissed, in a relationship, or even asked out. As weird as that seems, that's not the problem. The problem is that, although I "fall in love" everytime I leave my house with some random guy or ...
A. 7 September 2009: You sound like a very pleasant, honest and down-to-earth person. In other words - someone very date-able :)
Take a chance once and a while, perhaps ask one of those random guys out for coffee just to get a feel for the whole dating experien... (read in full...)
When does communication get better in a relationship?
Q. When does communication get better in a relationship? My b/f and I have these stupid fights and it's always over the way we communicate with each other. Example, the light bulb needed changing in the bathroom. They are special lights; the light ...
A. 23 August 2009: He sounds quite immature to me, honey. I can understand that he would become frustrated when you did not understand his first question (and fair enough - it does seem like a dumb question!) however he definitely over reacted. Perhaps he was having a ... (read in full...)
Sibling rivalry. What to do?
Q. Hi all, I'm at my wit's end, I don't know where else to go. I have a very strange issue of sibling rivalry that is not exactly sibling rivalry. I'll try to explain as succinctly as possible [warning: LONG] I live in a household where intell...
A. 2 August 2009: Families are crazy, huh! Intelligence and perfect (not just high) marks are paramount in my mother's eyes. What I've learnt is that until you can support yourself (ie: detach yourself from your family, move out etc) you have to play by their rules. ... (read in full...)
What is the most reasonable approach in choosing which guy to date?
Q. First I would like to thank anybody who is kind enough to read this and give me some advice. Now here is the story, I have a friend that I've know for a long time of which I kind of dated (not officially) for little while, but lost interest be...
A. 5 July 2009: Oh honey, don't blame yourself. These were only two guys out of the many you will meet and potentially date in years to come.
It's always hard to maintain a friendship when one person likes the other. Perhaps he couldn't get over his feelings... (read in full...)
How many couples have sex when the woman in on her period?
Q. Hi everybody, I am wondering how many women or couples out there have sex when the woman is on her period? I have to do it with my boyfriend everyday no matter what and I am not about to skip the sex because of my period. I don't see the problem ...
A. 15 June 2009: I've been spotting for over a month now due to a new contraceptive pill, and I bleed a bit every time we have sex. I'm very grateful my partner takes it very well. At first I was a little apprehensive at having sex while I was bleeding but his ... (read in full...)
What is the most reasonable approach in choosing which guy to date?
Q. First I would like to thank anybody who is kind enough to read this and give me some advice. Now here is the story, I have a friend that I've know for a long time of which I kind of dated (not officially) for little while, but lost interest be...
A. 13 May 2009: Good on you :) Let us know how it goes! I'm excited for you x... (read in full...)
What is the most reasonable approach in choosing which guy to date?
Q. First I would like to thank anybody who is kind enough to read this and give me some advice. Now here is the story, I have a friend that I've know for a long time of which I kind of dated (not officially) for little while, but lost interest be...
A. 12 May 2009: When I read your question, my reactions were,
-Don't enter a relationship EXPECTING things to change in the future (in this case, your attraction to him)
-You are so much more interested in the second guy!
The first guy sounds like he is a sol... (read in full...)
Is it normal that two people in a relationship do not talk to each other everyday?
Q. Hi everyone, I need help. my current bf has been a weird individual since the beginning. By beginning I meant to say 3 months ago. We've been together for 1 month. He never gives me good morning/night calls; never texts me during the day, he only...
A. 5 May 2009: To me, it sounds like you and your partner are mismatched. You enjoy keeping in contact more than once a day, and he is happy going days without it. I don't think he is cheating or gay or a jerk.. maybe just intensive to your needs. Perhaps you ... (read in full...)
How should my boyfriend and I deal with a girl who is trying ot get between us?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, I have a question and the answer may be obvious to some, but I have never dealt with a situation like this before and I don't want to do the wrong thing and blow things out of proportion, I want to deal with this correctly. ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hiya,
I wrote you a longer reply but I closed the page, so I shall make this concise :)
Well done on handling the situation so maturely. It seems your boyfriend is actively trying to discourage her since he worked your name into a conversat... (read in full...)
My wife can't understand why I went to that club, now our relationship is going downhill.
Q. Hi All, I wonder if you can help me with an issue I currently have. My wife and I live in England and married in April 08 after 6 years together (4 of these years we lived together). It was the first marriage for either of us. I was 38 and my wi...
A. 29 December 2008: Hmmm it's easy to side with you when you explain it like this. However, you need to try and put yourself into her shoes and imagine what she is going through. Better yet, as her to describe her emotions. The fact that you repeatedly and easily lied ... (read in full...)
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
Q. Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
A. 28 December 2008: Nice article hun. I too believe that I shouldn't change myself to suit someone else. However, sometimes you need to compromise or make small adjustments to help things work smoothly... but I'm not talking about core values because that will only ... (read in full...)
Can't find a girl to satify ALL of my needs!
Q. Oh man, please bear with me here. Ok 2 years ago I met a girl. She was beautiful and loved everything I loved, all the same interests. We went to a movie I asked her to date me she turned me down. No biggy we became best friends. Turns out she was ...
A. 15 December 2008: To be honest I was very tempted to answer your question with that type of silly one liner (You don't deserve Girl 2!!!). There is always a deeper story, and you've actually surprised me with the letter you wrote to girl 1. Obviously it wasn't just ... (read in full...)
Why do I fall for men so fast? What can I do to avoid this?
Q. Why is it that I fall for men so fast? For example, after just one or two dates with a guy, I will get bummed out if he doesn't answer a call. Instantly I will assume that he doesn't like me. Or if I liked him, I will want to hang out like th...
A. 15 December 2008: It doesn't sound odd to me at all, in fact it sounds a lot like me :) I think its just a natural tendency to 'fall' quickly for someone that shows interest in you. I don't think there is much you can do except learn from what you've been through. ... (read in full...)
We are losing our feelings for each other but don't want to break up
Q. Hey there all. I've only recently stumbled upon this site and I find the community very approachable. So, here's my problem.. It's rather lengthy so please bare with me. Here's a background of our relationship. We are dating. It has been 7 month...
A. 15 December 2008: You sound very mature and well-spoken for a 13-15 year old :) well done.
How long have you and your girl been going out? Perhaps you're just in a sort of passionless phase. I recommend that you stick in there for a bit longer and see if yours an... (read in full...)
Can't find a girl to satify ALL of my needs!
Q. Oh man, please bear with me here. Ok 2 years ago I met a girl. She was beautiful and loved everything I loved, all the same interests. We went to a movie I asked her to date me she turned me down. No biggy we became best friends. Turns out she was ...
A. 14 December 2008: Well at least you're being honest by worrying that it might become a bigger problem. I'm not sure if it would help to discuss it with Girl 2, but I find that communication always helps me in my relationship.
Sex with Girl 1 does sound exciting... (read in full...)
Can't find a girl to satify ALL of my needs!
Q. Oh man, please bear with me here. Ok 2 years ago I met a girl. She was beautiful and loved everything I loved, all the same interests. We went to a movie I asked her to date me she turned me down. No biggy we became best friends. Turns out she was ...
A. 14 December 2008: I think that with your encouragement (telling her she is beautiful etc) she might slowly learn to love her body and be able to "show it off" a bit more. I know that is what happened with my partner constantly telling me how gorgeous he thinks I ... (read in full...)
Interracial couples?
Q. what do people think of couples of different races? e.g. black boy with white girl, white boy with asian girl...etc...
A. 14 December 2008: Same as any relationship - as long as the partners respect each other fully and understand their differences. Maturity helps too. Many of my friends and family have "interracial" relationships :)... (read in full...)
Can't find a girl to satify ALL of my needs!
Q. Oh man, please bear with me here. Ok 2 years ago I met a girl. She was beautiful and loved everything I loved, all the same interests. We went to a movie I asked her to date me she turned me down. No biggy we became best friends. Turns out she was ...
A. 13 December 2008: It seems that neither of them can satisfy you full. Do you and girl 2 have any kind of sexual relation, or is it just her looks which are unsatisfying?
You have to decide if you can sacrifice sexual/visual fulfillment for emotional support.... (read in full...)
My roommate wants to have a both sexes sleepover! I don't!
Q. My roommate wants to have a... sleepover of all things. We're both 20 so it feels kind of weird. It's a small apartment too and she wants to invite a whole bunch of people including guys! I'm not that comfortable around guys in the first place, ...
A. 13 December 2008: If you have a lock on your bedroom door, I suggest you place everything valuble (sentimental or otherwise) from your apartment into your room, lock it, and perhaps sleep at your parents/friends place for the night? It seems very unfair that she has ... (read in full...)
How to convince her not to doubt our future so much? We are good together now.
Q. Alright so heres the deal. Me and my girlfriend used to be friends for a few years before we decided to move it to the next level. Now we've been together for almost a year and its been great..up until recently i havent had any worries. At the...
A. 2 December 2008: Well try telling her that in 5 years she might be looking towards children and neither of you will be spending as much time in clubs or pubs - more like family friendly places. As long as you both make an effort to fit in with the others friends and ... (read in full...)
What birth control makes your breasts grow?
Q. I have been on yasmin for about 9 months now and im still getting period pains so i friend who is a pharmacist recommended that i go on Diane, just wondering if anyone is on it does it make your breasts grow? And has Yasmin made anyones? i have had ...
A. 27 November 2008: I started yasmin earlier this year (never been on birth control pills before) and my cup size increased from a B to a C. I think it is mostly water retention though. I've now switched to levlen and the effect is still the same. Everyone has ... (read in full...)
I'm in love... and I HATE it!
Q. I hate feeling this way, I'm in love and I HATE it... I think it's because my parents split up after 30 years together so it's drilled it into my head that nothing lasts and eventually everything will crash and burn. I hate to let my guard down and...
A. 18 November 2008: My parents have sort of drilled the "nothing lasts" into my head too which I hate. However, you are not your parents. You choose who you love and how long you love for. Don't let other people tell you that your relationships won't last. Go your own ... (read in full...)
Any tips for doing a good back massage?
Q. I really want to give my boyfriend a good back massage-the last time didnt go very well as it was my first time doing it. Any tips?...
A. 18 November 2008: Try different movements with your palms and fingers, and vary the pressure. Ask him "does this feel good" or tell him to nod if he likes a certain action. Feedback is good! ... (read in full...)
What should I say or do to get my necklace back without being suspicious?
Q. I have been seeing this new guy for a few months now, and we are doing really good so far. I have recently found myself in an awkward position though and I need some help. I am best friends with my ex-boyfriend (don't worry he has a girl now) and we ...
A. 18 November 2008: The best advice has been given to you already. Tell the truth to both of them. You will be embarrassed and they might both be annoyed at you, but it will pass.
On the other hand, you could just nick the necklace and toss it into the nearest ... (read in full...)
He doesn't need to use a condom, how can we find a compromise?!
Q. Hi aunts, I need some ideas from you. My partner of 6 months and I enjoy what we think is a healthy sex life. I am on the pill and take it between 6.30 and 7am every morning (rain, hail or shine). The problem is, my partner insists on putti...
A. 12 November 2008: Thanks for your thoughtful replies :) I like the umbrella analogy.
I lost my virginity to him, but I have also been tested for STD's. He had one previous partner before me and he offered to get tested but based on his history I didn't pressure... (read in full...)
These rides to work are really pissing me off!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 21 years. He has started a new job and is giving a female co-worker a ride to and from work. He picks her and her kids up in the am and takes the kids to daycare. Then after work around 3:30 he hangs out ...
A. 31 October 2008: I don't understand why he would prefer to quit his job?! Men!
Well done for confronting him, and letting him know where you stand. I admire you for that. I hope he realizes that he has been making a huge mistake, and works with you to turn thi... (read in full...)
I want some sort of commitment from her, is her moving in with me the answer?
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now and we have had mostly a very good and happy relationship but there has been one thing that has been missing and that is us living together, I asked her after 2 years if she would move in wi...
A. 17 October 2008: Well done mate, that takes strength. I hope you find the answers you need.
Take care and keep us updated... (read in full...)
Do other girls have hairy breasts?
Q. Right I have a bit of a problem I have some hairs on my breasts and although their not like armpit hairs or anything I think their quite noticable am I the only one with this problem or do other people have hairs aswell??? ...
A. 13 October 2008: Yep, I do. It's natural and normal. Most people have fine, barely noticable hair all over their body (depends on your ethnicity). I have slightly larger hairs around my nipples.. i tent to pluck the obvious ones out, but the rest can stay. Its ... (read in full...)
I want some sort of commitment from her, is her moving in with me the answer?
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now and we have had mostly a very good and happy relationship but there has been one thing that has been missing and that is us living together, I asked her after 2 years if she would move in wi...
A. 12 October 2008: I'm happy for you that she finally told you a decent reason for her actions. However, you are still stuck waiting for her...
It might be easier to wait now that you know the reason. Give it a go. And maybe ask her for a compromise about the 'sta... (read in full...)
I want some sort of commitment from her, is her moving in with me the answer?
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now and we have had mostly a very good and happy relationship but there has been one thing that has been missing and that is us living together, I asked her after 2 years if she would move in wi...
A. 10 October 2008: I'm with AskOldersister on this one... perhaps SHE wants some form of commitment too? Perhaps talk to her about what each of you consider commitment to be (ie: you = living together) and she might surprise you with her answer. Talk about it!... (read in full...)
I need gift ideas for this female friend. Any tips?
Q. Hey all, I'm just wanting to know gift ideas (preferrably comments from girls). I have a good friend I have known for almost 4 years. I've always liked her a lot, but thought I was out of her league, about this time last year I found out she ha...
A. 30 September 2008: Make her a card, with a pic of her pet/fav pic/hobby on the front, or even a pic of the two of you. She seems to like gifts that have sentimental value and are personal, so dont buy a generic card. Its hard to recommend a gift for a person like this ... (read in full...)
How can I feel I have purpose on the planet?
Q. How can I feel I have purpose on the planet? When I was in high school, I was a big dreamer. Oh, how I was going to change the world!! I didn't have many friends, didn't party, and didn't date. I didn't really have opportunities to date and was ...
A. 24 September 2008: I can relate to the feeling expired part.. when I was in highschool the future looked so bright and I could become anything, go anywhere and just be far from where I am now! It's not all that bad though, sometimes we have unrealistic expectations. ... (read in full...)
Occasional intimacy issues, need advice from the ladies
Q. I've been dating a girl I really like for 3 months now. We decided we want to be exclusive with each other. We're both mid-to late 20's. We get along GREAT, she hasnt been in a r'ship in 3 yrs (because she claims to not have found a guy she wants ...
A. 9 September 2008: I too have had my thyroid out, and am on thyroxine for the rest of my life. I never realised it might be effecting my moods, emotions and sex life! I must do some research! Anyway, back to your question...
Firstly it sounds like she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why can't I bring myself to tell her "I love you"?
Q. I'm in hs and my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We are close and in the early stages of our relationship use to tell each other that we liked each other a lot. Now I feel like I love her... not necessarily that she is the one ...
A. 8 September 2008: It's a tough one hey.. I find myself in a similar position. I do love my boyfriend and I've told him before and he tells me too, but sometimes I look him in the eye and want to say it, but it just doesn't feel right or I can't bring myself to say ... (read in full...)
Beard or Sheared?
Q. I am trying to get close to girl at the moment and am hoping to make a move over the few times we go out but i am wondering if i should shave. I have about 10 days worth of growth and like to keep it that way because i think i look far too young ...
A. 5 September 2008: it all comes down to personal preference!! seriously :)
my boyfriend kept shaving when we first started dating because he was afraid i wouldnt like his beard or stubble. infact, i absolutely love it now that he has let it grow a bit. from 1-5 days... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm spending too much on her so soon?
Q. My girl's bday is coming up. We've been together for a little under a year. I was thinking of taking her to a $$$$ place for dinner(est $300 for 2), I'm wondering if that is too much too soon. I also bought her a gift that cost $100. Should I take ...
A. 1 September 2008: Hmm, perhaps both the resturant AND the gift seem like alot, but then again me and my partner's bithdays are comin up (3 days apart) and ive spend around.... $150 on gifts for him (im turning 19 he is turning 23) and im guessing he has bought me a ... (read in full...)
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