How can I stop my hormones getting in the way of finding a great girl?
Q. I am a teenage guy, sixteen years old now, and I want to find the right girl for me in the future. I find that hormones really get in the way of finding who I truly like for personality and who I like just because of sex. Can I find true love, or is ...
A. 21 July 2008: hey mate,
well done on realising that your hormones are making you physically attracted to many girl who may or may not be right for you. since you've got common sense and seem to be a decent guy i think you will be able to find the right girl for... (read in full...)
How did you meet your partner?
Q. Hi everyone, I've had a lot on my mind today so to lighten the mood I wanted to find out somthing dreamy. You see, every guy I have ever been with I have met after a big night at a party or the pub/club. Im not an alco or anything I just like (well ...
A. 15 July 2008: He was the nice guy, the one you'de never look at twice. He was too perfect, he had to be gay, right?
We became friends through a car club. Being the only motor-minded girl among 20 revv-heads, I had my fair share of attention. He watched quietly ... (read in full...)
I need a female perspective: Should I contact her or not?
Q. Hello, Preferably i would like a females view on this matter that has been through this experience or something similar. But guys, feel free to give your opinions. Me and my girlfriend split up about 6 weeks ago, she ended it because i was ma...
A. 4 July 2008: hmm your situation sounds very similar to what two of my good friends are going through. they had been going out for 6 or more years, but she recently broke it off with him because of his increasingly posessive and jealous behaviour. its sad because ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get a girl being a gentleman? I need some brotherly advice!
Q. i recently got turned down by another girl for a date by a girl ive been friends with for years and normally id be fine but its how she did it that has me flustered, she said think of you as more of a big brother and someone who would stand up for ...
A. 1 July 2008: mate, just keep on being a gentleman and you will find the right girl for you - one who appreciates a man who respects them. dont change just because of one chick.
personally, i was suprised when my boyfriend asked me out since he was a friend b... (read in full...)
How can I get him to initiate sex?
Q. been with my boyfriend 4 years, and in the last 6 months or so have discovered it is mainly me that initiates sex, as soon as i touch him sexually or kiss him passionately he gets an errection so there is no problem with attraction (i dont think), ...
A. 1 July 2008: hey honey
I have a similar problem with my boyfriend. It seems as though i am always initiating our sex related activities. The most he will do is kiss me occasionally on his own. He even won't be ontop without me asking. We haven't had full sex... (read in full...)
How do you sleep when your partner isn't there?
Q. Not really a problem, just curious. This spring my girlfriend took a trip to see her family and she had been preparing her luggage and I noticed she had put in some t-shirts of mine. She frequently wears them as night shirts but there were from ...
A. 20 June 2008: I can't answer honestly because I don't have a long term partner, but I do like to borrow some possesion of my boyfriend (ie: jumper, gloves, beanie) because it reminds me of him (smell, or otherwise) but that might just be because its winter here ... (read in full...)
I am all confused about the way he feels about me!!
Q. Last week I started talkin to this guy and we were really getting on well and i asked him if he was single and he said "yeh but im not really looking because ive just come out of a relationship" which was understandable and more or less the same as ...
A. 15 June 2008: try and not enter into a relationship with him too soon. you will only be his rebound girl. he has told you that he isnt ready for a new relationship, and he might have not gotten over his ex yet. you dont want to be the chick he uses to fill the ... (read in full...)
Do you think an Anime Convention would be a good place to meet girls with similar interests?
Q. I have somewhat of a strange question but hopefully someone can answer. In a few weeks I will be attending an Anime Convention for 2 days, does anyone know if this would be a good place to find a girl due to similar interests in anime? I've foun...
A. 11 June 2008: yup yup, go for it mate :)
be friendly and chatty, and you never know where it might lead. perhaps check out the convention earlier in the day and then offer to show some chicks that look lost around. try not to come onto anyone too hard or fast... (read in full...)
Is it true that what you say drunk is actually what you think sober?
Q. Is it true what you say drunk is what you have been thinking when sober?...
A. 6 June 2008: hmmm based on personal experience i would say that drinking makes me say things i normally wouldnt say if i was sober. this includes lies and truths. i usually blab about secrets too. i think that alcohol can make you think things that aren't true, ... (read in full...)
Will I pee if I have an orgasm?
Q. I have never had an orgasm before. When I think I am going to get one I have to go to the bathroom. They say that is what it feels like, but I really have to pee. Is their something wrong with me? Is their something that I can do in order to exper...
A. 4 June 2008: Try it again in the shower so then even if you do end up peeing its not such a big deal.... (read in full...)
Lately, I've been thinking. About relationships, love... What do you think we need in order to be satisfied in a relationship?
Q. Lately, I've been thinking. Everyone here has an ideal type of relationship, different things work for different people; but, I do wonder, how many of us really get the things we want/have the type of relationships we enjoy. The golden standard ...
A. 25 May 2008: This is a really interesting and thought provoking question.
I myself have often pondered if it is possible to be in a relationship where both parties love each other equally. In my experience I've found that one person in the relation... (read in full...)
I want our relationship to work but it's just the thought of her going to clubs that has overtaken me...
Q. Hi I was with my girlfriend for a year and a half before, we split up and found different partners for about 4 months, you got back together and its been about 5 months now. I feel our relationship is collapsing and I can see it, well it is all ...
A. 9 April 2008: woah mate you sound just like my overprotective parents.
firstly -
a) you yourself are not 18 so you've never been in a nightclub right? how on earth can you tell her that you know what happens in there?? sure you might see the bad press on the n... (read in full...)
I have this lovely boyfriend but I hate kissing!
Q. ok, this is really retarded!! I have this lovely boyfriend but I hate kissing! even just a tiny lil' peck on the check and I woud be so uncomfortable with it! We've french kissed once, but after that I was like no way am I doing that again! That ...
A. 8 April 2008: hey darl,
i never used to like kissing at all. but as i grew closer to my (now ex) boyfriend, and developed a stronger emotional attachment, i found that i really enjoyed kissing.
it might be easier for you to consider the other sexual stu... (read in full...)
He was "smitten" with me but now avoids me! Do I remind him of his psycho ex?!!
Q. -He's friends with my friends and is a well known figure on campus, but we had never met until one night in dining hall. -We talked for a long time and after he left my friends told me how impressed they were with the chemistry ap...
A. 7 April 2008: woah, ok i nearly read it all..
so ill comment on the stuff i have read
i think that when you told him there was an emergency, then you ignored him - was the point where he got sick of chasing you around. no offence or anything but you seem to ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!
Q. I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...
A. 1 April 2008: well done :D
thanks for creating this great community... (read in full...)
How can I avoid being so eager towards him, so ready to "fall in love" and experience all that goes with it?
Q. Hey aunts, I've got guy troubles again. It's nothing too serious, but I find I'm getting a little down about it. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We go places together, hang out, and sometimes make out. Nothing is o...
A. 31 March 2008: hey bitterblue
thanks for the indepth answer. it has given me some things to think over.
1. i supose i am afraid that he doesnt like me that much. ive recently realised i am a little insecure which suprises me because i never used to notice m... (read in full...)
How can I avoid being so eager towards him, so ready to "fall in love" and experience all that goes with it?
Q. Hey aunts, I've got guy troubles again. It's nothing too serious, but I find I'm getting a little down about it. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We go places together, hang out, and sometimes make out. Nothing is o...
A. 31 March 2008: hiya jaymil,
thank you for your helpful answer.
i've learned from experience that guys get claustrophobic and run for the hills if you want too much too soon. that's why im trying to act casual and just take it as it comes with this guy im sorta... (read in full...)
I just want to be accepted by them...
Q. Ugh, this is so unfair. Bascially I'm 16 and I'm not a loser or anything. I do have friends and I'm socially accepted. I just don't hangout with anyone much. whyyyyyyy?? I try to initiate a time where we can hangout but really it doesn't ...
A. 30 March 2008: its hard to meet just to "hang out" sometimes. try and organise an activity that you can all participate in while hanging out. like, laser gaming/paintballing, going to the beach, having a bbq. stuff like that. i find that when i meet with friends ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend, where can we meet in private?
Q. Ridiculous as it sounds, I'm 25 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend. They're very snobby and he is from a less priviliged background and they don't think he is good enough for me. We had been seeing each other 6 months befor...
A. 29 March 2008: "Why is this website so rubbish for answers?"
Because we try and help you with the WHOLE problem, not just find temporary solutions.
If you only wanted to recieve suggestions about places to meet, you should have made it very clear. If you gi... (read in full...)
I found him in bed with another girl..we split, now he wants to get back together..Should I forgive and forget ?
Q. I've been really impressed with this site so far, so I'm hoping that maybe someone out there can give me some advice, or share a similar story... I met my last boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we clicked immediately. We had text book compatabili...
A. 28 March 2008: Hey Charmmy,
Thanks for updating us. I'm glad to hear you are doing so well. You sound very positive and strong. Well done. I'm sure you will bounce back fully in no time at all.
Take care
Scythe
xox... (read in full...)
His comments about other women make me feel insecure, and I want to be more confident!
Q. Am a 48 year old, attractive, intelligent woman. I have been seeing this wonderful man for 4 months. Just back from holiday with him. On occasions when we are out, he'll say things like "that barmaid was gorgeous, wish I could take her home" or ...
A. 28 March 2008: My dad makes comments like this infront of my mom and the rest of our family. Mom's just gotten over it by now I supose.
However, since you are dating and not married to him, I suggest you try and sort this out.
Tell him that you understand t... (read in full...)
I do all the work in my relationship with moody girlfriend
Q.
its seems in my relationship i do all the work! my girlfriend has become very moody lately, she will constanly get in a mood over nothing and some very trivial stuff. so i will try my best to please her and sort things out. Its seems one sided to ...
A. 21 March 2008: I'm a chick and I have recently been getting mood swings around the guy I'm seeing.
I know it't not normal and not natural and he shouldn't have to put up with me being like this so I thought I'de do some research.
After reading all the ... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hey cutie_babe12
I spose it is slightly sick. But I'm to relieved to be mad at him. I did run over his foot, it's just not broken.... (read in full...)
The meaning of a Woman's Silence
Q. There is this girl who often flirted with me which I have recently grown to like. We corresponded on several occasions, but have never dated. Our conversations were always light and funny. We always complimented one another. Naturally, she is ...
A. 19 March 2008: maybe shes depressed about the tragic nature of your circumstances - you said you guys can never be together.... (read in full...)
I can't keep a straight face
Q. I work with a girl who I am really interested in, even though we've never had a proper conversation. So, I want to ask her to go for a drink with me and get to know her better. The problem is that I can't think about her, let alone look at her or ...
A. 19 March 2008: i think she looks down/stares at the floor when you look at her because she likes you too. she might even be trying to hide her own cheesy grin. i know that i used to do this when a guy i like looked at me.
don't worry about smiling when you talk... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Ok guys, I've got some great news
Firstly I'de like to say a thank you for giving me some sanity this morning when I was miserable (morbid is a good description, Toasty).
Basically, the three guys in question walked into the shop I work in t... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Hey Collaroy,
I know I will eventually laugh at this but right now its too depressing.
Ok - I just found out how bad it is. He needs surgery and can't walk for 4 weeks. I am an idiot... sigh. He's talking to me politely on msn. I spose that's s... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi Toasty,
Scythe isn't my real name (I wish!) but it is indeed spiffy (spiffy is an awesome word).
Ummm thanks.. yeah I'm totally stumped. And we were just getting close (its taken a month!) and then I go and run over his foot. One of his... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Thanks SouthernBelle,
I love how you aunt's always take my side, but I'm feeling so guilty and horrible right now that I can't think bad of him.
I just rang Interflora Flowers to get a quote on delivering flowers. Do you think thats too much? ... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid for getting upset coz we aint even an item?
Q. Hiya! There is this guy i really like, we aint in a relationship but we meet up whenever he has time and shows alot of affection etc. Been doing this for 5 months. well what it is he has gone away to ireland for 4 days with the guys, he will be...
A. 8 March 2008: hey darl,
i've just entered a similar relationship and its been going on for about a month.
i think that guys our age will act like guys our age - so dont expect him to be an angel while he is away, even though you would like him to. especial... (read in full...)
I love a song, but it reminds me of a bad time in my life. How can I stop associating it with a bad incident?
Q. I have a bit of a strange question. The answer is probably as simple as I think it is, but if somebody could guide me further, it'd be great. There's this song. The first time I heard it, I loved it straight away. I listened to it over and over, I...
A. 7 March 2008: in highschool was going through a rebellious and difficult stage, i used to listen to an album by good charlotte over and over again. recently, i listened to it again for the first time in a few years. when i first heard the songs, they conjured up ... (read in full...)
He snubbed me but said something was weighing on his mind, should I try and help him?
Q. Hey aunts, this is a bit long and confusing but please stick with me here :) There is this guy I met a few weeks back... we had sarcastic and flirty conversations, and he saw me every day for 4 days (he was really persistant), one of which was spe...
A. 3 March 2008: Thank you for your opinions Ask_oldersister and Laura. I never really thought of it like that, I supose I always try and give people the benefit of the doubt.
In reply to his message I asked him what was wrong and if he wanted to talk about it... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that this is a pointless argument?
Q. I had a fight with my BF. He gets so upset each time the issue is brought up, but he's the one who brings it up so there's no way for me to stop it. Anyway... I had a friend with benefits when I was 15, and years later, he introduced me to...
A. 29 February 2008: Wow, he sounds extremely pigheaded honey! Since you appear to have put up a fairly conclusive argument and he still doesn't agree, I'de say that he will never see things your way. He is just being stubborn and trying to make himself feel better by ... (read in full...)
Does anyone find French Kissing weird or are you ok with it? (done right)
Q. Does anyone on here NOT like to French Kiss? I have met some people who don't like to and I find that pretty disturbing and weird. I am talking GOOD, sensual, non-sloppy kissing when each partner has clean teeth and good breath. This can be ...
A. 29 February 2008: That's alright, it's what we're here for. What exaclty did you have in mind when you asked this question?... (read in full...)
Does anyone find French Kissing weird or are you ok with it? (done right)
Q. Does anyone on here NOT like to French Kiss? I have met some people who don't like to and I find that pretty disturbing and weird. I am talking GOOD, sensual, non-sloppy kissing when each partner has clean teeth and good breath. This can be ...
A. 28 February 2008: A while ago, I absolutely hated french kissing. I didn't get turned on or enjoy it at all. However, I do like it now if it is with a guy I love and care for. So I supose you could say that I only like french kissing if there is an emotional ... (read in full...)
I found him in bed with another girl..we split, now he wants to get back together..Should I forgive and forget ?
Q. I've been really impressed with this site so far, so I'm hoping that maybe someone out there can give me some advice, or share a similar story... I met my last boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we clicked immediately. We had text book compatabili...
A. 27 February 2008: Wow honey, thats a tough one - especially because you thought you might eventually get married to him.
But since you are questioning yourself about if you are even still in love with him, I'de say this indicates your heart isn't fully there an... (read in full...)
Which is usually the best pillar for a decision, ration or sentiments?
Q. I made a big decision after fighting my head with my heart for some time. I chose to go with what my head was telling me after months of questioning what I should do. The actual day of my decision I had felt the strongest, that what I chose was the ...
A. 26 February 2008: Usually your head makes the smartest choices, which are not always pleasant. But when you choose with your heart it always hurts more, wether at the time or later on.
To love and loose or not love at all?
Sometimes there isn't a right answer. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there agree with staying a virgin until they are married?
Q. heyx I was just curious, is there anyone out there that agrees with me when i say i want to stay a virgin til im married? Does anyone think thats good? Im 15, and believe that you shouldnt have sex untill you have had your wedding. do you think th...
A. 24 February 2008: I agree with you darl. It is a good idea, and it's definately not pathetic. I'm 18 and I believe in this philosophy too. I see two main rewards for waiting until you are married:
1. Your first time will be with someone who loves and cares for you ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out! help me
Q. I need help really badly, as I feel emotional right now, but theres a girl I've known, she joined my uni last year before summer, and she sat across the classroom from me, and we looked at each other a lot, first week I did ignore it, but the next ...
A. 23 February 2008: wow... you're so kind and honest. i think that if you explain to her that you want to be closer to her, but you are worried about causing problems for her, she will see how sincere and considerate you are and you guys can work from there.
sitti... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 17 February 2008: To O Connor
I always thought you shouldn't need to talk about it, and so I just assumed me and my "ex" were a couple. I mean, we did all the coupley things, went on dates, went out with friends together, were intimate (not sex), he invited ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: I'm not refering to anyone at present, but about a past relationship that went wrong. I assumed we were a couple but he evidently had other ideas.
Just wanted some insight into what I should assume next time :)... (read in full...)
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