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Am I gay for breaking up with my girlfriend?

Q.   my friends have been saying i'm gay because i broke up with this girl because she told me she loved me the second day we went out i am very sensitive and compassionate am i gay for breaking up with her? my friends said i should've told her i love ...

A.   24 February 2008: No i do not think you are gay, it is because you are not ready to commit yourself to a full time relationship as yet, i think your girl friend was a bit hasty, telling you that she loved you after two days, i think that is enough to frighten any one ... (read in full...)

Work mate said he wanted me, but he is married! HELP!

Q.   Dear Aunts... Well i have a little problem.. I have been seeing some one from work! We havent actually done anything and i dont know what he wants.. It started like this.. A couple of weeks ago i was out in town with a friend and we seen some people ...

A.   13 February 2008: It is in your best interest to stay away from this guy, you asked what do you think he want, you wont like this but i will tell you, he want to have sex with you, and just use you for his own selfish pleasure, then when he has had enough of you he ... (read in full...)

I don't feel like doing things for my fiancee and she's pregnant, am I unhappy? What should I do?

Q.   I don't feel like doing things for my fiancee and she's pregnant, am I unhappy? What should I do?...

A.   13 February 2008: I think you are being selfish, your g/f is carrying your baby and you do not want to help her,do not forget you are 50 percent responsible for the condition that she is presently in, you need to change your attitude, because when the baby is born, ... (read in full...)

A simple question, why are guys afraid of commitment?

Q.   why do guys get close and then run a mile?? im soooo confused?? guys help me out here for gods sake.!! thanks....

A.   12 February 2008: It seems you are not connecting with the right type of guy that suits your needs, some men react differently to commitment than others, some just want to have a good time and not commit and run away, but i think the majority of mature males tend to ... (read in full...)

Could I go to prison for having sex with my girlfriend? She's 15.

Q.   I have got a 15 year old girlfriend and I'm 16. I love her to bits and me and her both want to take our relationship to sexual intercourse but I have heard about being put in prison? Is this true? If so how likely is it? I have neices, will I be ...

A.   12 February 2008: I am sorry to tell you but in UK law one year does violate the criminal act,and is punishable by the law that i have already stated.... (read in full...)

Why is my ex harassing/verbally abusing me?

Q.   I have another question. I don't know why my ex keeps contacting me. He told me about a month ago that he didn't want to talk to me for a month or two. But several times I have gotten IMs from him. In the IMs he says horrible things to me. He says ...

A.   12 February 2008: The first thing you need to do is chill out, calm down, take control of the situation, when people IM you take a copy of the conversation,this guy needs to see a Doctor, it seems he is not right in the head,you need to collect proof of what he is ... (read in full...)

Could I go to prison for having sex with my girlfriend? She's 15.

Q.   I have got a 15 year old girlfriend and I'm 16. I love her to bits and me and her both want to take our relationship to sexual intercourse but I have heard about being put in prison? Is this true? If so how likely is it? I have neices, will I be ...

A.   12 February 2008: A 15 year old girl or boy are classed in UK law as a minors, you on the other hand are not, at 16 you are classed as an adult, and because of that fact, it is illegal for an adult to have a sexual relationship with a minor. There is no limit to... (read in full...)

Is there such a thing as a curse or bad karma?

Q.   I wonder if there is any chance , that there is such a thing as curse or karma? I try to live this life ,with the best intentions, yet everything falls apart on me. I thought, you make your own luck. It really does not happen in my life. I was nev...

A.   11 February 2008: I am a realist and do not believe in luck or karma,life is the way you make it for yourself,it seems that events in your life are not going as smoothly as you think they should, i do not really know what you mean by was not asking for things you did ... (read in full...)

Could it hinder our married life later on?

Q.   Hi.I a male and in a searious long distance relationship with a girl for last 1.5 years..We both are in corporate world and use to meet almost once in 6 months for 1 day. For last some time she is not giving her time for me, even when I ask for the ...

A.   10 February 2008: If you have only met three times in 1.5 years then i cannot see how you think that you have any basis for marriage,if she is not returning your calls or communicating in any way with you then she may be trying to let you down gently, it seems that ... (read in full...)

Is he leading me on here?

Q.   Hello, I'm 15 years old and I've met this guy in my Italian class, I really love him, I've never felt this way for anyone. So when I finally decided to talk to him, to my surprise he talked to me first. The next day he talked to me again, something ...

A.   9 February 2008: At your age it would be very foolish of you to start a relationship with a 35 year old man,he must be some kind of weirdo, wanting to go out with some one your age, i know that you must feel special because he showing you his affection, but it is ... (read in full...)

Has his cake and eats it!

Q.   I made this post a few weeks ago. Our situation has changed again. We are not able to see one another at all. Are only able to talk for like a minute a couple of days a week. I send him text messages he reads but is not able to reply to most of ...

A.   9 February 2008: I do not understand why you have not seen through this guy by now, do not think for one second that you are the only mistress in his life, he has used you and now is praying on some else and telling you a load of rubbish and you are accepting it. ... (read in full...)

14...and having some issues with my body.

Q.   hello, i'm 14 and i'm having some body issues. The other night when i was getting in the shower, i realized one breast is bigger than the other. Is that normal for teenagers or should i go to a doc about it?...

A.   8 February 2008: you are worrying over nothing, every girl i have dated has alway had one breast larger than the other,and they were a lot older than you,it is just the way that nature work,chill out babe just go out and enjoy yourself, everything is fine. ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my blood pressure go up?

Q.   Hi, I was just wondering why when I have panic attacks my blood pressure never changes. I hyperventilate, I shake, my chest feel so tight yet the paramedic always says that my blood pressure is fine. Is this normal? Thanks for any help Lola x...

A.   8 February 2008: if the medics say it alright then believe them,i find the best result for a panic attack is to carry a paper bag with you, put the bag across your mouth only, breath in through your nose, then blow the air out into the bag and continue breathing in ... (read in full...)

How long should a couple date before getting engaged and then eventually getting married?

Q.   How long should a couple date before getting engaged and then eventually getting married? We have been dating 3 years and 2 months. I am ready to get the show on the road. What is your opinion?...

A.   8 February 2008: I think three years is a long enough period for you both to make this commitment to each other, it may be in your best interest to discuss the way you feel with your boyfriend, before you start to make any plans, then you will be able to make the ... (read in full...)

Shave vs. not shaving

Q.   I wanted my wife to shave her private area, but she says it is because I want her to look like the porn stars. I would do the same. Anybody have an opinion on this?...

A.   8 February 2008: if your wife feels uncomfortable shaving herself then i think that you should accept her point of view on this matter, i really do not think you should force her into doing anything against her will, if you try to bully her, she will more than ... (read in full...)

Any advice on how I can get back into 'life' properly again?

Q.   I am pretty sure that this is not such an uncommon problem and hopefully the answers to this question might help others. I was in a relationship for thirteen years and then one day my live in boyfriend just packed his things and went back to his ...

A.   7 February 2008: No way has that fun girl vanished off the face of the earth, look in a mirror,she still there, it seems that you have put all your energy into other projects, and forgotten to give yourself time to adjust, you have just given up on yourself and that ... (read in full...)

Do men prefer women confident in their looks?

Q.   I'm worried, because I know I'm not unattractive, but I complain sometimes about my hair, or my make up etc. I'm worried this puts my long term boyfriend off me, because I keep seeing people say on this site that men prefer women that are confident ...

A.   6 February 2008: I must admit when i hear a woman always moaning on about her make up and hair, i find its a real turn off, you are trying to be some one you cannot possibly be, to blazes with what men say about woman on this site, that is there selfish opinion, it ... (read in full...)

Do they mean it when they say "I love you"?

Q.   I'm a 13 year old girl who need's people's opinions. I know that families are supposed to love you. I just feel like the don't. I hardely talk to my aunts, uncles, and cousins. But when they say they love you, Do you think they mean it? ...

A.   6 February 2008: Hi. Yes they do mean they love you, i think it is because you are at a the age of 13,that your problem lies, with your emotions being all over the place and you are trying to find your way in life, and where you fit in with your family, because ... (read in full...)

He can't ejaculate! Could it be his meds?

Q.   My husband is 29 years old, and for the last 4 mornings he has been waking up limp. Let me tell you in the 10 years we have been together this is a first. He has no problem getting it up, but he can not orgasm. We have tried the last 4 days for ...

A.   6 February 2008: Hi, with out a doubt the medication Darvocet is a trade name for Propoxyphene, the drug is used for mild to medium pain, it blocks pain receptors in the brain,it can cause constipation and to put it in a polite way, Physical ability's can be affec... (read in full...)

Did I do wrong by taking my boyfriend's best mate out to get something for his house?

Q.   Hello, Did i do wrong by taking my new boyfriends (now ex bf) best mate out to get something for his house? hes male and i think hes was trying to get between us for suggesting i took him to this place,as he told my bf what i was doing its really ...

A.   6 February 2008: I am afraid you have made a fatal error by doing the event that you have described,if it was myself in his position i would think that you were chasing after my mate, and would have finished with you straight away,the only thing you can do know is ... (read in full...)

My mate wants her ex back. Is it a good idea?

Q.   This is for my mate shes a girl who really likes this guy who just split from her they where kinda seeing each other.this guy sent her a text a few weeks ago saying that they should be mates and that she is a really nice girl(which she is)but he ...

A.   6 February 2008: Four weeks is no time to get to know any one, he has made it clear that he does not want to be with her, but he wants her as a friend, to me it seems that he is keeping her on stand by just in case his new date falls through. Even tho she feels th... (read in full...)

Do you think she loves him more?

Q.   I'm a 13 year old girl. Me and my whole Family love each other but even though we don't see each other all the time. My 22 year old cousin(girl) has two boys. A 8 month old baby and a 2 year old. Every time the 2 year old comes over he gets all the ...

A.   5 February 2008: I think she loves you all the same,some time relatives seem to spend more time with very young children, than they do with the older ones, it does not mean that they think any less of you, you are worrying over nothing.... (read in full...)

He says he loves me, but I wonder, in what way?

Q.   Hi cupid righ now im riding a big rollercoaster of feelings. im in love of my best friend we already had something twice. but still we kept as good friends. but i cant stand to watch him with someone else..and i think he takes me for granted..he ...

A.   5 February 2008: You really need to talk to him and try and establish the status of your relationship, if he is having a sexual relationship with you and still seeing other girls, then he may be only using you for his sexual pleasure. You do not want to be used ... (read in full...)

I'm a 20yr old male virgin, am I weird?

Q.   Hi, would this make people think i'm weird. i'm 20, about to turn 21, and basically i have had no experience with intimacy. Like i've never even kissed anyone intimately, let alone had sex. I've been kissed but thats when i was heaps younger, and it ...

A.   5 February 2008: No you are not weird,it is your shyness which is holding you back,because you are a virgin it is a rare thing these days you should be proud of yourself. ... (read in full...)

If people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love?

Q.   Dear cupids. I just have to say I love this site its awesome. Just a love question (sigh is there any other kind. My question is that "if people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love????? surly one of the two people h...

A.   4 February 2008: I think it is because the harder you look for love the more desperate people seem, if some one goes out just for a good time and to enjoy them selfs and them meet some one, they are more relaxed, and do not seem as desperate.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is complaining of pelvic pains after great sex; is it my fault?

Q.   The other night my girlfriend and I had just about the perfect sexual encounter, and I'm sorry this is so long, but I just have to tell you about it, before I explain the problem. Also, I need to say that I am on enzyte, a sexual enhancer for ED, ...

A.   4 February 2008: Yes I agree with somethingeasy, it sounds like an advert to me.... (read in full...)

I pampered him all weekend and now I'm being blocked!?!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have had troubles so we decided to slow down, I used to live with him but I moved out because we both needed our space. Well on the weekend I went to go visit him, had the time of my life, but I gave him money, bought him ...

A.   4 February 2008: Hi. It looks as if your b/f has taken the huff because you sent the email to him through your email box with all your details on, so he thinks that the mail was drafted by you,trying to put the blame on his ex,But i am concerned that you are buyi... (read in full...)

My boyfriend like an 8 year old.

Q.   K so me and my boyfriend started out very well, going out and just chilling with friends. Then there is an 8 year old girl that has a huge crush on him. She would call him early in the morning, try to push me away when I give him a hug... So me and ...

A.   3 February 2008: The child is not at fault here,your b/f seems to be a potential child abuser, this is not the way he should be carrying on with an eight year old child. You really need to talk this out with him and try and find out the motive behind the way he i... (read in full...)

Can I really truly trust this man?

Q.   my boyfriend is moving into a house and renting a room near where i live to be closer to me. problem is the house is a female friend's of his who he had a one night stand with before he met me. he says i've got nothing to worry about as it was a big ...

A.   3 February 2008: If this guy is staying with a another woman,you are asking for trouble especially as he has already admitted that they have already had a relationship, the reason he has given you for staying over is lame, does not matter how drunk he is he should ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with a man who's 14 years older than me, and he's married.

Q.   I'm in love with a man who's 14 years older than me, and he's married. He seemed attracted but I cannot speak for him, so I will just speak for myself. I feel really sad about it, and everyone came hard down on me for it and stuff, telling me to ...

A.   3 February 2008: I think your friends are trying to tell you that a relationship with this guy is not a great idea, you should listen to them, because he is married and loves his wife, you really need to mix with people who are not marriage, no good will come of any ... (read in full...)

Any thoughts about my flirting with this older, married man at work? Can't stop thinking about him.

Q.   Hey okay this is a complicated one, there's this guy at work and we are really close friends outside of work. We have a really good relationship both in and out of work and we tell each other a hell of alot of stuff. Basically he phones me...

A.   3 February 2008: You really do not want to have anything to do with your boss, it would be a grave mistake to make,why some one at your age is not going out and enjoying the single life, i really do not know, if you do get involved with him, then you will become the ... (read in full...)

Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?

Q.   i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...

A.   30 January 2008: Hi. It sounds to me that you have a lot of common sense, your mates only do this because they are sheep and follow the crowd, you on the other hand have reservations about this act and therefore it makes you a better person for not being a foll... (read in full...)

He thinks the relationship is ok, but I don't!

Q.   My Boyfriend Thinks That The Relationship Is Working,, But The Problem Is That I Dont. Please Help Me! I Told Him Thats It Hard To Speak Now and and It May Not Work But I Dno...And He Has Not Replied. What Can I Do Because I Dont Wna Hurt Him! ...

A.   29 January 2008: If you are not happy in your relationship and it does not work for you, then it is better to leave it know, instead of going on and making it harder to leave in the future, the longer you delay the more hurtful it will become and i am sure you dont ... (read in full...)

20 years old...in love with a 51 y/o who wants a future with me.

Q.   I'm a 20 year old gal in love with a 51 year old man,who wants a future with me, what must i do? please help!!!!!...

A.   28 January 2008: Hi. Age is not a problem, only if you make it one, if your both in love and feel that everything is alright within your relationship then you should go with the flow.... (read in full...)

20 years old...in love with a 51 y/o who wants a future with me.

Q.   I'm a 20 year old gal in love with a 51 year old man,who wants a future with me, what must i do? please help!!!!!...

A.   28 January 2008: Hi. Age is not a problem, only if you make it one, if your both in love and feel that everything is alright within your relationship then you should go with the flow.... (read in full...)

He cheated with his ex and dumped me because I am too controlling.

Q.   Ok...Well, I've known this guy for about 8 years. We started dating 9 months ago but he dumped me 2 months ago...because *He* cheated on me and had sex with his ex. So after that day I would try to restrict him from going over his friends' houses o...

A.   28 January 2008: Hi. Why on earth are you worried about this two timing, cheating, low down using you person, if he dumped you and he has had more that 1 relationship when you were together why are you bothering,you should be looking out for yourself, get out ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating or was he really just joking??

Q.   My boyfriend of over two years likes to play jokes a lot. Recently, however, his jokes have included telling me he has been: 1. seeing someone from his gym for a few months and they really like each alot, then saying just kidding. 2. he is ...

A.   28 January 2008: Hi. 1) I do not for one second think he is kidding about the relationships he is having. 2)why on earth are you letting this idiot treat you like this, for heavens sake get rid of the bum, and find some one else.... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant while being on top during sex?

Q.   can you get pregnant while being on top during sex?...

A.   25 January 2008: hi. It does not matter what position you have sex, if your not on the pill or he is not wearing protection, then you will get pregnant.... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and a boy in class touched me innapropriately!

Q.   I'm only 13 years old and I'm really scared. A boy in my class touched my private:( he just, you know pushed me against my locker and rubbed himself against my body and also touche my private. what do i do? ...

A.   25 January 2008: hi, you really needs to report this person to your teacher or school councilor, this is not something he should be doing to you,with or without your consent,he is trying to find how far he can go with you, come on babe do not let him get away wit... (read in full...)

We're getting married but he's interested in someone else. Help!

Q.   My boyfriend and I of over 5 yrs have been having some problems lately. We are engaged and are planning on getting married. But something has changed because he has met this girl who lives and hour or more away from us. He is all of the sudden ...

A.   25 January 2008: Hi. I really do not want you to think that i am trying to hurt you or your feelings in any way,the problem is that your relationship is 5 years old and because he has met some one a week ago and decided to change your marriage arrangements, you real... (read in full...)

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