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I can't hav sex with my gf...because she reminds me of a horse.

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Question - (23 March 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 31 March 2011)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hey aunties I feel really terrible about something about a dashing lady that I've been seeing for almost 7 months. That's why I'm here looking for advice. We get on well, have lots in common and here lately we've been getting frisky. We haven't had intercourse yet which isn't me. It's playing on my manhood because she's starting to give out little hints here and there about us making love. I've tried to make a move six different times but I can't get past one part of her physical that causes me to go from erect to an instant soft. It's her mouth. Her gums are mega huge that they overshadow her teeth and they're brown. Im not being mean but they're so out there that when she smiles she looks just like a horse.

I've been doing everything with my mind to try to minimize it like crossing my eyes when she smiles so I don't see it as much and another thing by repeating to myself how she can't help it but nothings working. Alls I see is that horse, mr ed, when she smiles, laughs, talks and its hardest to overlook when she kisses me. I go soft. I want to try going further with her relationship wise but im not sure if it would be A wise move. I don't see this getting any better. We get on emotionally. She's attractive but I can't get past that horse part of her. It kills my sexual attraction for making love to her. Does this make me shallow? Is there away I can get around this? Will it go away or get better or worse with time. Im at a stand still. Do I need to try harder?

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A female reader, jonas Singapore +, writes (31 March 2011):

jonas agony auntSorry but I think that's really mean of you because you have been dating her for 7 months. Some people are born with gums they can't help it. As for their teeth, it could be that the parents never really taught them how to brush properly so they were neglected. If it bothers you in the first place and has always did, then don't waste her time.

Instead of trying to find out if there's anything you could help her like seek dental help if one, you would do so if you are serious about her.

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A male reader, ironman777 New Zealand +, writes (23 March 2011):

definately dont bring the subject up - she know's what they are like and shes probably really happy she's found someone who doesnt mind them. Your leading her on by not telling her why your not attracted to her physically and if its a deal breaker stop wasting time!

If it isnt, then suggest you do things that perhaps get things underway in the sexual department that dont focus on kissing her mouth so much, get her turned on by kissing her neck....

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntIf there is no attraction, there is no attraction, pure and simple. Time to find a new girlfriend.

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A female reader, largentsgirl89 United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

largentsgirl89 agony auntSexual attraction is very important in a relationship and although most people consider that shallow, all people subconsciously pick their partners based on certain features (physical, mental, emotional) that they find attractive.

You say that her gums are brown? Are they swollen? Brown gums is usually a side effect of gingivitis and if that is what she has, she needs to have it treated as soon as possible. IS having brown gums normal for her (I don't think it is)?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

"We haven't had intercourse yet" haha lol that is just so proper and formal... :-p

And hey don't complain, horses are beautiful animals... and Mr. Ed was a lovely horse...

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2011):

TELLULAH agony auntOh dear! This must be very hard.

Could you not suggest she gets her teeth whitened? Maybe that would help. Other than that maybe a nose bag?

Sorry! it is really funny though.

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A female reader, justjess United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2011):

justjess agony aunther gums are brown and are coming between her teeth?

that doesn't sound healthy and she should go to the dentist. what is her dental hygene like?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

We all have our physical imperfections. Try viewing it in a softer light, one without judgmental cynicism. It sounds like your really enjoy this woman, so it would be a shame to let a little thing like that sour the relationship for you both.

Oh, and... I wouldn't ever bring the subject up with her, if I were you. ;-)

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