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I have nightmares and hear voices before I sleep. What should I do?

Q.   i'm 13 and i have never had a real problom sleeping before but for the past few months i keep hearing things that keep me up at night so i turn the tv on to block out the noise. but then i wake up agin and hear my name being called over and ...

A.   8 September 2008: Hi Try not to eat a heavy meal before bedtime this will help you sleep. You can also listen to good soothing music to help you relax. Try have a warm bath before bedtime or you can have a warm drink. You should speak to your mum and she could tr... (read in full...)

A lot of people think my girlfriend is a loser and she's afraid I'll leave her because of that, which is not true. What can I do to change her mind?

Q.   I'm dating a girl who everyone says she's a loser (which she isn't) and I'm being treated differently for it. When we started dating all my friends kept saying need to dump her. She put up with a lot of crap from everyone (like jocks, popular girls ...

A.   5 September 2008: Hi Just be there for her. Keep reassuring her that you love her for who she is and that you think she is a wonderful person. You should keep trying to convince her otherwise - Im sure she would soon start to believe you if you keep this up. H... (read in full...)

My girlfriend cheated on me and I think she is still cheating as she continues to talk to him daily...

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years.I was her only friend.We were happy,were always together,the sex was great until last december where i caught one of her txt to a guy she just met about a week ago saying "did you get the lubricant" ...

A.   3 September 2008: Hi I personally would not be happy if my bf was to speak to his ex gf. The fact that you gf slept with this guy and broken the trust you have for her - you should be feeling the way you are feeling. If she is really serious about you then she woul... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's been nasty and treating me like dirt lately!

Q.   me and my boyfreind have been together 2 years in october but lately hes been nasty and treatin me like dirt he thinks he can walk all over me i thought it was just in my head and shurgged it off but my friend say i dont know why i put up with it he ...

A.   28 August 2008: Hi You really need to sort this out.NO ONE should ever treat you like dirt and if you feel this way the you should hget out of this relationship. People that love each other treat each other with respect and affection. I have no idea how your bf ... (read in full...)

Can my cousin kill her unborn child by drinking water and vingar?

Q.   if you drink water and and vingar can u kill your unborn child, because my cousin does that and i was wondering can that happen ?...

A.   25 August 2008: Hi Im sure that it will cause some damage to the baby. I know that Vinegar dries up your blood and that is what the baby needs to stay healthy. if she has not blood - due to her drinking vinegar then she would harm her baby. When you are pregnant... (read in full...)

How can I do something nice for my grandma to stop her stressing out?

Q.   Hello everyone, My problem doesn't have anything to do with sex or anything, its about my grandma. I love my grandma so much and she's sooooo stressed out I'm 17 and she's like my best friend. Im scared that she's gonna pass away from all the stre...

A.   31 July 2008: Hi Why dont you bake her something nice? You can give her a massage or even cook her something. Im sure whatever you do she would appreciate it. Regards Mail me if you wanna talk Sexi... (read in full...)

I'm self-conscious about my body, I'm afraid that when we have sex he'll tell his friends about it!

Q.   I'm self concious of my body and am scared to have sex for the first time because i fear that he won't like my body and will tell all his friends about it. Are guys usually like this. please help!...

A.   31 July 2008: Hi If you have any doubt about this guy then maybe you should reconsider your decision to have sex with him. You need to be sure that it is something that you really want to do. you should trust your partner and be certain that it is somethin... (read in full...)

I'm a gay man, married to a woman... am I doing the right thing, pretending to be straight?

Q.   I need help!! I am a gay guy age 29, trying to have a straight life and relationship. I love my wife more than anything. now i have two questions: 1: Am i doing the right thing by trying to be straight? 2: Are there ways I can spice up our...

A.   31 July 2008: Hi If you love your wife who is the opposite sex, then why do you say that you are gay?!? you are probably bisexual. If you chose not to be with your wife anymore then you should tell her that you are bi and have decieded to go your seperate... (read in full...)

She says she will leave me if I don't buy her gifts. So should I continue to buy her more things?

Q.   Hey I am 15 and i have a girlfriend who is 19. She has a job and lives with her parents. I am in school my girlfriend scemms to like me for all the things that i buy her. I have been buying her iPods and laptops and all that. At the mom...

A.   31 July 2008: Hi You seem like a sweet guy and this may sound harsh but she may only be using you. If she really like you,she wouldnt worry whether you bought her anything or nor - she should still like you. The fact that she told you that she would leave yo... (read in full...)

My girlfriend thinks I have other girls - and all because of a silly game. Is this normal behaviour? How do I put the trust back?

Q.   Hello All. To get straight to the point. I have been living with my girlfriend for about 2 months. We've been seeing each other for just over 3 years on and off. She went away for work last month and as a surprise i bought her the game s...

A.   23 July 2008: Hi You need to reassure that what was said was not true. Explain how that name ended up there. You need to let her know that you love her and would never hurt and that she is the only one for you. Trust is hard to get back if it was lost. Dont do ... (read in full...)

I get a burning feeling when I pee. Can anyone suggest what's causing it?

Q.   ok, I have a big problem. Im suppose to start my period today, and well i kinda did. But the thing is i have to pee or feel as though i have to pee every few mins. But when i pee it burns, and its very litely bloody. I dont know what to make of ...

A.   8 July 2008: Hi You may have a bladder infection which i suggest that you go to the doctor and get it checked out. Also make certain that you are drinking lots of water which can help you. Go to the doctor to get a confirmed answer. Regards Mail... (read in full...)

I Won't Give Up on an Older Guy, Even Though He's Engaged

Q.   the man i love recently (as in a few days back) got engaged to his girlfriend of about 3 years. i can't explain it how intensely i feel this, but i KNOW we are meant to be together. i feel it strongly enough to CONFIDENTLY say that we are MEANT to...

A.   8 July 2008: Hi As harsh as this may sound, i think that you should try to leave him alone. He has just gotten engaged so i think he has made his intentions pretty much clear. Just go out and meet other people. You Mr. Right is out there waiting for you. ... (read in full...)

Going out with two girls and need to pick just one. How do I let the other go without hurting her feelings?

Q.   uhm... hey to all my angels!!! in a situation and need some advice asap.. il make this very brief hope you understand. two girls.. going out with both.. both of them dont know about each other.. like them both alot but dont know what to do. dont ...

A.   3 July 2008: Hi No matter which way you do it someone is going to get hurt. It wrong to contiue what you doing but you have to make a decision soon. Just look at which one you would rather be with, who treat you right and who loves and would stay faithful... (read in full...)

How do I get my boyfriend to realise I don't like obscene language?

Q.   How do I get my boyfriend to realise once and for all...I don't like him directing obscene language to me, particularly F-bombs? It gives the impression that we have a trashy relationship, which we don't! I never speak to him that way and I have ...

A.   26 May 2008: Hi I had that problem with my bf until yesterday i really decided i cant take it anymore. He swore at yesterday coz i wanted to see what was behind a building (i was by myself) and i got reallly upset coz it was my birthday and i ended up crying a... (read in full...)

How do I make my boobs bigger, and will that attract a boyfriend?

Q.   I have tiny boobs and i have no boyfriend, how do i make my boobs bigger, and will that attract a boyfriend?...

A.   26 May 2008: Hi Swty It a pleasure anytime!... (read in full...)

How do I make my boobs bigger, and will that attract a boyfriend?

Q.   I have tiny boobs and i have no boyfriend, how do i make my boobs bigger, and will that attract a boyfriend?...

A.   23 May 2008: Hi Like evryone said your boobs will grow in time. Also whatever the size of your boobs are, your bf (although you are young to be having a bf) should accept you the way you are and like you just the same. Regards Sexi... (read in full...)

My parents want to bribe me not to go out with him... what can I do?

Q.   So my boyfriend who i been on and off with for 3 years now is really special to me. The only thing is my parents just dont approve. When we break up they are so happy an when we are together again they get so angry at me an dont talk to me for a few ...

A.   23 May 2008: HI Personally mail me. I have been in your situation. Regards Sexi... (read in full...)

I'm upset all the time. Is there any reason for it?

Q.   Hi, ive been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, at the beginning we had a few problems but the last two years has been the best ever. the problem is, im not happy and i dont know why. My BF spoils me rotten and makes me laugh soo much and i ...

A.   23 May 2008: Hi Dont be too tough on yourself. We all feel down at some timw or the other. Just hang in there it nay just be a phase that would soon pass. If you feel that it aint the case then you should go speak to someone and get a professional to help you... (read in full...)

My family is happy for me, but my boyfriend is freaking out and hasn't told his parents I'm pregnant!

Q.   I am 21 years old and I just found out I'm pregnant. My family is happy for me, but my boyfriend, who is 20 is freaking out. He won't tell his parents because he's scared of their reaction. Is there anything I can do to help him with this? ...

A.   22 May 2008: Hi This is a hard situation for you. I know a girl that was pregnant and her bf was hesitant to tell his parents eventually she picked up the phone and told his mom. Now everything has turmed out ok for them, they are married and living together... (read in full...)

He says he loves me, I believe him, but the moment he's gone I ask myself lots of questions,

Q.   I met my boyfriend January this year, he told me that he does not have a girlfriend, and i did not believe him because all man say that. Later my friend told me that he has girlfriend, a long time one, that did not bother me much... until he told...

A.   16 May 2008: Hi Why did you move away? It is clear that you dont trust this guy and by moving away (with the distance) this is just going to put more doubt in your mind. Do you really love this guy? Why dont you ask him for some sort of commitment to see if h... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a girl to like getting spanked?

Q.   i like to be spanked during sex. whats wrong with me?...

A.   13 May 2008: Hi There is nothing wrong with you it can be seem a some type of "foreplay". As long as you like it why should he stop it? Just enjoy that part of your sex life!! Regards Sexi... (read in full...)

After 3 negative results, could I still be pregnant?

Q.   I'm 12 days late and took three pregnancy tests and they all came out negative, could i be pregnant?...

A.   9 May 2008: Hi Your period is probably late because you are stressing (abt the fact that it hasnt come yet) just relax and things should work themselves out. When you are under stress or are tense your period is likely to be late. Regadrs,mail ... (read in full...)

My friend's father touched me in places he shouldn't have. Do I let him get away with it?

Q.   i was about 14 years old and still in school i used to go to my friends frequently but he used to be in bed and his father would ask me to go in and he would touch me in places that he shouldnt i was real scared, i was really young at the time and ...

A.   9 May 2008: Hi No, tell someone and get help. He needs to be dealt with. Dont worry about getting in trouble because you did nothing wrong. Tell him so you can help someone else, maybe even your friend! Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

My daughter is 19, unmarried and pregnant. Any pointers?

Q.   My daughter is 19 and lives with her bf. I was against that decision, but she's grown. Now, she tells me that she is pregnant, I don't know how to handle the situation without alienating her. I don't approve because she is not married. It's not what ...

A.   9 May 2008: Hi As hard as it may be just support her. That is what she need now. Try to forgive her for has happened. Things are done and some of them we cant change. If you approach the situation right then you could turn it around and mke it a happy on... (read in full...)

How can I help my girlfriend? I'm the only one to whom she has confided she has been raped.

Q.   Hi, my girlfriend recently confided in me that she had been raped, or molested or something of the sort not too long ago, possibly less then a few months ago, she refuses to divulge any details to me, she won't tell me who, when, where, what ...

A.   9 May 2008: Hi The good thing is that you listened to her. Just continue to be there fro her when she needs you. She should go for some counselling as this could affect her later on in life.If she doesnt want to tell anyone its her choice and there is not m... (read in full...)

I want to write my husband a letter about how hurt I am due to his cheating and what this marriage means to me!

Q.   i have just found out that my husband was cheating on me for the last 3 months he has decided to leave the other woman and work things out between us for the sake of our marriage and for our 2 kids. i want to send him a letter telling him how hurt...

A.   7 May 2008: Hi It is a good idea to write a letter. Somethings are better read then said. I have just written a letter to my bf (even though we see each ither everyday and things are fine there are somethings that one just cant say face to face). You should s... (read in full...)

How should we tell our families that we love each other and are happy together no matter what?

Q.   i'm dating this girl that i've been with for over a year now.. and things are soo perfect between us.. she's everything i've wanted and she says i'm everything she's wanted only thing is that our familys don't like us dating.. i'm 19 she is 20 my ...

A.   7 May 2008: Hi Just do this together so that you can get through this. Just try speaking to your parents and they would soon come to terms with yourlls relationship. This may take some time so you should be prepared for alot of talking and compromi... (read in full...)

How should we tell our families that we love each other and are happy together no matter what?

Q.   i'm dating this girl that i've been with for over a year now.. and things are soo perfect between us.. she's everything i've wanted and she says i'm everything she's wanted only thing is that our familys don't like us dating.. i'm 19 she is 20 my ...

A.   7 May 2008: Hi Just do this together so that you can get through this. Just try speaking to your parents and they would soon come to terms with yourlls relationship. This may take some time so you should be prepared for alot of talking and compromi... (read in full...)

Can a man get an erection even if he doesn't like the girl?

Q.   Ok this is mainly a question for the men out there, but womens responses are more than welcome too. Anyway, if a guy likes a girl he can get an erection when cuddling/sitting with her etc (normal stuff). If he doesn't like a girl 'in that way' wi...

A.   7 May 2008: Yes he can. It is something that most guys "cant control". Im sure as you get older you would be able to. Regards... (read in full...)

Romantic music for a wedding - ideas please.

Q.   Hi, This is probably an unusual one! But I am looking for help in regards to picking out music for an upcoming wedding ceremony! I dont want anything too lonely as it will be lonely enough. But ideas of more romantic tone. The main one I am having ...

A.   7 May 2008: Try Butterfly kisees( not sure who sings it) and this i promise you is wonderful. Regards Sexi ... (read in full...)

I'm being used to make another girl jealous - I want to get even!

Q.   How do you get even with a guy for using you to try to make another girl jealous? This is happening at work. I'd love to sock it to him!!!...

A.   7 May 2008: Hi Why dont you just tell the other girl. If he is making it seem like there is something going between you two then just tell the other person.You could also tell this guy that you prefer if he isnt so "friendly" as your bf dont like the idea... (read in full...)

He texted his ex on her birthday, Valentines, and other occasions...what's the deal!?

Q.   HELP! I was just checking thru my phone bill and found that my boyfriend of three years still has some contact with his x-financee - He has texted her or called on her b-day. valentines day. new years eve, before he and I went to Jamaica with his ...

A.   23 April 2008: Maybe this guy is not over his ex. When my ex and i broke uo i got rid of everything (photos,messages and alot of letters) because that was a past chapter in my life and i didnt want my current bf to find them and let it create a problem for us. ... (read in full...)

I'm not ready to lose virginity yet because I'm waiting for marriage but the girls I hang with all think I'm weird

Q.   im 19 yrs almost 20yrs very attractive well educated n sexy.n guys do think im well i do get guys...but im still a not ready to loose it yet because im waiting for marriage but the girls i hang with all think im weird..and when ...

A.   22 April 2008: Swty, dont let this get to you. You dont need to worry about what people think about you and if they think that you are weird because you wana remain a virgin then there must be something wrong with them. What you chose to do is your decision and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriends mate keeps groping me!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now but the problem is his mates they try chatting me up all the time. They also try touching me and call me a slag because i have had sex with my new boyfriend How do i make them stop being like ...

A.   22 April 2008: Hi Firstly what type of a bf do you have that he tells his friends that he has had sex with you? He is partly to blame.Also it is possible that because you have slept with your bf (they see you as an easy person) so they would wana try and slee... (read in full...)

Do ex's ever come back? What's your experience of this?

Q.   I was just wondering are there any successfull stories out there in which an ex came back after leaving because of arguments all time. ...

A.   22 April 2008: Yep exes do come back when they realize what they have let go and what they are missing out on. Just hang in there. You should try and pursue any communication. Call or text him and see from there. If he doesnt then it would be better to just cut ... (read in full...)

I fancy a girl I know, I like guys also. I feel so confused!

Q.   Im 13 and i have a huge crush on a girl and shes not the only one ive liked i think i might be falling in love with her but im not sure ive liked plenty of guys but because of this crush i think im gay but how do i know for sure? she already knows i ...

A.   22 April 2008: Hi It is just a phase that you are going throught which will pass. Just hang in there. At your ags is likely that you would be confused that you would be confused about you identity so dont worry it is normal. Regards,mail me if you wanna tal... (read in full...)

My girl puts up barriers due to our age gap. Do I fight for this or let this go?

Q.   I am a 31yr old single guy who has strong feelings for a girl who is 21yrs, I have known her for 4 yrs now and we have been very close for much of this time, an up and down relationship mainly due to her not wanting to accept that she has fallen for ...

A.   22 April 2008: Hi Im 20 and my bf is 31. I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. We have been through alot with people (including my parents) but we fought to stay together. Im not ashamedof him and would go anywhere with him. It is the best... (read in full...)

He texted his ex on her birthday, Valentines, and other occasions...what's the deal!?

Q.   HELP! I was just checking thru my phone bill and found that my boyfriend of three years still has some contact with his x-financee - He has texted her or called on her b-day. valentines day. new years eve, before he and I went to Jamaica with his ...

A.   22 April 2008: Hi It depends what type of a relationship you have. I personall would not like the idea of my bf keeping contact with any of his exes and he doesnt like the idea of me and my exes so to keep things simple we dont communicate with exes. I did have... (read in full...)

I hit my pregnant girlfriend and now she is ignoring me! I feel awful...

Q.   I hit my girlfriend and she is 5 months pregnant i feel bad and everthing but she is ignoring me and i dont get. I said sorry she was winding me up and i hit her i really need to see what can i do please help i feel awful. PLZ HELP?! she is alot ...

A.   17 April 2008: If you were my bf i would have left your sorry ass. If you can treat her right then why should she want to bring this baby up near you. You are an ass! ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 is it possible for me to move in with my 21 y-o boyfriend?

Q.   Hi ok so there is this guy ive never met him but hell be 21 soon and im 16(5 year age difference)and lately there have been family problems going on and my mom is actiung much of a mom is it possible i can move in with him right now instead of w...

A.   17 April 2008: Hi Mail me and i would let you in on my experineces! regards, sexi!... (read in full...)

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