My cousin's husband who is 31 has approached me sexually (touching me, etc) several times (I'm 16), I know it's wrong but I like it. What to do?
Q. I'm in a sticky situation. It all started at my moms birthday when I was getting tired and went to my room to change in to pajamas. My step cousins husband then walked in an saw me changing. I tried to get away, but I couldn't. He then started maki...
A. 26 September 2008: Personally I 'm not into dirty old men anyway....which is exactly what he is!... (read in full...)
My cousin's husband who is 31 has approached me sexually (touching me, etc) several times (I'm 16), I know it's wrong but I like it. What to do?
Q. I'm in a sticky situation. It all started at my moms birthday when I was getting tired and went to my room to change in to pajamas. My step cousins husband then walked in an saw me changing. I tried to get away, but I couldn't. He then started maki...
A. 26 September 2008: You have a responsilibility to your cousin to stop this now. it is natural to want to be close to a man and horny but do it with someone outside your family. he is just using you anyway! He is a cheating scum sucker... (read in full...)
I really want to buy the right costume for my hubbys birthday surprise. So guys, what really turns you on??
Q. Hi, This one is just a bit of fun really but it was something i was thinking about as i really want to buy the right costume for my hubbys birthday surprise. Ok, guys, what turns you on the most? 1.Sexy nurse 2.French Maid 3.Police Wo...
A. 24 September 2008: LoL Waz!!!! smell me fingers...lol... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my husband to masturbate all the time?
Q. Ok all here goes. My husband masterbates alot. I do not know what anyone would consider excessive. But it is alot. I have asked him why he does it so much and he looks me straight in the face and says he doesn't know why. It isn't for the orgasm ...
A. 5 September 2008: It releases a chemical in the brain that relaxes people and is apparently very addictive.This relieves stress. As long as he is still intimate with you I wouldn't worry x... (read in full...)
Boyfriend masturbates to porn and then says, "it's not you". Why does he choose this over me?
Q. Hey everyone, I really badly need to get this off my chest (no pun intended). I've been with my boyfriend now for 3 years and when we first got together, things were great. Then I found out he watches porn. One night, I was feeling ill, and...
A. 5 September 2008: Saltwater...? Is it 100% normal for a man to prefer wanking to a porn movie over having actual real sex? No, I thought not. That is the issue here! Men are being lazy when they stop having sex with their parners and I really think that they g... (read in full...)
I always hear women should understand men's preference for porn. But no one seems to expect men to understand women's feelings on the matter?
Q. a quick question about porn From the many questions I read on here many women are uncomfortable with their partners using porn. I know how they feel because personally it makes me feel inadequate and hurt that my husband wants to look at other ...
A. 4 September 2008: Diovan...judging by my past and current boyfriends it would appear I actually have a thing for bald tubbies anyway.
Maybe I should borrow your porn!
:0)
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What can I do to get things back to normal?
Q. I seriously liked this boy and we sadly had sex when we were drunk in the holiday and now we have barely spoken around school since we got back. I really want things to go back to normal and not be awkward but can't stop thinking about what we did. ...
A. 4 September 2008: Oh my god...I did just the same thing when I was your age! I was 15 the funfair was in town...I had half a bottle of 20/20 and bam...i'd offered myself on a plate to a boy who I thought I loved who later couldn't look me in the eye at school!...but ... (read in full...)
He's been saying he's "too tired" but I catch him watch him porn!
Q. my husband and i have been married since may this year we have been together for a year and a half. in the beginning of our relationship we had sex atleast once a week but for the past year he always says he is tired but I catch him watching...
A. 4 September 2008: read the advice i received for the same problem...it may be of help. you are not alone! http://www.dearcupid.org/question/jenna-jameson-has-stolen-my-man-and-i.html... (read in full...)
I always hear women should understand men's preference for porn. But no one seems to expect men to understand women's feelings on the matter?
Q. a quick question about porn From the many questions I read on here many women are uncomfortable with their partners using porn. I know how they feel because personally it makes me feel inadequate and hurt that my husband wants to look at other ...
A. 4 September 2008: (Diovan!!!!..)Either I've seen some proper dodgy porn or the men in them aren't the best...lets be honest they're all bald with tubby tums...it is as if they drag a man in off the street as long as they can maintain an erection they'll do! I'd ra... (read in full...)
Husband is in the navy and announces faded love. How can I make our marriage work again?
Q. my husband is in the navy and i moved myself and our three kids back to texas. he just told me yesterday he wasnt in love with me anymore because i wasnt there but i am moving to be with him this week. i need to know how can i make our marrage to ...
A. 2 September 2008: It is hard having a relationship. It is hard having a relationship with someone in the armed forces It is hard having a relationship with 3 kids!!! You need to have a proper talk with your husband and tell him how much you love him, how much you w... (read in full...)
Why my friends can talk to girls but not me?
Q. hello got 1 more question how come when i talk to girls i get really nerves and scared and like if i ask them something they will take the piss and plus most of my mates can talk to girls really easily...
A. 2 September 2008: Just be everyones mate and dont worry if you are a bit shy...I was always quite attracted to those lads that didn't talk too much. made guys seem a bit mysterious and unobtainable....a challenge. good luck mr x ... (read in full...)
Age differences - should people's reactions matter?
Q. I am a 34 year old male who has just begun dating a 19 year old female. I love being with her and adore her greatly, she is mature for her years , fun, serious when neccessary and has all the qualities of my ideal woman! However, I am concerned ...
A. 2 September 2008: Good luck to you I say....You've as much chance as anyone else of making it work.....we're all just making it up as we go along too! I hope you are very happy and lets face it...you fellas never grow up and are big kids forever right? x... (read in full...)
He cheated to be with me...will he do it to me?
Q. I really like this guy and he has cheated on his girlfriend (my best friend) to be with me and I am scared that when I do get with him he will cheat on me. Is this true?...
A. 2 September 2008: You must care a lot about him to betray your best pal, sometimes things happen and we don't mean to hurt anyone but we do. But can a leopard change its spots? And if it cant, do you deserve to feel the pain you have inflicted on another? I... (read in full...)
If I give him space is it possible that he will come running back to me when he's sorted his head out?
Q. me and my boyfriend have recently split. (i ended it cos he wasn't making me happy). He just came out of a 3 yr relationship when we got together (about a month after they split) so I guess he was on the rebound. I still really like him so if I give ...
A. 1 September 2008: let him be him, and you be you, and stay in touch and see what happens. You dont have to know all the answers today, just take each day as it comes and be a good friend to him. Surrender and release and he might just come back to you. Good luck ... (read in full...)
Flat chested forever?
Q. Okay, I will be 16 in about a month, and I'm still almost completely flat chested. Do I still have time to grow, or is it too late?...
A. 1 September 2008: Hey...I'd just like to say that I was a late developer. I was tiny, didn't start my periods untill I was 15 and didn't get boobs till I was 16 going on 17....I am now an 'e' cup!...and 5ft 6. I felt like you and wanted to feel like a woman. It is ev... (read in full...)
My husband says he is miserable with me and this time he sounds determined!
Q. Me and my husband are currently living in Japan. He is in the army. Ever since i got here things have not been the same. He has told me he is miserable with me but then a couple days later he says he wants to try to make it work. This has happened ...
A. 1 September 2008: You are living a tough life over there, away from friends and family and your relationship is probably different there than it would be back home. Perhaps your husband is more disillusioned with the lifestyle than with you but he is taking it out on ... (read in full...)
My husband watches porn, but won't have sex with me.
Q. My husband is not interested in sex with me, no matter what I do, and, believe me, I have tried everything. He prefers unusual porn sites (women trampling men, women smothering men) and I have offered to do these things to him but he says he does ...
A. 31 August 2008: I'm going through the same thing....you are not alone. Look at my column and the advice I have received. Good luck x ... (read in full...)
How do I escape from my abusive boyfriend?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years we have been living together for 1 year everynight is the same story i end up in bed crying my eyes out, he constantly accuses of me of infidelity and being places i have never heard of, hes always putting ...
A. 29 August 2008: What does he have to do to make you leave? Cos right now...he can treat you just how he wants and all he has to do is say sorry and you go back. I bet its nice for a day or two....but then something will piss him off and off he goes....whoosh..... (read in full...)
Breaking up with him seems extreme, but I can't stop obsessing over his porn watching!
Q. Well this isn't a very original problem, except for now its happening to me and although a lot of questions I have been reading hit close to home, I have to ask anyway... My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years and living together ...
A. 28 August 2008: I'm in the same position girl...except my fella has developed that much of a fondness for porn that we rarely have sex anymore.
He told me loads of times that he will stop then i end up snooping and find more.
He has however disposed of the porn... (read in full...)
Why do I still miss my ex boyfriend and his abuse?
Q. I though as you get older that you become wiser, well that is not always the case. I did not date for a few years. I had the stomach surgery that helped me to lose over 100 pounds. I met the most handsome man at the dance and he was attracted to ...
A. 27 August 2008: My friends and I have a saying...
'The best way to get over a man is to get under another'
I'm not saying you should have a one night stand (never been a fan of those myself)but it is normal to focus on the last 'love' you have had until you find... (read in full...)
He wants "a bit of fun" now and then but I've never interacted with a bloke before and am worried it shows!
Q. Ok, I am imterested in this guy at work who has told me he just wants a bit of fun now and again, the problem is I have never had any interaction with a bloke and I don't want him to know, how can I become more confident or come across more ...
A. 27 August 2008: Eh? A bit of fun now and again? Hmm, that sounds a bit ropey. Hope he isn't married girl. If you feel like you'll be happy having a bit of fun every now and again then go for it. He doesn't know what experience you've had and we all have to star... (read in full...)
Romantic gestures towards women - some brainstorming!
Q. Hi. For a little project I'm working on, please, would as many women as possible kindly list three gestures which they would deem to be 'romantic' towards them. Many thanks!...
A. 27 August 2008: *cooking a suprise meal with a posh scrummy pudding...(especially if the man cant cook..its very sweet)
*washing or brushing my hair...is that weird?
*Over-doing the compliments and touching my face. Ooh love having my face touched.... (read in full...)
How do I stay gone from him once I'm gone?? I keep coming back to him as I miss the good things that have been.
Q. I have been in an mostly emotional- sometimes physically abusive relationship for 7 years. We have 3 kids together- I have left this man at least once a year b/c I get to the point where I am so sick of being called a b____ and fat____ or dumb or ...
A. 27 August 2008: I've been there in the past...I'm angry and think..thats it I'm leaving the monster forever then when the initial anger wears off I start to wonder what I'm going to do without him and slowly begin to forget the nasty things that he's said. And of ... (read in full...)
Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back!
Q. Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back! I have been with my boyfriend 4 years and at first we had sex a lot (as you do), we were adventurous, watched porn together, discussed fantasies and had a bloody good time. After a few mont...
A. 27 August 2008: Well done anon for breaking away because enough is enough. I'm hoping that my man can try to sort this out and we can get back to having a normal relationship. I'm probably fooling myself that this problem is not going to rear its ugly head in ... (read in full...)
Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back!
Q. Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back! I have been with my boyfriend 4 years and at first we had sex a lot (as you do), we were adventurous, watched porn together, discussed fantasies and had a bloody good time. After a few mont...
A. 23 August 2008: Thankyou all for your advice, I cant believe it has taken me over 3 years to finally realise I cant go on like this. I have had a proper talk to him and told him how I feel. He has said he knows he has a problem and he hads got rid of the dvd's... (read in full...)
Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back!
Q. Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back! I have been with my boyfriend 4 years and at first we had sex a lot (as you do), we were adventurous, watched porn together, discussed fantasies and had a bloody good time. After a few mont...
A. 22 August 2008: Yeah and he's probably already got it stashed under the bed!... (read in full...)
Accept to stay with him and hardly see him or just dump him as he says?
Q. my boyfriend and i been together nearly 5 months, ghe used to want to spend loads of time with me, we went out to lots of places, now he has 2 jobs and we see each other once a week, i understand he has to work, but now he always wants to do is be ...
A. 22 August 2008: I think you should concentrate on having a bloody good time with your mates and join a netball team and learn Italian and do overtime to pay for a girly holiday...anyway you get the idea!
Do stuff you want, then...you'll not only stop dwelling on w... (read in full...)
I found texts and pictures of other girls on his phone. I need help to make this work.
Q. me and my bf have been together for about 3 and a half months but recently he has been really insecure i didnt know why till i looked through his phone.... i found pitures of other girls and texts saying send me some sexy pics please babes. he accus...
A. 22 August 2008: Do not erase your Facebook page! Being on Facebook does not mean you're being naughty.
Your boyfriend on the other hand is being very naughty and it sounds like he is not ready to settle down with just one girlfriend to me.
I agree with Bubblloo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a porn addiction. He does't seem to find me sexually attractive.
Q. I have a problem and I really don't even know what to think of it anymore. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He's kind, intelligent, gentle, loving, and generally amazing to me. The only problem is that he has a porn addiction. He's ...
A. 22 August 2008: I am going through just the same thing girl. see my new post today. You are not on your own, a million guys would love to be with you...or indeed any women ...like us who enjoy sex and want more of it!... (read in full...)
I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?
Q. Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...
A. 22 August 2008: I'd defiantly be careful...I've seen Blue Planet and some of them have big teeth!... (read in full...)
I masturbate too fast and it's taking a toll on my sex life, what can I do?
Q. im 24 yrs old, i masturbate too fast and its taking a toll on my sex life what can i do to correct this?...
A. 22 August 2008: Do you mean that you climax too fast?... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be friends with an ex, to send her messages, etc?
Q. Should I be worried or is it nothing, but is it normal to be friends with your ex and when I say friends I don't mean when you see them in the street you just say hi I mean like emailing via msn or texting each other? My boyfriend said he was frie...
A. 22 August 2008: I wouldn't like it either girl, they were close once and it is bound to make you feel uneasy. But what can you do? He is allowed to speak to whomever he likes and so are you. On the upside....if they were that close wouldn't they still be togethe... (read in full...)
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