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Heya

My name is tasha

im 14 years old

i have 2 horses named Ginny & Romany

2 cats, piggles and narla.

I live with my sister, my mum & my dad...

Im from cornwall...

Im in year 10 (fourth year or 10th grade) Of high school or secondary school, what ever you call it!

r.i.p Bazil, ill miss you forever. 24/8/08

Thats is

~tasha xxx

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Condoms not only stop aids, they stop pregnancies...

This question has 5 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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1 October 2008: Why do so many people think that if you’re a virgin you don’t need to use a condom? Yes I’m 13 but I know what can happen if you don’t use one… yes I am still a virgin before you jump to conclusions! But the points in condoms are 1) To stop you f...

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I want to meet my online boyfriend

Q.   my boyfriend and i love each other so much, but the only problem is that we haven't met. we've been dating online and we've exchanged cell numbers...and he wants to met on my b'day but i do ont wanna met there, it's too far but i'll pull some ...

A.   5 February 2010: I'm in the same situation as you. If you decide to meet him, bring a parent with you. True the person you are meeting may not be a paedophile, but there is a chance he is. I met my boyfriend online, and we met in person, everything was fine, and ... (read in full...)

My friend wants me to have sex with her and I don't want to!

Q.   i am kinda in trouble here i have this friend i have known her since we were kids and now she wants me to have sex with her . . . .but i dont see her like that how do i tell her that i just want to be friends i dont know what to do i am confused?...

A.   3 February 2010: Just explain that you don't see her in that way, be careful how you word it. I say this from experience, because girls can be EVIL if they're upset (I know this because I am too :P). Just say to her something along the lines of: 'You're a really g... (read in full...)

Would going out with someone as young as 14 be wrong? And how would I approach him?

Q.   Here is my Dilemma. I am in my first year of sixth form at the moment, and we still mix quite a lot with the lower school kids. About a few months ago I started noticing this boy, first i thought ' hmmm hes nice' and now im thinking ' omg hes gorg...

A.   3 February 2010: Well, I'm dating a boy who is in sixth form, there's nothing wrong with dating someone a bit younger than you, its the fact you like him that counts. Just swallow your fear and talk to him, just like...join a club he goes to that you'll enjoy too,... (read in full...)

How can I get him to leave me alone!

Q.   Right. There's this guy who i met last year, and he is OBSESSED with me! I've tried to get him to stop texting me, as im with someone i love very much. He keeps saying he loves me, then when i say i dont feel the same he calls me horrible things. ...

A.   12 December 2009: it's been going since like... march. I dont know how to block his number. i dont have all the texts anymore... Next time he texts me i'll say my dad saw the texts. thanks guys x... (read in full...)

My daughter is ten! Is this sexual role play normal?

Q.   my daughter is ten and is friends with a girl the same age. my daughter told me about a year ago that her friend masturbates in their class at school (which i have since told the head teacher) and has now told me that this girl has been role playing ...

A.   2 November 2009: Anything to do with pedophillia is messed up in my mind. Keep your daughter away from her, and suggest to the mother of the other child to get that child some help, as obviously there is something wrong in the kids mind.... (read in full...)

Why is my boyfriend acting like this?

Q.   Is it abuse if your bf tries to force you into sex through making you feel guilty? By saying things like 'if you loved me' or 'if you wanted to see me happy you would do it', 'if you cared about me' etc. Is it abuse if he doesnt respect you when...

A.   19 August 2009: He sounds like a total jerk, who you could easily find someone better for you, he doesn't deserve you, you're too good for him. He does sound like he's abusing you, so leave him before something serious happens, like for example he might start hitt... (read in full...)

Teenagers - we're not all that bad.

Q.   A many people have informed me throughout growing up; teenage life is one of the toughest times, with the hormones, the pressures, and everything else that goes on, no-one gets it easy and some don't even get through it and i don't think many adults ...

A.   30 March 2009: Really good article! So true - Im the same as you! I hate it that just because of the minority, we all get judged so harshly. (: thanks for posting it (: Hugs Tasha 3... (read in full...)

If I try to move on I will be lonely. I don't have that many friends.

Q.   Well.. Im 14 and I have recently broken up with my ex. He was my first boyfriend that I fell in love with. He is in the year above me. And well when we first met he was crazy of me always phoning me texting me and I knew that we would be going ou...

A.   28 March 2009: Well, all i can say is something my mum said to me when i was in a similar situation: Boys are like boomarangs. If he truely loves you, he will come crawling back to you, on his knees begging for you. Seriously, it's true hun. Just be patie... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has serious weight issues

Q.   Okay, my boyfriend is having serious weight issues, he is 15 and is 6ft, he refuses to weigh himself, so we dont actually know how much he weighs, but that isnt the question, the question is how much Should he actually weigh? I want to get into his ...

A.   12 March 2009: I've tried telling him all this, he doesn't listen. I'm going to try and convince him to get some profession help... so yeah. thanks you guys :)... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has serious weight issues

Q.   Okay, my boyfriend is having serious weight issues, he is 15 and is 6ft, he refuses to weigh himself, so we dont actually know how much he weighs, but that isnt the question, the question is how much Should he actually weigh? I want to get into his ...

A.   11 March 2009: he thinks he is over weight and no he doesnt eat healthly, he eats then starvs himself for about 4 days. He used to be really anorexic, but is ish getting better but still starvs himself... (read in full...)

Is it my fault that he can't be on the internet, text or call?

Q.   I dont know if its my fault or not, but im in a internet relationship with a boy who i really do love, and his mum has now disconnected his internet and blocked his phone so he cant send texts, and i think its my fault... if it is what should i...

A.   14 November 2008: Everything has been sorted out, he told his mum how he feels about me, and all is good. Thanks to thoose who helped.... (read in full...)

I was straight until I met her... now I'm happy, but my family will kill me!

Q.   Hello. I am 24 and I was straight, I just broke up with my boyfriend and now I met a girl which is strange. I have some kind of attraction to her like crazy. I don't want to label my self gay, but she asked me to be her girlfriend and I finally said ...

A.   3 November 2008: well, if it makes you happy keep going with it. Why would your family kill you? Its not their life, its yours, do as you please! From Tasha x... (read in full...)

I found out she was raped... what should I do now?

Q.   Hi. I been with this girl for 2 months. last month i found out that she's been raped 7 months ago. No one knows about this except me, she didn't tell her family. We cant have sex coz she don't let me. I don't wanna dump her but the relation...

A.   2 November 2008: Okay, you sound like a jerk here. Earlier this year i was sexually abused, causing me to break up with my boyfriend because i was scared. The best thing you can do for her, is if she wants to talk to you about it, talk with her about it. Seeing as... (read in full...)

As a mum myself...I beg you all - please think before you drink and drive!

Q.   I went to a party.. And remembered what you said. You told me not to drink, Mum So I had a sprite instead. + I felt proud of myself, The way you said I would, That I didn't drink and drive, Though some friends said I should. + I m...

A.   14 October 2008: That is so sad, im about to start crying :(... (read in full...)

I'm breaking up with my boyfriend who is also a family friend, how should I do this?

Q.   im breaking up with my boyfriend and ive never broken up with a boy before. i dont know how to do it. plus hes a family friend, will this make it akward when ever he comes over with his parents?...

A.   14 October 2008: Heya, Just explain to him, you like him as a friend, but not as a boyfriend, and you wish to stay friends. Thats what i have done, and it normally works out, but it is a bit akward for a while, but it becomes easier. Hope this helps, Wicc... (read in full...)

Condoms not only stop aids, they stop pregnancies...

Q.   Why do so many people think that if you’re a virgin you don’t need to use a condom? Yes I’m 13 but I know what can happen if you don’t use one… yes I am still a virgin before you jump to conclusions! But the points in condoms are 1) To stop you f...

A.   3 October 2008: Now... Someoneelse asked me who educated me on this subject, but the truth is, my parents just introduced me to the concept of sex and contraseption at an early age, and then through school, i just developed more understanding, thats all really, I'm ... (read in full...)

Condoms not only stop aids, they stop pregnancies...

Q.   Why do so many people think that if you’re a virgin you don’t need to use a condom? Yes I’m 13 but I know what can happen if you don’t use one… yes I am still a virgin before you jump to conclusions! But the points in condoms are 1) To stop you f...

A.   2 October 2008: Thanks Wizard of Waz for adding in But condoms and the pill will give twice the protection and thanks someoneelse for mentioning it :)... (read in full...)

Condoms not only stop aids, they stop pregnancies...

Q.   Why do so many people think that if you’re a virgin you don’t need to use a condom? Yes I’m 13 but I know what can happen if you don’t use one… yes I am still a virgin before you jump to conclusions! But the points in condoms are 1) To stop you f...

A.   2 October 2008: Thank you very much, yeah i realise i should have added that! Oops =] Oh well, thanks for pointing that out. I asked a mod to put that bit in for me. =]... (read in full...)

If I get pregnant what would I do?

Q.   Hi another one form me My boyfriend keeps suggesting sex. But as I am only 15 and it is against the law at the moment, I am scared of what people will think or if I get pregnant what would I do? I do want to but above are my worries. What shall I ...

A.   1 October 2008: Just say no, and dump him, he is a jerk and you are too good for him, he is trying to push you into it, and if you do get pregnant, he'll do a runner. But if you do decide to do it, make sure you use a condom!... (read in full...)

What exactly does "love" mean to you?

Q.   heya, A friend of me asked me this, and i want to get some of your opinions on it... but can you tell me...? What exactly is love? I know... kinnda a big question... but i want to see what other people think it is :) And i dont really want the d...

A.   25 September 2008: Awwwwwwwwwwh allan :) Thats like a very pretty poem :) Thanks everyone for your answersssss :) if you want to answer go for it :)... (read in full...)

What exactly does "love" mean to you?

Q.   heya, A friend of me asked me this, and i want to get some of your opinions on it... but can you tell me...? What exactly is love? I know... kinnda a big question... but i want to see what other people think it is :) And i dont really want the d...

A.   17 September 2008: Thanks alot guys :) This is really helpful I like knowing other peoples views, so keep 'um comming :)... (read in full...)

How can I help my friend that is suffering from anorexia?

Q.   Right, a really good guy friend of mine is suffering anorexia, and i really want to help him, any tips on how to get him to start eating again or any people i could get him to call for advice? I would be very grateful for your help, tasha x...

A.   13 September 2008: he just told his mum the other day. ... (read in full...)

I feel like I didn't flirt enough and missed my chance, help!

Q.   i know i ask alot of ?'s and im sry but this is reallllly bothering me... ok so i liked this guy... he was a big flirt, and sat with me at lunch and we would chat alot and stuff and text and i thought wow this is great and i was thrilled then he ...

A.   27 August 2008: Just explain to him, that you felt hurt that he stopped talking to you when he started going out with this girl. if he is really your friend he will understand. If they break up, make sure your there to talk to him, and maybe you could wait a whil... (read in full...)

Is it normal for your parents to want you to pay back money you borrow?

Q.   Hi, I just want to know: Is it normal for your parents to want you to pay back money you borrow? Please reply =] Love ya all tasha x...

A.   13 August 2008:  Im 13 people! so it is a question for kids...... (read in full...)

Was it my fault? And is it ever O.K. for a man to hit, push, and rough-house a woman?

Q.   Hi, Is it ever O.K. for a man to hit, push, and rough-house a woman? My boyfriend of three years bruised me up pretty bad a few weeks ago, but claims he had the right to do it, saying he was defending himself. What happened was, I ended up slap...

A.   11 August 2008: No! it is never okay for a man to hit a woman! If you havent finished with him, i would end it with him, because, if you put up with it, it could turn into serious domestic abuse, as he may think he can walk all over you! I hope this helps love ... (read in full...)

I haven't seen my boyfriend all summer. Should I run over and kiss him when I see him? I'm 12 years old by the way.

Q.   Hi, I'm 12 years old, and I'm going into 7th grade soon. The thing is, I haven't seen my boyfriend ALL summer. And I miss him terribly. I have a slight chance of seeing him when he gets back, but I dunno if I will. I was wonderng, what should I when...

A.   11 August 2008: I personally would kiss him, but only on the cheek, shaking hands would look weird... hugging would be okay but it kinnda gives off the 'just friends' vibe... waving is like, i like you enough to notice you, but i dont like you as a boyfriend... ... (read in full...)

Trouble adapting to a new school and coping with the nasty comments!

Q.   hi. ive recently moved from the US to the UK and i started school just a while ago. when i got to school on my first day everyone was friendly and nice however after school the most popular girl in school overheard my mum complaining about how there ...

A.   1 August 2008: that girl is probably just jelous of the fact that you have had the chance to be in a beauty pagent, also as there is a lack of them here, people only see the steriotypical veiw of beauty pagent girls, anorexic thin stuck up little rich girls, who ... (read in full...)

My online girlfriend won't come and meet me and wants me to go there. Is that normal?

Q.   hey Im 15 I have met this girl on the internet and i really like and she really likes me to. She live 2 houres away from me by train but only 45 minutes by car. I asked is she could get in her car and come and met me but she said no she want...

A.   30 July 2008: Heya, it is possible she isnt telling you who 'she' really is, the problem with internet boyfriends and girlfriends are that you dont know if that person is telling you the true, yes maybe 'she' has sent you pictures, maybe the pictures are the ... (read in full...)

He hasn't said he loves me the last couple times we said goodbye. Is he out of love with me?

Q.   Okay I know you may think I'm a stupid school girl, but I'm a stupid school girl that'd rip her heart out if it would mean not letting him get hurt. My problem is I think I'm over re-acting, my boyfriend usually tells me he loves me when he says ...

A.   30 July 2008: Heya! It could be possible he doesnt love you anymore, or it could just be there is other things on his mind? ask if anything is up when you next meet up with him, like home problems, but dont be too pushy.. feel free to message me hope this hel... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to be best friends with groups of teachers when you're only 13?

Q.   Is it wrong to be best friends with groups of teachers? I am 13 and I have quite a few friends who are teachers, I sometimes have lunch with them, I have some of their e-mail addresses and even get hugs off them. They joke around with me and they...

A.   30 July 2008: no, there is absolutly nothing wrong with being friends with teachers, but obviously if it becomes any sexual (kissing etc.) there is something wrong with that, but if it is just friendship, there is no problem with that =]... (read in full...)

How can I get over the effects of prior sexual abuse?

Q.   Hi. I have just found out that a guy who i met on holiday sexually abused (unwanted touching, comments etc.) i didnt know it was abuse until a recent event. since then my flashblacks have occured more often, and my reaction is much higher ...

A.   29 July 2008: does it make any difference that he was 14 or 15? because, i thought childline was only for adult to child problems....... (read in full...)

I have boyfriends, but find myself looking at women too. Is this normal?

Q.   im really confused. am i straight?! i this normal? im 16 and since i was 13 i have had boyfriends, in real i think boys are very attractive, i always comment on cute guys i see or if im out with my friends and i see someone i like, which is pretty ...

A.   28 July 2008: i think you may be going through a bi-curious stage, or you could be bi, just give both sides a chance.... (read in full...)

I am a very messed up kid, and I feel really stuck.

Q.   I am a very messed up kid. I think I was abused a while back by my brother. He used to kiss me and sort of hump me with my clothes on. I couldn't tell my mum coz i love my bro but he was really horrible and once he got drunk and was really scary...

A.   28 July 2008: Oh my god, I think you should tell your mum but tell her how you feel about it, It was wrong- what your bro did to you. But I'm sure that she will understand, and will deal with it. I hope this helps!! Good Luck, Love WiccanWonderxxxxx ... (read in full...)

What should I expect when I go and see a counsellor/therapist?

Q.   Hi, i was just writing to ask, what should i expect when i go and see a counciller/therapist? I dont want to go into detail about why im going to see one, i just want to know what will happen there? Thanks, tasha x...

A.   28 May 2008: The reason im seeing one is because im feeling depressed, and its my school therapist...... (read in full...)

He hasn't spoken to me since I brought home a new kitten! Was I wrong?

Q.   So my relationship with my boyfriend has been dodgy for some time. We have been together 10 years. He's away a lot on business so our time together is really limited. To cut it as short as possible, I am an animal lover and would give any creatur...

A.   28 May 2008: Ummmm well... maybe he feels that as you have gotten a new kitten, you may pay more attention to the kitten then him? And he is worried that you will prefer your pets company rather than his?... (read in full...)

He hasn't spoken to me since I brought home a new kitten! Was I wrong?

Q.   So my relationship with my boyfriend has been dodgy for some time. We have been together 10 years. He's away a lot on business so our time together is really limited. To cut it as short as possible, I am an animal lover and would give any creatur...

A.   28 May 2008: I would explain to him why you bought another kitten? Hope this helps tasha x... (read in full...)

What should I say or do to apologise to my friend?

Q.   heya! My birthday is comming up, and i wanted to invite some of my friends to stay over my house, but one of my friends mums doesnt like me, after an argument between me and my friend, i would still like her to stay, but her mum wont let her, as ...

A.   18 May 2008: Thanks all =D... (read in full...)

What should I say or do to apologise to my friend?

Q.   heya! My birthday is comming up, and i wanted to invite some of my friends to stay over my house, but one of my friends mums doesnt like me, after an argument between me and my friend, i would still like her to stay, but her mum wont let her, as ...

A.   17 May 2008: Its annoying though! My friend even admitted SHE started the argument, and her mum used to like me, i guess im just not used to having people not like me well adults not like me =-/... (read in full...)

Can anyone help me with boy's fashion?

Q.   This is a bit stupid, but it needs to be asked. i have no clue about fashion - clothes, hair, shoes, anything. does anyone know any good websites, or magazines for boys around because i have searched and searched and cant find anything. thanks....

A.   17 May 2008: Ill give you some links to clothing websites =D www.next.co.uk http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TopCategoriesDisplay?storeId=12552&catalogId=20552 message me and ill send you some more =D From tasha x... (read in full...)

I have no real friends. Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   i have just realized i have no friends. There are people i hang out with at school and stuff but they are not REAL friends. and i feel extremely lonely. Since last moth i have become detached from people...i've stopped going out at the weekend ...

A.   17 May 2008: Join an after school club? then you can meet some new kids who defo have the same interests as you =D I hope this helps tasha x... (read in full...)

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