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I have a lot of experience about life itself. I've been and seen the worst of the worst and have overcome and been up on high. I was at one time considered the worst....a true gangster,

but I've matured. I'm still being me and sometimes I think like a commom 'thug', but I will try my best to give you the best opinions that I can muster.

I live in both Washington DC and in Maryland here in the United States, but I travel often to all 50 states and abroad on a regular basis....mostly thrice weekly.

My relationship status is choice and what makes me

'tick' is money and life it self. I'm a self made man.

Where should I take him so we can talk?

Q.   I posted earlier under 'is he "hiding" something?' How is the best way to talk to him calmly about how I feel about dating and tell him that. If I take him out to dinner how to I convince him that I want to take him somewhere nice for it to be a dat...

A.   25 March 2008: I had to admire you at first.....but then you mentioned the last two places....I don't know where you live, but take him someplace that is very nice. Red Lobster, Olive Garden and places like that are food places to me. Why don't you ... (read in full...)

I want to contact my ex but his bail conditions are not to contact me, can I contact him?

Q.   A week ago, my now ex and I had a row which ended up in mild assault against me and serious damage to my car and other possessions. He was arrested and his bail conditions are to not contact me. I don't want him back. But I want to have my say...

A.   24 March 2008: But yet you want to provoke him? It is silly women like you who are the reason many men are doing life in prison. It clearly states that he is not to contact you while out on bail, but cannot believe he has not contacted you, so you want ... (read in full...)

He wants to use me until he gets tired of my body and get's mad if I don't let him!

Q.   I have a friend with benefits for over four years. One day he told me that he will soon get tired of my body. i have been waiting for him to get tired of my body for the last three years but he just keeps coming back for more. I am tired of him but ...

A.   24 March 2008: Ah baby girl.....don't feel that way. Never allow a man to use your body just because. I wrote to you earlier, but I did not know about your abusisive household with your father and mother. NEVER ever allow this to continue with this man. Just ... (read in full...)

Should I go further with a co-worker?

Q.   Hi. I really like a guy I work with. We get on really well and I would love to take things further but don't know what to do. If he doesn't want to, i don't want working together to become difficult. We've been out for a drink a couple of times ...

A.   14 February 2008: You should take it easy and take it slow. Let the moment come to you. Communication is very important in any relationship. Why don't you talk to him about your feelings and about eh way you feel? maybe he too is interested, but maybe he is not. ... (read in full...)

Do you think I could win her over or not??

Q.   Hey. Today I told the girl I like how I feel. I thought she liked me but when I told her her response was "i like you but not in that way. You're like my best friend. I mean thing change and maybe feelings change. I just want to stay freinds ...

A.   14 February 2008: Why don't you just respect her wishes and remain her friend We can't alwways get the woman we want, but in time we do get a woman we love. Concentrate on you. Make yourself desirable and women will flock to you. Do yourself a favor and conc... (read in full...)

Site News: We hit another milestone :-)

Q.   For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...

A.   14 February 2008: I don't know how you count visitors, but I will do my best to help you by answering more of the post that are posted on the site, despite my not wanting to answer minors about their sexual problems....I still won't do that. Congrats again about ... (read in full...)

Has anyone else ever experienced losing consciousness after orgasms?

Q.   When I have an orgasm and predominantly when it is via masturbation, my experience may sound somewhat bizarre...but it gets really euphoric. When I climax I experience an almost dream-like state and I feel semi-conscious, I am not sure if I pass out ...

A.   14 February 2008: It is not abnormal to do this. i have been with over 300 females in my life and over 70 of them have lost consciousness after or during an orgasm. It is called "going limp". It used to scare me when I was a teenager, but research gave me the ... (read in full...)

What does this phrase mean?

Q.   Question for the agony aunts. What does this phrase mean? "What goes on tour stays on tour". This is regarding my husband's trips away with a couple of friends.(some are day trips and some are overnight/two days away in another country) It is ...

A.   14 February 2008: It means just that! Just like if you and a female go into the bathroom to gether for a personal matter(like she may not know how to properly insert a tampon/snaitary napkin and you are instructing her on how to do it properly), that is not ... (read in full...)

Ex wife wants me back and she has new child

Q.   Please help. I am a 30 year old male who at the age of 12 fell in love with a girl, also 12. At 15 we started dating and 13 years later we were married with 3 kids. The relationship had its moments and to be honest the arguments were mainly over ...

A.   14 February 2008: The answer is may not be the moral or correct one for many, but it would be a divine one for you in this situation. Chooose your current girlfriend over your wife. You can still be a father to the 4 children adn your current ... (read in full...)

Site News: We hit another milestone :-)

Q.   For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...

A.   14 February 2008: Congrats Andrew! I hope and wish you continued success!... (read in full...)

What reasons can a mobile phone company cut off your mobile phone for?

Q.   What reasons can a mobile phone company cut off your mobile phone for? My boyfriend who didn’t contact me for 3 days said that his mobile got cut off, but I didn’t realise they could do that unless it was for something really serious. As far as I ...

A.   13 February 2008: Hmmm, I don't know how it works in your country, but there are many reasons why a 'phone company' can drop a client. In our country (USA) the phone companies have been dropping people for making complaints! If a caller complains more than 4 time... (read in full...)

Is the blame entirely on the child for problems of bad behaviour? Where is the parents' responsibility in this issue?

Q.   How much parents are responsible for their children's actions? Are parents causing so,if their children turns to drugs? What can parents tell to themselves,if the can't change their kids' life? Is the blame on the child for such problems? If parents ...

A.   12 February 2008: I'm going to say NO! I did a lot of bad things as a young teenager and young adult. My parents were not to blame for any of this. I was acting one way around my parents, neighbors and friends, but once I left the neighborhood, I was a totally ... (read in full...)

Why does he treat me so badly?

Q.   My boyfriend has been treating me really bad and I don't know how to tell him how he's been treating me because whenever I try to tell him he gets mad. He never wants to talk unless we're having sex. If we're not having sex and I try to talk to him ...

A.   10 February 2008: Are you a smart strong minded woman? If so, then what you need to do is to say..."Honey, it's over"! You don't need a man like this or need to be in a relationship like this. I would not even give him a second chance. Go on and find you someone ... (read in full...)

Do I forfeit university to stay with him???

Q.   I recently posted a question about my boyfriend ignoring me for the last 2 weeks, well I actually found out why, I have recently been accepted to a really good university which is 4 hours away from our home. He really doesn't want me to go, and ...

A.   10 February 2008: Don't be a fool! This guy is playing you. If he really cared for or if he really loved you, then he would support you going to the University and he would support you the whole term you are in the University. 4 hours is not really a long way away. ... (read in full...)

Am I doing this correct to heal my penis.

Q.   Hi I think that this is an embarrassing situation so please be gentle. I am worried about the state of the head of my penis. It has become "cracked" and dry and i have read that excessive use of soap on the penis can cause this, is this co...

A.   10 February 2008: NEVER be embarrrased about going to a doctor. Please do so!... (read in full...)

Does she have to agree to a divorce?

Q.   hi its me again, i have another question for your help with. My partner has spoken to his ex-wife about getting divorced and she said yes, but has not done anything about it. my question is can he get divorced without her sayin yes or does she have ...

A.   9 February 2008: Hmmm, are you the gal who wanted to know if you could get engaged while your partner is still married? Anyway, yes she has to agree to the 'divorce' for it to be an easy divorce. But if they have been seperated for awhile it should be very simp... (read in full...)

Should I wear a condon when being masturbated?

Q.   Like many young lads I orgasm too quickly so my girlfriend now masturbates me to orgasm first and then we go to bed and have full sex later with a condom on. we don't use a condom during masturbation because the semen just goes onto my chest a...

A.   9 February 2008: Naw! You don't need one to wear one while you're being jerked/masturbated. just make sure that the semen doesn't get on either of your hands and make sure that you both clean up very wwell after you ejaculate, so that no remnants will get into her ... (read in full...)

Ok to date older women?

Q.   Im 20 and i have a 2 year old but when she was born i started getting into older women (peoples moms) i've been dating and sleeping with them. Women in there thirties and fourties they're all hot and beautiful i dont know why i find older women ...

A.   8 February 2008: There is nothing wrong with dating/sleeping with older women at your age. Now if you are looking at women in their 70's and 80's or women who even look that age...then I would think you would have some issues.... (read in full...)

Is giving sexual advice to minors considered "contributing to the delinquincy of a minor"?

Q.   This question is for the adults only! I like this site....I've only recently in the last 2 months or so found out about this site. Here is my dilemma.....I currently feel very very uncomfortable giving advice to juveniles (I currently don't)...

A.   6 February 2008: Thank you all for your rrespnses to my question. You all been both informative and very enlightening. Enjoy your day and keep up the good work!... (read in full...)

We were going to leave our spouses and start a life together but he's gone back to his wife!

Q.   I have been having an affair now for about 3 months and it all started at work. Him and i were instantly attracted to one another. I started to come up to work more often to see him and spend time with him. Well it all started one night when he ...

A.   6 February 2008: What you need to do is get a grip on yourself! You're currently living in a fantasy world of lust and lies. I would love to tell you that everything would be alright and that I wish you luck, but it isn't going to happen. You are going to cause a ... (read in full...)

Met a man online, he's much older and suggested that I lose virginity to him! I am not sure what to do.

Q.   hi i have meet this man online. at first he used to annoy me but now he is easy to talk to and a right laugh. he is very forward though and has never hid the fact that he likes me. he has given me confidence about my hourglass size 14 figure...

A.   11 January 2008: NO! Don't do this to yourself. I'm 48 and if he really meant anything, he would wait till your 18 and at least let you find someone your own age. I crave younger girls too!, but this is not the right thing to do. Save your virginity for later and ... (read in full...)

How does a man feel if a woman he's with for the first time tells him of her desire and that she wants to be satisfied without delay? Should I feel so embarassed?

Q.   I am feeling a bit embarrassed about something I did last night and would really like to know the opinions of some of you wise strangers. I have been dating a man for about 3 months now. I had told him up front that I did not want to rush into a ...

A.   11 January 2008: Don't fret too much over this yet! It's only been a couple of hours. Myself....personally I wouldn't have mind. I just don't have the patience....3 days is the longest I would have waited. Good luck to you....I hope this works out fine for you... (read in full...)

Can you dye your pubic hair?

Q.   Can you dye your pubic hair? Mine's so light, I want it darker!...

A.   11 January 2008: YES! You ca dye pubic hair, but why would you? Let it be natural. Anyway....just be careful, because dye can get into your vaginal area and irritate it, also, some people don't rinse it off enough and the color can darken your thighs near your ... (read in full...)

Why do so few women masturbate?

Q.   OK, so I know the question I'm going to ask doesn't apply to all women but... Why do so few women masturbate? I was doing an interveiw on facebook, and with each new question it shows you the answer given by the last 10 participants. The que...

A.   10 January 2008: I think you have been misled. A great number of women masturbate daily. I am part owner of over 30 sex shops in 17 states and my business is booming with the sale of sex toys for women. I also have 60 females who throw sex shows or sex parties (like ... (read in full...)

Is this rape? Should I forgive him?

Q.   I met this guy 8 years ago, I was madly in love with him however, it turned out he was gay! it took me a couple of years to get over him. I have then moved on with my life and moved into a differnt province. I lost touch with him about 5 years ago. ...

A.   7 January 2008: Yes! You were raped! He used a date rape drug on you. I will not forgive him at all. You also need to get yourself checked out for "HIV-AIDS" for the next 9 months. I would call the police and even if they do nothing to him, at least there will be ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to date my step-brother??

Q.   i really like my step brother we are not blood releated just his mum got married to my dad do you think it is okay to date him?...

A.   6 January 2008: The answer is NO! Legally and technically, you are not related by are related by marriage of your parents and this should make your relationship with your step brother..."morally" wrong. DO NOT DATE YOUR STEP BROTHER! Just my ... (read in full...)

How do you keep a secret that is burning you inside?

Q.   How do you keep a secret from anyone, one secret which is mine (i kept for 6 years but can't cope anymore, it's killing me inside and making me mad) the other which is my families...

A.   6 January 2008: Can you at least tell the panel here the secret? That way we can be more helpful in the advice that we give to you... (read in full...)

Shpould I call the cops?

Q.   I'm not sure how to go about asking this, or even what I'm asking exactly. This guy (who is 26) has been talking to me online for a few years now, I usually ignore him because he annoys me and is a pervert. After I stopped talking to him on ...

A.   4 January 2008: Call or e-mail a website called "Perverted Justice"! Send them all the information you have and they will take it from there. You will possibly save a great many people. Please make the call... (read in full...)

I am hurt and confused because he told me he visited an ex who is in prison "for no reason."

Q.   I am in this relationship with this man I love so dearly. He just told me that he went to see an ex that is in prison. I asked why, and the only answer he gave was "No Reason". I am hurting and confused right now. What should I do?...

A.   2 January 2008: Sounds like you have a good dude....I wouldn't worry about his visting a inmate in jail. I think it is admirable since many female inmates do not get visits at all. I would evefn write her myself if I knew where she was... (read in full...)

I'm a teacher and have formed a good online friendship with a quite mature teenager(17). Am I wrong to want to meet her - or even to be talking to her?

Q.   hi there. i am a 28 year old teacher..been working near London for about 5 years.. problem is I met a girl on line about 4 months ago..she is 17 doing 'A' levels in a different school (about 100 miles away) i might add, and is quite mature.....

A.   2 January 2008: If she is 17.....then it's only a matter of months before she is 18. Why don't you wait? ... (read in full...)

I video taped my mother in the shower and masturbated while watching it.

Q.   Before I left for uni in September I did something horrible. I got drunk one night and hid in our airing cupboard in the bathroom. I waited for my mother to take a shower. I watched her undress and masturbated over her as she showered. I felt ...

A.   2 January 2008: DO NOT TELL YOUR MOM! What you need to do is this....first, destroy the tape that you made of your mom showering! Secondly, try and overcome this sexual fascination you have for your mother. If you can't get over this....then you should s... (read in full...)

We broke up. I'm scared of what my exboyfriend might do with some nude pics of me!

Q.   I'm kind of freaked out. My boyfriend broke up with me and he wants his stuff back (just his games though, none of his childhood things), and I want all of my things though. The other thing I want is for him to delete the nude pictures he took of me ...

A.   2 January 2008: How old are you? If you are under 18 then you need to go to the police with your parents to make him give you the pictures for sure. This guy will continue to pressure you and force you to be with him by threatening to show the pictures to ... (read in full...)

My friend will have threesomes with my girlfriend, but refuses to with his girlfriend, why is he being selfish?

Q.   I’ve have had mmf threesomes that had involved girlfriends and my best friend. After we did the first time he asked if we can do it again with other girlfriends. So at least with 4 different girls we’ve had threesomes. It has been cool, and its ...

A.   2 January 2008: You sound like a idiot to me. Why do you continue to punish yourself? Don't you know how to say no more?... (read in full...)

I am a good mother, but since my ex upset my kids they've distanced themselves from me. Is there anything I can do to get things back how they were?

Q.   i have 5 daughters i have been a good mother. I met a man who upset them and was rude we have now finished but now the family have distanced themselves i have tried to be nice and friendly but i am disabled and no one visits me and i am ...

A.   2 January 2008: You are disabled? Maybe your need for a man because of your disability made you side with the man instead of your daughters and they feel betrayed. Many females who have low self esteem side with men who aren't worth a damn. In my 44 years, I have ... (read in full...)

The friendly neighbour suggested to bath nude in front of my wife, which we are not sure it was flirtation or humour. How should we treat our friendship further?

Q.   I don't have a real problem yet, but I don't want to mis-handle a potential situation. New neighbors bought the house next to us a year ago. They are older than us (50's) and have 2 kids, a daughter who travels a lot for work and with her fiancee, ...

A.   2 January 2008: I personally think he was and 'is'....testing the waters! I think he he trying his hand and trying to see if your wife will bite. I would wait till the next time and then your wife can put his ass in check. she doesn't have to be vindictive or ... (read in full...)

I've found pornographic pics of my 16 yr old sister on the internet! What shall I do?

Q.   ive found pictures of my sister on the internet. She is with different lads having sex, anal, bondage etc. she is only 16!! should i tell her or our parents or just ignore it?...

A.   28 December 2007: I would talk to my sister first. In fact...if it was me, I would try and talk to my sister and ry to get the images off the internet. If she dosen't want to listen...then I would leave it alone and let it be her business.... (read in full...)

I'm ready to give my bf a handjob but I'm scared I don't know how, please help!

Q.   ive been with my boyfriend for 3 weeks and i am ready to do stuff. thing is i have never givern a handjob or blowjob - even tho he thinks i have! my friends say its fine, but readin some of the questions and answers on here have really made me ...

A.   27 December 2007: Three weeks? you are ready after only 3 weeks? I would ask you to wait at least 6 months because of your age. If he can't wait that long, then forget him. BIG REGGIE... (read in full...)

How can I give my boyfriend really good head?

Q.   How can I give my boyfriend really good head? I've only done it once with another guy, and need ways to figure out how to make him feel good even though I can't deep throat. Thanks....

A.   27 December 2007: Practice, practice, practice. Use various objects to get your practice on. Popsicles, porkchop bones, lollipops, sour or dill pickles or any pickles for that matter. Use your thumbs and practice suction and lip movement as well as tongue movement. ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried that my dad watches porn? I don't think it's fair on my mum!

Q.   Dear cupid, I recently discovered that my forty-six year old dad has been watching porn on the internet. I accidently walked in on him one time and saw briefly images of naked women on the screen. As soon as he saw me, he quickly closed the lapto...

A.   24 December 2007: Don't worry about it. I would not say anything about it to anyone. It's not cheating at all. Let's say this for example. Your mom has a headache and doesn't want sex at the moment your father wants it cheating if he goes into the bathroom ... (read in full...)

What do you think about my husband's leaving because I was not able to bear a pregnancy?

Q.   i am 36, i am not capable of bearing a child anymore for a uterus problem. my husband had left me for another woman for a reason that he wants to have a child. do you think he didn't love me anymore because he exchange me for a reason to have a ...

A.   24 December 2007: Hmmm......Did he ever really loved you? I would say YES! I undeerstand what you are going thru and I'm sorry....but I must say this....the desire to have a child is much stronger. I too would have left you to have a child especially since I want... (read in full...)

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