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... Send *ELLULAH a private message | | | *ELLULAH's profile:Hi, I have been through loads in my life. Marriage break up, boyfriend break ups, and been a single parent. I have been treated really bad sometimes, but i think this is all to do with life. I dont hold grudges, and have a good sence of humour. I just love all my friends and family, and have loads of support from them. So i thought i could share that with a few of you. I have asked for advice a few times. You dont always want to hear it, but there are some smart people out there.
I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway. |
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He says he misses me when I'm not there, but when I am, his kids give him a hard time.
Q. I was in a relationship with a man 20 years older than me, his kids didnt aprove. So I moved out and stopped seeing him. now a couple months ago we started seeing eachother again. I found out Im pregnant. I thought about it for 5 days, finally told...
A. 27 August 2008: Hi Honey,
Well he wont be missing out on his grandchildren but he will be missing out on you and his new child (if you go ahead and keep it). I cant help thinking he is a very stupid man, for bowing down to his kids like that.
I think you should a... (read in full...)
I am having trouble being what he wants me to be. Help me before I lose him!
Q. I've been a single mother for 10 yrs.And i've been really hurt in the past from other guys. And now I've been seeing this absolutly wonderful guy for 5 mths.We are currently seperated though.Our current problem is that he wants me to talk more with ...
A. 26 August 2008: Well! its a good sign that this guy cares how you think and what you want in life. He sounds like a nice guy.
Nobody can garantee what your future will hold, or if he will hurt you. But if you dont at least try to trust him, you will never know if h... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but then tells me to stay away while. He keeps going back and forth between me and his ex from before me. What is the deal here?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 1 1/2 yrs.He is 40 I am 29.I knew him from having our horses at the same farm,never paid any attention to him as we were both in serious relationships when he moved out there. After some time I broke up with my boyfriend ...
A. 26 August 2008: Hi,
For whatever reason he has, he cant let go of her. It could be love or a habit he cannot break. Whatever his reason is, you should leave him to his own devices, and let him sort himself out.
You on the other hand have so much to give, so why w... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight by christmas, please help!
Q. Hey i wonder if you can give me some advice. I have been wanting to lose weight for some time now, i am 23, 5'6" and weight 11 1/2 stone. I have never had a problem with my weight before, until i met my partner got comfortable and had our beautiful ...
A. 26 August 2008: Join weight watchers, or another group. It will help you with what you are eating and also going there every week will help to not fall of the wagon. Keep up the gym as well and it will easily fall off. ... (read in full...)
Is there a man alive who's ever satisfied with the woman he has, at least visually?
Q. Is it possible that a man would not be intererested in other women once he is in love?? for example my desire for other men completely ceased when I met my husband, but it seems he still has a roaming eye. Once I bought my house I lost interest in t...
A. 26 August 2008: It is strange that when us girls are in love, all we can see and think about is the man we are in love with. And yet as you say, it never effects men in the same way.
I guess we have ourselves to blame for some of it dont we? after all we all read... (read in full...)
He says he misses me when I'm not there, but when I am, his kids give him a hard time.
Q. I was in a relationship with a man 20 years older than me, his kids didnt aprove. So I moved out and stopped seeing him. now a couple months ago we started seeing eachother again. I found out Im pregnant. I thought about it for 5 days, finally told...
A. 26 August 2008: How old are his kids honey? He doesnt sound like he has much backbone.
I understand that his kids are important to him, but truth be told, a lot of kids are selfish little sods, and are not there forever. Where-as you will be.
I think that its... (read in full...)
I'm concerned for my mother's safety and well being, but I'm barred from any contact with her! Please help.
Q. Help! My Mum is disabled due to a brain tumour, she is unable to look after herself properly. I would visit everyday to make sure she is okay also take her to any appoinments etc. She lives with my sister and her family. My sister fell out with me J...
A. 26 August 2008: Hi Honey,
Get in touch with Social services, and explain you are worried. Your sister is behaving terrible, and has no right to keep your mum away from you.
The social services will ask your mum what she wants to do, and then you could go from the... (read in full...)
Could she be crying out for some attention? And should I tell her what's being said behind her back, by her - so called friends?
Q. Hello, This isn't really a relationship question as such. I have this female friend who works in a pub/hotel in a fairly low populated village. She is well known down the pub for making up stories about things that have happened to her, or things t...
A. 26 August 2008: Hi,
Before I was actually with my partner, he did exactly the same thing. He always exagerated on things he had done, and to be honest a lot of us thought he was a bit of a liar. They were always quite harmless stories, and mostly involved famo... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 15 year old to like a 18 year old guy who likes her back?
Q. sorry its really long..but this has been going on for about 3 years now.. so help me please! hi i'm a 15 year old girl and I go to a christian school, my best friend is a guy and is 18 i've liked him basically for 3 years and we jut now cam...
A. 22 August 2008: I must be tired sorry I meant willing to wait.
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My boss is showing favouritism for someone else. What can I do?
Q. i'm volunteering for a new post at work,my problem is that my new boss is showing some favouritism, he always talks about the other team member of mine to other managers and that just fustrate me,don't get me wrong i know that she is clever than me ...
A. 22 August 2008: Hey!!
First! dont ever be Jealous of somebody elses success, or the fact that they seem to be favoured. If you are good at your job it will shine through and you will eventually be noticed. Dont quit because you feel a little miffed at the othe... (read in full...)
Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back!
Q. Jenna Jameson has stolen my man and I want him back! I have been with my boyfriend 4 years and at first we had sex a lot (as you do), we were adventurous, watched porn together, discussed fantasies and had a bloody good time. After a few mont...
A. 22 August 2008: Hi,
Thats the problem with porn it is very adictive. I think that some guys dont really take it in as to how it effects thier actual relationships, which is very sad. The fact is its so easy for guys to get now, I think there are an awfull lot more... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 15 year old to like a 18 year old guy who likes her back?
Q. sorry its really long..but this has been going on for about 3 years now.. so help me please! hi i'm a 15 year old girl and I go to a christian school, my best friend is a guy and is 18 i've liked him basically for 3 years and we jut now cam...
A. 22 August 2008: Ah bless!!
I think it sounds really sweet.
As long as he still respects you, and you are both to wait I cant see any harm in you both staying friends. You will soon be 16 and maybe your parents will understand your feelings for each other are very... (read in full...)
As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?
Q. I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city ...
A. 21 August 2008: Oh good,
It doesnt matter that I spelt it wrong then. LOL... (read in full...)
How do I make our first night together perfect?
Q. I will be spending a first night sleep over with my boyfriend, the thing is i'm looking for some romantic idea's on how to make it a perfect night ever please.and dont get me wrong i'm not a virgin i just want it to be perfectcause i love him so ...
A. 21 August 2008: Hi,
Well as the other Aunt sugested some lovely ideas, I think the best thing to do is relax and dont worry. A nice meal with candles and some romantic music. And if its warm enough to eat outside in the garden you cant go wrong.
Just dont eat to m... (read in full...)
Why are these woman so interested to pass information about my ex to me?
Q. last week i ran into a friend/co worker, which have not seen in years, since she works wirth my ex-gf, of 4 years ago. we exchange info about our life, etc. i told her that i was happy in my current relationship of alnmost 4 years, to which she just ...
A. 21 August 2008: I would say that your ex has probably told her friends that she regrets splitting with you. Thats why they are informing you of her circumstances. Whatever you do, dont rise to the bait. You are happy and its all in the past.
It didnt work out for ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to get into the music industry just to help people? Will I be able to do so?
Q. I love to sing. I love to make music, compose songs and create lyrics. I'm talented in it. But most of all, what I really want to do, is to help people. I've been through a lot, maybe not enough, but I still am able to empathise with people. I'm not ...
A. 21 August 2008: I'm not sure that you could help anyone in the music industry. But you could donate some time to maybe a school, hospital or even a home for the ederly.
As to how you get in the industry, how about writing to record companys, maybe they might have... (read in full...)
Seeing someone new: every time I touch him he tells me he has a lot on his mind and won't open up to me.
Q. hi my husband passed away in december an ive recently started to see someone who is 3 years younger than me but recently every time i touch him he tells me to get off he has said that he has a lot on his mind but he wont talk to me how can i sort ...
A. 21 August 2008: Honey! I would put a hold on this relationship right now.
Its you that should have a lot on your mind, after losing your hubby so recently. You must be feeling very vunerable, and I totally understand you want to protecty your young children.
I thi... (read in full...)
I was groped by my cousin and now I am scared of being alone and feel really dirty...
Q. i was groped by my cousin at the beginning of this year and it has messed up parts of my life. i find that i cant sleep at night every now and then because im scared of being alone and that a stranger, or my cousin, will come into the room and tak...
A. 21 August 2008: Cant you tell your mum or dad about it sweetie?
Your cousin needs telling off, so that he doesnt do that again. If he is older, thats a whole different ball game.
The reason that you feel the way you do, is because of what your cousin did. There is... (read in full...)
As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?
Q. I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city ...
A. 21 August 2008: Erm!!!!
You are a teacher, shouldnt you have a little self control over what you do to other people?
If you really are a teacher, I asume you must have some level of intelligense (maybe spelt wrong, but I'm not a teacher) so therefore you know tha... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my wife!
Q. Dear all, This is in response to the many posts I have read about people who are in love/lust with a forbidden fruit such as sister in law. I think Im in love with my wife, we have known each other for 3 years and been married for one but I st...
A. 21 August 2008: This would have been really sweet and a funny article, if you hadnt put the sarcy bit on the end.
Of course people want what they dont have, everyone wants to be happy dont they?
I'm glad for you that you are happy, but unless you came on here as ... (read in full...)
He said he has committment issues, but I've fallen for him so hard. I don't know what to do.
Q. Ok so 9 month ago i met this guy, we started seeing each other, but it ended up lasting for 5 month until we actually made it official and whenever i told him to choose wheather he wanted me or not he would argue and tell me never to talk to him ...
A. 19 August 2008: If he is around the same age as you, he will have comitment issues. But if you ask me, he also has 'acting like an adult issues' as well.
Move on darling, plenty more fish in the sea. You just have to sort the worms fom the actual fish LOL... (read in full...)
He chose me after a long open relationship. I don't feel I can trust him.
Q. hey i am slightly confused atm and am looking for some answers... i recently got together with a guy after a long winded journey... basically we were in a so called open relationship, something that i didnt wnt to be in but as i wnted to be with him ...
A. 19 August 2008: I understand completely, but still the 5 years doesnt mean anything to him otherwise he would still be there wouldnt he?. And I would have thought that if she still had feelings for him, wont going with her make it worse. I doubt that she has ... (read in full...)
I want to make porn movies. How can I protect myself from diseases?
Q. i am 19 years old girl and i am interested to join a porn movie making company. i like sex so much.i want to enjoy the sex with different male parterner in different style. but i do not have so much knowledge about the physical deseases generated ...
A. 19 August 2008: Uncle sneaker is right (as always) you really should think long and hard about what you want to do. I think that if you do this, it must be very hard to turn back afterwards. I'm not sure how you could completely protect yourself from catching ... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be-wife proposed a threesome... serious opinions please?
Q. Ok, my gf and I enjoy our sex life and we r very experimental. We are normally a very private and intimate couple but we’re always open to try new things. (We r 28yrs old btw) Now which guy wouldn’t fancy a threesome? (of course FFM) but I never ...
A. 19 August 2008: Dont do it!!!
It very rarely works out, and I believe it would end your relationship. A lot of couples go into this thinking that they can handle it, but in reality its not as sexy as you think it will be and someone always gets hurt.
I expect y... (read in full...)
Have I blown it? I think she would have freaked out less if I had told her I had just run over her cat than telling her I fancy her.
Q. I need some advice from the female readers. I recently told a young lady that I had feelings for her, she texted back telling me that she had given the impression that she wanted to be more than friends, but all she actually wanted was to be ...
A. 19 August 2008: She obviously has something on her mind and has over reacted.
If I were you, I would move on and pretend it didnt happen. Dont buy flowers, it sounds like you would be wasting your money. And if you see her at your local, just say hello and then... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have a disease but I'm scared to go and get it checked out.
Q. hi i had sex 3 months ago it was a one night stand but stupidly he didnt use a condom as we were both drunk i took the morning after pill, so i know im not pregnant, and ive had regular periods now im worried that i may have a disease or so...
A. 19 August 2008: If you phone your local family planning centre, they will give you a number to call at your local hospital or clinic. Its all done very quick and easy, and nobody will even know you. And the relief when you find there is nothing wrong is amazing. ... (read in full...)
Are these pains the start of my period?
Q. Hi, over the last month or so, I've had really bad stomach pains under my tummy button and at the sides a bit. I asked my mum and she said it might just be a tummy bug but I know it's not, i asked my cousin who's a girl and 15, and she said it'...
A. 19 August 2008: Hi Honey,
Well now! it probably is your body starting to get ready for your periods to start. They can be awfully painfull, especially when your not used to the feeling. But I'm affraid its something us ladies have to put up with.
BUT..... (read in full...)
He chose me after a long open relationship. I don't feel I can trust him.
Q. hey i am slightly confused atm and am looking for some answers... i recently got together with a guy after a long winded journey... basically we were in a so called open relationship, something that i didnt wnt to be in but as i wnted to be with him ...
A. 19 August 2008: Hi,
If he wanted to cheat on you he would anyway. He doesnt need to go sky diving to do it. Having said that I understand your concerns, because he has not been honest in the past to either of you.
I dont know how old he is, but its possible... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I'm just 13?
Q. ok im 13 and i want to have sex. i have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for about 4 months and i think i am ready he is 14 and is a freshman in high school i am still in middle school (8th grade). but my main question is, should i even though i...
A. 17 August 2008: Hang on!!!!
14th August, you write in asking for advice on having sex at 13 years old. We all say "No babe its a terrible idea, wait until you are older and ready"
Next day you have sex anyway???
Day after that you think you might be pregnant????... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me by his ex's name. Would you tolerate it?
Q. Would you tolerate the person in your life,your loved one,to by mistake call you by a ex's name?My fiance was married to a Liezel for thirteen years and my name is Lizel.Is it just because both start wit and L and am I just making too much of ...
A. 15 August 2008: Your name is almost the same, are you sure you heard him right?
Even if he did call you by the other persons name, he was with her for 13 years.
Are you making to much of it!!! Yes I think you are.... (read in full...)
How can I orgasm easier?
Q. i cant orgasm when my boyfriend fingers me. when hes fingering me he does it rapidly and hard and i like it, but i just cant seem to orgasm. it feels good when he eats me out too, but not even close to an orgasm. Any tips on how he can eat me out so ...
A. 15 August 2008: What the hell!!!
Your 13 for gods sake, these things shouldnt even enter your head........... I am lost for words.... (read in full...)
I said we should have a break, but now he wont talk to me.
Q. he is at band camp and can't talk to me very much but i wait on his calls (once a day maybe) and so i suggested through voicemail a break until he gets home ... that was two days ago... now he won't talk to me ... what do i do? what are the rules ...
A. 15 August 2008: Honey, why did you do such a silly thing?.
My guess is that you didnt like him being away, so you tried to force the issue by the threat of breaking up and it back-fired.
You cannot take it back, but you can leave him alone until he gets back and... (read in full...)
Nipples, or cleavage?
Q. Do men prefer seeing hard nipples through a shirt or ample cleavage?...I have both...
A. 15 August 2008: Phil!! What do you mean, weaned far to early. 22 isnt that young, BITTY. LOL.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I smell more fishy when I eat a lot of fish. Does that really make sense?
Q. My boyfriend has told me that my vagina smells more fishy when I eat a lot of fish. I do eat a lot of fish, but I am struggling to understand what he says is correct. Is it true that a vagina will smell more fishy depending on the amount of fish ...
A. 14 August 2008: Deema Yuk !!! How did you find that out. If my mum told me that I would die LOL.
Maybe both points are true, because she shouldnt smell of fish if she hasnt eaten it. I would nip to the docs to make sure. And lay of the fish for a while.
XX... (read in full...)
Nipples, or cleavage?
Q. Do men prefer seeing hard nipples through a shirt or ample cleavage?...I have both...
A. 14 August 2008: You need to wrap up a bit love,
I think your just showing off LOL
XX... (read in full...)
Nipples, or cleavage?
Q. Do men prefer seeing hard nipples through a shirt or ample cleavage?...I have both...
A. 14 August 2008: What all the time?... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do when or IF he comes back to talk and try to be my friend again!...
Q. I have known my Best Friend for over three years now.Over the past year i have fallen for him.He was my first for everything and we are extremly close.I have always given him my all,put him infront of me,and always have tried to make him happy.I get ...
A. 14 August 2008: Honey, I hate to say this but could it be that you think a lot more of him than he does you. He doesnt sound very grown up, and I would be very surprised if he could stay faithfull. You say he is a player, so why would you want to be with a guy like ... (read in full...)
I confronted my partner about Adult Friendfinder. Does his behaviour show guilt and embarrassment?
Q. Last night i confronted my partner about this adult friend finder account that i had come across. Saying it looks like he could have written (by the way i know itt was his) it. His reaction was instant denial then angry. I asked him to look at ...
A. 14 August 2008: Sorry I dont agree, they just get there kicks a little different from us Normal (whatever that is) people. My partner likes to look at women tied up.
I let him tie me up a couple of times and he said he felt so guilty that he couldnt do it. He know... (read in full...)
He's leaving, do I text him that I'm still crazy about him and will miss him??? He has a GF.
Q. I have an urgent request, my friends are sick of me asking and im spinning with this. The guy ive loved for years is leaving to go travelling tomorrow and ive found out he has a girlfriend out in oz who he is meeting up with. We dont talk but ...
A. 14 August 2008: He may not reply, but I bet he will think about while he is away. And you never know, he may come back to you. X... (read in full...)
I'm in love with Beyoncé...
Q. i can't stop loving beyonce, what the hell should i do?...
A. 14 August 2008: Err Why?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is in a mess after he took someone's car.
Q. what must i do my boyfriend is in a big mess,he took someone's car just to please a fling woman to take her home,i found out about this after it happened and he told me the whole truth and i did forgave him but after punishing him. my problem is ...
A. 14 August 2008: First thing, did he damage the car and thats why he has to pay for it?
second, I dont think I would have forgiven him for doing this anyway. But as you say you already have, I think you have done enough. He is lucky that you are standing by him.... (read in full...)
He's leaving, do I text him that I'm still crazy about him and will miss him??? He has a GF.
Q. I have an urgent request, my friends are sick of me asking and im spinning with this. The guy ive loved for years is leaving to go travelling tomorrow and ive found out he has a girlfriend out in oz who he is meeting up with. We dont talk but ...
A. 14 August 2008: Oh thats so hard!!
Normally I would say that you should leave him alone to meet up with his g/f, but under the circumstances I think maybe you should say something to him, otherwise he will never know.
Be prepared that he may not feel the same, bu... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I'm just 13?
Q. ok im 13 and i want to have sex. i have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for about 4 months and i think i am ready he is 14 and is a freshman in high school i am still in middle school (8th grade). but my main question is, should i even though i...
A. 14 August 2008: No NO NO NO,
You are to young and you dont need to do this at your age. You should be sharing clothes and make-up with your mates, not worrying over stuff like this.
If you do it, I bet you and your B/F wont last anyway. Then darling your reputati... (read in full...)
I confronted my partner about Adult Friendfinder. Does his behaviour show guilt and embarrassment?
Q. Last night i confronted my partner about this adult friend finder account that i had come across. Saying it looks like he could have written (by the way i know itt was his) it. His reaction was instant denial then angry. I asked him to look at ...
A. 13 August 2008: I think it almost certainly was.
I found my partner looking at it a while ago, and asked him what he was doing. He had the same kind of reaction. I remembered him telling a friend (long ago) his pass word. I had never heard of this site befo... (read in full...)
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