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Can having frequent anal sex cause incontinence later in life?

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Question - (23 March 2011) 7 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have done anal five times now. The last time was a couple weeks ago but I'm wondering how much you have to do before you risk becoming incontinent? I don't want to be in my 60s and not be able to hold my crap inside me til I can reach a toilet.


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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

The others gave great advice, just think about it logically for one second though. Think about what it's actually designed for. It's designed specifically for pooping and anal sex is far more violent an action than it was ever designed for.

Is there a risk of long term damage yes, very much so, just like there is a risk of destroying your urethra by shoving cotton swab violently in and out of it for 10-15 minutes. It's the same thing really.

How many times do you have to do it before you become incontinent? It may never happen or the next time you do you might suffer a prolapsed anus, there is no way of knowing. Just take precautions, be gentle and do not do it drunk or under the influence of drugs. It's easy to get carried away and it's quite a delicate area.

The biggest risk though is infection. The vagina is very close to the anus, leakage and fecal matter can travel down into that region during anal sex in some positions and cause problems.

Oh and if you didn't know this already, never let him insert it back into to your vagina after it has been in your ass. That's a huge no-no health wise.

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A female reader, LustyLisa United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

It really depends on who you ask. Suppossed "experts" claim that when anal sex is practiced by following all of the "rules of play and preporation", anal sex can be a safe alternative with no long term ill effects. However, if you address your question to Gastroenterologist, Colo- Rectal specialist and surgeons, even Infectious DZ Physicians, their answers are more gaurded with warnings of likely dangers and long term effects. Gay bowel syndrome is a long list of maladies once associated with the gay life style ranging in a wide variety of ailments that are chronic in nature, difficult to treat and impacts the quality of life for the sufferer. Dr's are seeing what was once associated with Gay Bowel syndrome in the hererosexual female population largely believed to be linked to the growing popularity and practice of anal sex in heterosexual relationships. It may be 20-30 years before the health impact on females is documented and understood by the medical community. If you go to the American Cancer Society website and look into anal cancer, you see that anal sex is a listed risk factor and that even though the numbers have been pretty low for women, the numbers for women are on the rise at an alarming rate. Is this because more women are engaging in anal sex and at younger ages? No one really knows yet. Anal sex is one of the riskiest sexual behaviors practiced by human beings and it's entirely up to YOU as to whether or not you wish to put your body and health at risk. If you are concerned about any possible risks, maybe anal sex isn't for you because even following all of the "rules" you can still end up sick and possibly incotinent in your future years. Ther are allot of gay men in personal care and nursing homes, not all of them old either-just sick with no one to care for them, who have to wear adult diapers.

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A female reader, largentsgirl89 United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

largentsgirl89 agony auntIncontinence is caused by damage to the sphincter muscles of the anus and although anal can cause damage to these muscles the chances of anal sex affecting or damaging these muscles bad enough to cause incontinence is highly unlikely in a person with a normal bowel system. IF you have had previous bowel problems I would consult your doctor before you go further with the anal sex.

Penetration of the anus can cause soft tissue damage and bleeding to the rectum so make sure you use lube when you are having anal sex.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

Hi, I'm 70 and i had anal sex all the time when i was young, and right now i am sat in a 'toliet chair' as it has got so bad. really, take my advice and stop, you don't want to end up with a saggy bumhole like me

Jude xx

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2011):

TELLULAH agony auntYou would need to ask a doctor, but I would think it must have some effect long term if you do it to often.

Not sure why you would want to do this? but each to thier own I guess?

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A male reader, yazanco United Arab Emirates +, writes (23 March 2011):

Yes it does, i read about it causing soiling of underwear.

that is just not good, UGH!

all the best

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

The threat is relatively small. Just don't get too crazy with it.

Interesting study, if you want to read more on the subject.

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