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He's 15 years older than me and from another country so his English is not great....should I ask him out anyway?

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Question - (21 November 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 23 November 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Ok so im 21 and live in the most of us know the UK is full of people well not from here and I happen to work in a place where there is more non-UK workers than UK workers.

I love my job and my old department was great as I had such a laugh with the guys in there (girls were bitches, but guys UK and non were great to talk with) I still talk with some of these guys on my breaks.

This one man from poland...he is 36 years old and really likes me, has now since the first moment he set eyes on me...I actually remember the first time I walked into the department, he was the first one to look up at me with a huge smile on his face and said hi and since then always does the same...the other guys teased him etc but he was soo nice. he called me his princess and calls me beautiful etc.

Thing is I now like him...its weird as I didnt before but now I do. Im not sure where it came from as I do get attention from alot of guys especially at work but I seem to like him. His english is rather awful, really not the best but im unsure what to do.

Should I ask him out? although he is usually always with someone and id be to shy to ask him out with other people around, but we may need someone else there on a 'date' anyway as im not fully sure how great his english really is. Or should I maybe just ignore the situation and keep on wanting to hug him and ask him out and have him staring at me and the other guys messing with us both? ignore or ask him out? i mean he is 15 years older and from another country...

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2011):

TELLULAH agony auntBy the way, I dated my boss, and now we are happily married! So it does work out sometimes.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 November 2011):

Honeypie agony auntStay away from dating co-workers and honestly.. don't pity date.

Find someone near your age that you have more in common with and one you don't work with.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (21 November 2011):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntOnce the lights go out, most communication is by Braille, anyway... so what difference does it make?????

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (21 November 2011):

TELLULAH agony auntGo for it, I think. The others are right about it being messy if you break up, but hey! you will live and if you like him that much, who cares? and 15 years is not that bad. Its only a date after all! Not like your going to marry him straight away is it?


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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (21 November 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntdating someone at work gets awkward when you break up...

I have to say there is one guy here at my office that is an outrageous flirt with me... older... very touchy feely with me.. I'm a huge flirt back but I never took it as more than flirtatious fun and games... maybe that's all it is to him?

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (21 November 2011):

k_c100 agony auntSimple - never date people you work with, it will only end up getting messy and compromising your job, its not worth it.

Plus he is far too old for you, can you really imagine yourself aged 35 and you are with a 50 year old man? I dont think so!

He is not a good candidate for a relationship, too old and a colleague so stay away from dating him...there are plenty of more suitable men out there!

I hope this helps and good luck!

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