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I think I'm pregnant, and I have no idea how to tell my parents or what they'll say. Help!

Q.   Hi, my naame is Alexandra. im 15 yrs old. and i think im pregnant ive been pregnant before. but i lost the baby one month into the pregnancy. But now since im pregnant again.. i just dont know what to do. im goingg to thee gynocologis...

A.   7 July 2010:  First, take a deep breath. Realize the magnitude of having a baby at 15. Many young mothers have done very well with a baby, however many haven't as well. You have to think what is going to be best for you. If you think that your bf, and his ... (read in full...)

What did you do when he cheated? Was I being too dramatic?

Q.   My boyfriend came home one night and told me he had something to tell me. He'd been partying with some coworkers and had kissed one of them. I stayed calm. I didn't get mad. I tried really hard to be understanding. I just asked him if he still ...

A.   7 July 2010:  Wow!! You are very patient, I wish I had your patience. Now on to your problem. before I met my husband, I dated a guy who cheated on me, and you can bet that I cried, and yelled at him, and after about 3 days of being angry, and not wanting to ... (read in full...)

Is if fair that my sister would invite new roommates without consulting me?

Q.   This is a sibling relationship I have a problem about. I live with my sister overseas, she is a single mom with 2 kids from different men, I am single. Well, we agreed to live together with all household expenses cut into half. Even for the house ...

A.   6 July 2010: not fair at all, you need to sit her down, and talk to her about this, you shouldn't have to pay 50, just because you're single, and if you are paying 50% she should always consult with you before inviting people over, especially if you're going to ... (read in full...)

Are my breasts normal?

Q.   Kind of awkward (note me doing it on an anonymous website), but I have some issues with my breasts... I'm 15 and they're shaped like a V. Technically I'm a B-cup, but you couldn't tell if you saw me without my bra. They go straight down with an ...

A.   3 July 2010: When it comes to breasts nobody is the same. I think that you are normal, however, if you honestly think something is wrong, then talk to your doctor. Your doctor will tell you everything you need to know. Just know that you are normal, and everyone ... (read in full...)

Opinions on tattoos please?

Q.   I have a few tattoos, and I'm wondering if women find them attractive or if they think they look shocking? The best tattoo I have is a black dragon on my right arm. I don't know if it looks scarey or not. One of the reasons I have tattoos is to...

A.   3 July 2010: This is a bit tough, just because not everyone thinks the same way. But I'll give you my perspective, I'm a female, and I love tattoos. I think that as long as they are professional then they are great. But some people believe that it's weird, or ... (read in full...)

Would he rather masturbate to porn than to me?

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend going on 3years now, our sex life has always been good and we have watched porn a couple of times together before but it never realy crossed my mind about him watching it on his own until we had internet. We are ...

A.   3 July 2010: Okay, first off it was wrong for him to lie to you about watching porn, but that aside, porn is actually a good tool in my opinion. I think of it like this :Would I rather my husband watch porn and masturbate, or talk to other girls?: Sounds ... (read in full...)

No condom, feeling ill and now wonder if I'm pregnant?

Q.   HELP!! fourteen years old, me and my 16 year old cousin (GIRL) got dropped off at a party; her boyfriend and my boyfriend are first cousins and so are we. so we usually hang out together all the time.. well that night i wa sin the truck with my ...

A.   3 July 2010:  Condoms are not 100% effective, so the first step is to make a visit with your doctor, or get a home pregnancy test. If you are then you have to make the decision what you will do, if you're not then it may just be PMS. PMS has similar symptoms, ... (read in full...)

Career or a perfect man?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are together for year and a half and he is just perfect. I dated guys and had serious relationships but this man is just 10/10 in every way he is caring, loving, best looking, great shape, smart, charming, funny, best in bed( ...

A.   3 July 2010:  I'd say go for your career. My reasoning behind this being that (this may sound a bit extreme) say you don't get this dream job, and you marry this guy and have kids. If he got hurt, or died would you be able to support yourself, your children? ... (read in full...)

I'm desperate, How can I turn my wife on??

Q.   I'm desparate to have sex with my wife but she's not interested. I know that once she's interested she's amazingly interested!!!!! but how can I turn her on...

A.   3 July 2010: I would say that the best way to turn your wife on is to appeal to her emotionally...wait for her to leave, then set up some candles, run her a bath, put new, clean sheets on the bed, all things that she will like, and most likely appreciate. If ... (read in full...)

I just got married, but I feel neglected! Help!

Q.   Hi all, I just got married on May 10th. I know it's supposed to be a happy, joyous occasion, however with my husband working 2 jobs, and going to school full-time, I just sit here all day in our house, with nobody to talk to. So when he gets home, I ...

A.   27 May 2010: Okay, sop I think I understand it a bit better. Before we were married, he felt the weight of taking care of me, but now that it's on paper, he's finally FEELING it? and he's 26 by the way...not my age group. about the baby thing, we've been trying ... (read in full...)

I just got married, but I feel neglected! Help!

Q.   Hi all, I just got married on May 10th. I know it's supposed to be a happy, joyous occasion, however with my husband working 2 jobs, and going to school full-time, I just sit here all day in our house, with nobody to talk to. So when he gets home, I ...

A.   27 May 2010: The odd thing about this whole situation, is that it didn't happen until after we got married. And as for sex, before we were having sex whenever we could, during his lunch breaks, all the time. And then we get married and I'm lucky if I get it at ... (read in full...)

I just got married, but I feel neglected! Help!

Q.   Hi all, I just got married on May 10th. I know it's supposed to be a happy, joyous occasion, however with my husband working 2 jobs, and going to school full-time, I just sit here all day in our house, with nobody to talk to. So when he gets home, I ...

A.   27 May 2010: Thanks everyone, I'm going to try and get involved in some kind of activity. I appreciate all of your feedback, and I'm going to take all of your advice, and make my marriage a happy, and healthy one. Thank you again.... (read in full...)

I'm 18, she's 14 and may be pregnant. Could her dad file charges?

Q.   I'm 18 and she is 14 turning 15 in less than two months she might be pregnant?Her mom has legal custody her dad doesn't,does that mean only her mom can determine whether to press charges,but her mom is okay with me and her daughter.Help me? what do ...

A.   23 April 2010: Okay, read through some of the answers and didn't see one that said you have a good chance of NOT going to jail. A friend of mine had her first child at the age of 13, her boyfriend was 19, and she had her second at 15 when her boyfriend was 21. He ... (read in full...)

Son bringing home leggy pretty girls and I'm stuck with my lumpy wife!

Q.   My son has recently started bringing girlfriends home: they're leggy, pretty, polite, pleasant girls. Then I think of my wife - I've got a lumpy, angry, middle-aged wife whose libido went AWOL 15 years ago, who gets out of bed at noon, spends 12 ...

A.   4 April 2010: You said you take care of your wife, so I'm going to assume that she is sick in some way. Maybe this is the reason she is angry. As far as calling your wife "lumpy", I think that's totally rude, You must have thought she was beautiful when you ... (read in full...)

I go on dating sites, but no luck. How can I find a partner?

Q.   i am a gay man but i cannot get a partner, i go on chat date sites but no luck, i cannot go up to guys in the street and say i fancy you as they might be affended and punch me, my last partner left soem time ago so how i get a partner?...

A.   23 March 2010: I don't want to give you advice on how to "get" a partner, although I will give you advice on how to meet someone, that could be a potential partner. Try looking in everyday places for people that catch your eye. A supermarket, the library, maybe a ... (read in full...)

Advice on irregular periods?

Q.   i have a really important question to ask i'm 18 and i am sexually activate anyways, on the 10th of Demember my period came usual, it was due next on jan 9th but it didnt come till jan 28th (yea all tht time i was scared i was preggy), but it came ...

A.   23 March 2010: I have something similar, although much more irregular, such as missing my period for 4 months at a time. I talked to my OB and he said that I have Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome. Now, I'm not saying that this is the problem you have, but it would be ... (read in full...)

My wife embarrasses me, and treats my daughter badly.

Q.   I have been in a married to the same woman for a few years now. Before I met my wife I had about thirty girl friends. Even though I had so many girl friends I only had sex with two of them. I was looking for a relationship and not a booty ...

A.   22 March 2010: The only think I have to say is this: If anyone, be it family, or otherwise treated my son or daughter badly, I would be gone. There is no excuse for your wife, much less any other person on this planet to be mean to a child. It is uncalled for, and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is being abusive, is it the Indian Hemp affecting him?

Q.   I met my boyfriend in 2006,he is not that rich so i always help him financially. Everything has been okay until this year.He moved in with me,later i saw hemp in his possession and i claimed to have thrown it away. He beat hell out of me and that's ...

A.   22 March 2010: Hemp is a by-product of Marijuana, which from my knowledge does not cause anger, or the hitting of another person. If he is hitting you over such trivial things, then just try and think about what would happen if you did something he REALLY didn't ... (read in full...)

Where do we stand in this relationship on our year abroad? Does he like me?

Q.   I am British and he is from a European country. We are both on our year abroad in university. He is slightly older than me and we have been meeting in our university campus between and after classes for like two months now. I approached him and sort ...

A.   22 March 2010: It sounds to me like he does like you, but he may be fearful of what will happen when you both go back to your different countries. If you think that a LDR would work, then tell him. He shouldn't be opposed to a girl asking him out, some men like ... (read in full...)

I love him, but his past is hurting me emotionally. Any advice?

Q.   Hi, I'm hoping someone can give me some advice! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and am sure that I love him. He has told me that he loves me and we are very happy together. It is definitely the healthiest relationship I've ever been in ...

A.   22 March 2010: It seems to me that the girls who telling you about his flirtatious behavior are only trying to get a rise out of you. Perhaps they're jealous, or hurt because he flirted with them, but never got serious with them. If he truly cares for you, and has ... (read in full...)

Height verses penis size!

Q.   okay, the girl i am dating now is around 5'5" and very good shape. She has a very nice body not fat not too skinny. but my question is i am 6' tall with a 6" length and 5" width penis. is there any way that her being that little that i might hurt ...

A.   20 March 2010: Okay, my personal experience is this: My fiancee is 8 inches long, and about 6 inches girth. I stand at a towering 5 foot 0 sometimes it hurts, but then I just tell him to take it easy, you should have a talk with this girl so she ... (read in full...)

How do I become a better girlfriend in spite of being diagnosed bi-polar?

Q.   I've been with my fiance for about a year now, and I'd like to be a better girlfriend. I know I hurt his feelings all the time, and I know that it's no excuse, but I have a few mental illnesses and I get like super mad, and then I see that I've been ...

A.   4 March 2010: I've tried telling him that I want to go cool off, and he tells me that if I leave then I can't come back.....and I can't cool off in our house, cause it's way too small and I don't have anywhere to go that he wont follow me into....but I will try ... (read in full...)

I think I'm adopted, what do I need for DNA tests?

Q.   hi there everyone i think that i am adopted but i am not sure i don't want to ask my parents because they may get upset if i am wrong and if i am right they may deny it. i was going to have a dna test but i was thinking that do i need my mum a...

A.   13 February 2010: There's actually a less "abrasive" way of finding out more....check out your blood type....ask your mom and dad their blood type. If you are O (negative or positive) and they are as well, then they very well could be your parents. Now, if you have a ... (read in full...)

I care about people a lot. But I'm feeling exhausted and am wondering...will anyone ever be there for me?

Q.   Um, well...okay, I'm an agony aunt on this site, and I'm going through a difficult time. I like to help people. I care about people a lot. But I'm feeling exhausted and am wondering...will anyone ever be there for me? I try to help on this sit...

A.   7 February 2010: Caring guy has it all right. You can't keep giving and giving, and not get anything in return. It makes you feel lonely, and sometimes used. I know that it's a bad feeling when you think someone is using you, even if it it for advice. I think you ... (read in full...)

Have to go swimming but have my period!

Q.   Hello. I have a minor problem that isn't life changing but it currently feels like a big problem! Tomorrow I have to go swimming. I really have no choice in it. But I woke up this morning and my period had started unexpectedly. I don't know what ...

A.   7 February 2010: Well, there's really no other way of getting around it. You have to buy tampons in order to go swimming. Pads would just just huge and filled with water. They aren't made for swimming. If you're just going to be going out for the day to swim then I ... (read in full...)

Should I take full custody of my two year old brother?

Q.   I have a 2 year old brother that I have Temp. custody of. I am 18 myself....I'm getting a job, he has medicaid, and I'm going to be going to school online at some point in the future. I want full custody of my brother because my mother is a horrible ...

A.   13 October 2009: The problem I'm having here is that he doesn't have a well paying job, and we live with his grandma.....she thinks it's a great idea...but my fiance is worried that we wont be able to build "our" future together, and have enough money to support a ... (read in full...)

Should I approach him in spite of what my friends think?

Q.   There's this one guy in my class who is really nice, but really shy. Whenever I talk to him, he smiles and blushes a lot. I secretly think he must be socially retarted or something, because as of late I've been dropping quite a few hints to let him ...

A.   12 October 2009: For starters he's not "socially retarded" because he's not getting your hints.....maybe he's not used to someone coming on so strongly to him, because as you said he's not the best looking guy. And if your friends wouldn't approve just because of ... (read in full...)

I plan to propose to my girlfriend - how do you find this scenario?

Q.   Hello, I plan on proposing to my girlfriend, she knows i want to marry her as we have talked openly about it, but she dosent know when im going to ask her. she is away at college at the moment and has been begging me for a puppy, so i plan on buy...

A.   20 November 2008: That is so cute!!! Go for it!! If I was in her posotion I would think it was the best thing, think about it, she gets a puppy, AND she gets to be engaged to a man she loves!! Kudos for such a great idea Victoria~... (read in full...)

Why am I getting all these mixed emotions about who should be in jail?

Q.   Okay, so here's my issue: I was raped when I was 9-12 and then when I was 13 (2 different people) The first one is my cousin, and I never pressed charges, and the second is an acquaintance. My problem is, when the second guy got charges pressed on ...

A.   20 November 2008: Thanks so much you guys, I really appreciate the fact that at least some people care..... oh and about my cousin, I told my mom about a year ago. She didn't believe me :( ... (read in full...)

If a girl is raped, her first time, will it always affect her?

Q.   if a girl gets raped her first time will it bother her her whole life?will she ever be happy?wil she be able to live happily?will it be terror for her life?or will she be alright afterwards...

A.   19 November 2008: Okay, I'm going to make this a bit long, so bear with me. I was raped and lost my virginity when I was very young, I remember the experience. I do have a great sex/love life with a man I love and trust very much. However, That experience does come ... (read in full...)

I'm fat, right?

Q.   Hey, I'm 16 years old. I'm 6 ft tall and weigh 98 kilograms. I'm F A T, right?...

A.   10 November 2008: check out your Body Mass Index, you can do this by typing in BMI Calculator in some search engine. Then you can figure out exactly how much of your actual weight is fat tissue. If it's not good, then I suggest you go to a nutritionist. They can help ... (read in full...)

I need some make up tips!

Q.   Hi I have my year 12 formal/prom coming up this week and I need help....I have freckles and imperfect skin but I want to look like I have perfect skin without putting too much makeup on and without my makeup coming off...can someone give me some ...

A.   10 November 2008: Well, this is going to be long because I have no idea what you look like. if you have dark hair and dark eyes the colors that look best on you are colors like blue. So I would get some dark blue, and some light blue eyeshadow. Put the light blue on ... (read in full...)

Why do guys enjoy it when a girl swallows?

Q.   I read a lot of these questions.... and i'm actually wondering... why do guys enjoy it when a girl swallows his cum?...

A.   10 November 2008: my boyfriend says and I quote " they want to be consumed" He says it's the same reason people want to kiss, they like the feeling of being consumed, and being a "part" of you. Victoria~... (read in full...)

I think I'm becoming addicted to Dear Cupid!

Q.'s my question: I've been trying to give helpful advice all day on this site. I now realize I should have gone to bed an hour ago! I think I'm becoming addicted to this site! I've always been the person friends come to for advice...and ...

A.   10 November 2008: I think DearCupid is probably one of the best vices to have, it's better than drinking, and smoking which can kill you. DearCupid wont harm you, so no I dont think that giving adive to people is bad. HOWEVER, if it is interfering with your personal ... (read in full...)

No period yet! Could I be pregnant?

Q.   i had intercourse on the 23rd of september but the condom broke but he DIDN'T ejaculate so i took the morning after pill, the next day. Before that i was waiting for my period to start, once i took the pill (on the 24th) 5days later (29th sept) i ...

A.   3 November 2008: It could be that the morning after pill may have messed up your menstrual cycle for a bit. I wouldn't worry about being pregnant though, the morning after pill is VERY effective. Victoria~... (read in full...)

How do I drag him away from his computer and into my bed?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for a while now, and it seems that he never wants to have sex. It seems like he's much more interested in his computer games. Any suggestions as to how I could get him more in the mood?? Like what are some things I could do ...

A.   30 October 2008: Well, I showed him this post, and what do ya know! 1/2 an hour later, we were in bed, I guess he finally realizes that his games aren't as important as our sex life.... (read in full...)

How do I drag him away from his computer and into my bed?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for a while now, and it seems that he never wants to have sex. It seems like he's much more interested in his computer games. Any suggestions as to how I could get him more in the mood?? Like what are some things I could do ...

A.   29 October 2008: I've told him before, and I'm always asking him to get off the computer, but he just doesnt listen.... (read in full...)

Pointy boobs...

Q.   I'm 19 and my breasts are very pointy. I'm worried that I may have tubular breasts/hypomastia. There isn't much fatty/breast tissue under my nipple, nor do i have cleavage (and even with my favorite super push-up bra, i only get mind cleavage ...

A.   29 October 2008: Okay, I personally would LOVE to have smaller breasts!! I am only 18, and I wear a 36 DD, and thats even getting a bit small on me. Smaller breasts mean you can do more things, You can wear cute little bikinis and be cute. If a bigger breasted woman ... (read in full...)

I really need some help with the age gap!

Q.   right I need help quick! I have just turned 18 and I started to talk to this girl on msn and on the phone she lives 10 minutes away from me and I started to really like her but I forgot to ask her age and I just asked her and found out..... s...

A.   28 October 2008: Okay, First off, YOU can't get in trouble with the law just because you're hanging out with someone 4 years your minor. If her parents didn't agree with it, then yes they could say something, and unless this girl as a total bitch, then she will tell ... (read in full...)

How do I get more comfortable with sex?

Q.   I am in a new relationship...about 3 months old and my boyfriend is ready to have sex but im not sure that i am ready. I am a virgin...well he penetrated one time and there was some blood but he didnt penetrate again because I was nervous. I can ...

A.   27 October 2008: Well first off. if he penetrated you then I'm sorry but you're not a virgin any longer. it doesnt matter if he only put it in once. Now as for making it more comfortable, I suggest you use a lot of lube. and try and relax, it doesnt hurt as bad as ... (read in full...)

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