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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Trapped in a loveless, sexless marriage. Everybody loves my husband except me.
Q. I have been married for many years and I have children. I have fallen in love with another man and the other man feels the same way about me. How do you make the choice to leave your marriage? I am not happy with my husband. I keep hearing everyone ...
A. 27 January 2012: I must defer to aunts with greater experience than me, but I must say that I don't envy you. Whatever you do, something will not be right.... (read in full...)
If a guy wants you for sex but not a girlfriend does it mean you're ugly?
Q. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I've told him to leave me alone. I feel ugly :(...
A. 27 January 2012: He wants to have sex because he finds you "hot". Enough said.
Now, that doesn't mean he has good intentions.... (read in full...)
Why would a guy in love with you, stare at another woman not long after you had met?
Q. Hi there, Would like perhaps a male perspective please. over years ago but it still bothers me as I dont understand it. Only a few months into our relationship (and it was obvious to both parties that we had both met 'the one' and wanted a fut...
A. 27 January 2012: I suspect he liked the girl physically. That doesn't go away because he has found you. Maybe he liked her even before he met you.
The fact that someone is "too young" is often not reason enough for people not to try their luck. I am not sayi... (read in full...)
Is he using me or...?
Q. I have been dating a younger man for approximately 6 months. He seems to be crazy about me and treats me like a queen around the house. His situation is as follows: he had a break-down approximately 1 year ago after he broke up with the mother ...
A. 27 January 2012: I agree he's not paying his fair share, and that is a red flag.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 27 January 2012: Is the quality of the ring what really matters?... (read in full...)
Is she blowing me off?
Q. 2 days ago at work this gorgeous girl came in and we started talking. Everything just clicked. We loved all the same movies, had all the same interests, shared the same sense of humor. She even felt comfortable enough to sip my drink. She said that ...
A. 27 January 2012: Wait.... (read in full...)
Wife scared of attraction to other man, how do I help?
Q. Good Afternoon, I could really use some assistance from the "experts" out there. My wife and I are each others first. July of this year we will have been together for 10 years, and married for 6. We have an amazing year and a half old chil...
A. 23 January 2012: I correct myself. Wife knows the poster won't have an affair. But her saying that he "may" have one will "require" the "reciprocity" of him not complaining about wife having an affair.... (read in full...)
Wife scared of attraction to other man, how do I help?
Q. Good Afternoon, I could really use some assistance from the "experts" out there. My wife and I are each others first. July of this year we will have been together for 10 years, and married for 6. We have an amazing year and a half old chil...
A. 23 January 2012: You don't have to help your wife help herself.
It is a good thing to be a good guy and be supportive of your woman. That does not mean, however, that you will become a doormat.
In my simple eyes, all the words in this post can be summariz... (read in full...)
I haven't kissed a guy in over a year and a half!!
Q. Hi! So basically it has just occurred to me that I haven't kissed a guy in over a year and a half. Being 20 years old I feel I should have had a bit of luck in love by now... but I've had nothing, not even a proper date. I think this is all partly ...
A. 23 January 2012: My word of wisdom is that dating or loving are not a rat race. Think this through.... (read in full...)
Is my penpal flirting with me or is it just my imagination?
Q. I have a penpal and yesterday we were talking (we talk 6 hours everyday) and i am starting to fall in love with him but i am not so sure if he feels the same way about me (we will see each other in a couple of weeks in NYC). Yesterday, he ...
A. 23 January 2012: Flirty.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 22 January 2012: No, I don't think you should do something else.... (read in full...)
Career or women?!
Q. I'm about one third of the way through a one year postgraduate degree in science, and I'm really down about it at this stage. I only chose science initially for university because I was in a bad place at the end of high school and despite my real ...
A. 20 January 2012: You're not living the kind of life you want. It's difficult to say what is right: to go after your dream, or to take the Ph.D. I think I would go for the Ph.D. If you don't like it, you can follow your dream later. The same is not true of your ... (read in full...)
Why would girlfriend have contact details of guy who raped her?
Q. My gf, who is now 27, was raped at 16 by a 26 year old guy she used to hang around with. She never told anyone except me when i met her 5 years ago. She has never dealt with it and has kept it blocked out. She made me promis never to tell anyone or ...
A. 20 January 2012: One would expect the victim of rape not to be in touch with the person who raped her. This seems odd at first sight. There could be a valid explanation, but it would be irresponsible of me to speculate what it could be. Don't assume things.
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Can this kind of man turn on any kind of woman?
Q. Hello women out there. Would it be true that any man within the average range of attractiveness, taking into account looks, clothing, job, education, etc, who is also totally comfortable in his own skin, has his own goals that he's heading toward ...
A. 20 January 2012: I'm not a girl, but I can tell you this much: if you come upon someone who is just extremely good, experience teaches you not to believe that. There needs to be a flaw somewhere.... (read in full...)
My bf wants a child with me! And I don't want that because he's so unstable..help!
Q. So, my boyfriend of 7 yrs is giving me an ultimatum of leaving me in March because he feels he doesn't have a "family" with me. Mind you he has a 13 yr old daughter and a 17 yr old son who he thinks might be his but he's not really raising either ...
A. 17 January 2012: I would assume that a couple cannot have a child if one of the two partners doesn't want a child. Saying you will leave if no child is born does not seem the right thing to do. If the relationship is not satisfactory because of the lack of that ... (read in full...)
Why does every boyfriend I have say they want to marry me?!
Q. I have noticed that every guy i have been with has told me they want to marry me! And no i don't have sex with them or anything! they just tell me. but i break up with them. (not because of them saying they want to marry me mostly because i don't ...
A. 17 January 2012: You must be hot and great.... (read in full...)
We were planning to move in together and then he texted he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore!
Q. Hi Everyone, I've been in a relationship with this guy now for four months. We seem to understand each other from the very start. Our chemistry is like crazy when we are around one another. We fell in love pretty fast( too fast for me). He seem lik...
A. 17 January 2012: If he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore, meaning a relationship with you, give him what he wants. Off he should go.
If you did otherwise, he would know he can play with your feelings.... (read in full...)
He wanted sex. I had my period. Finally I agreed to do it, as I was horny. But it all ended badly, with him freaking out. Was his reaction excessive disgust?
Q. This may gross some people out with I need some honest opinions... I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis. Well the other night he came over and I was on my period (a very light one) so I declined sex and just gave him head. Well the ...
A. 17 January 2012: As the saying goes, "be careful what you wish for, because you may get it". He got what he wanted.
If you had refused on the grounds that you just had had your period, he would have nagged and pouted and et cetera. It's not like he didn't k... (read in full...)
I'm distraught. She's pregnant with the baby we have longed for. But she's not sure who the father is. Do I stay to father a child who may not be mine?
Q. Any advice would be great because my head is fried, I'm not sure I even want to be with her now. Hi not sure where to start so will start from beginning, me and my fiancée have been together for 4 years. 19 months ago we had a little girl who was ...
A. 17 January 2012: Let us use the "salami tactic" and divide the problem in pieces.
As to the baby, this is easy. Get a DNA test and take care of the baby if s/he is yours.
As to the relationship, this is easy, too:
You can stay with someone who lied to you ... (read in full...)
I found out my wife had 2 abortions and never told me. I don't know what to do now
Q. We have been together for 5 years and we got married a few months ago. Recently she got pregnant, however 6-7 weeks later, it turned out to be a miscarriage. During one of the visits at the gyn, the doctor mentioned that this is her third abortion. ...
A. 16 January 2012: If she had the abortions before you even met, why would she need to tell you?... (read in full...)
My G/f is utterly convinced that most of her unhappiness has to do with me, and I have a hard time dealing with such a heavy burden
Q. I am feeling very confused and trapped in my current relationship with my girlfriend. I’ve been dating her for 2 and a half years, I am 21 and she is 23 years old, if this is any help. I care for her a lot, yet she is simultaneously a...
A. 16 January 2012: If she thought you were the problem, wouldn't she remove the problem? I think this is pouting and finding ways to get what she wants no matter what.
If she is that much of a problem, why don't you remove the problem?... (read in full...)
Fair enough she needs time to "heal" from learning I'm gay, but how long does it take?
Q. Its been about 2 and a half years since my mum has asked me if I was gay. She still don't treat me the same as she did before which doesn't help. Seriously how long does she need! She has always had gay friends she's loved her brother who is g...
A. 16 January 2012: You're gay and that's fine, but you need to understand that many people have a problem with it. This is the point you're not getting. I wonder why.... (read in full...)
Why don't men read maps?
Q. Why is it that when your in a car and your man is Driving and you both are in an unfamilliar town, he wont Admit that he is Lost. My Question is why wont men ask for Directions? ...
A. 16 January 2012: Because finding the place on your own is a lot more fun.... (read in full...)
Why is it that Men think they know Everything and have the need to be Right All the Time?
Q. Why is it that Men think they know Everything? and have the need to be Right All the Time? ...
A. 16 January 2012: Some people need to believe they know everything because they are insecure, and, in their minds, a simple "Gee, I don't know anything about that" detracts from their greatness. But it's not men only, and it's not all men.... (read in full...)
The other day we where making love and he stopped to answer his phone! Is this normal?
Q. Hi,I would like you aunts opinion on this please. I am in a relationship with a man and have been for many years, we both are in our late 50's so really i was shocked and very surprised by this action of his. The other day we where making love and ...
A. 16 January 2012: I think he could have turned his phone off. However, maybe the call was important.
I agree with others that you overreacted.... (read in full...)
Fair enough she needs time to "heal" from learning I'm gay, but how long does it take?
Q. Its been about 2 and a half years since my mum has asked me if I was gay. She still don't treat me the same as she did before which doesn't help. Seriously how long does she need! She has always had gay friends she's loved her brother who is g...
A. 15 January 2012: You need to realize that homosexuality is not a problem for you, but it is a hell of a problem for others. I would assume you'd know that by now. You may be frustrated, but so is she.... (read in full...)
Between two guys, shall I tell the one near NYC how I feel?
Q. The thing is i have two penpals. Yeah, two. They are both american (same as me) but i am actually living in Perú. I have been writing to the first one 4 months ago everyday (6 hours each day) and i felt i was falling in love with him until i met my ...
A. 15 January 2012: Don't go for the guy who is supposed not to be free to love you.... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends after he rejected me?
Q. Can we still remain friends after he rejected me romantically speaking? A friend and I were super friends and confidants.His girlfriend left him for other guy a year ago and therefore has not recovered from the loss. My big mistake was to became h...
A. 15 January 2012: In my opinion, maybe you should not be angry or not return his calls, maybe you could keep the friendship, but the two of you need some distance.
Both of you did the wrong thing in becoming friends with benefits. It was wrong of him to have sex... (read in full...)
I’m a 27 Year Old Guy with No Relationship Experience. How Do I Let Women Know?
Q. I'm over 27 and dating. One question I get asked a lot is about my past relationships. The problem is, I haven't had any. I've had one problem or head trip after another. I've also been a loner and a bit of nerd. I can honestly say that I ...
A. 15 January 2012: I agree with Cerberus. It's best to be honest, as a matter of principle, but in this case they would find out anyways. Lying would not only be useless, it would actually backfire.
And then enjoy. One of these ladies could find it "interes... (read in full...)
I'm bothered by her writing hobby
Q. Hello everybody, I've got a bit of a problem I need to talk about, but unfortunately, there's no way I can talk to my closest person about it. It's connected to my girlfriend. We love each other, everything is perfect except one thing... She's b...
A. 15 January 2012: I suppose you believe she's not exclusively heterosexual and that, to top that, maybe she writes about some personal experiences of hers that you wouldn't approve of.
It seems to me that you are wondering whether what she lets you see about he... (read in full...)
Why would a guy make a half-hearted attempt at sex?
Q. why would a guy make a half-hearted attempt at sex? very confused by my bf today. he is doing 12 hour night shifts, got into bed with me this morning when he got home, we kissed and fell asleep. 3 hours later, he wakes me up as he's touching my ...
A. 15 January 2012: Maybe he was in the mood but too tired?... (read in full...)
In love with a prostitute
Q. My wife passed away few years ago. I lived with teenage daugter. I did not like to make new connection with other woman. Now I am in love with prostitute. She lived and worked in another country. She actually doing her job but I am in love. I am s...
A. 15 January 2012: It is quite possible to fall in love with a prostitute, because they are women, and they have virtues as well.
Assuming you're really in love, and not just hooked up on her because of the food this cook gave to a hungry man, you would need to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 14 January 2012: You can't tell her who she will befriend. You can't tell her whether she will befriend someone with benefits. But you can decide that staying in touch with a friend with benefits and hiding it from you is unacceptable, and walk away. And then she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 14 January 2012: I think she should be able to understand that her staying in frequent touch with a former sex partner is not exactly the best of ideas. By the way, I think the other guy should understand that as well.
I'm sorry, but I tend to agree with the anon... (read in full...)
Struggling to decode guys.
Q. Hi! I was recently talking to a group of my friends (mixed group-guys and gals) and I dropped into conversation that I had a boyfriend-just for the record I don't- but I just wanted to see their reaction but it wasn't what I expected... All m...
A. 14 January 2012: Agree with Tisha.... (read in full...)
Is he being insulting to this woman or could he be into me?
Q. So I had a week of holiday and yesterday (during holiday), as I stayed in the city, I went to work where we had a professional training for 2 hours. So I got to the cafeteria where I met most of the colleagues and it happened to show up a fellow ...
A. 14 January 2012: This is where I raise my hand and ask for the floor.
Some of us people of Spanish descent have a sense of humour that you of non-Spanish descent find offensive, but it is not meant to be, and we all understand it is not to be taken seriousl... (read in full...)
My daughter is 4 years old and has never met her father. He is single now and I am hoping that he will assume his responsibilities... is this wrong of me?
Q. I have a daughter who is 4 years old, ever since she has been born she has not seen her father. I met her father at a bar and within a few weeks of dating I becasme pregnant. We broke up after being together a month. Then I found out i was pregnant ...
A. 14 January 2012: Make sure you don't instill in your daughter the feeling that "something is missing" and "everything would be best if your daddy were here". That is destructive like you can't imagine. Really move on, and forget the man.... (read in full...)
Will men still want me when I have a child or am I damaged goods?
Q. My question is I'm 26 year old college student, I am so far working on my AA degree. I have a 4 year old child, will men still want someone like me or am I just damaged goods. ...
A. 13 January 2012: If you're a likable person, people will like you.... (read in full...)
How would you interpret him ignoring my request for information on his other woman?
Q. I am currently separated from H. Some few weeks ago,I indicated to him my intention to move on with my life. Reason being that I dont have it in me anymore to work on the marriage due to his series of emotional affairs since we got married 14 years ...
A. 13 January 2012: Though this is not what you are asking, this is the first thing I'm saying. I doubt that a person who has "affairs" only has them at the "emotional" level, particularly if the affairs are numerous enough to become a "series". But even if they were ... (read in full...)
I'm sure this older married woman is into me, how do I get her number and get to know her better?
Q. Hi all. Need some advice. I'm 21 years old, and I've been working at my job for over 4 years now. There is a woman who comes in who is significantly older than me (probably mid-30's). She is Colombian, like me (although I don't speak Spanish and she ...
A. 13 January 2012: Married = Off limits.... (read in full...)
Why would a goodlooking guy find ME attractive? I have low self esteem!
Q. I can't wrap my head around why a good looking guy would like me or even find me attractive? He could get a really gorgeous girl, so why me? When we met in a bar a week ago, he said he thought I was attractive and had to get my number and see m...
A. 13 January 2012: Maybe you're hot and you don't see yourself that way?... (read in full...)
My daughter is 4 years old and has never met her father. He is single now and I am hoping that he will assume his responsibilities... is this wrong of me?
Q. I have a daughter who is 4 years old, ever since she has been born she has not seen her father. I met her father at a bar and within a few weeks of dating I becasme pregnant. We broke up after being together a month. Then I found out i was pregnant ...
A. 12 January 2012: Good question. In giving my opinion, I want to take the side of your child. I feel it is in your best child's interests NOT to hear from her father or want any sort of relationship with him. "The other lady" told you the truth.
The father i... (read in full...)
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