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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Having second thoughts about giving her a 'too' thoughtful present!
Q. Okay, so I have a friend who's birthday is coming up soon, and I want to get her something. In fact I got her something already, but it's kind of a bit too thoughtful for just friends, so naturally I'm having second thoughts about giving it to ...
A. 11 March 2012: Give her the teddy bear but don't expect anything in return.... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 10 March 2012: Yes: get on with it, or get rid of it.
Don't neglect your son in any way.... (read in full...)
She's been dating him and me for almost 4 years, now she says she wants me. Is she lying?
Q. I'm so confused right know I've been sorta dating this girl now for almost four years now and I am madly in love with her but she also has a boyfriend of three years. And she was always sleeping around with other guys and then lieing to me about it ...
A. 9 March 2012: She's not lying, in the sense that she wants you. Now, being with her is a bad idea. Find out if the baby is yours, and forget about the rest.... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f want a threeseome with 2 girls but won't even consider 2 guys?
Q. hi so i need some good advise ive been with my bf 3 yrs now he watches porn which is not a problem i watch it with him but he likes to watch group sex and said it really turns him on then the other night he asked me if i would have a 3 some with him ...
A. 9 March 2012: Well, it is always nice to have sex with a different woman.... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 9 March 2012: Don't neglect your child because of anything his mother did. He's YOUR child. He counts on you and you have a responsibility towards him, one that should be easy to bear because it's a loving responsibility.
As to her, you can take her as she i... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I don't want my husband's nephew around anymore?
Q. my husbands nephew is down right disrespectful and disgusting and rude. he talks like a sailor, and spits chewing tabbaco and tells his friends he want to have sex w/ me. i hate it when he comes to our house to help my husband work, he not only is a ...
A. 9 March 2012: No, it's not wrong that you don't want him around. He has to go.... (read in full...)
I want to leave abusive spouse but don't want to end up in a shelter!
Q. Hi agony aunts, I'm in need of some help. I am married with three children and I am living with a physically and emotionally abusive spouse. He has cheated on me in the past several times and he said he would change but he has not. I want to leave ...
A. 9 March 2012: I have never even been to Canada but Mr. Grant's advice seems great to me.
You know, being abusive is a personality trait. It doesn't usually change. Some people do change, but they are very few. And abuse leaves wounds that run deep. I think ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up to my wife that I know she's using her vibrator rather than having sex?
Q. I'm married with young kids and have been with my wife for 10 years. Over the last few years our sex life has become almost non existant which we put donw to the pressures of having young children. Recently I have discovered that my wife is using a ...
A. 9 March 2012: What Eyes said.... (read in full...)
Do you stay and fight for love? Or if love has gone, should you leave?
Q. I feel like I'm falling out of love with my bf and, as this has never happened to me before, I need advice: do you stay and fight for love? Or if love has gone, should you leave? For background: we've been together 18 months, don't live toget...
A. 9 March 2012: In my personal opinion, love dies very much like a snowball rolls. It begins with small things, but, once it begins rolling, there's nothing to stop it.
The bad thing about this man is that you could argue that staying with him is a valid op... (read in full...)
Should I just kiss him already?
Q. I’ve been hanging out with one of my guy friends a lot for the last couple of months (I’ve known him since November-ish). We get along really well and I enjoy his company very much. Sometimes we do kind of nutty stuff together – we once had a ...
A. 9 March 2012: Me being a little devil, all I can say is
HELL, YEAH!... (read in full...)
He's happy to be in an open relationship with me, as I find sex with him to be not very good.
Q. So I am in a relationship with a man who is almost perfect in every way. We have been togeter for about two and a half years now. He treats me well, and takes very good care of me. I thought he was my soul mate, and we have talked about getting ...
A. 9 March 2012: I say he has his own "hidden agenda". I have not yet found a man who doesn't care his woman cheats on him, except for those times when a) they don't love the woman or b) they find it convenient that she sleeps with someone else, for whatever ... (read in full...)
I have extreme anxiety and nerves about "receiving" oral sex!
Q. I have extreme anxiety and nerves about "receiving" oral sex. I am 100% ok with the giving to my male partner, but when it comes to the thought of him giving to me I get really insecure about it. I have never received oral. With my ex bf of 4 ...
A. 9 March 2012: If you don't like oral sex, say so.
If he likes to give you oral, take him at his word that he likes that and don't worry about being trimmed or whatever.... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about giving her a 'too' thoughtful present!
Q. Okay, so I have a friend who's birthday is coming up soon, and I want to get her something. In fact I got her something already, but it's kind of a bit too thoughtful for just friends, so naturally I'm having second thoughts about giving it to ...
A. 9 March 2012: The real problem is not whether you should give her this or that. The real problem is whether you are going to get the girl or not. I cannot know what the situation is (I just know what you tell us), but from what you say the chances that you'll ... (read in full...)
How can a guy be still in love with me after 15 years?
Q. How can a guy be still in love after 15 years? He is a family friend, same age and loves me like a crazy. He proposed me few times but I wasn’t ready to get married and didn’t accept. I got married 8 years ago but he is not dating anyone because he ...
A. 9 March 2012: One can fall in love and have a hard time for ages, but 15 years is way too much. Something else is the matter. I think you just need to go on with your life.... (read in full...)
Awesome friend with benefits situation, but I want more and now I don't know if I should end it or try and move things forward..
Q. I feel like I have sort of an uncommon situation... None of my friends ever quite know what to tell me. Here it goes: So, I have been thinking about ending things with my long term friend with benefits. He and I both care for each other deeply, ...
A. 9 March 2012: The man is telling you that he wants to go further. Do you?... (read in full...)
Do I just have to be okay with no sex in my marriage, or should I find someone to give me that "experience" my body is craving?
Q. Hello, I really need someone to help me out. I have been married to my husband for almost five years, and we have two children together. Ever since we had our second child, my husband and I have had very little to no sex. He could care less about ...
A. 9 March 2012: Something is the matter and Hubby knows it. Talk to him in clear terms. "Why, Hubby?" "What do you plan to do about it?" Et cetera. Then you make a decision. It is simple, only difficult to do.... (read in full...)
I am smart, not pretty & a nerd, what can I do to belong and bot be laughed at?
Q. Hey so it's not really relationship but please I need you guys: I'm in my third year of senior school and I am an A* student. I have a passion for art; I work hard in class and I'm on the top 21 list of students in my year and the Gifted and Talen...
A. 9 March 2012: Welcome to the nerd's club. That is what nerd life is like. Wait, because your time will come. Someone whose name I will reveal at the end of my post said that "you have to be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one". That nerd ... (read in full...)
I can't bring myself to meet her!
Q. A close friend of mine introduced me to one of her friends around December last year, and at the time I liked her and thought she was quite pretty and she had an awesome personality and I got talking to her and got to know her and she is a fantastic ...
A. 9 March 2012: I don't know why, but if I see a hot woman I always remember what she looks like. I wonder how it is that you can't remember what she looks like, particularly if you've looked at her pictures on Facebook.... (read in full...)
Do all guys drop their guy friends, if they are in a relationship or married?
Q. ... when they're in a serious relationship or marriage? Or maybe I should be asking, What type of guys drop their guy friends when they've got a s.o.? I was asking my bf why he doesn't have guy friends he hangs out with. He said they've all gott...
A. 9 March 2012: When you're the only one of the bunch of friends who hasn't married, you're the oddball who is not on the same wavelength as the others. Yes, you're cool and all that, but you don't have to change diapers, go with wifey to a dinner, et cetera. I ... (read in full...)
I'm an actress who is in madly in love with an actor I'm working with on a play.
Q. I'm sorry if I sound a little bit confusing, my English is not very representative, but I think you'll get the point. I'm an actress who is in madly in love with an actor I'm working with on a play. I don't know how to approach him. We have great fu...
A. 9 March 2012: I think you should try to let him see you're interested. You could win a man you have chemistry with.
I just would ask you to "be careful with your heart", as a song goes in my language. Sometimes it is easy to fall in love when you're in parti... (read in full...)
I broke up with my fiance because of his mother.
Q. Should I break up with my Fiance because of the way I am treated by his mother? heres a few examples: -When I go to her house she completely ignores me / gives me dirty looks. -she has kicked me out of the house and has no respect for me ...
A. 9 March 2012: I have to say yes. He should not suffer his mother to treat you this way.... (read in full...)
I don't want to think of divorce but wife has secretly been meeting other men
Q. i have been married for 6 years and have two daughters under 5,unfortunately i have had a series of strokes and had to give up work,i have now discovered my wife has joined an online dating site and set a a secret email,i have managed to gain access ...
A. 7 March 2012: I agree that you have to leave your wife. That can be difficult because most likely she will get the kids, but I'm afraid that she may do more than what she's done so far. You can end up being dumped. Better to take your precautions now.
Good ... (read in full...)
Was it too early to tell her she had the most beautiful eyes ever seen?
Q. I met my friends, girlfriends, twin sister a couple months back. last friday we hung out and we really seemed to like each other. We went to a party and she told her sister I was cute, and handsome. She told her sister I was really sweet and that ...
A. 7 March 2012: Wait and you'll see.... (read in full...)
Was this a random act of kindness or does she like me?
Q. I've known this girl for a while and she's never really been more than an acquenance to me and I suppose that hasn't really changed, but she asked me to join her and some mates of hers who I also know and get on well with last week. She didn't ask ...
A. 7 March 2012: Go see what happens.... (read in full...)
What are my rights as a patient?
Q. Sorry, this'll be a bit off topic. I moved to Canada last August and I've just signed up to a medical centre here. I found most of the staff to be extremely rude and they signed me up for all sorts of tests without telling me what any of them...
A. 17 February 2012: I don't know about Canada, but I think you can change a clinic, and complain to the new staff that the others were rude and whatnot.... (read in full...)
How can I be happy being single?
Q. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over a girl who has a boyfriend? And any advice on how to be happy being single? I have lots of friends and I'm busy with interests but have been single for 2 years now. I'm not happy anymore. I'm not acti...
A. 17 February 2012: Picture her boyfriend as a very cold-blooded bastard who would kill you if you approached her, and that will help.
Also, think of yourself as being the boyfriend and Bastard as the man flirting with her so she would dump you. That will help eve... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby right now, but it seems like my body is screaming at me to have one
Q. I'm 16. I'm in a stable relationship with a guy who I adore (don't care how immature this sounds- he makes me the happiest I've ever felt and treats me like a princess). Ever since meeting him, I've become so broody. Like, I can't stop looki...
A. 17 February 2012: Now is not the time for a baby. Period.... (read in full...)
I can't date her because of our religions...so what should I do?
Q. I've gotten to know this girl around 8 months ago. We're both 16, in the same school, same classes, everything. Ive gotten to know her so well, and I spend every waking minute thinking about her. I really think I love her, but see the problem is ...
A. 17 February 2012: I see you're in Jordan. That is a place where religious passion gets inflamed.
Unless your families were very liberal, I wouldn't advise you to date someone outside of your religion. Not that I think it's wrong; I just think it will be a lot of... (read in full...)
Found out the guy I was dating had a girlfriend and now I'm seeing his enemy, everyone thinks I'm being spiteful but I've liked him for a while! Am I in the wrong?
Q. I was dealing with a guy for about a year. Towards the end of our thing I met his "enemy". Ive ran into him before but we never spoke. This night we actually ended up kissing. I was drunk and so was he. Any who the night ends and we exchange ...
A. 17 February 2012: Only you didn't know that, right? What you knew was, "I am cheating on him".... (read in full...)
Do I meet him and let him help me financially to be with him?
Q. I have no idea how to start, i really have a big dilemma. I recently took a break from college due to some family problems. In this time i have had a lot of spare time on my hands so of course i overkilled the internet. It is at that time that i...
A. 17 February 2012: He is not going to think any less of you just because you have less money. If he did, then the relationship wouldn't be worth it. And he doesn't sound like a man unworthy of your attention.
Now, if he has such an easy time with moving, why does... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay or bisexual?
Q. Ok here goes... I'm 18, and my husband is 19. we've been married for 8 months. we have a daughter, who is 2 years and 2 months and i'm 11 weeks pregnant with our second child. Basically, i know in my heart that my husband is gay. He claim...
A. 17 February 2012: He seems bisexual because he is with you. But he's cheating on you all the same. I think that, if you're MARRIED, that means you won't have escapades with anyone else of either sex. Maybe you want or prefer things that way, but he is cheating.... (read in full...)
I wanted to marry my girlfriend and now I don't. Now what?
Q. This year will mark the 10 year anniversary of me meeting my girlfriend. Early in the relationship we talked of marriage, but neither of us really believed in it and we were trying to establish our careers - moving around and generally unstab...
A. 17 February 2012: You should tell her that you don't intend to marry. After ten years, I would assume you two know each other very well, have gone through crises and the like. You're married to all intents and purposes other than legal. You either want to have a ... (read in full...)
Found out the guy I was dating had a girlfriend and now I'm seeing his enemy, everyone thinks I'm being spiteful but I've liked him for a while! Am I in the wrong?
Q. I was dealing with a guy for about a year. Towards the end of our thing I met his "enemy". Ive ran into him before but we never spoke. This night we actually ended up kissing. I was drunk and so was he. Any who the night ends and we exchange ...
A. 17 February 2012: I don't think you're doing this to get back at the man who lied to you and used you. Now, I would like you to notice that you found out he was lying and using you only after you met his enemy and did the wrong thing. I say, you cheated as well. I ... (read in full...)
Is it just me or does this whole thing with my G/f seem a little fishy?
Q. My girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years. Last night she called me, started crying, and said that she couldn't handle the anxiety feelings that were coming back and ended our relationship. She said she felt we were too young to be this ...
A. 17 February 2012: It seems she has someone else, but, if she didn't, it would still be true that she broke up. Take her at her word.
By the way, don't take her back if she should offer that. If she has someone else and that is why she broke up, then don't ta... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had several threesomes and hook ups in her past: liberal open-minded girl or just a slut?
Q. Well, I know this topic comes up a lot but here I go anyways: I'm dating this girl for the last 5 months. She has been always open about her attitude about sex, and admitted to me that she has had a lot of threesomes, hook ups and ongoing on and o...
A. 17 February 2012: In the end, all you can do is leave her or stay with her. Choose one.... (read in full...)
My red hair gave me nothing but the blues
Q. I was bullied quite badly at school for having red hair. That was 7 years ago, i'm 24 now and look completely different, but i still feel like i'm the same person i was back then. If somebody compliments me, especially a guy, i just won't believe ...
A. 30 January 2012: Agree with the last poster. First you said it was your red hair, now it's whether your skinny or not. There is a problem with how you see yourself. I don't know if this is something for a psychologist, but I do know you have to learn to feel well ... (read in full...)
This 'happily married man' seems too eager to perform handy man favours for my girlfriend
Q. Prior to meeting my girlfriend a year and a half ago, she met this supposedly “happily married” man at a church social function. According to my girlfriend, he apparently calls her from time-to-time to say “hi,” and will always inquire about any ...
A. 29 January 2012: You could be right, or not.
Some people are naturally very willing to help, and they do. Some people love to help others out, but that doesn't mean they won't do special favors for a special someone.
His being a Christian with a wife and famil... (read in full...)
My red hair gave me nothing but the blues
Q. I was bullied quite badly at school for having red hair. That was 7 years ago, i'm 24 now and look completely different, but i still feel like i'm the same person i was back then. If somebody compliments me, especially a guy, i just won't believe ...
A. 29 January 2012: In my humble opinion, red hair = hot.
I don't know what you look like, but I don't think you should have such a bad opinion of yourself.... (read in full...)
I am a sex addict and I need help!
Q. Hello. My name's Anon and I'm a sex addict. In the past I'd always been skeptical about the existence of sex addiction as a medical condition, in contrast to addictions to alcohol, drugs or gambling, but now believe it to be true and accept that ...
A. 28 January 2012: I am under the impression that you were feeling that your marriage somehow restricted you to only one woman, as opposed to before that, when you could sleep with "any". I feel that is why you slept with this other woman. No sex addiction.
You a... (read in full...)
I like my friend and got shot down. Do I try again?
Q. So I have a friend that I recently told I have feelings for. The problem is, when I told her, it was really awkward and she pretty much walked me into the whole situation. She shot me down, but my heart won't let me give up. Would going up to her ...
A. 28 January 2012: Moving on is the best idea.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to fancy a woman who is 25 when your 44?
Q. Im from the usa and 44 im divored 10 years this march and always dated woman my age . I'm friends with this Irish woman at work and its strange because when i see this particular woman my heart pounds weirdly fast! This woman she is about 5...
A. 28 January 2012: She must be a very good looking woman. Your fancying her is not wrong.
Dating her could be a different matter. On this board you will find lots of people who would say that age is just a number and the like. I am not so sure. I am about yo... (read in full...)
After being heartbroken, I finally met a wonderful woman! But I am out of shape and could ruin my chances at love again! Help!
Q. it has taken me a long time to get over my ex. I have at times been very down and reached a point where i almost stopped going out. I just stayed at home ate and moped. A year later i have realized that i have become a mess. I have lost most if not ...
A. 27 January 2012: Eat less, work out, and bear in mind that she liked you as you are today.... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless, sexless marriage. Everybody loves my husband except me.
Q. I have been married for many years and I have children. I have fallen in love with another man and the other man feels the same way about me. How do you make the choice to leave your marriage? I am not happy with my husband. I keep hearing everyone ...
A. 27 January 2012: I must defer to aunts with greater experience than me, but I must say that I don't envy you. Whatever you do, something will not be right.... (read in full...)
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