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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Why do men want oral sex?
Q. why do men want oral sex ...
A. 17 March 2012: We know so many women don't like it, and that is why you must not force a woman to do it.... (read in full...)
What's the best way to let him down easy?
Q. Okay so I just got out of a 2 year relationship where I was cheated on and lied to constantly. I am not ready to date or for commitment for a long time. There is this guy who likes me though who I have been hanging out with for a while and ...
A. 16 March 2012: You don't have to tell him what you're into. All the information he needs is found in this statement: "Hey, (insert name here): I notice you still love me, and I'm sorry to break your heart but I don't. Please don't insist".... (read in full...)
Why couldn't I love the man who loves me?
Q. Dear Cupid I have divorced my husband 2 years back. I often used to wonder why i left my exhusband in the first place. He doesnt earn much other than that he is a good person at heart and he still loves me and wants me back. I know he is very ...
A. 16 March 2012: He didn't ring your bell. That happens.... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Is he keeping me around just in case?
Q. I think I may have my own answers here but I'm curious as to what others think...especially a male perspective! Im quasi-dating a guy and have been seeing him about once a week for the last month. But the interest has waned I feel. he use to ...
A. 16 March 2012: The truth about "quasi-dating" is that they are not really dating you. Maybe he feels he has no obligation towards you and his interest may have waned.
If you're fine with quasi-dating, then this is fine, too.... (read in full...)
Why do men want oral sex?
Q. why do men want oral sex ...
A. 16 March 2012: Ditto, ditto.... (read in full...)
Am I having safe oral sex by not using a condom?
Q. i give my partner oral sex fairly regularly. He is one of two that I have given oral sex too. (The first guy was an ex boyfriend and I only did it twice with him) Anyway. Both guys are clear of STDs. My current bf and I don't use a condom for oral. ...
A. 16 March 2012: You can get papilloma even with condoms. You are not practicing safe sex.
Giving oral sex only twice is statistically less risky than giving oral sex twenty times, say, but that does not mean it does not entail any risks.
Now, you must not go ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for her but she will not leave her fiance for me
Q. Right, I am 25 and have been working with a women fro the last couple of months and I have fallen for her more then anyone else in my life. She is a year younger then me and engaged. We have flirted since the second day we worked together and got...
A. 16 March 2012: It takes a while to learn that, however much you love a woman, she needs to be free if you are to pursue anything with her. And this means that she needs to want to be free for you.
It takes a longer while to really learn that you should not purs... (read in full...)
Why can't I cum during a blowjob?
Q. Ever since my first blow job i haven't been able to cum? This is like 10-12 times now. This girl I see comes over and blows me and she gets frustrated because i can't cum. What can i do to cum when i get a blowjob? Help Please...
A. 16 March 2012: Cerberus is right.... (read in full...)
Does she want my penis or just want a friend for comfort?
Q. Long time no see. I'll get straight to it. Alright, so last year a friend from my past sprang up and started talking to me again. To clarify, I had spent some time with her boyfriend and she must have been curious or thought I was dead or somethin...
A. 16 March 2012: I'm afraid we can't know.... (read in full...)
Is it better to tell a guy you like him, or play it cool?
Q. So. I'm into a guy friend of mine. We're both 19. Pretty sure he knows (all our friends know). We hang out a lot and do stuff together and talk quite a bit, but so far he really hasn't been the initiator for a whole lot of it, although he seems to ...
A. 16 March 2012: Shy guy is not a mind reader. Why don't you spill the beans to him?
Shy guy may also fear that you will reject him.
Would you let the good guy go just because you did not dare to speak?... (read in full...)
A friend old enough to be my grandfather told me I drank too much and then offered to have a FWB relationship with me
Q. Hi everyone! Hope you can help me with this. I am a student in a country different than my own. I made a lot of friends at university and in my new life. One of them is a lot older than me and an artist (he just turned sixty and I am in my mid ...
A. 15 March 2012: Bad old fart.... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship--but I find women utterly annoying!!
Q. ok here's my problem. i've never really had a successful relationship with a woman. the reason is...the ones I've dated or known closely have gotten to be the most annoying, superficial. dishonest, and gossipy individuals I've ever met. i am ...
A. 15 March 2012: Well, I'm a man and I'm known for being unable to hold my tongue :-).
Seems you have had very bad experiences :-).
IAmHereToHelpYou, yes, "the scent is in the air".... (read in full...)
Is it normal for boyfriends to complain to friends about you?
Q. Is it normal for your boyfriend to complain about you to a friend? Do the circumstances matter? I know that I've discussed concerns I have about my boyfriend or about our relationship to friends, but because ultimately I believe my boyfriend is ...
A. 15 March 2012: What if it makes no sense complaining to you?... (read in full...)
Is she flirting or does she want something more?
Q. Hi everyone I work in an open plan office with loads of people who work with different areas. There's this woman who is about 11 years older than me. She is cute. She always says hello and asks how I am as I do the same. Although when we have ...
A. 15 March 2012: Take the same answer I gave that guy.... (read in full...)
Is she flirting or does she want something more?
Q. Hi everyone I work in an open plan office with loads of people who work with different areas. There's this woman who is about 11 years older than me. She is cute. She always says hello and asks how I am as I do the same. Although when we have ...
A. 15 March 2012: Are you this guy:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-she-just-flirting-of-possibly-really-interested.html
?... (read in full...)
Should I reconsider the trip for my reputation? Is it too early to go on vacation together?
Q. I'm 21 and I've been dating someone from my university for two months. We've planned a 3 day trip to another state for spring break. We both think it would be really fun to explore another city together. However, my mom was furious when she...
A. 15 March 2012: A multi-day trip does not require that you share the room. Get your own room and that will be it.
By the way, if you were to sleep together, I think you wouldn't need to go to another city. Your community will get the message it chooses to get, ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a prostitute, can I get her to love me back?
Q. since a short time i started two have every times more feelings for this girl she is a young prostitute and what yes i was with many prostitutes and i never believed that one day i will fall in love in one i woud probally before be againt a person ...
A. 15 March 2012: Poster: Sorry, but don't do what the reader below recommends. If this lady is not really interested in you, but perceives you are, then she'll abuse you. You have to get to know her FIRST.... (read in full...)
Pictures of my boyfriend with girls on his lap, trips to strip clubs and hanging out with wild girls.....I'm not happy about this, but he says I'm taking away his freedom!
Q. Hello everyone, i am facing an issue and i cant figure exactly whats the underlying cause. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.And right now we are doing longdistance due to college.I love him a lot and he loves me too;however we are having s...
A. 15 March 2012: What Honeygirl said.... (read in full...)
How can I show this girl that everything would work if she would bring our dating out into the open?
Q. Until recently I was dating a girl in secret for 5 years. She didnt want anyone to know because there was a 12 year age gap, and she was convinced everyone would make her end it. She is 27 now. After 5 years I wanted it to be out in the open as w...
A. 15 March 2012: Sorry buddy, but I would have expected you to know better here. She was 22 and you were like 35.
Besides that, if she's ended it, she's ended it. Period.... (read in full...)
How do I get over my younger FWB?
Q. I have left my 19 year old FWB and now I miss him more then ever. I have gone in a depression mode. At first it was just all for sex and then i started having feelings for him. I want a relationship with him but he doesnt. I really dont think he ...
A. 15 March 2012: I have to agree with Cupid Boy. One can but wonder who was in control: the 35 year old or the 19 year old. We're talking a difference of 16 years. The older of the two should have been old enough to know that friends with benefits doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do I stop comparing this new guy to my ex?
Q. I had a very intense year long LDR with a guy in the army and I finished it at christmas time. I was totally head over heels for him but I couldnt trust him and he was always messing me about. Now someone else has walked into my life and Im thin...
A. 15 March 2012: Don't get involved with someone else unless you're willing to give him, in the immortal words of Gerry Adams, "your fullest attention". I think you'll end up dumping this new guy. You're not over your ex yet.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a prostitute, can I get her to love me back?
Q. since a short time i started two have every times more feelings for this girl she is a young prostitute and what yes i was with many prostitutes and i never believed that one day i will fall in love in one i woud probally before be againt a person ...
A. 14 March 2012: A prostitute is a woman and therefore you can fall in love with her. She may work in sex, but that does not mean she doesn't have personal qualities. And she may also fall in love with you, because, again, she's a woman and you have virtues as ... (read in full...)
How do I tell b/f in a nice way that I'm horny and want more sex?
Q. My bf and I have been together 8 months. We met on a dating site. He still lives with his parents (for various reasons) and since they are an hour away from me, he basically lives with me 3 nights a week on the weekend. The problem is that, on ...
A. 14 March 2012: You can never really know how much sex a man had had, because only rarely will we not say that we slept with everyone in the world (and a few hot Martians). Just ask any grandpa and you will find that none was the dumb guy in the classroom.
All y... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend so he can experience the life he wants?
Q. I am 27 and my boyfriend is 22. We've been together a year and a half. Recently we have been arguing because he's starting to feel like he's been missing out on his youth. I've had more partners than him and got to party and enjoy my 20s and he says ...
A. 14 March 2012: Help him pack.... (read in full...)
What is a guy's definition of 'soon'?
Q. What does a guy mean by saying 'can I see you soon?' whats a guys definition of soon? Thanks...
A. 14 March 2012: Soon.... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with the man I had an affair with. How do I mend my broken heart?
Q. Well I had been married for 15yrs before I had my affair last summer 2011. It has been so long ago that I felt any sort of connection other than friendship with my husband. I have always had to deal with mental abuse from my in laws and my husband ...
A. 14 March 2012: Exactly what worldlywise said.... (read in full...)
Is she just flirting of possibly really interested?
Q. hi i started a job in october and i am 19 this year. a woman who works in the same office as me is about late 20's early 30's I think she's cute but left it at that. she always say "hi love" when i walk past her and we ask each other if eve...
A. 14 March 2012: Many women flirt with the new young guy and aren't really interested. Some others see you as the pretty puppy - he's so funny and small and furry and barky and adorable!!!!!
I don't think she's flirting.
Involvement with someone in your ... (read in full...)
He asked me out 28 years later, had a great time but wants nothing serious! I think I am going to get hurt again, so am I right to walk away?
Q. I have been separated for 1 yr and half..out of a 22 yrs of married I had a horrible ending to my marriage......well here comes along a guy who I was in love with 20+years ago my first love who now was also separated. God I was in love with him back ...
A. 14 March 2012: Also, from your post I have the impression that you sort of think that he's a knight in white armor. He's the average joe.
I think you're very hurt for the time being, and perhaps should avoid dating for a while. You could have unrealis... (read in full...)
He asked me out 28 years later, had a great time but wants nothing serious! I think I am going to get hurt again, so am I right to walk away?
Q. I have been separated for 1 yr and half..out of a 22 yrs of married I had a horrible ending to my marriage......well here comes along a guy who I was in love with 20+years ago my first love who now was also separated. God I was in love with him back ...
A. 14 March 2012: I feel that the key here is "wanted nothing serious". After 28 years, you're basically strangers and have to get to know what the other is like. Maybe he didn't like the new you in this date. That would not make him a bad guy. Now, if he had ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to ignore his ex's pregnancy and marry me
Q. My boyfriend and I had a brief break up in January an during our break up he had a brief sexual encounter with a young woman (she is about 25) he is 49. He also has Bipolar 2. She is now pregnant. He says he does not want anyhting to do with her ...
A. 14 March 2012: I have a bad feeling about this. I feel that his being bipolar is considered to sort of excuse his having slept with other woman, and then his leaving her and the baby all alone by themselves. He could some nasty thing to you, and then claim he ... (read in full...)
What's the Best Way to Deal With my Wife's Conflict With Other Women in her "Social Group"??
Q. My wife moved to the U.S. from the Philippines about 10 years ago, and we've been married a couple years. She's in her mid 30s. She recently had a falling out with one of her Filipina "friends", and both of them seem to be escalating the s...
A. 14 March 2012: 30 Filipinas is way too many Filipinas to get involved with.
I feel that some kind of "honor" is involved here. Avoid getting sucked into that. I like what Reality Check wrote: "Tell her to grow the hell up!"... (read in full...)
Hair extensions, whatever next?!
Q. I met this beautiful girl, she is laid back, funny, interesting, smart just a great girl! She has a great figure and is a natural beauty, unlike some the girls I see she doesn't look like she even has to try to look good. Well one thing about her ...
A. 14 March 2012: Sorry: You're silly.... (read in full...)
FWB told me "he could have me whenever he wanted me"
Q. hey, im so fed up there was this boy in which i use to sleep with. i know its wrong but he did have a gf. on the weekend i went out and ended up in a party, in which he was there. he just totally blanked me. i was talking to one of his fri...
A. 14 March 2012: Oh, and good riddance.... (read in full...)
FWB told me "he could have me whenever he wanted me"
Q. hey, im so fed up there was this boy in which i use to sleep with. i know its wrong but he did have a gf. on the weekend i went out and ended up in a party, in which he was there. he just totally blanked me. i was talking to one of his fri...
A. 14 March 2012: You should learn one small lesson: this friend with benefits was no friend. He was only interested in the benefits.... (read in full...)
Why cant my husband forgive me for lying about fiancial matters? I have been a devoted wife in every other way!
Q. I lied to my husband of 7 years about bills I was paying for my adult/college daugther (her car payment and cell phone)who is 1000 miles away from home,and credit cards I had that I paid for my husband found out and now it has turned into all out ...
A. 14 March 2012: He certainly didn't have to get the sisters involved; asking you to leave the home is way too much; and then, if he did not lose a cent, it's less of a problem. But it is still a problem.
From what I see, he's not exactly a good person. But that... (read in full...)
Why cant my husband forgive me for lying about fiancial matters? I have been a devoted wife in every other way!
Q. I lied to my husband of 7 years about bills I was paying for my adult/college daugther (her car payment and cell phone)who is 1000 miles away from home,and credit cards I had that I paid for my husband found out and now it has turned into all out ...
A. 13 March 2012: He may forgive you, but things will never be the same between you two: he just discovered that his relationship with you is not what he thought it was. He may be wondering what else he doesn't know. He also knows that you can hide stuff from him ... (read in full...)
He's not sure if we will get married and have kids with me, what do you guys think of this?
Q. Hi, heres a bit of backstory. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, lived together for 3 years and have 2 cats together. we get along very well dont often fight and are best friends. We often talk of our future plans buying house, caree...
A. 12 March 2012: His saying that he's not sure about getting married and having kids can be interpreted in two ways:
1. He's not sure but he may change his mind, or
2. A so-called polite way to say "I'm not getting married to you".
Option number 2 may also me... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about giving her a 'too' thoughtful present!
Q. Okay, so I have a friend who's birthday is coming up soon, and I want to get her something. In fact I got her something already, but it's kind of a bit too thoughtful for just friends, so naturally I'm having second thoughts about giving it to ...
A. 11 March 2012: Give her the teddy bear but don't expect anything in return.... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 10 March 2012: Yes: get on with it, or get rid of it.
Don't neglect your son in any way.... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or give my ex another chance?
Q. Hello, My question isn't a dire circumstance as most questions on this site often are. It is just a confusing situation. About a month ago I was in school in Indiana, I began dating and met a wonderful man (lets call him Dan). He has a job, he ha...
A. 9 March 2012: Dan Le Pew thinks you don't love Dan and you don't want to be with your ex either.... (read in full...)
What is he really saying when a guy says he's not ready to be in a relationship?
Q. There's this guy and I know for sure he likes me but he says he's not ready to be in a serious relationship because he broke up with his girlfriend 2 months ago. He said that I'm really beautiful and he's given a lot of thought about us. What d...
A. 9 March 2012: What Lazy Guy said.... (read in full...)
She's been dating him and me for almost 4 years, now she says she wants me. Is she lying?
Q. I'm so confused right know I've been sorta dating this girl now for almost four years now and I am madly in love with her but she also has a boyfriend of three years. And she was always sleeping around with other guys and then lieing to me about it ...
A. 9 March 2012: She's not lying, in the sense that she wants you. Now, being with her is a bad idea. Find out if the baby is yours, and forget about the rest.... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 9 March 2012: Don't neglect your child because of anything his mother did. He's YOUR child. He counts on you and you have a responsibility towards him, one that should be easy to bear because it's a loving responsibility.
As to her, you can take her as she i... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about giving her a 'too' thoughtful present!
Q. Okay, so I have a friend who's birthday is coming up soon, and I want to get her something. In fact I got her something already, but it's kind of a bit too thoughtful for just friends, so naturally I'm having second thoughts about giving it to ...
A. 9 March 2012: The real problem is not whether you should give her this or that. The real problem is whether you are going to get the girl or not. I cannot know what the situation is (I just know what you tell us), but from what you say the chances that you'll ... (read in full...)
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