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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 10 April 2012: I think the anger is correctly placed, only it should ALSO be placed on the husband.
Come on: he was sleeping with her. He goes back to his wife. Why stay in touch with her? So they can discuss the developments in the Middle East and what the... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: When the poster says Husband was "seeing a lady" and "whatnot", I take "whatnot" to include sex. When Husband returned to Wife and told Friend what had happened, Friend had to stay away.
Wife was not kind, but I do not think this was done out... (read in full...)
Should I have some sexual fun before I settle into marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Better go though me situation a bit. I'm in a 2.5 year long distance relationship. Been through good time and hard time. We meet every 4-5 months and make it a trip to somewhere away from home. We last met three months ago and g...
A. 9 April 2012: I agree with the Anonymous female. The poster should not marry this man.... (read in full...)
My biological clock is ticking, and he just rolls his eyes!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. From the start he knew i wanted marriage and children some day. He also told me he wanted those things. Over time, this has gone to, wanting it, not wanting it, not sure, wanting it. He has also ...
A. 9 April 2012: It is very clear that, from his perspective, you have to take the deal as it is now. If you don't like that, the only choice he gives you is leaving.... (read in full...)
Should I have some sexual fun before I settle into marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Better go though me situation a bit. I'm in a 2.5 year long distance relationship. Been through good time and hard time. We meet every 4-5 months and make it a trip to somewhere away from home. We last met three months ago and g...
A. 9 April 2012: Sure. Just tell your husband-to-be that, since he has the same needs, he can also sleep with someone on your wedding list. Let him know that, since you intend to abuse a quiet, caring guy, he has to abuse a quiet, caring woman. As an alternative, ... (read in full...)
How does a man lose interest so quickly
Q. I began dating this guy and at first I was not into him. He's not that good looking and was a little too clingy too early on. He came on really strong, and I wasn't over my previous boyfriend. So at first I didn't treat him too well... But the...
A. 8 April 2012: May I only say that, contrary to what women like to think, a man who is really interested (as opposed to one who is faking interest) does not let go that easily. Witness to that the many women who complain about men not being able to take hints ... (read in full...)
A nice girl wants to date me but she doesn't know that I"m gay
Q. Theirs this girl at school that really likes me and she is a awesome person. She likes me a whole lot and wants to date me so bad but there's a problem. I'm gay and I'm not interested and I'm DL gay so that's why girls like me because I'm not a ...
A. 7 April 2012: I agree that you must not lie. Just say "You're great and et cetera, but I'm not interested".... (read in full...)
Do other couples not sleep in the same bed so they can sleep better?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend and I are happy together. We are each other's best friends, we share the same interests and spend the majority of our spare time doing fun things together. We spend more time together than the average couple, definite...
A. 7 April 2012: It seems this arrangement works in your case.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: I Am Here to Help You Said it Perfectly:
Any man who wants children with the woman he loves would NEVER suggest that they'd contaminate his bloodline because they are of mixed ethnicity!
By the way, I met one man - whose national origin ... (read in full...)
My husband sends my daughter to bed so that we can go around the house naked. Is this fair?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman and newlywed with a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My new husband insists that a night, my daughter go to her room so we can have private time and likes me to go nude around the house, even if we are ...
A. 7 April 2012: I think it's unfair. The girl is being treated as someone who stands in his way.... (read in full...)
Do beautiful women sometimes go out with unattractive guys just because they like the attention?
Q. Hi All, I have a cousin who for a few months hooked up with this gorgeous chick. She was a 26 year old model, and he was a 40 year old government worker. He was head over heels for her, and spent money on her, took her places, etc. We in the fam ...
A. 7 April 2012: I will state the obvious: women do not necessarily date someone because he is good looking or changes his underwear often. Maybe she liked Randy. Or, maybe Randy -who may have been named very aptly- was in the business as well?
I say, he had h... (read in full...)
Is he lying to cover up his problems getting an erection?
Q. Help I've been with my boyfreind now a couple of months, so everything is fresh and new and we're getting to know things about each other.. Its all bliss apart from one thing... Sex! My boyfriend finds it hard to get and maintain an erection. He'...
A. 5 April 2012: If he can have an erection, even one that will last only briefly, then the problem is not physical. It's most likely a psychological thing. Being in war does things to your heart and your mind.... (read in full...)
I have red hair & very fair skin, I am always the subject of jokes, do people really find this unattractive??
Q. Okay so I am cursed (or blessed depending on how you look at it) with naturally red hair and super pale skin(even if I get sunburnt it just becomes even paler) and I was wondering if people actually find this to be such a bad thing. I have had to ...
A. 5 April 2012: I would find you smoking hot.... (read in full...)
Should I just have a one night stand?
Q. I'm a female in my mid twenties and haven't had sex in over eight months. I am constantly horny and masturbate almost everyday. I have never had a one night stand with a guy because I always feared stds and what not as well as my reputation because ...
A. 5 April 2012: If you just want to have sex, why ask for advice on whether you should or not?
Take control of what you do and why.... (read in full...)
Drawing boundaries with an FWB.
Q. I've got a pretty typical but still vexing problem... how do you deal with jealousy and boundaries when in a friends-with-benefits situation? I've been hanging out with the same guy, about two and a half months now. When we first started hanging ...
A. 5 April 2012: Friends with benefits means you have no right to exclusivity of any kind. Do you like that?... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a flirty young teen? She came on to me. I stopped tutoring her. But she thinks I like her. I've said no. She's not listening.
Q. I’m having trouble with this kid. It all started when I was looking for a part time job. I’m a college student and I’m living in an apartment with my room-mates. As I was good in maths I decided to teach maths at high school to the ninth grader...
A. 4 April 2012: What the others said.... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a coworker. What do I do?
Q. So I've been working with this girl for about 2 months and we never really talked a lot, but last Saturday, me, her, and another coworker hung out after work, and we were out until 3 am, just talking, walking around Walmart, and then we had Taco ...
A. 4 April 2012: There is much to lose if you're wrong, but it seems she's into you.... (read in full...)
Dumped for a rich guy: was girl being shallow or practical?
Q. Yeah so a couple weeks ago this girl I was seeing for a few months. Really pretty girl, my friends even said he was hot. I'm an average guy, maybe a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. I make a decent living but def not rich. Anyway, to make a long story short ...
A. 27 March 2012: I would say she wasn't right, but that makes absolutely no difference to you. The truth of the matter is that she still wants the rich guy. This is not a good person to be with, so I think you're way better off now than you were before. Count ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl who sleeps in the same bed as her male friend and doesn't see anything wrong with it
Q. This is a bit long winded but I just want to give you as much info as possible so bear with me. I started seeing a girl (shes 24, I'm 28) and we had been on like 3 or 4 dates. I was also seeing her most nights after work as we live very close. W...
A. 26 March 2012: OK, do this: get some hot buxom blonde to sleep in the same bed as you and make sure she knows. Let's see the reaction.... (read in full...)
Why does only older women tell me I'm attractive?
Q. I'm a 18 years old male with an appearance of a 15/16 year old (besides my beard). Some people even get surprised when I tell my age, thinking I was younger and then telling me I have a kiddy face. Personally, I don't find myself ugly face-wise. ...
A. 26 March 2012: Wait. That too shall pass.... (read in full...)
Will he cheat with her again?
Q. Here I go: I meet him at work(we worked in different dep) We started talking and doing activities together. Sex came in the picture, everything was fine, we started going for lunch at work, seeing eachother after work for movies, drives out of t...
A. 26 March 2012: I'm not sure if he would cheat with "her", but I am sure he would with "another woman".... (read in full...)
Her promiscuous past and comment about "I wouldn't have dated you then because of your appearance" have really shook me up!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am nearly 49 dating a very special 51 year old woman for about eight months now. She is extremely fun, beautiful and sexy and I love all that about her and more. Early in the relationship, she admitted to me about her promiscuos p...
A. 26 March 2012: The truth of the matter is that no one really knows whether the lady meant to say that she settled for the poster, or if wisdom has caught up with her and now she is with someone whose virtues she wouldn't have noticed before.
The truth of the m... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl who sleeps in the same bed as her male friend and doesn't see anything wrong with it
Q. This is a bit long winded but I just want to give you as much info as possible so bear with me. I started seeing a girl (shes 24, I'm 28) and we had been on like 3 or 4 dates. I was also seeing her most nights after work as we live very close. W...
A. 26 March 2012: Imagine what she would say if you had a female friend who slept in your bed. That is your answer.... (read in full...)
Can we have sex on our wedding night when he's going to be in a cast?
Q. I am 24 and a virgin. It's not like I didn't choose this because I wanted to give my all to my gorgeous fiance. Anyway we get married in May and I was fine with the idea of how we will spend the night and what we will get up to in the bedroom. ...
A. 25 March 2012: You can unleash your imagination regarding that cast :-). No problems.... (read in full...)
Should I break my 'don't date clients' rule for her?
Q. I'm a tattoo artist by profession and I believe that ethically I shouldn't date any client...But am I wrong? I'm absolutely crazy about a girl who's getting a tattoo off me in a few days...I've been refraining from asking her out on an actual date ...
A. 25 March 2012: I was going to give you a definite "no". But your business is very particular.
Let her decide whether she wants to have that reminder of you or not, OK? She can have it deleted anyways.... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 24 March 2012: My honest advice, poster: This is your real problem:
Why do they carry on even though they have a woman they love who supposedly is more attractive to them crying her eyes out and moaning all the time?
Your problem is not pornography, but... (read in full...)
Has my ex had a strange change of heart?
Q. Hello. My name's Brian. I have a very confusing situation. It has been 3 years, since I have been romantically rejected by my first girlfriend. She offered to be my friend. However, I found that she wasn't very trustworthy, after knowing that a m...
A. 24 March 2012: Dumping someone is not a nice thing to do, and it feels even worse when the other person (Brian) has been kind and nice and overall good. So people tend to say things that they suppose will be helpful to relieve the pain. "We're friends" is ... (read in full...)
I blocked him on Facebook without telling him why, but I don't want to burn bridges because he could be useful in the future. Should I explain my actions? Or forget about it?
Q. Hi agony aunts. I was seeing a guy for about 2 months. It started out with us hanging out casually and then one night out of the blue he we made out no sex. (worst kisser i have ever had). After that the friendship bit got hazy, i tried to ask him ...
A. 24 March 2012: Same thing applies. Follow Ciar's advice.... (read in full...)
Is it weird to send him sexy pics of me after not having spoken in a long time?
Q. I was dating a great guy but he moved away and he was really disappointed about the distance as it interferes with us continuing things. And we haven't spoken in 2 months. Last time I spoke to him, when he was already moved and settled, he sent me a ...
A. 23 March 2012: Yes, it's weird.... (read in full...)
Making a book for my friend as my leaving gift, should there be a love letter at the end now I have fallen for her?
Q. In about two months, I'll be leaving the Philippines and going back home to New Jersey. I realize that I will be leaving my best friend here, and I admit that I will miss her a lot. Honestly, when I think about leaving... the thought that pops of ...
A. 23 March 2012: Annalisa is right.... (read in full...)
The guy I'm attracted to had sex with a co-worker who's twice my age. I get sick just thinking about it
Q. Alright, so there's this guy... We met, and instantly were attracted to each other. Because of work schedules, we never got to really spend time together. He would occasionally drop in on me at work, and we would constantly text/message/communicate. ...
A. 23 March 2012: You feel he cheated on you, and then with an unworthy woman.
Fist, I would like to say that the average 42 year old woman is not disgusting. The fact that this man had sex with you is what should bother you, and then I need to qualify that.
... (read in full...)
I blocked him on Facebook without telling him why, but I don't want to burn bridges because he could be useful in the future. Should I explain my actions? Or forget about it?
Q. Hi agony aunts. I was seeing a guy for about 2 months. It started out with us hanging out casually and then one night out of the blue he we made out no sex. (worst kisser i have ever had). After that the friendship bit got hazy, i tried to ask him ...
A. 23 March 2012: Don't get involved with people you work with.... (read in full...)
Guys: would you date a girl if you knew she had done nude modelling?
Q. I have been modeling for an online lingerie site. I was approached by a porn site for nude modeling... The money they offered was amazing! I told them I would NEVER do photos with a man or another woman... Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew...
A. 23 March 2012: Some men would have a problem with their girlfriend having done nude modelling. They wouldn't want every other friend or acquaintance of them to see them and secretly think "I know what Mary's breasts are like".
Some other men wouldn't mind. T... (read in full...)
What are the reasons a fairly confident guy would become quiet around a shy girl?
Q. what are the reasons a fairly confident guy would become quiet around a shy girl? I met this guy a bit ago while out with friends and he was very outgoing, maintained eye contact, etc. But when I saw him the other day, while I was out with the...
A. 22 March 2012: Could be that he likes you, or not.... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with someone who is 9000 miles away....
Q. it all started when I saw her blog link on a website, and you can call it a love at first click. 'you just fall for her look, you will get over it soon.'; 'tumblr is not a social network for you to find a date!' etc... I'm tired of hearing these...
A. 22 March 2012: You can't choose who you like or who makes you feel butterflies, but you can be realistic and understand that this is not going to work out. Sorry. 0% chance, as you say.... (read in full...)
Do I unleash that animal inside me that was there before we met and do I be myself
Q. i have been dating a russian girl (27YO) for 8 months.she is studying here and is looking for permanent residency. i consider myself and have been stereotyped in the bad boy category. during the time we have spent together she has tamed me somewhat ...
A. 22 March 2012: Sorry to tell you this, but the Animal inside of you was probably not as rough as the animals she met in Russia. You cooked for her and did nice stuff for her and got her flowers and that. Animals just bring the catch of the day, leaving blood all ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she is in love with me but is not physically attracted to me!
Q. Hello everyone I'm not sure how common is this question but can you be in love with someone and yet have no physical attraction to your partner? I ask this because that's what my girlfriend says about me. I know I'm not the greatest looking guy...
A. 22 March 2012: What Caring Guy said.... (read in full...)
How long do guys normally last during anal sex?
Q. okay people, i have a question a bit embarrassing. i just wondered, how long do guys generally last before they cum during anal sex? my boyfriend has done it before ( not with me) but i haven't.he said he wouldnt last long anyway, coz it would be a ...
A. 22 March 2012: I have the hunch that you are reluctantly agreeing to anal sex, and hope it will not take long and will not hurt. The key word here is "reluctantly". Don't do anything you don't want to do. And, if it hurts, something could be damanged and you ... (read in full...)
Is a massage with an 'unintentional' happy ending cheating?
Q. Is a massage with an 'unintentional' happy ending cheating? I'm a married woman. Before I met my husband I did take some classes at a massage school. I never persued that as a career (my husband would never approve). However, I am very good at giv...
A. 22 March 2012: You did nothing wrong, but some people would have trouble believing that. So it's best if you say nothing: first, because you did nothing wrong. Second, because your telling about it will not help anyone.... (read in full...)
My husband has an obsession with my butt.
Q. This question is for ladies only. I am new to the internet. I come from a culture where girls are not educated about sexuality. I never had any sexual encounter with a man before my wedding. A few months after my marriage,my husband left country to ...
A. 22 March 2012: No problem. He just has a thing for your backside. Maybe he has a good reason.... (read in full...)
Dry humping and pregnancy?
Q. Im curious is it possible for someone to fall pregnant from dry humping. At first I thought it wasnt possible until someone said it happened to them. The thing is my friend and i were making out and he was dry humping me in just our underwear and he ...
A. 22 March 2012: Ciar is right.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have trouble forgiving in a relationship?
Q. Does anyone else find that whenever anyone does anything wrong they can't forgive them very easily? It's like whenever anyone's done anything wrong in a relationship I can't forgive them all I can do is keep moaning and going on about it. I am so ...
A. 21 March 2012: That you may forgive but not allow. That is not acceptable.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have trouble forgiving in a relationship?
Q. Does anyone else find that whenever anyone does anything wrong they can't forgive them very easily? It's like whenever anyone's done anything wrong in a relationship I can't forgive them all I can do is keep moaning and going on about it. I am so ...
A. 21 March 2012: Forgiving is great. It means you recognize that everyone is imperfect and may occasionally hurt you, sometimes on purpose, but the person has another chance. Or seventy times seven chances.
Forgiving is also great because it releases you. Wh... (read in full...)
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