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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I usually have high standards, so why am I into this average looking girl?
Q. Usually I have very high standards (it takes a fair amount of beauty to get a 8-10 mental rating from me), but I have recently met this girl who I would have never looked twice at in the street and I don't know why I am so taken with her...?...
A. 16 April 2012: I'm under the impression that you feel you've lowered your standards. Poor girl.... (read in full...)
Cultural differences are causing big problems in our relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I love one another very much, but we have communication/understanding problems due to cultural differences. My parents and I are both Korean American, and he is a Korean international student from Korea. Although my parents and I ...
A. 16 April 2012: I believe it's not a problem of culture, but personality.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 years this summer, weve had our ups and downs and odd little breaks but overall everything is good. We had a big heart to heart last year when he told me approx a year before i met him he had oral sex with another ...
A. 16 April 2012: I would think that he's at least bisexual. See that he is sending his picture to gay men and receiving theirs. That is not what a straight man does.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date a guy older than you?
Q. Is it "wrong" for you to be with a guy that's older than you?? Like five years? I just wanted to know your guys input. So if youre wondering yea im dating an older guy. We both love each other alot and its not just about sex. We havent even had ...
A. 16 April 2012: Since you're underage, the answer is yes.... (read in full...)
Dating a divorcee?
Q. I am a single mom of 3 and 27. I have been in a relationship with my neighbor for about 4 months. Hes 40, divorced with 1 child he gets every other weekend. We have been friends since I moved into the house 2 years ago. We had long conversations ...
A. 15 April 2012: The real question is whether this man wants a relationship. We can't tell.... (read in full...)
I got rejected by a guy after just one date!
Q. I met this guy a week ago at a party and we made out. He asked for my number and I got all excited about going on a date with him. We finally met up last night - though I was really, really tired - for an hour or so. He was really affectionate and I ...
A. 15 April 2012: S**t happens. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 15 April 2012: Show him the door.... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to let me pay for his vacation?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I want to go on vacation with. My brother and his girlfriend have been asked to come with us, and it's all looking good so far. We're planning on catching a last-minute flight to save on money, as last minute flights are real...
A. 15 April 2012: Yes, if the genders were reversed there would be no problem to treat a guy to a vacation. But the genders are not reversed.
Trust me: this is a very bad idea.
There is one kind of man who will play say he is sensitive and liberated and wo... (read in full...)
Are there any men they do not use pornography in a relationship?
Q. Are there any men here who don't use pornography in a relationship? I would absolutely love knowing they weren't looking at anyone else. I don't even know why they still do it and thinks it's normal to still look when they are getting sex. Men want ...
A. 13 April 2012: Yes, there are men who don't check porn when they are with their women.... (read in full...)
I'm talking to a guy online and using a fake photo of me! Will he be mad when he finds out?
Q. I created a fake profile while pretending to be this really gorgeous girl. Basically I took her photos off online because she has a beauty blog and videos etc so they were very easy to get. I feel bad because there is a cute guy that I talk to all ...
A. 13 April 2012: He will probably wonder what else you lied about. And, if he liked the picture, not you, then he will also dump you.... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to let me pay for his vacation?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I want to go on vacation with. My brother and his girlfriend have been asked to come with us, and it's all looking good so far. We're planning on catching a last-minute flight to save on money, as last minute flights are real...
A. 13 April 2012: What Anonymous and You Wish said. Right on the money.... (read in full...)
Is she interested or not?
Q. My ex and I recently ran into eachother and have started talking again. We broke up over 2 years ago. She split up with me because she thought I was seeing someone else, which I wasn't, and she thought I was a bit needy. Her insecurity made me t...
A. 13 April 2012: Foot in Her Mouth is right.... (read in full...)
I need to let go, I want to let go, of my ex-girlfriend!
Q. In june of last year (2011), I met this really interesting girl. We went out a few times and had a little fling. It didn't work out. We broke up and got back together quite a few times; always trying again and again. Eventually I came to the real...
A. 11 April 2012: Why don't you try to keep some distance from her? Why is she still on your Facebook?... (read in full...)
People think I am dating my bi-sexual best friend but its not true, yes we are both single but not together! How do we stop this so it doesn't give the impression we are unavailable?
Q. Most people think I'm dating my bisexual best friend. It's not the case. It's true that we're very close and for instance, when we go out we hold hands or hug a lot, but that's how are friendship has grown. I don't want to change the way I act ...
A. 11 April 2012: Yeah: if you don't want to give the impression you're not available, then don't act as boyfriend and girlfriend.... (read in full...)
This girl I work with is cheating on her fiance! Should I tell him or stay out of it?
Q. Should I say something? Or say out of it? There is a girl Ive worked with at work that I got to know very well. Ive even met her fiance about four or five times when he stops over at are work to pick her up which they will be getting married ...
A. 11 April 2012: In a perfect world, people would appreciate your gesture (of course, not the girlfriend). In the real world, they will probably hate you for it. Girlfriend and Co-worker, for obvious reasons; boyfriend, because he would feel ashamed that you know ... (read in full...)
Should I wait around and help my G/f with her life or do what is best for me?
Q. Hello, I am a sophomore in college and things were going great the first year but I've slipped into a huge rut this second year. Anyways, I have been in a great relationship for just over 3 years now. She is my high school sweet heart. Whe...
A. 11 April 2012: I personally think that she has to try to overcome her own grief. You can be there for her, but you can't keep things to the point you have taken them. You're making her dependent on you and that is not right.
Do your own stuff first, and then... (read in full...)
Who is right, me or my wife? And what advice do we give our friends?
Q. I searched the internet for advice sites, and I ended up here. We (my wife and I) have a question. We have some friends who are a little younger than us (mid 20's). They are engaged to be married. The Guy has an apartment, and the Girl moved back ...
A. 11 April 2012: Why are you guys arguing over what other people should keep or not? Let them choose. It's not your problem... Have you tried telling them something like "Hey, that's for you to decide, guys"?... (read in full...)
Everyone knows we will never get married except for my boyfriend!
Q. Can anyone help? To cut a long story short, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. 10 months ago he asked me to marry him but it turns out he just wanted a wife to live with and look after his parents. I told him I didn't want to get married...
A. 11 April 2012: You told him you didn't want to get married for that reason, but didn't leave him. Naturally he expects that at some point you will give in.
If you are so sure that marrying him would be a big mistake, why not end the relationship? The differen... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is obsessed with my ex and is now asking me to compare her to my ex in every way, physically, mentally, sexually. Is this weird?
Q. girlfriend obsessed with exes, attacks me verbally. ive been with this girl for almost 11 monthes. some days she begins to think about my ex, she goes on her twitter page, facebook etc. . .then she brings her up at least 4 times a week telling m...
A. 11 April 2012: Yes. Very.
Can you ask her to please stop?... (read in full...)
Virgin, left husband, now dating but not sure how men will react to my virginity
Q. This is a unique situation I am in. Married for 10 years. Never consummated my marriage with my husband. I am still a virgin. We are now separated and heading for divorce. This was not the primary reason for us splitting. There were other issues ...
A. 11 April 2012: May I only say that some people would not believe you're still a virgin. So don't say anything and let it happen.... (read in full...)
She was a virgin when she met me but had dated a guy before me, I get so jealous because of this! Am I wrong? What should I do?
Q. I'm 5 years of marriage and i am my wife's first man, she was virgin before me i wasn't. The fact is she used to date a guy by distance and we have a lovely friend who is this guy parent! I get jealous everytime we have to go to a child party or to ...
A. 10 April 2012: I bet to disagree with lovely Tisha on the issue of therapy.
So you don't want her to even have dated someone before you?
GET A GRIP ON YOURSELF!... (read in full...)
Is it best just to stay away from my abusive mother?
Q. I am just writing this for some advice regarding my 68 yr old mother. I am a 46 mother of two and grandmother of one. -ever since i can remember my mother has always put me down - and is constantly nasty. If i ever question her ways she just replies ...
A. 10 April 2012: Yes.... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with another man, but he doesn't want to watch, he just wants me to tell him about it. What is this called?
Q. Can someone please tell me... " my husband wants me to have sex with another man, he does not want to watch but he wants me to tell him about it" What is this called? ...
A. 10 April 2012: I would feel insulted if my wife cared so little about me that she had no problem sharing me with someone else.... (read in full...)
I lied to her and told her I am still a virgin
Q. Before I officially went out with my girlfriend, I was a virgin. However, during the time I was getting to know her (we weren't going out yet), I had sex with two other girls. A few weeks after we actually decided to make it official that we...
A. 10 April 2012: She may give you a second chance depending on her assessment of you: "He was stupid, but he's not mean and I can depend on him. Not perfect, but reliable" or "Darn, he lied again". Your call.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has low self esteem and doesn't believe me when I say she's beautiful
Q. How can I boost my girlfriend's self confidence? We have been together for three years and over time she has gained some weight. She is still as beautiful as ever but she is really down about the weight. I keep telling her she is perfect but she ...
A. 10 April 2012: You know, pal? Why don't you ask her to lose weight instead of complain? Of course you won't say it that directly. Something like "See, you can do this to feel better". Only make her responsible for losing her weight if that is what she wants.... (read in full...)
Is my high sex drive normal for a 47 year old male?
Q. I'm a 47 year old male and I've been seeing the same girl for about four years now. It seems as if my sex drive is only increasing in intensity, although I have always had a high sex drive. Is this normal for a man my age? We have sex about 2...
A. 10 April 2012: OK. So, at 47, you still haven't found a single wrinkle on your face, a pain here and there, that has told you, without room for doubt, that you'll die, eventually, but will be losing faculties along the way, and the ability to sustain an erection ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and I like talking to girls in their late teens. Is this a bad thing?
Q. Hi I'm currently 25 and I still like talking to young girls in their late teens. My parents say that it's illegal to date girls 17 or under. I don't understand why it would be so bad. Sex is a different issue, but I'm talking about just being close ...
A. 10 April 2012: Man, you're playing games with yourself.
The law doesn't say "we're just hanging out". It forbids you from staying close to them with any romantic intention.
Capisci?
And no, I don't believe you that you just want to make friends. Not ev... (read in full...)
I lied to her and told her I am still a virgin
Q. Before I officially went out with my girlfriend, I was a virgin. However, during the time I was getting to know her (we weren't going out yet), I had sex with two other girls. A few weeks after we actually decided to make it official that we...
A. 10 April 2012: So Very Confused is right.... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and I like talking to girls in their late teens. Is this a bad thing?
Q. Hi I'm currently 25 and I still like talking to young girls in their late teens. My parents say that it's illegal to date girls 17 or under. I don't understand why it would be so bad. Sex is a different issue, but I'm talking about just being close ...
A. 10 April 2012: Yes. You think there is nothing wrong in "talking" to underage girls, but the rest of the world thinks you're trying to do more than "talking". Hell, I believe you're trying to do more than talking. So stay away from underage girls, forever and ... (read in full...)
How do I become a jerk to attract girls?
Q. what does it take to get a gf? im honest, nice, smart and above average looking. i am 16 but it seems that guys who are jerks usually attract girls attention. How do i do that?...
A. 10 April 2012: I beg to disagree with Person12345 who says women don't like jerks. All it takes it to realize that there is such a huge number of abused, battered women who just can't leave the man they adore. And the even higher number of women who say "he's ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has low self esteem and doesn't believe me when I say she's beautiful
Q. How can I boost my girlfriend's self confidence? We have been together for three years and over time she has gained some weight. She is still as beautiful as ever but she is really down about the weight. I keep telling her she is perfect but she ...
A. 10 April 2012: Sorry, you can't. She has chosen to feel ugly. Maybe if you told her so? Something like "Hey, I find you hot, but you want to wallow in self-pity and now that means I'm not getting any".... (read in full...)
He can't seem to get past the fact that I was taken advantage of
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. Previous to my relationship with him, I had been in another relationship and that boyfriend took advantage of me and pretty much "hit it and quit it" just once and took my v-card. After ...
A. 10 April 2012: People can understand things if they are explained to them. But sometimes they suspect that they are being lied to. Without any basis whatsoever other than my gut, I have the feeling that this guy thinks that you slept with the other guy but won't ... (read in full...)
FWB relationships: would the man never date you because you're not his type and he just wants sex?
Q. I had a FWB relationship for over a year, very easy going no love job or complicatiions It just fizzled out and that was it. I get a random text sometimes. Today I bumped into him for the first time, I was in a rush but he spoke so I stopped for a ...
A. 10 April 2012: Well, you are sleeping with him and he isn't the type you would date. So maybe the answer is yes.... (read in full...)
How do you know when someone really has integrity?
Q. I believe people should do what they say or promise to do unless something unavoidable prevents it, from the big stuff to the small stuff. I try to do this and I try to be considerate. How come people can just, with apparently little discomfo...
A. 10 April 2012: If I promised to be there at 7:15 and (as any self-respecting Latin American) were to show up at 9:00, and you complained about it, well, I would say you're too rigid. Now, if he said "we're getting engaged next year" and he didn't, that is a ... (read in full...)
Questions about getting breast transplants
Q. I have a few questions for the ladies. I am seriously considering breast implants. I am 46 years old and about three years ago, I lost a good 40-50 pounds, got back in shape again and have become a gym rat and regularly swim and have turned most...
A. 10 April 2012: I don't know about the surgery but you say yourself that your mate doesn't mind. Seriously, if I loved you (and am beginning to, given your description of yourself), I wouldn't like the idea of you undergoing surgery, with all of its risks, just so ... (read in full...)
Is my high sex drive normal for a 47 year old male?
Q. I'm a 47 year old male and I've been seeing the same girl for about four years now. It seems as if my sex drive is only increasing in intensity, although I have always had a high sex drive. Is this normal for a man my age? We have sex about 2...
A. 10 April 2012: You just realized that sexual potency will inevitably fade and are trying to push that fear away by having sex all the time.... (read in full...)
Is she interested or not?
Q. My ex and I recently ran into eachother and have started talking again. We broke up over 2 years ago. She split up with me because she thought I was seeing someone else, which I wasn't, and she thought I was a bit needy. Her insecurity made me t...
A. 10 April 2012: Frankly, no. Move on.... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 10 April 2012: I think the anger is correctly placed, only it should ALSO be placed on the husband.
Come on: he was sleeping with her. He goes back to his wife. Why stay in touch with her? So they can discuss the developments in the Middle East and what the... (read in full...)
Why do older men go for younger girls?
Q. Can you guys answer me my question. Why does older guys go for younger girls? I am with someone who is 7 year older than me he is 27, 28 this year. We have had so many complications with our relationship. I just sometimes think to myself no wonder ...
A. 9 April 2012: You're making a bad generalization about "older" men, which in your post seems to mean "27 year olds", which is not "older" by definition.
What you really need to determine is whether your particular 27 year old is a good guy for you. Don't as... (read in full...)
I'm insecure because I'm not the hot blonde but a short Asian!
Q. So lately alot of people have been saying im pretty or beautiful. But i just pass it off thinking theyre just saying that because they feel bad for me, theyre my friends, or theyre my family. Whenever i look in the mirror at myself i dont see the ...
A. 9 April 2012: So Very Confused is So Very Right.... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: When the poster says Husband was "seeing a lady" and "whatnot", I take "whatnot" to include sex. When Husband returned to Wife and told Friend what had happened, Friend had to stay away.
Wife was not kind, but I do not think this was done out... (read in full...)
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