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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I'm tired of him making excuses not to try for a child or to get engaged!
Q. Hi I accidently got pregnant last summer with my boyfriend (we've been a steady couple for 3 years) and then had a early miscarriage. I took the MC very bad but by bf just shook the whole thing off as "those things happen". Now I've been wantin...
A. 20 December 2011: I come from a region where having children is seen in a different (and perhaps more irresponsible) way. I don't have children myself, but one pearl of wisdom people gave me once is this: "If you wait until the situation is perfect to get married ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of him making excuses not to try for a child or to get engaged!
Q. Hi I accidently got pregnant last summer with my boyfriend (we've been a steady couple for 3 years) and then had a early miscarriage. I took the MC very bad but by bf just shook the whole thing off as "those things happen". Now I've been wantin...
A. 19 December 2011: You're not irrational.
It seems to me that he doesn't want kids, however. I have the feeling that, if you want one kid, it won't be with him.... (read in full...)
If he loved me he wouldn't be thinking of sleeping with others, would he?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my partner for around 9 months, and in more or less everyway, we have a really strong friendship and relationship. He has had some pretty big fears of commitment, but has been really open and hardworking abou...
A. 19 December 2011: My personal experience is that when you're in love with someone you may check someone out or whatever, but you don't want to be with anyone else.
This is very bad news. Some people could maintain a relationship after this, but I feel I couldn't... (read in full...)
My wife's sister openly flirts with me and "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties!
Q. Do many young girls flirt (and more) with older men? My wife's younger sister has openly flirted with me many times and touches me and last summer she "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties. Ever since I married her sist...
A. 19 December 2011: I think the poster should NOT talk to the sister. If he is interested in finishing this, he should make some "noises" the next time the sister in law does something inappropriate. By "noises" I mean doing something that will definitely send the ... (read in full...)
Had sex with my younger personal trainer who is in a relationship and now I feel totally used!
Q. So after being a client for the last 5-1/2 months (he's my personal trainer, once a week) We started texting each other, then we starting sexting, sending pictures of our selves. He is not single, I am, however he is 17s my junior. We broke down ...
A. 19 December 2011: I know how you feel, but I don't see why you feel used. Maybe you can elaborate on it so we can understand better (and I recognize that so far my "we" is only "myself"). You had sex with a younger man who is not single. How come he used you, as ... (read in full...)
BF broke up blaming his job and family stress. Can or should I get him back?
Q. My boyfriend and I were doing well for about a year (anniversary would have been Thurs). We had made plans that he intiated for the holidays, had talked about the future, etc. frequently. Last Saturday, after a Christmas party he said he didn't ...
A. 17 December 2011: Yes, give him some time, but also define just how long you would wait for him to return. If he doesn't return by them, let him go. Otherwise you'd be in nowhere: you won't be with him, but you won't be alone, either. Things need to be ... (read in full...)
I'm not getting any younger -- was I right to cut it off at the earliest signs?
Q. I've been seeing a man who is 16 years older than me. We've known each other for about 5 months and started dating last month. He has 2 kids and twice divorced. I just told him through text that I don't think it will work out for us and want to ...
A. 12 December 2011: He did not mistreat you.
If you want to have kids and he doesn't, then your decision to leave him was correct.
You should have told him this face to face.... (read in full...)
I am cheating, but I want to stay with my boyfriend. Is that reasonable?
Q. a few years back i had this male best friend, (lets call him man A) we were unbelievably close and i started to get some feelings for him. it never really went anywhere until we had a drunken one night stand. time passed and i lost contact with ...
A. 12 December 2011: I think you should leave Man B. If it was this easy to go with another man, then clearly you don't love Man B. On top of that, you intend to continue seeing Man A. That's yet another reason to let Man B find someone who does love him and will ... (read in full...)
I am a virigin with strong sexual feelings for my boyfriend. Is this normal?
Q. Im 19, ive been seeing this guy who's 23. I met him approx a year ago, met him through one of my friends, there was always that attraction there but nothing happened between us until september, when I agreed to meet up with him before i went off...
A. 11 December 2011: You're clearly normal.... (read in full...)
I don't know if he's a complete liar or not.
Q. i have been having an affair at work with this man. I am extremely attracted to him and can't get him put of my head. Everybody found out about us at work. His girlfriend also works in the same place she is the only one that does not know. i had ...
A. 11 December 2011: Oh, and, by the way, he's now a married man. Meaning off-limits.
Can you ask for a transfer? I think it would be easiest on everyone, specially the wife.... (read in full...)
I don't know if he's a complete liar or not.
Q. i have been having an affair at work with this man. I am extremely attracted to him and can't get him put of my head. Everybody found out about us at work. His girlfriend also works in the same place she is the only one that does not know. i had ...
A. 11 December 2011: I wonder what your reason was to deny you had an affair with this man. I also wonder if he got engaged and married after you stopped talking to him. If that is the case, then he may have done it simply because you weren't talking to him and he ... (read in full...)
Should I move back to Sydney or stay where I am?
Q. Hello, This is not a love relationship question but it would be great if I could get some advice. To cut a long story short- I am currently trying to make a decision about what to do with my life. I left my home town of Sydney 1 1/2 years ago a...
A. 11 December 2011: I beg to disagree: this is a relationship question. You seem to be staying in that town because he might return. I think that you should move back to Sidney.... (read in full...)
When you are supporting your adult child, how much is too much?
Q. When does a parent stop supporting their grown children? I asked a question earlier and was surprised by one of responses. Is it ok to support a grown child in her twenties, let her live with you whenever she feels like it, take up the only oth...
A. 11 December 2011: I come from a region where parents definitely pay a lot more of their grown children's expenses, and where they definitely don't want their children to leave or take responsibility for themselves. It is called "control", really, but that's another ... (read in full...)
I can't compete sexually with my wife's former lover
Q. My wife's last lover had a bigger penis, greater stamina and could please her with vaginal intercourse. I feel so inadequate and don't know why I should make any more pathetic attempts. Any advice?...
A. 11 December 2011: I assume (actually, hope) it was your wife who shared this information with you. Questions: How long ago did she become your wife? Why did she share this information?
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Monogamy: How do I get there with the guy I've been with for 2 months.
Q. I've been dating this guy for 2 months now and I want to know when is it appropriate to ask if he wants to be exclusive at some point. Or at 34 years old - is it just assumed at some point? We are now spending two days/nights a week together. It s...
A. 9 December 2011: When in doubt, ask.... (read in full...)
What is more appropriate/acceptable? Spending holidays with your family or your significant other?
Q. I would love some inputs! What is more appropriate/acceptable, spending the holidays (Thanksgiving, Xmas, New Year) with your significant other or your family?? I'm a little torn. I want to spend this time of the year with my family but ALSO with my ...
A. 9 December 2011: You can't be with everyone at the same time. Some people go half the distance: Year 0 they spend Xmas with the family and New Year's Eve with Significant Other, and then on Year 1 they spend Xmas with Significant and New Year's Eve with Family.... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that my b/f is in denial about being gay
Q. My boyfriend and I are finally dating after knowing each other for 8 years. We had a bit of a blurred relationship in the past where we were having sex but not officially together. We were both to blame. He says it was due to his social anxiety ...
A. 9 December 2011: I can believe that someone may not have dated much out of shyness, or stupidity, or whatever. So that wouldn't make him gay. Taken one by one, nothing would be a clear signal that he is gay. But, I can't avoid feeling that you may be right. Send ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for a younger woman. Is this Karma?
Q. How do I repent for all the hearts and minds that I toyed with and crushed? I never knew what it felt like to be crushed because I was always the one doing the crushing and not giving crap about how I left my victims broken and damaged. I left ...
A. 8 December 2011: I suggest you move on.... (read in full...)
He has cut me out of his life but he was the liar!
Q. im sure theres something wrong with me because this keeps playing on my mind and i cant shake it off. i was very good friends with a guy until i discovered he had been lying to me since day 1 -found out through various means and i was very hurt as i ...
A. 8 December 2011: You should say "good riddance" and forget about this abuser.... (read in full...)
He thinks he needs to read my mind otherwise he is not good enough for me!
Q. I am dating a man who thinks he hurts me too much. I disagree! After fights he thinks he is the only who is the cause of it, and things are his fault, even though I know we are both just as guilty for misunderstandings and poor communication. He ...
A. 8 December 2011: I repeat my advice: tell him to stop whining.... (read in full...)
When dating, does age really matter??
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 26 yr old female who is considering dating a very nice mature 37 yr old male. He is divorced with two older children and I am a mature 26 yr old looking to settle down with a mature man. I have never dated anyone more than 2 ...
A. 8 December 2011: The age gap is eleven years. I have seen gaps much wider than that one. I don't think it would be a problem, in itself.
On the other hand, I would encourage you to take very seriously the advice by Perhapsnot. The real question should not be t... (read in full...)
How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?
Q. If you were, let's say, making 60k a year, would you date someone who is making 15k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and ...
A. 8 December 2011: The first "problem" I have with the question as it is worded lies in your saying that a man who does not make as much money as a woman, or who doesn't have her college degrees, is "inferior". You know, where I live, the exact reverse argument used ... (read in full...)
Girls, especially, do you think a guy being able to dance well is important to you?
Q. I hate dancing. I mean REALLY HATE IT lol. Its embarrassing and boring. And everyone else loves it, which makes me feel awful for dissappointing my friends, and i just end up hating dancing even more. Thing is, i keep hearing about how impo...
A. 8 December 2011: I won't dance, don't ask me...
I won't dance, don't ask me...
If you can't or won't dance, that is part of the package. She can accept that or not. I wouldn't recommend that you change just because she would prefer you to dance. I wouldn't r... (read in full...)
Should I fret about my girlfriend violated my butt-hole?
Q. My girlfriend and I met a few months ago. We started having sex the third time we met (she initiated). First I thought to myself "great, no more boring lengthy dating". The first few times were like normal sex (I led and she followed) but since then ...
A. 8 December 2011: In my humble (and devilish) opinion, this is just not right. It's a sexual practice you don't like, and she should respect the fact that you don't like it. I wouldn't be saying anything different if a girl didn't like anal sex and you dismissed ... (read in full...)
He thinks he needs to read my mind otherwise he is not good enough for me!
Q. I am dating a man who thinks he hurts me too much. I disagree! After fights he thinks he is the only who is the cause of it, and things are his fault, even though I know we are both just as guilty for misunderstandings and poor communication. He ...
A. 8 December 2011: Tell him that his self-esteem is so low that it's getting to the point that you're not enjoying it anymore. Tell him that either he means the "You deserve better" part, or not. That should straighten him, or, at the very least, stop the whining.... (read in full...)
Raging hormones are making me want to have sex just to relieve the feelings
Q. Hi everyone. Well this is something I dont really have anyone to talk to about, normally id speak to my mum but she isnt very open to sex talks, and makes it very uncomfortable. Well Im almost 21 and Im still a virgin not because Im religious ...
A. 8 December 2011: Surrender to the enemy.... (read in full...)
He called it "SPAM" I think he is cheating. Should I leave him?
Q. I need some help big time with my relationship! My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years!! Recently I have suspected him of cheating on me and its driving me insane! A few months ago I noticed that he wouldn't let his phone out of his s...
A. 7 December 2011: You got answers from women only. I am a man. Leave the man. Don't even look back. He's obviously been cheating.... (read in full...)
How do you make not meant to be, meant to be?
Q. i met this girl a few months ago. we started having sex before we even had our first date. it started off as me just useing her to try to fill this emptiness i had inside from when my real love left me. the thing about her is that im 100 percent ...
A. 7 December 2011: Difficult situation. I've never been on it, and I trust I never will.
Some people would say that you should marry the girl and try hard to love her. If she's good, and chances are she is, then that could happen. But sometimes you don't fall in ... (read in full...)
After 5 Years Why Hasn't He Proposed
Q. This is real simple. I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. I moved out of state to be with him and its been me and him since 2006. I have never given him a reason to not trust me. I've never lied to him. I've never cheated on him. I go to ...
A. 7 December 2011: I fully agree with The Realist.... (read in full...)
He's a great guy and he's dating trash
Q. Okay so there's this guy. I've had a crush on him for a while but then it turned into more of a brother/sister relationship. We still flirt and all but this isn't what this question is about. He just got into a relationship with absolute TRASH. She ...
A. 6 December 2011: He must be getting the sex of ten lifetimes. I don't think thoughtful admonitions will move him to do anything else.
Also, I think this is his choice. This should go first in my answer.... (read in full...)
Love of my life tells me I don't love you anymore and left me for someone else
Q. Hi There, Need some advise as I'm not sure really how to handle this or what to do. I was engaged to get married and last week my partner told me out of the blue she doesn't love me anymore has not done for a long time and has feeling for so...
A. 6 December 2011: Give yourself time to heal. Make a conscious decision to live a normal life, one in which you will not pity yourself. Bear in mind that you had a fine life before you met her, and you can have a greater life still now that she's gone.
Just ... (read in full...)
How did you move on from a broken heart?
Q. Hi guys, i just dont know what to do. I am still heartbroken nearly 2 years down the line. I have tried to get over him. No contact, going out with friends. Pampering myself you know all these things, and yet I have a great empty hole in the pit of ...
A. 6 December 2011: You have to make a personal decision to be happy. That is the secret. You have to be aware that, in a way, you are choosing to live in sadness, and then make the decision not to.... (read in full...)
Why do men focus so much on female orgasm?
Q. Why do men focus so much on female orgasm? My bf is insecure because he's only been able to make me orgasm twice orally in the 4 months we've been together and if I don't orgasm, he sees it as failure and it prevents him from being hard again to ...
A. 6 December 2011: I beg to differ with Aunt Honesty. Don't lie about the orgasm.... (read in full...)
Are musicians better in bed?
Q. Does anyone else think musicians are better in bed than the average guy/girl? My bf plays the piano and OH. MY. GOODNESS..... !! seriously. what he does is insane. Never had a guy so brilliant when he ventures down there... *sighs* my 21st birthday...
A. 6 December 2011: I play the triangle, the tambourine and then I can hum.... (read in full...)
Why do guys think it is ok to kiss women they have only just met?
Q. Am i strange, or do other people think the same as me ?. I hate it when i go out to bars and a guy who i have only just met expects me to kiss him, especially if he tries to force me to kiss him, by grabbing me or holding my face or something. And i ...
A. 5 December 2011: It is clear to me that this is part of what could be termed "night club behavior". It is also assault, as some people have pointed out.
But then I just would like to point out that, in some countries, like where I live, kissing a person in the c... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 29 November 2011: Just to reply to the person who said that "she can marry anyone she wants". Technically, the answer is yes. In practice, the answer is no. Jehovah's witnesses live under very strict mind control. Their asshole elders decide who gest to do ... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 29 November 2011: Just to reply to the person who said that "she can marry anyone she wants". Technically, the answer is yes. In practice, the answer is no. Jehovah's witnesses live under very strict mind control. Their asshole elders decide who gest to do ... (read in full...)
Is he going to come around and realize he can find a way better looking woman?
Q. This may be a little long,but hopefully people will still take the time to read it. A couple of months ago I had decided to start online dating. I was tired of being single,and being a single parent didn't allow me to go out and meet people in the ...
A. 28 November 2011: If I were given that kind of attention by a very hot woman, I think I would read my copy of Carpe Diem and go for her.... (read in full...)
Controlling mother of adult son
Q. I am dating a man who is 23 and I am 31, I am divorced with 3 kids and he has never been married and has no kids. We both know this is not the ideal situation and neither expected this to last but after 2 years we are very much in love and can even ...
A. 28 November 2011: ChaliceODamnation is the girl. I fully agree with her, except in the counselling. He just needs to wear his pants.
I bet his ass (not mine, just in case) the mother will object to that just as much.... (read in full...)
I don't want my children going where I can't get them back!
Q. Hi, I could do with some advice. My ex husband and I have been seperated for almost 4 years. We have 2 beautiful children together and things are now much friendlier than they were when we first split. My husbands long term girlfriend ( ...
A. 28 November 2011: May I ask what country that is where children are sold? Just to have more perspective.... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 28 November 2011: On second thought, please visit these websites and become informed:
www.jwfacts.com
www.freeminds.org
www.jehovahs-witness.net... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 28 November 2011: One more thing. There is a good thing about mixing with Jehovah's witnesses, if you do it with open eyes. You learn how religion is nothing but a lie. In their case, it's simply a more cultic and blatant one.
Trust me.
Maybe you won't trust ... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 28 November 2011: Dear friend, trust me a lot, a hell of a lot, on this one: You don't want to do that. TRUST ME. The Jehovah's witnesses religion is a dangerous cult. These good people are manipulated by criminal leaders. Until they are free of that problem ... (read in full...)
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