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writes:This may gross some people out with I need some honest opinions... I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis. Well the other night he came over and I was on my period (a very light one) so I declined sex and just gave him head. Well the next morning I I showered and didn't see much blood but I put on a pad for same measure. That morning he kept trying to have sex with me by touching and teasing me but I declined again. Well he finally left out the door and I just decided to give in because I was horny as hell. I took off my clothes and told him to come back upstairs. Well we started doing it doggie style and he stopped after about a minute or so and ran to the bathroom. I didn't know what the problem was until I heard him yelling and cursing saying how disgusting and nasty I was for trying to have sex on my period. He even went as far as to wipe his dick off and then throw the bloody tissue toward me but it landed on the floor. Then he started throwing up and kept saying how nasty it was. Now my first reaction was confusion because in the past I have had sex on my period with guys who knew and it wasn't a big deal. I was also confused because of the way he over reacted. Then I started to feel embarassed and ashamed. I even cried about it for a while because I felt so horrible even though I didn't intend for things to go that way. He texted me a few minutes later saying how he wasn't mad anymore and that everything was ok and he still liked me. Well the question is this... Do I still continue to talk to him? I mean that moment was so embarassing and degrading to the point that I'm too ashamed to even be around him. He has tried to come over since then but I've been avoiding it. And just so you know there's nothing between us except for sex. He isn't the type of guy I'd usually go far so I have nothing to lose if I stop talking to him. But on the other hand I think he likes me and I'll be hurting his feelings if I stop communicating with him. Plus he's just nice to have around for company. Am I being too shallow and petty for even letting that situation end our relationship. Help me please!
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reader, HippyChick  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 There is one important question here, did he know that you were on your period? If he didn't then I do see how he could get freaked out some, I can imagine him looking down and seeing blood on himself, and thinking What the ? So if that is the case, then maybe you could cut him slack.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): This whole thing could have been avoided if you just said 'I can't/won't have sex right now, I'm on my period'. That does seem like a ridiculous reaction on his part but some people are squemish about ANY blood, and will faint at the sight of needles not to mention it was a bit of a surprise for him.Yes he's an idiot, but you could have warned him.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 holy balls (no pun intended) this guy sounds a bit manipulative and disrespectful. Forget this "Im gonna hurt his feelings" crap, it isnt logical. He wanted sex, You declined. He pressured. You gave in. He flipped out over a natural function of a womans body. If he didnt know what he was getting himself into by having sex with you on the rag, he shouldnt have done it. As a result, he lose control of his emotions in a potential scary way that sent a flag to you. Dont hookup with this guy again.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 January 2012):
 What a total DOUCH-BAG! why are you wasting your time on him? and WHY are you letting someone like that walk all over you? Girl, grow some self respect!
Next time you are with a guy and you have your period, TELL him, if he still don't care, then he don't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): He blew it OP that simple. Be a woman and tell this guy to take a hike.
Some guys do become physically ill when it comes to things like that but his reaction was insane and stupid.
Don't be a doormat, the guy is a grade A jerk and he owes you a big ass apology before you dump him, he isn't even your type, why are you even here? I thought it would be easy for you to get rid of this fool.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 January 2012):
 I agree with Ciar, but I want to address something you said that I didn't see commented on by the others:
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"I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis.?
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" And just so you know there's nothing between us except for sex."
And finally this:
"Am I being too shallow and petty for even letting that situation end our relationship. "
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FWB is NOT a relationship. You don't have a relationship. You have a guy using you for sex, not caring about you at all, and feelings don't even enter the situation.
This guy is a major asshat. You're worried that your period will threaten your place in his life as a sperm-receptacle?
No way! Don't go groveling to him so that he'll keep using you. Do not apologize for your bodily functions. You're a woman, and you have a period. He needs to get the hell over it. He pushed for sex. He didn't care that you weren't interested. If he was in it for you, he'd be worried about how he reacted and would be texting you his profuse apologies.
Stop wasting any more of your precious youth on this pitiful excuse for a guy. He's not worth being within 10 feet of you. Youth does not last forever, so quit wasting it and find someone who will love YOU. FWB arrangements are NOT a relationship. They're not supposed to develop into relationships, and the moment feelings from you enter the scene like it sounds like they have, it's doomed to end in pain for you when he discards you like an empty Coke can.
There are guys who, personally I think they're insane...LOL..,but the thought of having sex while you're on your period is a major turn on. I've never figured that out, but god bless 'em, it's their thing!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (17 January 2012):
You are worried about HIS feelings??!! Forget this guy and find someone who cares about your feelings.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (17 January 2012):
 Here's another vote for Ciar's answer. Someone that fragile should have stayed a virgin.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 January 2012):
 You'll be hurting his FEELINGS?!?! What the hell did he do to you, nurture the "friendship" and think about your feelings? I think not. I'm with Ciar. Close the door on this ridiculous person. And do work on improving your sense of self-worth.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 I don't know. Life goes on. All you can do is find a better boyfriend if you are sick of this guy. He sounds like he has a mental problem.
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (17 January 2012):
 Sex during menstruation isn't everyone's cup of tea, but to describe his reaction as immature and over the top is an understatement. It's beyond the pale. He doesn't deserve a second chance.Not even an apology...just an assurance that everything is okay now that HE feels better?Your closing paragraph is one of the most pitiful statements I've ever read. This blatant lack of self respect is a huge turn off. If you aren't prepared to treasure you, no one else will. You can't please everyone all of the time so save your energy for those who really matter. He doesn't.Don't speak to him again. Don't answer him. Don't even acknowledge him if you bump into him in the street.
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reader, purplebutterfly  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 Did you tell him you were on your period? Most guys dont mind but some do so id say it depends if you told him or not? He definatly overreacted tho and he shouldnt have treated you like he did..
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 As the saying goes, "be careful what you wish for, because you may get it". He got what he wanted.
If you had refused on the grounds that you just had had your period, he would have nagged and pouted and et cetera. It's not like he didn't know why you two had sex in a different way the night before, right? He did learn a thing or two about periods and their duration, right?
I don't know if the relationship should end, but I do know that he got it really wrong this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): Maybe you should have a talk with him about what happened. But honestly, to react like that over blood? Give me a break. He was acting like a complete jerk about it. I wouldn't be embarrassed about it, its part of being a woman. But it sounds like that text he sent you was just him trying to keep the FWB thing between you two.
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