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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Why does he want to have a baby with me and not get married?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for nearly a year, and living together for over 6 months. He's in his early 40's and I'm in my early 30's. We both have been divorced. He recently expressed that he wants to have a baby, and we agreed ...

I married through love and now it has backfired as he is still messaging the married woman he knew before me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - hey there, My name is senya and i am married for 1 year now.. And i am dating this same guy since 2 years... So basically we are together for 3 years.. My husband was dating a married lady before we meet.. she was married for 2 years when she...

Can I have a good life with my controlling man who also tells me lies?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Hi, The man I'm with is a liar, he lies frequently and sometimes over ridiculous things I never know what's real what's not. He was married and even lied about his exes age to me until divorce papers arrived and I seen her age. He's got a tem...

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...

How can I change my boring husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - its been 7 years when i got married. my marriage is like a rock. when we got some fight, we did 'nt talk for so long for about 3 months, is the worst..sometimes 1 month or less..my husband is a type of person that when you start talking, he will ...

Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...

Is there anyway I can reconnect with my husband and stop hurting him like I have?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I'm in need of some serious help... I've cheated on my husband and he found me online yesterday on a site and seen some comments some guys have made. When my husband confronted me on it he said he wasn't mad about the site in general, but he was mad ...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

Confused by my relationship! Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4552 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - I am in a fix, in a relationship with a married man from 2 years, he separated from his wife, has one year old son. Our relationship overall is fine other than fights regarding his wife calling him and pestering. He is yet to apply for a divorce, ...

I want my wife back from this other man!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - My ex wife and I were together since we were 20. Got married at 21 and had our first kid at 23; each proceeding child is 1-3 years apart from the last. (We have 5 kids.) We got a divorce 4 years ago because, somewhere along the line, we stopped ...

The baby mama of my husband is making our lives a living nightmare!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Hi, Hope someone can help - i am going out of my mind. My husband of 17 yrs had an affair with a girl nearly half his age, bad enough but after he told me it was over he had to admit that she was pregnant. Now i am sure that in the beginning she di...

I supported him before we married, now he won't support our child or myself...should I do this on my own?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Dear cupid i need some advice on my marriage i usually have pretty good judgement when it comes to problems but in my marriage what seems like the right thing to do leaves me feeling not at ease and unwilling to give up. you see I've been married ...

My past is coming back to haunt me.....

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4554 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

Is it right for my husband to leave me despite having a high risk pregnancy to go on holiday?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - i have been married for a few months. i am 34 weeks pregnant, with a history of heart disease, and classified high risk pregancy. my husband lobied for a paid for 2 months vacation out of the country with his employers and really excited about it. i ...

Husband cannot have sex and its very difficult for me living like this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - What would you do, if your husband would never want sex with you for years, and you don't know why. My husband stopped looking at me, and touching me. He also wont get an erection, when we tried sex, what was not for a long time. Doctor says he...

Just got married and no sex drive!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4566 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - I just recently got married (about three months ago) and having a huge problem...... I have no sex drive!!!! I want to please my husband but I don't know why im just not into sex.... This is getting really frustrating because he is beings to think ...

How can I make my wife accept financial help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - I am 33 right now and my girlfriend is 23. 8 years back, when she was 15 , I fell in love with her and within 2 weeks she accepted my proposal of being her Boyfriend but I acted more like a friend than boyfriend since she was too young th...

While my husband and I were on a break I met another man, and now my husband wants to know all the sexual details! Is this normal?

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26 October 2011 (F) - My husband and I have had a roller coaster relationship. We were dating, then we broken up, then we got back together and married a few months after, then during our marriage we took a break a couple times for the same reasons. Anyways, this ...

We've gone ring shopping -- but he still hasn't proposed! How long is too long to wait?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

26 October 2011 (?) - My boyfriend and I will have been together three years as of this coming February. We have talked about getting married and have even gone to look at rings on multiple occasions. To my knowledge, he has not gone back by himself to look again or make ...

How do I make sure I'm not the rebound when her divorce is finalized?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - Hello everyone! A female acquaintance that I've known for years has been separated from her husband for almost two years and just recently going through the actual divorce. So as of last month we have started seeing more of each other as friends. ...

Am I blowing it out of proportion?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - What to do. My second Husband has issues accepting my kids for a long time. He has kids I give 100% to his. We have been all going out together and things have been better to the point I may be ready for us all to move in together. Last Sunday I had ...

What do I say in an anniversary card when husband doesn't love me anymore?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - It will in two days be my 10'th anniversary but me and my husband have been seperated we still in contact I want us to work on our relationship and send him an anniversay card what, do I say in the card? He told me that he does not love me anymore ...

I can't get over the emotional affair with a married man

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Hi everyone. I am having a really hard time getting over a married man. I am in an unhappy marriage and this is why I was vulnerable to him. He led me on and then disappeared from my life. I had true and deep feelings for him during our frien...

Ex-wife, husband ties. Effects on a new relationship or marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - I'm seeking opinions on a situation with my husband and his ex wife.They have children together so I understand they will always have some connection/communication although the two daughters,and a son are all grown with lives and families of their ...

I found out my husband fathered another child! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I'm so confused. I've been married to my husband for nine years next month, and we have two boys together, who are five and three. We were a happy family up until last night when my husband told me that he'd fathered a child, another boy, with ano...

I regret the moment I cheated and am broken hearted, I need help from open minded people about what I can do now?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4568 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - Hello all please don't hate or judge me for this as i hate myself enough i need urgent advice here is the story: I had a ex for 8yrs and had two great kids the relationship broke down and i left but supported my kids i met a new girl who helped m...

I fear I only love my wife as a friend, and to make things worse I have cheated on her with my ex....who do I really want?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - I am in my mid 30's. I have been married for 18 months to a woman I have been with for several years. Our relationship is fine but I fear I only love her as a friend. We have no kids. We rarely have sex and when we do it feels very unatural. I ...

He's married and won't always pay attention to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - Im 22.. And I'm having sOme affair with a 31 yrs old married man.. He says that he is not happy because her wife is already 51 yrs old and he really wants a baby.. Which her wife can't give because of the age (unable to bear a child) he's just ...

Why is my husband calling me names and being so mean.? He's the one who has been secretly visiting and talking to my "friend"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 2 years, he's 41 and I'm 32. I had this friend, or so I thought she was. We were great friends, but we did hang out a few times. My husband and I started having some marital difficulties, and during that tim...

Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with...

I'm worried my husband is embarrassed of me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4557 days ago

21 October 2011 (?) - Okay, what do you think. My husband is pretty popular on social networking. A while back I posted my picture on my social sites that are linked to his (like twitter.) He quickly told me to take down all pictures of me because people would tak...

My wife is burning herself out and I miss the days when we were students! How can I get to spend more quality time with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4571 days ago

21 October 2011 (M) - In 2001, I lost my heart to 15 years teenager and to whom I got married March this year. She has been living with me and my parents since December 2001 and my parents considered her daughter. I think this space would turn minute if start ...

My husband thinks I'm too thin! Is he concerned about me or has his love just gone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) - Hi. My husband is complaining that i am too thin. Of course my body has generally been small, but it has never been an issue in our relationship.recently i hav lost some weight. I am confused. Is he concerned about me or his love has jus gone? Do ...

She moved in with me after her divorce, am I being used?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

19 October 2011 (M) - Well I'm at a real loss here About a month ago I moved in this girl I met online like 6 months ago,because she is getting divorced,and was kicked out of her place,along with her 2 kids both under 2,anyways during the course of our short "friends...

I thought we had come to a compromise but then he totally disregards me and does what he wants anyway! Will life always be like this with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

19 October 2011 (F) - I wrote on here about 2 weeks ago with the question below* and got some good advice which generally agreed with what i thought. So i asked my husband if he would go away for 3 weeks instead of 5 and in the end we compromised on 4. Problem now is he ...

How do I get over an affair I didn't want to end?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

19 October 2011 (F) - How do I move on with my life and forget him? We are both married. We work for the same company but different buildings. We had been having an affair for 10 years. I am currently unemployed and have been for a year due to an on the job injury. ...

Don't want to stay, can't leave, what do you do with a marriage like this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - Probably this is a very classic situation. 25 year long marriage went cold. My husband stopped looking at me, touching at me etc. There is no sex, affection, years ago. He went into silence, and passive aggressive responses. When ask why, he ...

Marriage in trouble..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - I am unhappy because I haven't been getting along with my husband for a while as he has done and said a number of things over the last few months which have really hurt me. These things revolve around him talking to his exes and not caring for my ...

I feel no matter what I do I will never be able to pay my wife back after she did so much for me! How can I make sure she never has any complaints in life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

18 October 2011 (M) - In May 1996, while I was on visit visa to States to attend one of my cousins wedding there, I fell in love with 15 years old school going American girl and I was 18 then. Upon my return from there, we kept it going through phone and transferred it ...

Is getting him back a realistic aim? My bf went back to his wife, will he ever come back to me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - I am 29, 5 months pregnant. My bf left me after I called him COWARD because he was too afraid to show his face to my parents and stand up for our baby. After a day, his sister told me that he's gone back to his wife. I am in so much pain right no...

Can he get addicted to me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - he cares too much for me which is becoming a bit alarming. he travels a lot due to the nature of his work but even if hes back home at 3 at night,he has to make sure i had mmy dinner and that i am healthy. when i had my miscarriage he took off...

My husband can't stand the thought of my ex--how should I deal with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4575 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - I we have been married for six months. i have a child and my husband has non. My husband gets moody and sulky about my daughter's dad. last night, my daughter who lives in a diferent town, was in my town and i saw him when i was with my husband. ...

Have I over-reacted?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - Oh my goodness, what a day! Right... did i over react? My son has been ill all week with a chest infection, he is 9. His dad and i split 4 years ago and he has never been consistent in our childrens lives since. He can be brill with them when h...

My husband is more interested in sex than me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4576 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - i m 55 years old women. My husband is 48 years old and he want intercourse daily but i feel pain and dislike. very day he watches movies on internet and want me become sexy women, oral sex, and "pussy lick".... but i dont like all this. Please help...

They are 'taken' So Why do people see married men/women in the first place?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - Note: if you honestly didn't know he/she was with someone, i undertand completely. I have seen so many questions on here about people being broken hearted about their lovers leaving them and all I can think is, what did you expect? I keep t...

Should I be worried? Her reasons are my snoring? my sadness is no intimacy. My wife and I haven't shared a bed in six years.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4577 days ago

15 October 2011 (M) - My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. We have been married for 19 years and this started about 6 years ago. Before that time, we always spent the night together. In fact, I can remember once when my wife was away at her mom's in another ...

Aunts and Uncles help me please on your marriage statistics? I want to ensure my marriage succeeds.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4578 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - This is a question for the aunts (male and female) who are currently, or have been, married. How long before marriage did you know your spouse? How long were the two of you a couple? Are you happy with how long you waited to take that step, sorry...

My younger wife is having sexual problems. How can I help her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

15 October 2011 (M) - I am a 53 year old male married to a 25 year old and we are having sexual problems not by me but her. we also have 4 children. Can you give me some advice? ...