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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

How can we solve his erectile problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - So everyday, I think about leaving my husband. He is totally cold with me, and distant. we sleep in the same bed, but he doesn't touch me. He says he loves me and he will always stay with me. He has erection problems also, and he does not know ...

I've tried everything too make her fall iin love with me again... help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - I have been married for 9yrs and we have been together for 14yrs. We have a 12yr old son beautiful home. Gave her everything surprises, gifts, parties, vacations. We were head over hills about each other, but we also had financial problems at ...

He's either sleeping or at work, how do I make him see how neglected I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - I'm a military wife, I met my husband in highschool and we've been married for 3 years now. He's working a lot more now so most of the time its just my almost 3 year old daughter and I. The continuous work used to bother me, now I don't care. Part ...

We both have new lives but he wants to resurrect the old

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - hi im really confused here dont know what to do this guy was my first boyfriend as you know relationships has thier ups-downs.iwas 14 years when we started dating and he was 25yrs ,as i was young lot of things happens between us until we end up ...

My husbands wants to reverse his "op"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - the bloke iv been with for the past 8 years was forced into having a vasectomy from his ex of 10 years,it was a case of if he didnt have it done then she told him she would end the relationship,when he did have it done she still ended the the ...

I am torn between my wife and my lover

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5188 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - Should I leave after 13 years? I have a 4 year old and a 3 month. I am a 32 year old male I've been with my current girl friend for 13 years we never married. I will refer to her as my wife. I have had my lover for 3 years. off for 1 and on for a...

How can we work through our financial issues?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5260 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - I'm a married man, in his mid-40s who is having a bit of trouble over my wife's bankruptcy. I myself have gone though it as well, but for some reason, I find myself getting angry about hers. It's a bit more complicated than mine, in that it ...

Is it too soon to see a lawyer? He left me 2 weeks ago without any money!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5260 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - my husband walked out 2 weeks ago. we were just fighting everyday. we have been married 11 years but together 20 years. i love him and want him home but he wont even talk to me. he came by last week to get his stuff and told me he loves me,hugged ...

Is it possible that my husband is gay?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - I have been married for a year. My husband hasn't slept with me most of that time. We have sex then he gets out of bed and sleeps on the coach. He never comes to bed till it's almost time for me to get up. This just isn't a normal marriage. A ...

I just can't trust my husband... help! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I've been married for 12 years now and been with my husband for 15 years. In the second year of our marriage he cheated and conceived a child with another woman. He is not physically seeing his child but talks to him every now and then. he lives in ...

I ended it because I felt it was all happening too soon after my breakup, thing is... I miss him sooooo much!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I recently seperated from my husband and I met someone else quite soon who swept me off my feet, I have now ended that relationship because i felt it was too much too soon and I couldn't cope with it all at the moment. This man was so nice to m...

Is is wrong to want to remarry again so soon?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I am married to man that i dont love before,i want to be honest i marry him because i want to have a good life,but in 4 years beeing married i am not that happy.i tried to love him, i do my best to be a good wife even my feelings for him is not real ...

My wife versus my mother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - My wife and mother tolerate each other but recently when I suggested that it might be nice for my mother if I made an overnight visit, my wife went off into a weekend sulk saying it was a snub. My mother is in her 80's and I have asked my wife ho...

The baby was born 11 months after I was home, is the baby mine?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - I have a question when i was home from Iraq last year 2008 the last time me and my wife had sex was april 4th 2008 when i cam back from iraq ahe told me she was preg and then on March 1st 2009 our son was born her due date was feb 26 2009 now is ...

Houston, I think I have a "space" problem

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - what does it mean when my wife says 'i need my own space'?...

Hubby went home to mother, but sometimes still sleeps with me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - hi My husband recently moved out and back to his mum's, things hadn't been that great for a while but i never expected this. He recently starting going out with a new bunch of friends ones whom i never ever met and this used to really annoy me...

I want my best friends wife, I already had her friend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - I need help.... I find my friend's wife attractive and I am afraid that I desire her.... We were watching a game few years ago and when our team scored,everybod was jumping, congrulating each other and me and her hugged each other...It was s...

My jailbird husband holds a get out of jail card, but I have moved on

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I have a very complicated situation. Most people would say it is very clear cut but to me it isn't. I married the man of my dreams, who I was very much in love with. Eight months after we married, he strangled me and beat me up. He called the police ...

I want to emigrate to US, but hubby wont budge

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - Hello aunts I have been hugely lucky to have had a job that allowed me 2 visit NYC, I have been in live with the place since I can remember, I think it's cause my grandad was a seaman and visited NYC hundreads of times and would come back to ...

I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5252 days ago

28 November 2009 (M) - My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...

I thought my life was full of love. I cherished every moment with him - now that is all destroyed.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I have only married once in my mid 20's. It lasted 6 months. I never remarried until 17 years later. I have been married for 7 years, I thought I was careful with whom I married. After we married I found out I was wifie #6. I have just found out in ...

I only found out his secret fetish after we were married and I can't handle it!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my husband for ten years, married for 2, just after the I do's I found out his secret fetish and now I don't feel the same way about him. I was so in love but I started finding porn mag's and toys but what's strange about this is ...

Got drunk last night and don't remember anything. Everyone is mad at me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

28 November 2009 (M) - As i write this i am comming off a major drinking night. My friends and wife told me for weeks they know me drunk but i never been to drunk around them. I told everyone i was a nasty person drunk. So i got shitfaced last night. I have no idea what i ...

Green eyed monster problems

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for the past 4 years, I have huge trust issues with him because I found out he cheated on his first wife and never told me even though I told him stuff about my first marriage..I found this out from old love letter he ...

Why does he think this time will be any different?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - okay here the deal. my husband and i have been having problems for the last six months. just the other night we got into a heated argument to the point it almost got physical luckily he didnt actually hit me. I kicked him out the next even...

My husband is a devoted teacher, maybe too devoted to his....work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I can't believe it's come to this-posting an anonymous question on an advice forum. I hope someone can help! It started a while ago, four years ago. My husband is a teacher, a very dedicated devoted teacher who is respected and high up in his s...

His "joke" was NOT funny!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - My husband jokingly said, "I love this woman... Jennifer", she is always so satisfied with my work... I totally lost it. I felt it was an insult. And he said, oh no it was just a joke, I was just making a funny joke.. Do you think is this really f...

Will a married man ever leave his wife if he doesn't have any children?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Back in June I met a man at a convention while on a business trip, although it was just friendly. We exchanged email addresses to be in contact about work-related questions. At the time I was engaged to be married (I have been with him for 3 ...

Husband never around and I'm falling for his friend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - hi all, have been married 2years and my husband is a doctor. he remains busy most of the time in his works and gives very less time in home. i tried to adjust in this for 2 years but this days its becoming hard for me. my husband is a good man ...

Why do things always turn sour once you are married?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - why is it always like this? when a women and a man is on the relationship, no matter how long the relationship goes even its 5 or 10 years long or more they are most of the time always in good term. the sweetness, the cares, the dream, the love, ...

Split from husband and seeing a new man... but still in love with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Her is the story long and true and I need help. I am 29 years old. My husband and I are currently seperated and have been since June. My husband and I had been together for 13 years. Married for 8 years. Well we had a very rouch relationship ...

Cheated and fell in love..what now?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5240 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - Here's my predicament... I've been married 17 years, contently, i would say, but not always happily. I love my wife but am not in love. we have two children (14 and 7). Two years ago, I started an affair with a co-worker. She and I each seemed to ...

My naked neighbour!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - I live next door to a young woman who walks around naked in her house. She is very fit and has every reason to be proud of her body, I guess, but she keeps the windows open for the whole neighborhood to see her. This has upset me a lot especially ...

Married, had an affair and now wondering if I was just looking through things with rose colored glasses on?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - I have been married for 27 years and we have three children, 17, 13, and 12. For several years my wife had been reluctant to engage in sex, and I had become increasingly frustrated, both physically and emotionally. At work I had got to know a g...

I know that best thing to do would be to leave him but under all the heartache and pain I still love him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Help Please!!! So here goes...at this point I'm feeling very helpless. I just found out that my husband of 9 years had a sexual relationship with another women and now she's pregnant... around 5 months. The sad thing about this it that this same thi...

Plz help me my fiance is driving me crazy wit all his lies....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - My fiance for 15 months has lied over and over and im sooo tired of all da lies.. We always argue and he always makes me feel bad like its my fault... When we argue he is always rude and says hurtful things and says he is gonna take our daughter ...

I am having trouble being physical with my fiancee.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - I am having trouble being physical with my fiancee. There are several areas that I have hit road blocks. 1. She does not liked being touched. She is very ticklish. In fact, the only way to touch her is through back rubs, and holding hands. ...

I want to stop loving him so I can find someone who I can love and love me back!!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Ok where do I begin!! My ex husband and I were married 6 years together 10! I caught him with another woman which was his ex girlfriend! OH I caught them!! I divorced him and met someone new! He begged me and begged me! I realized that the man I was ...

To give the ring back or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5237 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Who keeps the engagement ring? Before you give me a standard answer, please consider the facts. I'm in CA, I accepted the proposal and spent allot of my own money (still in debt) for the wedding that didn't happen. 4 months before the wedding he ...

My husband has developed feelings for another woman and I don't know how to handle it...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - me and my husband have been married for 3 and 1/2 years and recently he realized that he has feelings for another woman. I'm in a battle for him with her. My friends tell me to go but my heart tells me to stay cuz he will pick me, what do u think I ...

What is the future of marriage with no sexual desire?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - Hello, I was reading a lot about marriages ,what falls apart, because of sex. I wonder how common is that ,that a man has erection problems in their 40;es? And what happens ,if their wife stays without sexual intimacy for the rest of the marriage? ...

Why would a husband try to tape record his wife secretly?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - Why would a husband buy a recorder and hide it from me? I found a recorder in my vehichle and asked him if he knew what it was. He said it looked like a recorder. I said, oh maybe it belongs to one of our kids friends. He went on to his own ...

He says vaginas are gross and doesn't want sex anymore. What can I do to have sex in my marriage?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - My husband and I are very much in love, we have been married less than a year and we have been together about three years. Before we got married, sex was great. I was intimate and exciting. I am very much aware that this stage will fade some as ...

My wife wants a threesome with another man!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

25 November 2009 (M) - My wife wants a threesome with another man. She says she loves the idea of "spit-roasting." I am disgusted, when I first met her two years ago in Church she was innocent and caring, and she saved herself until our wedding night. I don't know where ...

My husband doesn't listen to me and I think there is more to his 'friendship' with an older woman

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - HI i just got married this year in may and me and my husband are having a difficult time. i am currently pregnant this is the second baby our first i miscarried and i have a hard time believing that he still loves me. i accuse him of cheating...

My wife says that some of the texts were to the wife, not just this married man! Should I verify that with the wife?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

25 November 2009 (M) - I've been married 22 yrs. and everything seemed perfect. About a week ago i checked my cell phn bill and saw text msgng charges. I checked the bill and figured i would need to cal cell phn company and have another argument. when i looked at the ...

My wife has no sex drive but loves me very much. I don't want to cheat but what can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

25 November 2009 (M) - I am bored with my wife. She has no sex drive and I don't know how to get her going. Every other part of our marriage is great. We get along great, in fact, we love each other very much. Everyone says how lucky we are to have each other but if they ...

Being married to someone who is never happy is very draining!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5265 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - I've been married to my husband for roughly three years now and I'm starting to reach the conclusion that I probably never should have gotten married. I had small doubts from the get-go when I told him yes, but I managed to convince myself that I ...

I want my mom to move out once I get married!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5265 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I love my mother and we have been through a lot together. Now that I am getting married I want her to have her own place becuase sometimes things get a little ugly with us. Sometimes she doesn't respect my boundaries and treats me like a...

Isn't he going to say sorry? Doesn't he love me anymore?

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24 November 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I`ve been married for 16 years and I`ve been having some problems recently. First of all my husband says he`s jealous of one or two boyfriends I had in the past (before meeting him, and what is worst 20 years ago!) and some...