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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Divorcing naked creepy ex... What if he does something?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - I split from my husband 4 years ago after being in a very passionless marriage for 10+years, no kids. I have given him plenty of time to adjust to life without me and now I am filing for divorce. He remains in complete denial. Tonight I dropped by ...

Would his erection problem be okay, if he was with someone else?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Is it possible,that my husband can cure his erectile dysfunction with a new relationship? I mean is there any chance if someone can't have a normal erection and losing it when inside, but has no medical reasons for 5 years. My husband and me are ...

He is doing everything possible to show me how much he loves me but his betrayal is all I can focus on.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Hi Aunts, Don't really know why I'm writing this. It's cos I need your help and reassurance again I suppose. If you know me you will remember my text cheating husband and the rest of the saga. Although I am managing to avoid bringing it up as ...

I am in love with my sister's boyfriend's son!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts. Please Help. A Few Months ago I Got together with my sisters partners son. Hes 16 im 20. it took a while for us to admit how we felt and 1 thing led to another. my sister then split from her partner and he and his son left. i ...

I'm Falling for a Married man, "my boyfriend"...I Need Some Advice.(affair)

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Im Falling for a Married Man,were having an affair. Ive allowed him to consider me as his girlfriend, and hes my "boyfriend" Ok, I will tell you all the informantion i think you need to know to understand what im going through, from beginning t...

I am having an affair and want to end it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - I am 41 years old and married. i am having an afair with a 25 year old person. he is of lower financial class than I . i have a child that i adore. i want to stop this afair and i can not sometimes i dream of being with this guy for ever but i ...

Why is he unhappy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - My fiance and I would have been celebrating our 5th year together in December but in October he tells me that he feels like something is wrong with him, he thinks its an early mid-life crisis (he's 33), something is missing in his life, he feels ...

Why is my wife not as tight as she was?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (M) - I went away for couple of weeks to work, and when i came back, my wife was sort of lose, and before i went out, she was nice and tight. When i asked her why she got loose, she jumped and and chaged the topic and she did not want to talk about it...

To divorce or not divorce...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (M) - to divorce or not to divorce?? me and my wife of 4 years have talked about our marriage (we already have a 1 year son) which has been a fine marriage in every think except sex. Throughout the years of our marriage we only had sex about 15-20 time...

The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (M) - My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...

Life after wife's mastectomy? Anyone been through this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (M) - A couple months ago my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and she had a mastectomy on one side last week. We think it was detected early, the doctors are quite encouraging, and she seems to be recovering marvelously from the surgery. Final test ...

Should I save my marriage to someone I do not love or go with someone I love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - Twenty years ago I met the love of my life. At the time we both had just gotten out of a relationship and agreed to date and not get serious, but in the process we both fell in love. After 2 years he admitted to me that he wanted to marry me and I ...

I drink when my husband is around because I can't bear to be near him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for 15 years. We have 4 children together. I have put up with a lot of verbal abuse from him over the years. Of course There are a lot of good qualities about him such as a hard worker and good provider for the family. He ...

I need to get over these feelings for my best friend's husband!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - I write this in tears. I have fallen head over heals in love with my friends husband. YES I KNOW THIS IS WRONG and HORRIBLE in everyway. I REALLY do love my friend. She is like a sister to both my husband and I. I've been married about 15 years and ...

My fiancee is not pulling his share of the load!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - My partner is not supporting me, not easy to talk to about domestic issues and is not pulling his weight, how should i approach him about this? Me and my fiance have been together for almost 4 years and have a sixth month baby. We rent a house and...

Stuck in the middle between mum and my fiance!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - my fiance and i have been together just over 1 year. we bought a house after 7mths together, got engaged about 3mths after that, and we wanna get married next june. He's 43 in december and i am 27. We love each other very much and are soulmates. ...

The woman he cheated on my with is now stalking him and he won't cut contact...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I to am having a problem that is so very close to yours, I myself am having a problem getting over this. He cheated a year ago, lied to me about it more than once, then finally came clean when he thought he was gonna lose me. We are not married, but ...

Cheated now confused... I am sad and lonely... why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I just need some advice I dont know what to do I cheated on my husband because I wasnt getting the affection I needed, but I knew from the begin that the guy I was cheating with was married and it would never be anymore than sex. Now Im just so ...

He gives me a guilt trip every time I go out with friends...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Does anyones husband make you feel guilty for spending time away from the kids and him? I have other married friends and their husbands really dont care what they do and they go out with friends and shopping etc.. Really If i go out i get the guilt ...

How do I leave my marriage without hurting him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - So I have been married going on 2 years and lately i have not felt anything for my husband, I do not want to be sexually active and I take any chance of being away from him take so extra shifts at work what ever it takes. My husband says that he ...

Depressed husband...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Mmy husband is depressed and snaps all the time; I don't react most of the time because I know he can't help it but sometimes I can't take it. When he is nice to me and shows me love I take whatever he gives me and don't blame him for what he does; ...

Will he ever give compliments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - I'm wanting to know why my husband doesnt tell me that I'm beautiful or give me any compliments for that matter? We have been together 5 years, married for 3 years and he still to this day doesnt make me feel like im special. I know he loves me, ...

Communication, sex.. all of it..is declining in my marriage! Advice please.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

21 November 2009 (M) - Now were do I start ... my wife and I have been married for 17 years we have three boys 15, 10 and 9. Our relationship has been steadily declining emotionally over the past 3 years. It has come to the point that our communication is now declining ...

My husband is a cross dresser, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I have been married for 18 years and my husband is a cross dresser. I have try to understand it but it is hard. I do love him the problem is that he is always chatting and texting sexy and dirt talk and talking about crossdressing with women online. ...

How can I ask him to make sex more meaningful for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I'm 25 years old and my husband is 33. We have been married for 2 years now and have a beautiful 18 month old daughter. We got married after dating for only 2 months, because I got pregnant. Sex is now becoming more of a chore than it should b...

Is it normal to think sex is disgusting?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I am 33 yrs old and could care less if I had sex again!! It's gross, and disgusting I have to be drunk to have sex with my husband. Is that normal, and how do you think I should handle it?...

He just wont touch, kiss or hold me...and we've only been married 46 days!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Hi. I've been married for just under 2 months, been with him 5 years. We're both 25. Lived together for 3 years. In the past 2 years, our sex life has diminished drastically. Mind you, in the past two years, he's been in University doing a ...

My husband claims he will change if I go back to him but I don't trust his word!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I left my husband, we were working together on cruises, saved money to build a future together for 5 years, I am from latin america he is eastern european, first of all he choose living in his country, despite i suggested a neutral country, after I ...

Sexually frustrated new mom... help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - My husband and I are very young. We have been together for two + years, I got married when i was 18 and my husband was my first sex partner! I just a few weeks ago had a baby, our first. I am very sexually frustrated, (you can't have sex for at ...

He never does his fair share around the house!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - My husband says he is not taking care of any chores because he has to work. When I tell him, that is not right and he needs to do something too around the house etc, he says you are bitching at me all the time, why would I spend time with you? He ...

Bedroom issues...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted yesterday

19 November 2009 (F) - I enjoy sex, the problem is my husband has a small penis that I can't feel. He's clumsy in bed and has never made me orgasm. I have tried talking to him about it and he gets angry and starts saying that I don't love him so I have faked more orgasms ...

I think about him all the time...even when I'm with my husband. Am I wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - Ever since I've meet my professor two years ago I've had a crush on him. I'm in college and majoring on the piano, he's my piano teacher as well as the teacher for a few other classes. At first I wasn't worried about it, this isn't the first time ...

My husband and I are usually miserable. Is it worth fixing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - ive been married for two years and with my husband for almost 6 years all together.. i love him . but all we do is fight. the sex life is terrible and we have good days were we are happy but most of the time we are miserable.. should we call it ...

Why do women sleep with married men?

This question has 49 answers - newest was posted today

18 November 2009 (F) - Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...

My wife intends to file for divorce to be with another man!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - I have been married for 13 years to the love of my life. Like so many other men on this site I too became comfortable in our marrige, and did not give my wife the attention she desired. We have four beautiful children together. I found out about ...

My husband is abroad and doesn't send money or call to talk.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - i am 41 years i been married for almost 14 years and we have 3 kids my problem is my husband i was asking myself if i need quit my marriage, my husband and i do not talk regarding family matters, sex do not say i love you he did not talk to often we ...

I've never had a penny off my ex-husband, is it too late to do anything about it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - i left my hub 10 years ago we stopped friends. ive never had a penny of him. is it to late to do anything about it?...

My husband just never wants to sort things out!! He expects me to be fine.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I need some advice here. I've been married for just over 2 years now. My husband is a wonderful man who's totally commited, faithful, caring and hard working. But...if we have an arguement, he doesn't like to talk about it afterwards. Now I'm a...

How should I explain how much this bothers me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - Okay my husband of 2 weeks is in nursing school. He started last May. Now before this I never looked at his phone he never took care in keeping it on him. He never really got texts unless I sent them. Things were smooth sailing. So about 3 weeks ago ...

Do I give my husband another chance or give it a go with mr perfect?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - Where to begin. Me and my husband have been married 8 years. But the last year and a half lived apart it started out just for work but progressed to a real seperation. Our marraige has been rocky for most of its duration. We have argued for yrs and ...

My husband's ex wife...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - My husband and his ex-wife are going together to a school lunch for their son. Should I worry about her, she is a very manipulative person and I trust her as far as I can throw her. He used to give her whatever she wanted, I use to tell him that she ...

My husband's addiction to porn is destroying our lives!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my husband for 6 years, and during this time he has lied about watching and using pornography. he has an addition to it, he has even watched porn at his work and lost his job and lost a lot of respect from friends and family. beca...

I don't know what to do. There is no romance in my marriage and I am seeing my old girlfriend.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Good day 49 years old man been married for 21 years. Have three children 15, 18 and 19. My wife and I have made love three times in the last ten years. She won't discuss the problem or seek help. Full stop. I have gotten very down about it at time...

My husband has no sexual desire and can't keep an erection!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - How can you find out ,why your husband has no sexual desire, and losing his erection? How do you know know if it's psychological? ...

Men: Is your wife's depression a bigger concern than getting laid?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Men: If your girlfriend or wife was suffering from severe depression, would you be more concerned with her state of mind, or getting laid? Furthermore: If the depression was supposedly because your words and actions towards her during the durat...

Am I overreacting to my husband's relationship with my daughter-in-law?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I am having a problem with my husband and daughter in-law. It seems that they have a seperate relationship that I am not a part of they can talk for hours and hours about things I have nothing to do with my husband says he should have a seperate ...

We are drowning in debt! My husband won't take that into account as we approach the holidays!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Before my husband and I got together, he had a wife who got him into debt. After she walked out on him and his kids, he got a girlfriend who completed the process. The hole that the ex-wife started was dug deeper by the girlfriend. My husband is ...

Is there an Islamic solution that would mean a married woman could divorce her husband and marry her true love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - I loved a girl but she was pressured by her parents to get married two years back, however she loved me so much that she did not let her husband come close to her which means they did not have any sexual relation, her husband is a nice guy but she ...

My wife is willing to forgive my cheating, I love her but I feel I don't deserve her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Well, I will try to keep this short and to the point but sorry if I linger. I am 35 years old, was married to a great 42 year old woman until 2009-04, unfortunately no children, that was a difficult hurdle in our marriage as we kept miscarrying. I ...

How do we move on after my fling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I really need some advice. My husband found out that I had a fling with someone else while me were separated. I have apologized and have never down played what I did. I want to know what to do? We do live together now but he is distant. Which I ...