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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

My cousin's husband is "flirting' with me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 81 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Okay! Im 14 years old. My cousin is 21 and married to this guy who is 23. They have a 4 month old baby together. I went to there house for a week to hang out and babysit. It was a blast. i drove around with her husband all the time he is still like ...

Marriage-I wake up every morning thinking I made a big mistake

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, OK - here is my question. I've been married for two years -- through the engagement, I thought about breaking things off multiple times. Now I wake up almost every morning thinking: I made a big mistake. There are several probl...

My husband looks at she-male porn. Do straight men do this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My husband looks at shemale porn, but says he is not gay. The shemale's are cleary men with breast.what do you think? Are there any straight men that like to look at shemale porn? ...

Trying to make amends for what I did wrong...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - Hello, my name is Mr Castillo. I have been married for 2 years to a very beautiful, wonderful woman and our connection is beyond the effort of having it verbalized. We make ourselves feel so alive in ways that are surreal, and most of all she is my ...

Suddenly wife is changing both physically and mentally?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I'm 30, and married with a 5-year-old son from a previous relationship (the mother walked out on him a year after he was born, and not seen him since). I've been married for 3 years now, and suddenly my wife has developed a personality chan...

Her past has been eating me inside as my mind can't accept it, please advise.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 79 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I am a 45 years old and married for 8 years. My wife told me about her past affair when we were dating. She also told me that she is not a virgin. When I met her she was not that interested in me and after my persistence she started to get involve ...

I love my husband but our sex life is dull! Can I really last a lifetime of this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Me and my husband have been married for just over a year and have been together since we were 16. We were each others firsts and used to really ennjoy sex. However, recently (past 4-5 months) I have found that our sex life is almost non existant. My ...

Does he not have to check with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 42 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid.org: My question is this: I have been married for 25 years and recently I asked my husband why he was randomly driving around a neighborhood we do not live in. He preceded to tell me that I shouldn't ask him that. That he is 47 years old ...

I'm married and I've turned into an angry PMS bitch!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 35 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I've been married for 13 years, and I've turned into the angry PMS bitch in the last 4 years or so. It just keeps getting worse every day. My husband just keeps getting dumber, and doing less. He will do "girl" work like wash dishes, bake coo...

I feel like I married my father

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I am a 29 yr old female with two children. My husband and I have worked hard to get accomplish the American dream. We depend on each others income to maintain and if I leave everything will fall apart. What about my kids? Here’s the thing……. He's ...

Should I tell my wife the truth that I don't find her sexy unless she is slim?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - Hi all. First time poster. I've been with my wife for 10 years and we have been married for 4 years and I love her very much. She is my best friend and we get along really well. Sure we have the odd argument but we normally talk things through ...

When asked what is wrong, all husband will say is "Nothing"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - what would likely b the cause for this,he is very confusing,and i do get a lot of mixed message's also he has never been physical abusive. this is one of the extreme's.Description: if your husband never seemed attracted to u in any way,no sex,wont...

Lust or love not both?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - dear cupid, i only was marry for 11 months but since the beginig of the marriage i catch my husband waching porno, so for me that's was a red flag (my husband was a bachelor for almost 47 years he was never commited to any seious relationship)so ...

Husband hasn't done anything wrong but I want to leave him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - We have been married 22 years, and have three children 20, 17, and 14. I have always wondered if he was the right choice, even before we got married. I was an alcoholic in recovery when we met (I'm still struggling), and it seemed like the right ...

Husband said "you don't understand me, I don't understand you..I want out!"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I'm 26, my husband's 28, I'm originally from Ontario, he's from Michigan. I met him when I was working in Michigan centre over 4 years ago, we got into a relationship and it was mostly good. Like all relationships it had its ups and downs. We...

Husband gave me an ultimatium to either move with him or get out

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 80 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - my husband and I have been together for 16 years. I have no family of my own, but he comes from a large family. His family is now back east and my children are here in the pacific northwest. Hes always disliked my kids, so its hard when he says ...

Married & upset that younger lover has someone else

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I met my husband Jack about 15 years ago, he was my first love and first relationship, I loved him for years, but he could not take a decision about us, being afraid of comitment and financial pressure. we were young by then, early or mid 20s...

My wife is childish, I want her to be more mature!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 80 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - Hi, I am getting only little sex in marriage because 1. When we have sex, my wife would complaint bout pain and would ask me to slow down and other cues which discourage me from having sex next time for the fear that it would repeat 2. ...

Me and my husband have been having arguments about a vacation to see my friend, should I still go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - About 3 months ago, my husband and I had a fight because I wanted to take a little vacation to visit my good friend. Reason of that fight was he didn’t trust me, and he dislike that friend of mine because he feels that I have changed since I met ...

Am I out of line for insulting my neighbour after my husband said 'I love you' to her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - My husband came home from his parents house last night stinking drunk, talking on his cell phone incessantly with all of "his boys" saying he wanted to go out with them to the bar, then I hear him (in our bed) talking with the neighbor saying "I ...

No intimacy in my marriage!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - I have been married to my wife for 5 years now. there is no intimacy in our marriage she does not want to have sex, and it is ruining our relationship what should i do, i want to ask her for divorce. or get separated...

What can my friend do legally with unfaithful husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I have a friend that is being married for about 30 years, she recently find that her husband was cheating her with her roommate. She never found them but this lady became pregnant. Everybody outside said that this kid was from her husband but they ...

Wife and sex leave bitter taste in my mouth!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - I have been married to my wife for 8 years.Over the past year I have become repulsed by having sex with her. I love her very much and and married her because we get along very well together. Sex with her in the beginning of our relationship was ...

I spend my life dreaming of life without him...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I have been married for 10 years and am completely miserable. He's a lovely guy however we don't seem to have any common interests, everything I do seems to irritate him and he never wants to have sex with me. I spend my life dreaming about b...

My husband lied about being a virgin and I feel I cant move on from this!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 82 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - After 25 years of marriage, and during a horrible row, I found out that my husband had lied to me when we were young and told me that he was a virgin when in fact he wasn't (only 1 other partner). This lie has really put a strain on our marriage. I ...

How can I get my husband to see that he needs to work full time for us to be able to live comfortably?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 87 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - i have been remarried for almost a year now , my problem is my husband just wont work a full time job, but has very bad spending habit, he loves to eat out , i am a very good cook and he says he enjoys my cooking but he would rather eat out , we ...

Problems with the wife

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - I've been married for almost a year and I am so miserable. I try so hard to keep my wife happy and I know she is so happy. Before she meet me is was just living and not happy, she is like a new person. I made a connection with her straight away and ...

Why would my wife be taking testosterone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 82 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - For the past 5 weeks my wife's been getting moody, irritable and fed-up and I've had no idea why. Talking didn't help, she just ranted. I, however, found out why, on a day I had off from work (it was a training course, but I didn't need to att...

Is the feeling of being ignored common in threesomes?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 69 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - Recently my wife and I carried out a threesome with my best friend that she had been fantisising about for some time now.She had this night all planned out with a dinner and drinks to follow.She was dressed in a transparent white spandex dress that ...

I'm having second thoughts about trying to conceive right now because my husband is sometimes cold with me and his daughter is going to move in! What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - I've been married for one year now... and my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the last 6 months and is not happening. He has a daughter with another woman, she is 10 yrs old and is coming to live with us. She is a 'good" girl but i ...

I need help! Wife is cheating!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

26 August 2009 (?) - I've been married for 6 years and its been hard. My wife and I have two kids. Now, a couple of years ago she cheated on me when she went out with some friends to santa monica to spend the night. She sadi she thought someone gave her sonething ...

My wife's best friend is coming onto me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

26 August 2009 (M) - My wife and I who are .. decently happy have a mutual friend named "Sarah" now, sarah is beautiful and fun and always is around. She is a very close friend, and whenever either of us need advice she is there. But as of recent she is being more ad...

Should I seduce my brother in law or just forget about him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - hello aunty, I am a married lady, 33 years old..I am a leading drama actress also, few months back I did a romantic play, where my brother-in-law (my husbands brother) was acting opposite me, being a romantic play we had a few smooches and a steamy ...

Womens' Rights to Polygamy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

26 August 2009 (M) - POLYGAMY: An Issue of Womens’ Rights When we hear the term “medical procedures” we could easily think of things such as the cruel surgeries inflicted upon some prisoners of war, men and women having sex-changes or babies being aborted and dyin...

My husband is no longer interested in me; I'm responsible for my own happiness, right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - My husband is very focused on obtaining work, increasing income and needs to relax watching TV every night. I have not been good at getting his attention and would like to without forcing him. His interest has diminished completely. He is 61, I'm ...

Cheated just before we got married, and now he wants a threesome to even the score!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 76 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I cheated on my husband 2 years ago a few months before we got married. I had sex with another man one time (the biggest mistake of my life). Now he wants to make me feel the same way that I made him feel back then by having a threesome this weekend ...

Do I have the right to not want my wife to see naked men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

25 August 2009 (M) - My wife went to school for massage therapy. She was in childcare, but not certified, so not making much money,, and wasn't happy. She's now working in a massage place. Not a seedy place with oriental showers and the such you might think of, ...

Why can't I leave the married man I'm living with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I am living with a married man, who is not divorced, or seeking divorce, wife left 4 years ago, neither is legally separated, yet both are property owners of the house that this man lives in and which I reside with him at his request. Did not know ...

Cheating by texting....I need advice

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for over 4 years, we were together for 4 years before we got married. Across our marriage we have the normal peeks and valleys but i have always trusted him 100% in regards to being faithful to me. We still have ...

Difficulties with my step children, how should I handle this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I have been remarried 5 years. I came to the marriage with 4 children and my husband has 2. His children are not involved in our family and very rarely come to see us. His daughter at one point( when kicked out of her bilogical mother's home) lived ...

I'm in love with a married man!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - for the first time i am opening up my problem .. here it is i met a guy in my office and somehow i liked him at the beginning and slowly we became good friends and i came to know that he is married. then many a times i decided that i shud nt talk ...

My husband and I always fighting about his adult children, and he also refuses to go to counselling. What should I do?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 46 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - help! when i married my husband, he had 3 grown children who are now 26, 29 and 30. they have not achieved as he would like and hold menial jobs though all are college educated. they don't accept his counsel or advice and often start disastrous ...

I'm having a hard time being "just friends" with my wife..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

24 August 2009 (M) - My wife and I ran into some serious relationship issues back in March/April of this year. We started counseling in May/June and after 3 sessions (the 3rd one being a private one with my wife) I was told and I quote "to prepare for the end of ...

I feel unloved and my marriage is falling apart...what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - I feel unloved and its got to the point where I can't be bothered with my appearance. My husband takes no interest in me and our marriage is all but over. He is 40 and I am 37 we have no children as things have been falling apart for quite some ...

He likes shemales porn!?!?!? Can I still marry him??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 73 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of nearly a decade recently asked me to marry him and I accepted. Just about a month later I now find that he's been watching shemale porn on the internet! He was certainly enjoying it too! When I confronted him he tried to deny it ...

For the last few years of our marriage, my husband has treated me like crap, why is it happening now and not earlier on in the marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - dear cupid, my husband and I have been married for 8 and a half years, when we got married he was 20 and I 24, it was partly so that he could get his green card but we were madly in love and infatuated with each other at the time, too...

Married, but have a crush on a colleague! I'm confused about my feelings and what to do?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

24 August 2009 (M) - Please help!!! I'm sooooo confused about what's happening to me. I'm married 4 years, in committed relationship for 11 years total. My wife is a beautiful, caring woman and recently we've been having a few problems. Most of the problems, lik...

My wife has been cheating A LOT and I need her to open up to me...Any advice?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 79 days ago

24 August 2009 (M) - Me and my wife have been married 9years.... in that 9years she has cheated on me 5times that i know of... out of the 5times i have decided too get a hold of one of the guys.... me being me i wanted too see what she was acting like.... come too find ...

Am I post natal? Not in love? Or living in the past??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 91 days ago

23 August 2009 (?) - I'm all out of love? please help....I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and half years.we have 2 sons aged 2 and 9 months.so as you can see I fell pregnant soon after we met.my problem is I don't know if were just not right for each other or I'm ...

I've been cheating on him for years but don't know why

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 91 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - im a 22 yr old married woman, iv been maried since 20 and been with him since 18. but all along iv been cheating on him. i dont know why. hes such a good man, and a wonderful father to our little boy. im in the service and hes not, so were seperated ...