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Archived questions from: December, 2008 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Problems with intimacy... has anyone else dealt with this and what did they do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - Hello All! Well i'm just looking for advice, but please don't suggest that I end it as that is not an option that I want. Well I have been with my boyfried for just over a year and it hasnt always been plain sailing, when we first m...

What do I do with these feelings?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - I've been married for 4.5 years and have a daughter that is almost a year old. My marriage has often been very rocky. We separated once and reconciled then became pregnant. Only recently has my husband truly started to turn into a man worth being ...

I'm so depressed in my marriage, I don't even want to wake up in the morning...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 273 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - Im 18yrs old and i just got married about 3 months ago. I find myself becoming more and more depressed, i dont even wanna wake up in the morning. I started feeling this way about 2months ago, its makes me wonder if its bc i wasnt ready to get ...

Is this friendship in dangerous waters?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - I am a married woman who has been experiencing some turmoils in my relationship. I met this single man through work and we had an instant connection. He has been a wonderful listener of all my problems and I sense a strong interest from his side ...

Trapped in my marriage and tempted to cheat again....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 324 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - I am currently seperated from my husband. We met when I was 17 years old, I got married to him at the age of twenty. I thought that I was mature enough to handle something like marriage. However three years later I am realizing that we are ...

Do I still love my husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 329 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - I have been married for 15years. We have a 4 year old son, 12 year old daughter and we raised his stepdaughter wh is now 24 years old with two young boys. Though most of our marriage he has worked a lot and we seldom had a chance to spend much ...

How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 329 days ago

31 December 2008 (F) - my husband and i only been married for 6 months, before we were married we use to cuddle all the time, and have sex alot, now i barley can get him to kiss me or even hold my hand, once in a while we cuddle when we are watching a movie, he at least ...

My wife want's a mutual marriage. That is, she wants to date other men.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 319 days ago

30 December 2008 (M) - My wife want's a mutual marriage. That is, she wants to date other men. She wants to find me a girl as well. It's crazy and weird. We live in the same house and have a year old child. I do not know what to do. I have always just wanted to be ma...

How can I find the truth without tearing my family apart?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

30 December 2008 (M) - How can I trust my wife again? We have been married 10 years and we have 3 young children. I thought we have been very happily married with no major problems, but got the shock of my life last week when I found some very inappropriate text messages...

Is it possible to stay in my marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

30 December 2008 (F) - I'm sorry if this is really long but really need some advice. I have been with my husband for many years. He is very much a father figure and I do love him so much in the same kind of way I love my cat - with massive affection. The problem is t...

Finding it difficult to trust my wife....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 329 days ago

30 December 2008 (M) - im finding it realy hard to trust my wife ive bin wit her 7 years at 12 mmonth we went out and i caught her talking to another lad i think she kissed him but cant remeber for certain then at 15 month we had a break in our relationship she went out ...

Do you think the long distance ruined our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

30 December 2008 (F) - For the past 6 years, my husband and i are in a long distance relationship. My son who is 6 years old (he left a month before he was born) and i visit him twice yearly for a total of 10 weeks. Initially when he left, i would cry all the time and get ...

How do I save our marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 329 days ago

30 December 2008 (F) - I don't know what to do from this point. My husband doesn't have any affection toward me, and he won't touch me. He has ED. For non- medical reason. I don't know what is the reason for his ED. He says he loves me. Should I believe him? He says he ...

Are forgiving and forgetting the same thing in my case?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 329 days ago

30 December 2008 (F) - I started living with my husband when our daughter was almost 2 years old. He would go to happy hour everynight after work at his favorite bar, he asked me not to come there unless he took me, he said it was his space, so i did what he asked. I ...

Obsessed with wife's ex-lover/experience

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 161 days ago

30 December 2008 (M) - This sounds ridiculous but I need some perspective. I've been married 10 years. Good enough marriage. My wife isn't great in bed, and isn't enthusiastic about love-making, even though I sometimes make her howl with delight. However, I've been ...

Fed up with husband who never shares...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 329 days ago

30 December 2008 (F) - My husband never shares anything with me. I don't know how much money, loans or feelings about me he has. He is a real holder who holds everything to himself. It took over 14 years of our marriage before he would let go of some control of the house ...

Not in love with my wife and having an affair but can't leave because of my kids.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

30 December 2008 (M) - I have been having an affair with someone for 3 years. I have two children aged 7 and 5. I am not in love with my wife any more. I want more than anything to live with the girl I am having the affair with because I am in love with her but I don't ...

Should I keep trying or should I just end this marriage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 330 days ago

30 December 2008 (F) - Should I keep trying to turn on my husband, or just give up, and end this marriage? He really don't care about fixing this, so why should I? You can't have a marriage without intimacy,or can you? What do you think how common is this, and what ...

Bisexual husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 250 days ago

29 December 2008 (F) - Hi all Let me give you a short background first...married 13 years with 2 kids. I am bi myself,came out about 6 years ago. When I came out he was there as I said it outloud to both of us, and we came to an understanding I would not explore or e...

I am afraid I have ruined my marriage with this affair, what to do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 326 days ago

29 December 2008 (?) - Hello Cupids I apologize in advance as this may get a bit long, and any advice is welcome so please do reply if you have any thoughts. I will try to keep it clear and organized but my head is a mess so sorry if this story seems messy too. I ...

Should I contact her or is this a lost cause?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 330 days ago

29 December 2008 (M) - Hi, 3 months ago I left my girlfriend of 16 months, now I think maybe I made a huge mistake. I thought maybe she had fallen out of love with me. For one thing, she works with an ex-boyfriend who is also her best friend. They go out of town t...

How do I rid the lust from my eyes?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 329 days ago

29 December 2008 (M) - How do I get rid of lust out of my eyes. I remember back to my marriage and lust wasn't in my eyes. After my divorce (she had an affair). Lust entered my eyes. During the rest of my marriage my eyes roved. I never acted on this. My wife had a sec...

Is this all there is to marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 326 days ago

29 December 2008 (F) - I've been with my husband for 12 years and am seriously considering leaving him. He loves me but everything I ever do seems to irritate him. We don't make love - we have sex once a month and it's hideous. We don't have a lot to talk about and s...

Can things work the second time around?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 330 days ago

29 December 2008 (M) - I have been getting very close to a lady who was on the verge of divorce, but her husband has manipulated her to go back together, they did seperate for months, he was gambling and drinking, but it does look as if they are back together, they were ...

At the moment I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown and don't know what to do.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 208 days ago

29 December 2008 (M) - I left my wife in july this year because of mental and psyical abuse, she would take pain pills and drink wine and get drunk and put me through all this bitterness and ridicule i would drink with her and made her worse so diecieded to stop drinking ...

Arranged marriage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 305 days ago

29 December 2008 (F) - Cut a long story short, i had arranged marriage, i agreed to it, i'm happy, etc..... n i've gotten to know my partner betta he'z great i've fallen 4 him etc.. etc.... Love him 2 bits but i'm not ready for sex yet, yes i havent done it yet, and just ...

I find it very difficult to trust my husband...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 330 days ago

29 December 2008 (F) - I have been married for more than 6 years now with 2 beautiful children. my problem can be summed up by one word: trust. i mean i cannot trust my husband not telling his parents or even sister the details of our lives, our plans.... you name it. i ...

My wife can't understand why I went to that club, now our relationship is going downhill.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 330 days ago

29 December 2008 (M) - Hi All, I wonder if you can help me with an issue I currently have. My wife and I live in England and married in April 08 after 6 years together (4 of these years we lived together). It was the first marriage for either of us. I was 38 and my wi...

I just want my normal family life again. You think that is possible?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

29 December 2008 (F) - I could really be doing with some help at the minute. This isnt the first time ive posted on here and this is the same problem. My husband and i were going through a difficult time which i can now see improving, the problem is that while we were ...

My husband has beaten me up.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 326 days ago

28 December 2008 (F) - Can you help. My husband has beaten me up. What happened was I had affair with his brother and got pregnant. We tried to work through it but my husband had a mental breakdown and was admitted to hospital. When he came out he was a changed person. ...

I cheated on my husband with his best friend...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

28 December 2008 (F) - I am a very young girl and I am married and just recently had a baby... Well I have wondered for a while what it would be like to be with another man because my husband is the only one I have only ever been with... so last night I cheated on him and ...

I love my wife but not in love any more... plus another relationship, what to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 265 days ago

28 December 2008 (M) - I've been married just short of 3 years to what works out to really be my high school sweetheart. She is a wonderful person and loves me very much. I also love her but after 15 years of being together 3 married and 12 dating on and off I don't think ...

Does it seem to you like he's cheating? Opinions please!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

28 December 2008 (F) - Hi I'm 22 nearly 23. I'm a mother of 2 and third one is on the way. My fiancee is nearly 30 and I think my husbund is cheating on me. I'm 7 months pregnant and he hasn't touched me since he found out bascially. He goes out till late, not callin...

My wife left with our 5 kids in December and I'm cracking up without her...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

28 December 2008 (M) - I've been married 8 years and my wife left me in December saying she can't cope any more. I want her back with our 5 children, she's only 27 years old and I love her and our children very much. It's been a very lonely xmas, she has put herself and ...

My husband is a crossdresser, I dislike this and suspect he is gay, any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

28 December 2008 (F) - I need any advice I can get, I realize my situation isn't the norm so it really doesn't matter if you've had personal experience just tell me how you would handle my relationship? I'll try to make my very long story short and to the point but it m...

My husband is an alcoholic & addict but I love him! how can I help him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 326 days ago

28 December 2008 (F) - I have been married to my husband for 27 years, and a few months ago I found out he was having a affair with a woman he met at a treatment facility. He is a Alcoholic and is Bipolar. This woman is also an Alcoholic and Addict. The first thing I did ...

He says if I totally quit drinking, he would totally quite watching porn.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 329 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - I have been married just about 3 months. We have been together about 2.5 years, during this time we had many mini (few days to couple of months) breakups. Some of the reasons for those breakups were financial, him being nagative toward life(I am ...

Need help to get over him, I don't want my daughter to witness us always fighting!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 332 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - I desperately need help trying to get over someone I love dearly. I oftentimes question myself as to why I even still love him after all the hurt and pain that he has caused me. I have been with him for 4 years. We have a beautiful daughter who is 1 ...

Was I just a game for the "Internet man", something to play with whilst he was bored?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 330 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - Hi, Back in August 2002 I met online this fantastic and exciting man. From 3 seconds in there was this amazing sexual attraction. After about 4 months he asked me to meet him and so I went along and we became great friends. I realised that he wanted ...

How do I accept the fact my husband and I will never have sex again?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 332 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - How do I get over the fact my husband and I will never have sex again? It's been over a year now. To try and cut a long story short over a year ago I really hurt my husband's feelings. I was very rude and hurtful towards him. This wasn't the 1st ...

Hatred for my husband!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - I have so much hatred for my husband. We have been married for 9 yrs and we have a 6yr old. He can never keep a job. He is always moving from one industry to the other. I have made more than him almost the entire time we've been married. He never ...

How do I break the news of a divorce to my kids?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 332 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - How do I tell my kids ages 8 and 3 that I am divorcing their father?...

Am I doing the right thing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

27 December 2008 (F) - I have been married for almost 10 years. We have 2 kids. We met, one month later we moved in together, on month after that I was pregnant. It all happened so fast. I tried doing the right thing and learn to love him as a husband so we got married. ...

My husband is abusive, drinking..should I divorce?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 333 days ago

26 December 2008 (F) - I was in an 8 year relationship that ended up abruptly because I wanted a future with him and he was unsure of what he wanted and didn't find it fair to me so he ended our relationship. I was heart broken, shocked and devastated because I ...

Is my new husband cheating or am I just paranoid?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 331 days ago

26 December 2008 (F) - I have only been married for eight weeks, and for the last five weeks i have been going out of my mind with worry, my husband works away from home, and we only see each other every three to four weeks for a day or two at a time, however, i received ...

Am I married to the most selfish man alive?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 255 days ago

26 December 2008 (F) - Is it just me or is the man I'm married to really selfish? We've been married for almost 2 years and together for 3 years. Last year for Christmas I spent $2000 on him. He bought me $100 worth of junk that to this day I don't use. For his ...

I don't understand my husband

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 333 days ago

26 December 2008 (F) - Hello, I have been with my husband almost 7years, we have two boys 4 and 2. Well last year he started to changed on me. snapping at everything I say, do or don't do. smashing things up, then one time he says he is going to drive me crazy enough to ...

Jealousy - I feel silly

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 333 days ago

26 December 2008 (M) - Ok. I feel like an idiot for writing this but here goes. My wife and I have been married over 13 years with 2 kids and one on the way. Anyway she opened up a face book account and is now "friends" with her old boyfriend online. She never tried to...

Can we make it work? Ever?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 334 days ago

25 December 2008 (F) - Can we make it work? Ever? I have been separated from my soon to be ex husband for over 6 months. I cheated on him and he found out from my best friend. I broke his heart. We were still sleeping together for a brief period after we split. Then I...

My marriage isn't working... Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 334 days ago

25 December 2008 (M) - hi Cupid, I am 36 years of age, asian and have been unhappily married for 6 years. I married at the age of 30 out of conveniency and desperation as I had never fallen in love with anyone. I never thought I would meet my soul mate. My parent...