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Archived questions from: February, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

I resent that she's turned the tables on me and wants me back AGAIN.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - Having read much of the excellent advice given on here I am hoping that someone can help me. Over my 17 year marriage my wife and I have split up 3 times. The first time was after 8 years and was partly because of my social anxiety disorder ...

My "text" affair has gone wrong and I fell for him, any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a happily married woman who has been having a text 'affair' with an older fella who I met through work although we don't work together. He is in a position of high standing and he has made me feel good and given me confidence. I feel he started ...

Have I been single for too long?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Hi, As a single parent of 2 teenagers still reeling from the effects of acrimonious and lengthy, energy-sapping divorce I have lost all sense of self and fun and ability to enjoy life. Since the failure of this relationship I have had problems with ...

I feel like an old stupid woman!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a 53 year old caucasian woman. Been married for 28 years. My husband is 58. Have four adult children lost an only son to suicide. My husband cheated on me for 1 year with three asian young women. He had a five month affair with one and took ...

Should I tolerate every wrong than live with the social stigma of being divorced?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I recently got married to a man who everyone told me was respectable and no one had anything bad to say about him. I saw him once following tradition, my father sat and spoke with him as did my brothers the one thing I asked was that they notice how ...

I am a married woman in love with a younger guy, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a married woman in love with a younger guy, what do I do? My husband is abusive how do i get out of this marriage? ...

I question my love for my husband because all we do is fight

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I have been married for almost a year now. He and I are best friends. Or at least we were before we got together, it doesnt seem so anymore!!! We fight all the time about stupid stuff!!! He works out of town 3-4 days a week and is home on the ...

I just realized I really didn't treat my husband the way I should have

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Afew days ago my husband told me he wasnt happy anymore. I was completely devestaded, and all of a sudden started thinking of all of the things I had done wrong. I asked him why, and he said he didnt know and that he had been this way for a few ...

I'm in a sexless marriage wanting more

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I'm in a sexless marriage now for over a year--irregular for 3 years prior to that. counseling hasn't seemed to help. I've been seriously thinking of a "friends with benefits" type of relationship rather than an outright affair and would like to ...

Will all of this that I have found out "blow" over???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - I just found out my wife cheated on me while we were engaged. I'm really angry and hurt. I don't know what to do. We were engaged and got married in Summer 2007. There was one time we had a big fight and didn't speak for 2 weeks, but didn't break up...

How to handle marriage issues?

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27 February 2009 (F) - hello everyone one here in dearcupid,i dont know if my question is right for my topic about my marriage i,ve been married for almost 2 years and now we have a 6 months old baby,i dont know if my feelings is normal i felt jealous,insecurity,and ...

How do I know if he'll lie and deceive me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My husband has been having an affair for 9 months. Twice he said he would never see her again. The third time I kick him out. He has been living with her the last 2 months, lying and deceiving me. He was calling a dating service 13 years ago for 3 ...

How can I get my colleagues to mind their own business?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - Hi me and my wife both work at the same office but in different departments, my wife is senior to me and have had a one night stand with my boss and now she is pregnant with his baby. My boss has made a MMS of him and her and is circulating the same ...

I think I can get over him... but I can't get over what happend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - So... I'll try to make this the abridged version. When I was 15, I met a boy. We had an instant connection and fell in love. He was the love of my life. I was convinced, as most young people are, that this love was eternal. We were so happy fo...

Would it be sensible to hold off on the military until I'm divorced?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - okay, so im leaving for basic within the next two months, I have been dating my boyfriend for awhile now...and when i say awhile, im not talkin about more than a year. I love him to death, i would take a bullet for this man. Here is the probl...

My husband said it's "just texting" and I have nothing to worry about! What do you reckon?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - So, found text on my husband's phone of naked girl and dirty talk. She is my sister in law's best friend.. Lives 2,000 Miles away, so a lot of talking on phone and dirty pics. I set him up with a facebook account and this is were they connected. ...

I have strong feelings for my friend who does not love her husband, should I confess how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - I am very much in love with a woman who is also one of my best friends, she is also married. Her marriage isn't a good one, and she has talked to me a lot about being afraid to leave her husband because of being alone, because of her kids, and other ...

Husband takes viagara but I'm not reeping the benefits!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I think my husband is cheating, were do I begin. 6 Years ago I fund a pack of 4 viagra hidden in his wallet (I only picket it up because I though it looked a bit tatty and I would buy him a new one), I cuckled at first until I realised 2 were ...

I want to leave my husband but yet we have a baby and I don't leave because of the baby

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - hi im married for last one and half year after the courtship of long 8 years now i have 10 months son. for my husband i left everything he also love me but after some emotional crisis due to family problems and other women he dont love me or care...

An unmarried woman calls my husband very often, I'm not sure how far can I trust my hubby in this case?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Hi My husband and I got married one year back and ours was a love marriage. My husband is generally of humorous type and mingles well with everybody at work. But recently, an unmarried woman calls him very often and he also talked to her ...

I need to get my daughter and I out of my husband's house because he hits us, but I have no clue how!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I've been with my husband for three years now, been married to him for two. We have a one year old daughter. My husband started verbally abusing me seven months into our relationship, but I didn't really think anything of it until just two weeks ...

Manipulated, lied to, and cheated on by whorehouse

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do! My husband and I have almost been married for a year and we have a 5 month old baby. He had been going out a lot for "business" and would never answer my phone calls or even call me regardless of the fact he was out WAY ...

He wants to go on a trip without me and I don't feel comfortable about it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have just 6 months ago taken my husband back after a few years apart. We separated somewhat ammicably after he started seeing another woman (which only lasted a few months). It was hard but I got over it and we became friends a...

Size and performance anxiety during sex!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

26 February 2009 (M) - I have had substantial anxiety developing related to my marriage and sex. I was a little bit anxious when we were first married because we did not have sex with each other until we were married. I was rather anxious over size and performance, ...

My husband has become obsessed with bullying

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I'm a 25 year old businesswoman and my husband's 26, and works in training. and we earn good money, and have a good social life, and are well-liked in our social circle. In the past few weeks, however, my husband's become obsessed with bullying. N...

My wife feels sex is nasty

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5057 days ago

26 February 2009 (M) - I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...

Do I support him forever or move on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I have been married for 11yrs. My husband has been staying home for the past two and a half years with my daughter. Btw, I have three children, two of them are in school. Basically, I have been working to support my family. My husband worked in the ...

Disappearing partner

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - hi my partner and i got married in Jan in New York after being together a year in a long distance relationship... He is in the states and i am in the UK. We have agreed that he is going to come to the UK in the summer to stay a year and then go...

If he loves me, how can he hit me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5037 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Im in a abusive marriage I love my husband but I can't do it anymore im to the point I hate him I don't want to have sex with him I pray that things will get better but he gets worse what should I do he says he love me but how could hit me...

My husband is a loser! How can I get rid of him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5538 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - My husband is a loser! i knew that long time ago and was just in denial. Now, my problem is how to get rid of him. For the past 2 years we've been together he cheated on me 3 times, or at least that's what he admitted to, because i caught him; he ...

My husband supports his 33 year old sister who is perfectly able! How do I tackle him about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - My husband is only twenty four years old and he's very established for his age and he works very hard. But he takes care of this thirty three year old sister and he has been. Does anyone think this is weird that he would fully support her five ...

Is there any hope for me and my former cheater husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - Hi, Im wondering If anyone can help my sitation, I was I in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4yrs. He left me 2 months ago, I found out lasy year he was having a affair with a married women for about 7 months. Any way He pleaded with me to work ...

I had a miscarriage after the wedding, I'm so depressed and thinking about divorcing!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - I had a boyfriend for 4 years and he was amazing but i felt like i needed something new so during the summer i met someone i really enjoyed being with and i broke up with my boyfriend and started dating this other guy immediately. 2 months after ...

Wife wants my consent to follow sexual lust for another man...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions fallen out rather dramatically over suspected cheating on my part. It's always been the case that she found out he...

My wife is trying to get into playgirl to earn extra money

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - I'm 34, my wife's 32, and we've got a 5-year-old son. For the past few weeks my wife's become obsessed with trying to get into Playgirl magazine as a means of earning extra money. The first time I heard it I asked her "You said what?" and sh...

I can't get over my hubby's affair of 2 years ago, help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5539 days ago

24 February 2009 (?) - Well, its been 2 years, since my husband had an affair. I still can't get over it, will I ever? He is there for me he never leaves me, I know he is remorseful, and he makes sure I know where he is at all times...but I can't get over it, why, when ...

His ex looks preggo! What to do?

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24 February 2009 (F) - If you met someone online and married them after a very brief courtship. (the marriage involved a cross country move) Then met their very recent exgirlfriend and she looked preggo, what would you do? Would you think she is playing a game? ...

Can I trust him again? Should I give him another chance?

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24 February 2009 (F) - After a 5 month seperation, my husband showed up to plead his intentions of wanting to work things out. He stayed for about 2 weeks and we did a lot of fun things together. When he had to leave (he is military and lives overseas) I told him I still ...

Should I ask my wife to repeat last year's fun?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - my wife tried another guy for her birthday last year as a one off. we both found it a great turn on at the time and have since. she hasn't asked yet about this year but i would like her to. do you think i should ask or wait untill she brings it up...

My husband has cheated over and over again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I know you will read this and say i deserve what i get here goes. 12 months ago(feb 08) i was told my husband was having affair,i confronted him and he admitted to seeing this girl whom he worked with but said it had only been going on for a couple...

I sincerely regret I cheated on my wife, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5540 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - I have messed up. I cheated on my wife. I tried to come on to her best friend and I feel awful. I was going to tell her about it tonight when I got home but her friend already has. She says she is done with me. How can I get her to stay with me. I ...

What if my husband doesn't get me an anniversary gift?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - My 5th wedding anniversary is coming up this Saturday. I got my husband something I know he will really like, but I'm thinking he is going to not get me anything great. He has a habit of not getting me gifts. I don't think I have ever gotten a ...

I can't handle all the time she spends with her friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5540 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - ive been married for 20 years. i love my wife completely. but i feel so cheated on. 3 years ago she got a best friend thats male. they work togher. every friday they spend time togher they talk every day sometimes for hours. he is married. i cant ...

Did he only come back to me because the other woman didn't want him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I got married in 1981, 7 years later I had an affair, cause my husband was always leaving me in the house with 2 kids and I thought he was, he found out then 6 months later he left me for another women he worked with. She ran a pub he moved in with ...

New marriage - identity crisis?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5540 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I am having an identity crisis. For 49 years, I was single. I lived first with my parents, then alone. But, I felt at home. I recently married, moved in to the house my husband shared with his ex wife and feel so alone. I hate the house. ...

Is this a no win situation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5540 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Hi yet again! If you've been following my story you might remember my husband who was for several months flirty texting a work colleague 20 years younger and saying they loved each other etc. although a text I luckily saw from her confirms it was n...

How to handle my husband's trust issues?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I am 27 years old, with three kids and a husband of 6 years. We have been together fo 10 years this April. Well, about 4 yeas ago i left my husband for several reasons the main was i was tired of being taken for granted. I stayed gone for about 3 ...

I tried to save my marriage after my wife cheated but now I think it is time to move on

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5540 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - Today is Monday .. saturday we got a big fight with my wife and she took my two children ( 5 and 11 yrs ) to a friend's house, now I dont know what to do, mainly the fight is for always the same,for money, I work she does not, she and my kids just ...

My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

23 February 2009 (?) - My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian. She says The Dike (that's what she calls her when my friend isn't around) will eye up all the bridesmaids and also she doesn't want her to come because there going to be a lot ...

We're both married, having a purely sexual affair - why lately has he gotten so clingy?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

23 February 2009 (?) - I am having a sexual affair with this man. We are both married. The affair is nothing but sexual. We meet about once a month for no more than 2 hours. There is no calling in between meetings or any other form of communication. No lunches or ...