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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Nothing concrete but more seems to be going on than meets the eye!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 54 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm new around here and could do with a bit of advice, sorry for the novel. I have two young children with my husband of 7 years, he is a builder an works quite closely with his customers in his home, which normaly I dont have a problem with. ...

If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...

Its all about him getting off and he never takes the time to pleasure me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 52 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - why do men think it's okay for them to just raise up their woman gown and go in? the men get ready easy they can get horny just by looking at you or by kissing or just by rubbing your breast but yet they think that just because they are ready we ...

Can we not be friends because it may hurt our partners?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 49 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Im so confuse. I have this bf before, i meet him online and d relation last 5 years but we never meet personally, but we both know we do love each other. i did not try to meet him personally because i know my family will extreme mad at me if i go ...

Is my husband looking elsewhere because he's not happy anymore?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I often feel that my husband is looking else where for relationship's. He often has female friends that I am sometimes aware of but do not have contact with for one reason or another. In the pass year he has been in a friendship with another women, ...

I can't take this marriage anymore!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - We got married december 2008 we met on the internet, hes too controlling..i see red flags, emotional ones, i came back once before he gave me an std. I feel dirty dont want to pursue my marriage with him no more..dont want to have sex with hi...

How do I get past this sexual block?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband off and on since we we're both 17 and married him at 22. Once we got married we were completely faithful to eachother, though things didnt stay that way. back in the beginning of "04 i became friends with this girl. i had ...

Did he ruin our relationship from the start?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 55 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - me and my husband have been together for almost 4 years and married for 2. in the very beginning of our relationship he lied to me about still talking to his ex g/f...we live in pa and she lives in fl. i found out that she was still in the picture ...

My wife is stressed over thoughts about another woman....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - Recently my wife has been hanging out with a new girl she met from work. They went out a few times, and then seem to fall out of touch. Then a few days ago we bumped into her and her boyfriend at a store and my wife was acting very strangely. I ...

How do I make him understand I'm not a machine?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am almost thirty yrs old, I am married to a man who is four years younger than me and has a sex drive of a sixteen yr old. We have 3 children together, all between the ages of 6 to 1 yr old. I work full time as well as have the children in various ...

Husband left me because he likes texting with other woman

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 53 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - i have been we my husband now for 12 yrs married 2 years.. he walked out on me saying he wasnt sure if he wanted to be with me or not he needed space but kept texting me he loves me and wants me for the rest of his life their is noone esle?? after 3 ...

I'm finding it so hard to let her go, but if she wants to live her life like this should I just accept it and move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - I have been married for 19 years, I am 64 my wife is 48. We have a son aged 15. It has been a happy marriage, we were both in love and have a wonderful life, great house, great cars, health, great holidays. My wife also has a great stable ...

I love my wife but I think divorce is the best answer

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - I Really want a divorce, my wife doesnt. im still hurt and in love but i need to move -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- First of all i want to say thank you for reading this and im begging you ...

I know most of his friends, why don't I know her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Recently married but been with my husband for 10 years. We of course have been through our ups and downs, and even separation in our relationship after I found out he had a baby outside of me. After 2 years of being separated we had a baby and got ...

I do judge her past when considering marriage. What can you say about my line of thinking?

This question has 37 answers - newest was posted 55 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - I’m finally old enough and financially secure enough to be married. What I found, which surprised me, is that I have a completely different attitude towards what I look for in a girlfriend than what I do in a potential wife. I did a quick goog...

How can I trust anyone? Including my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I've never been able to fully trust my husband; when we first started dating, I had had several bad relationships and family issues, where I felt that most people hurt me and let me down, or just left me. When I met him, he was still getting over ...

My husband's 3rd affair and I feel nothing

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I am at a cross roads, I confirmed on Friday, what I knew in my mind for a couple of months, that my husband is having another affair. This will be the third affair I know of, and in the very early days he had a few one night stands. We have been ...

I don't have a man, I have yet another child. Is divorce OK in this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - this is going to be kind of long, but i really need advice. i have been with my husband for 9 yrs, married for 7. we have 2 boys, 6 and 4. i was pregnant when we got married. i have always been a hard worker and even though i got things from my ...

I'm married to an alcoholic and I'm tired of being mother and nurse!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I really do not know what to do. I have been married for 13 years to an alcoholic. We have two beautiful boys. I am miserable. He has been seeking help through AA on and off for the last year, but still he chooses to sneak and get drunk. Last ...

Husband's head games...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - please help My husband of 5 years keeps playing head games with me, when he Is not feeling happy for various reasons he starts being weird with me.. He will act like he is having an affair, he has told me he was going out one night and I got a fr...

I feel so guilty for not being able to try again with him...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I am in a miserable situation. I have been married for 10 years and have a 9 year old child. For various reasons, I have grown to resent my husband, he has barely shown me attention sexually for years, hasn't bothered to play much with our son, has ...

I think husband's affair is still on after 2 years but he denies it!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I have been married 11 years - was a passionate afair which lead to us getting married. husband is 2 yrs younger. he is still good looking muscular, I was a bomb but am now very fat around 100 kgs but still considered attractive and charming. my ...

I don't have the proof of an affair..but don't feel right about this

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - My situation is a little different than I've read here. I haven't don't have proff of an affair but... My hubby of 10 months had an ex-girlfriend call him out of the blue. She first called his cell but we have poor reception where we live. She cal...

I can't stand that my husband is still the same after 11 years of marriage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Hello, I am 29 years old and have been married for 11 years today. I have two boys 7 and 2. Today is my anniversary and I am miserable! Instead of celebrating I feel sad, like if I'm serving a life sentence. I can't stand my husband. I married ...

Should I be worried about the text messages she's getting from this guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - Should I be concerned with flirtatious text messages that my wife gets from an old co-worker? My wife gets flirtatious text messages from someone she used to work with. This person left the company she is with about 12 months ago and they were fr...

Cheating with a co-worker/friend of my husband!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I have been married for 16 years and have two children. My husband has been unresponsive and ignoring me for probably 5 of those years. I have considered leaving him many times but haven't for the sake of the children. We have now unofficially ...

Overly critical spouse

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I think my husband is overly critical and he thinks that i m overly sensitive. I feel he lives in a dreamworld where he feels the need to have a perfect wife with a perfect figure who is also a great cook etc etc. I feel he is always criticising me ...

I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...

We are both married but I can't move on from the ex after 8 years

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - He is my soulmate and i love him so much. i dont see myself loving someonelse,i hev tried but failed because i think of him all the time and he tells me he misse me too.Right i started dating this guy wen i was 18years old we loved each other so ...

What do I do about my alcoholic wife?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - my question is about my alcohol wife Im married 15 years and the stories or horror stories I never thought that an alcoholic can create so many serious problems, dangerous and destructive. I got to get out of this situation I tried everything to ...

Even though he's been going behind my back, I don't want to leave him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 60 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My husband had a realtionship with another female for years. I was with him first but it started before we were married. Then We all started having threesomes together. I did not know that they were doing it behind my back. I just recently found out ...

Is our love fixable after 20 yrs together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 59 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - We have been together for 20 years I am 40 and he is 39 . We were college sweethearts and very intensely in love. HE would play guitar and serenade me outside my window. Bring me flowers the whole thing. THen we had a child. I watch enough OPRAH to ...

Am I being punished for not being a male?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I have gone through over 11 years of sexual and verbal abuse by my husband. The pain is too much for me. I have had suicidal thoughts of dying and wanted to do all sorts of crazy things that would cause me to die. The type of sexual a...

I don't have what it takes to keep this marriage going...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Hello all. I really need some help on this. My husband and I have been together about 12 years. We have been married for 8. I am 29 years old and my husbamd is 32. I am going to try and cut to the short version but this is still going to be kind ...

I'm married but have fallen in love with someone else!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 33 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - Hi all, I've been with my wife for over 15 years and we have children. We're happily married and get on great, only she's not really into sex. I've never cheated am and proud of the fact. We don't argue and are good parents. In the last 3 months I...

After being away in the army so long she only wanted sex once and it's driving me mad!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - I recently returned from the army to my wife. In base there was not a female we could interact with and having no sex for so long drives one mad. Don't get me wrong even if I could interact I wouldn't cheat on her. On my first night here, we got b...

Stay Married or Separate - Stepdaughter issues

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - I am in my second marriage now for 7 years as of February 2010. I am contemplating separation due to my stepdaughter and I don't feel as if I love my wife. My stepdaughter is 22 now. I came into her life when she was 15 and I sort of knew that this ...

How can I change in this relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 60 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - I really need help.I don't know what going on with me. I am extreamly jealous of my husband.Even he go to work I thinking of he make out with someone.We been married for 2years.We always fight. every week.We both tired of it.I try to change, but I ...

Am I blowing this out of proportion?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 39 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - ok I was here last week asking if i was blowing it out of proportion. With all of your help and friend and family i realized i was not blowing it out of proportion. I decided that i want a divorce and to move back to the place we just left. i have ...

Why does he need to text other women?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I have been married to my Hubby for 5 years, I met him when he was married but he left his wife, before the relationship became sexual.. He is everything a women could want and we have the best time and life together, we have now Bern blessed with a ...

I can't handle my deadbeat husband.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - im married for 8yrs.me n hubby has 3 kids.until lst yr my husband decided he had enough of his job and quit.we have a sideline business that he then decided to do full time from home.the business is not doin that well n i decided to find a job.he ...

My husband doesn't LIKE me - What to do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - History: Married 4 years, 2 children ages 2 and 6 months, own house, I'm a stay at home mom, he has a good job with promising promotion capabilities, we are financially stable but not rich :) Problem: He is a very loyal person who believes tha...

How can somebody live a lie forever?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

23 September 2009 (M) - I am a married man who has been happily married for 12 years. I recently met a married woman who has been with her partner for the same amount of time. We started as friends but the relationship quickly grew into love. Just love, not sex. ...

Is it normal for a man to move on so quickly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 61 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I have been married for 10 years and recently separated from my husband. I asked him for some space and he asked me for a divorce. I found out that after only a week he has had sex with another woman whom he hardly knows. He said that it was his way ...

How can I ever get rid of these thoughts as they are driving me crazy and are stopping me fully enjoy loving my wife once again.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 57 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - I found out my wife was having an affair from her emails, trouble is the numerous emails (i read them all) were so graphic about what they would be doing and what they did do together and how great it was that I was left totally devastated, hurt, ...

How do you handle stress in a bad marriage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 61 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I have been emotionally eating and have gained a lot of weight because of my marriage problems. Now I would really love to lose like 30 lbs, but things in my marriage are just not getting any less stressful. What are some good ways to deal with ...

Husband has gone off sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Hi I m Shams I m married I have a question. When I married my sex life is 2 or 3 days a week and after then one day a week and now don't know how many months a day then why???? I love to having sex with my husband and he was like tomorrow and then ...

Met with an old flame after 7 years and have invited him and his wife for dinner... was this a good idea?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 62 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I have been married for almost two years. We have been together for 6. I am 27 years old and we have no kids. I love my husband but recently I have met up with an old boyfriend who also is married to an old friend of mine. First me and his wife ...

I want my wife back... it's breaking my heart being apart.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 62 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Hi there. I have posted on this before, it was about my marriage falling apart. I have been married for 10 months now and the last 6 weeks we have argued constantly. 2 weeks ago i went a bit crazy as we where not managing to resolve the issu...

Why would this crush make me sad?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 63 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - For some reason i am punishing myself for likeing this one guy. I hate that i think about him, and want to get to know him better. I met him maybe a week ago, but I am married. My marriage is going through a really hard time right now and the ...