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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

I feel as if he's now using our son as an excuse...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I really need some advice please someone! I caught my husband texting an old flame a couple of weeks ago and questioned him about it a couple of days ago he said he was really sorry, usual stuff but I feel so betrayed and worthless to him now, the...

Why doesn't my husband ever want to go anywhere with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - i am 19years old and my husband is 20 and this feb 14th 2010 we will be married for 2 years. and weve been together 3. we have a son. but thats not our problem. our relationship is so confusing. i really dont mind cleaning, i used to clean the house ...

Can anyone help sort out my marriage problems?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

31 October 2009 (M) - well!!! hi ... i hurt my wife feelings and i told her we must stop then i got regret , i feel kind of lost i was study in university and i got out of university cant continue anymore and i didnt told anybody till now i feel a shame of my self , iam ...

How do I handle my husband and son smoking out of bongs?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I am a 46-year-old businesswoman, who's well-liked in my local community. However, it's my personal life that's troubling - I came home from work one afternoon to find my husband and 16-year-old son smoking bongs together in the living room. ...

Freezing cold in South Carolina

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for 20 years now and her interest in physical contact (hugging, sex, general closeness) has all but disappeared over the years. When we were dating it was much different. I still tell her everyday that I love her and ...

Married! How do I get over this huge crush?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - I met my wife 15 years ago. It started as one night thing that just got extended... I have later realized that I never had a change to have big crush on her first. We just started being together because it was convenient and we liked each other. ...

Should I leave my husband of 23 years? Is this the grass-is-greener syndrome? Mid life crisis?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Agony Aunts: I have asked my husband of 23 years years for a divorce. We have our house on the market. We are living under one roof until the house sells which is working very well so far. We have a 19 year old girl and a 12 year old boy. My h...

We have just become 2 people sharing a house not a home.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - As I can tell by many of the responses to my early question about private email, does my wife have the right to view my email. Let me go a step further and explain and ask my question in a a clearer and more understanding way. My spouse had an ...

On the one hand I love my wife and want to take care of her but at other times I want to move on...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - DearCupid, My wife and I have been going through some rough times for sometime now. There is no doubt about my love for her. Actually, sometimes I feel I fall in and out of love. Whenever I'm with her (she is going through difficult time b...

My man masturbates on a regular basis but won't do it in front of me...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, my man masturbates on a regular basis but he won't do in front of me. He claims its something he has to do in private. And when he does it he has to watch porn to perform it usually oral sex clips. My question is I wouldn't mind him ...

Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.

This question has 34 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...

Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...

Should I cut my losses?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My husband and I have only been married a little over a year. I moved to be with him away from my friends and the area that I had lived for 13 years. So now I live in a place that I have no friends. He takes care of his mother who is mean and ...

He's become very friendly with this female co-worker and I don't feel right about it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married under a year. I love him very much, we have a strong relationship and he treats me well , but there has been a situation recently that has put stress on our marriage. There was a girl, a few years back, that...

Our kids sleep with us... how can I tell my wife I think it should now stop?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a great relationship, We have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and an 8 month old son, my wife still exclusively breastfeeds our son and our daugther still nurses before bed and during the night. ...

My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. How can I get through this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Married with 3 children under 8 years and as I thought happy. My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. According to him it was a lustful affair but he didnt sleep with her. After a few weeks he finished ...

Since I lost my job my marriage has gone downhill...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I lost my job 10 months ago and since then my marriage has gone down hill. We have been married for 15 years and have 4 kids. We have lost everything we have worked so hard for. We just filed bankruptcy and our home is in the process of ...

How do I get an exit strategy underway?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My husband has been burring us financially for years now. I cannot understand him at all. I gave him till Christmas and me and our children (5 and 1) are going to leave. But now I need a plan. I cannot go on with his lies and selfish behavior. ...

Should I leave my wife and live with her sister?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I've been married for three years to who I thought was the woman of my dreams. Over the three years our sex life has declined to non-existant. I've tried talking to her about it but she just says that she doesn't feel like sex anymore. I've told her ...

How do I get over his mistakes?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on, ups and down for 7 years. We have a daughter together which is 6 years old, that we love so much. Before he went to prison our relationship was going down the drain, he never was home, he sold ...

Will having sex with him give the wrong impression?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My husband and I have lots of problems and I just recently had a child. My husband has lots of lying issues and verb. abussive towards me..we my question is..I havent had sex in almost 6 months and I dont want to mess around with just anybody would ...

I don't think I can be happy with him anymore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her? This 'friend' has been in my husband's life for a long time now abuot 4 years, we used to go to a certain pub each week and he would always be ...

My husband lies all the time. How do I tell him it's over?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Hi you all! maybe some one can help me.I have talked to family and friends about my husband and no one can help me.I just realy need to talk to some one.Well here it is my husband lies to me realy bad.In a mouth I have to tell him good bye.This ...

Why does my man have moodswings??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - hello Why does my man have moodswings? well you see my man is like very romantic with me then in 5minutes time he is rude again or tells me dont you have something to do? i meen then again 30minutes later he want to be all romantic again w...

I'm married and in love with a younger co-worker. What should I do?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - Hi All, I'm a 30yr old Married man for 1 year now, but have been in the current relationship for 10 years. After a very long engagement we finally got married, not because we didn't want to, it was just a money thing. We have 2 kids. One form ...

Is he, did he, will he cheat? At a loss...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Never thought I'd do this but here goes... any advice appreciated... My husband and I have been together over 3 years. I spent the 1st year drumming it into him why constant sexy emails, calls and texts from EVERY ex he's ever had is NOT cool. He...

I am in love with a married woman. What can we do about it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - been married for 14 years have 2 beautiful kids but i'm not in love with my wife anymore i'm in love with another women who is also married 20 years. went to school and graduated with this women her marriage is bad also she is not happy we want to ...

He backed off after I told him the truth about my past!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I met somebody about 8 months ago, he seemed to be a really genuine guy with good morals and lots of ambition like me and I really thought it could go somewhere. We had several dates and was all going well only I made the mistake of admitting I had ...

Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her? This 'friend' has been in my husband's life for a long time now abuot 4 years, we used to go to a certain pub each week and he would always b...

Should I have an affair on my husband?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...

Why do I feel guilty about ending her emotional affair?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My wife had what I figure was an emotional affair a few years ago. There was a lot of texting. I don't think there was any physical contact and she came totally clean about it in the finish. It devastated me at the time and had a pretty bad affect ...

How do I approach her about the lack of sex in our marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for a little less than 2 years and we dated for a little over 2 years before that of which more than a year was spent in different continents. At the outset I must say that I love my wife and feel fortunate that s...

My husband cheated on me again while I was pregnant. Should I take him back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hi there. I'm currently 9 months pregnant with my 3rd child. Around the 8th month of pregnancy I found out that my husband of almost 9 yrs was cheating on me with someone from another state (he's in the military and travels a lot). It sta...

Did I do the right thing by calling my ex back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

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How do I deal with my unhappy marriage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - helo.im married for 8yrs now.i have 3 daughters with my husband.my husband was employed at first and in those days had many affairs with other women which resulted in him having two kids outside our marriage.we managed to work through all that and ...

How do I get my husband to feed the baby?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I just had a baby a month ago and my husband worKs alot and when he is home i wont him to care for the baby to bond with him and also so i can have a brake to get things done that i cant do while i am holding a baby. well the baby does not realy ...

Should I clear the air with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I'm very confused why I can't stop thinking about him. We are both married with children. My spouse could not be more perfect for me. We are both so alike in so many ways. The "spark" left our relationship once our first child was born. We go months ...

I have cheated on my husband resulting in 3 abortions and now he wants a baby!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - its been 10 weeks since my abortion im trying for a baby but it keeps coming negative.iv had 3 abortions. Due to careless behind my hubbys back.but now my hubbys really desperate for a baby.please help....

Is my husband getting bored with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 5 and a half months. I am 10 weeks pregnant and starting to gain a little weight. Before we got married, sex was not an issue. He wanted me all the time and gave me a look that always made me feel sexy and ...

Is my husbad using porn as a weapon? Is he a heartless jerk?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - when my husband and i started out, i was ok with watching porn as a couple and i let him know that. porn wasn't a problem for me until our sex life turned downhill and i found the underside of our bed peppered with porn! now porn is an issue bc now ...

What is my ex husband's agenda?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - i am in a bit of a dilema. I thought everything was going how it was supposed to and then my ex contacts me. we have been in the middle of a divorce for 8 mths. he asks how i am doin and hows work. i reply short but sweet good and more or less ...

We can't make this marriage work ever since I took his advice and slept with another guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have been married for 6 yrs and we have been together for 14 yrs..my husband and I have always had relationship problems..he always lies to me and he is verbally semi phyiscal abusive and since we started dating he always wanted me to sleep with ...

Desperatly wanting the love of my husband back

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - My husband wanted to talk to me the other night about us. The other night he told me he loves me but is not in love with me anymore but I am his best friend the thing is i felt the same way but i do love him and want our marriage to work. Since our ...

How do I deal with my husbands depression? I feel more like his carer than his wife

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - My husband has been depressed since 2005 ended, I've constantly tried and tried to seek help for him but he has so far refused to get it over the past four years. He keeps on insisting to me that September 2004 to the end of 2005 were the "golden...

I went off sex so allowed my sister to have sex with my husband, but now I don't see why they should continue this arrangement!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I gave birth about a year ago. For the first few months after, I was not up for sex at all (although I did allow him to perform oral sex on me). My husband was very patient with me, but I could tell he was stressed by this. I didn...

I've never fallen out of love so what now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - i am 43 yrs old married for 18 yrs and have a son 16 and a daughter 9 but here is the situation. it was love at first sight at the age of 16 instantly i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl, still a virgin (both of us) i didn't...

Advice on having sex with an older man?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - i always enjoyed hav sex but now am married with really old guy an we dont have sex for a year now and i also dont want to cheat on him,we love each other very much,we enjoy each others company but i really want to have sex any advice...

How can I get my husband to support me more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Iv been with my husband for abt 5 months. It was a love marriage and we both have come from different religious backgrounds. I'm currently livin with his family, the first few months were great but a lot has gone downhill, me n my husband argue all ...

I wear the pants....But if I don't he sure as heck wont!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hi all. My name is Lea and I am a 20 year old newly wed. I am really confused about my husband at the moment, and to be honest alot lately. I am really independant outside of a relationship. I took care of two parents pretty much my whole life wh...

My husband slapped me and left for the titty bar!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - How can I finally say I am done My husband has a drinking problem and addicted to pornografy. Today he slap me and left to a adult entertaiment I know because I call him he was there...