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Archived questions from: September, 2005 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

My husband's mum and son are controlling our relationship, making him choose them or me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6780 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - My husband of 6 months has left me. I am a mother of 3, 17,16 and 12. My husband has a child also at 12. I had an hysterctomy 4 weeks ago, which didn't go well as ended up in theatre again due an internal bleed, ending in ICU. Then my husband ...

My husband is a hoarder and when I try to talk about it, he puts up the wall...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6784 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - The bottom line is that I'm fed up with my husband's disregard for me. I really don't know what to say to him because it's just a waste of time. When I try to discuss anything he always gets nasty, yells and puts the wall up. His behavour ...

I suspect my husband is cheating, but I'm not really sure I want to know.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - I have been married for 11 years, but have been with my husband approx 15 yrs. He has cheated on me (twice that I know of), and yes I forgave him....well, I stayed with him. We have 3 children and they are the main reason I have stayed as long as ...

I'm 35, bored and depressed. Want to leave my relationship, but don't want to break up the family!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6014 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - I'm 35 and have 3 lovely children and a partner who I have been with for 18 years. A few years ago I had a term of depression and had a string of affairs. I'm still not sure why, just being with the same person for so long...boredom...mid life ...

I not only found out my husband was cheating on me, I heard it over the phone!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6785 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - I have been married for 16 years. We have always have a fairly turbulent relationship but he love is strong. Three years ago he cheated on me. He doesn't know why he did it but he did it twice. I knew of his adultery when I received a phone...

Why can't I get over my cheating husband?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5035 days ago

27 September 2005 (F) - My spouse and I have been together since we were kids. I had just found out that he's been having an affair and he left me for her. I feel like I can't get over him. Why? What's wrong with me?...

I'm married, she has a boyfriend, but I feel like we're meant to make each other happy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6680 days ago

26 September 2005 (M) - I am a 39 year old married man with a 1 child. I had an affair about 8 years ago, I was found out, we went through a really tough time but managed to hold on. I have never felt quite the same about us since that time and I feel that it is only ...

I don't feel strong enough to leave my husband, or to stop seeing the other man...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6789 days ago

24 September 2005 (F) - I fell in love with another man about a year and half ago but I already have a partner of 18 years who is a lovely man and a great dad to our 3 children. We still get on ok but I am confused. I don't feel fullfilled in my current relationship and ...

Three times a week isn't enough. My husband says I should "do whatever it takes" to make him happy.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6787 days ago

24 September 2005 (F) - My husband wants sex all the time. The problem is I don't. I love him deeply and am frustrated I don't feel sexual. I've tried explaining this to him but all he says is if you love someone you will do whatever it takes to make them happy. He has ...

The only time I feel comfortable being sexual with my husband is in the dark!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6790 days ago

23 September 2005 (F) - Please help, I am still embarrassed to be naked in front of my husband, who I have been married to for 12 years and we have three children. I feel that when it comes to having sex or anything sexual that I am embarrassed. When I am naked I feel ...

I'm disappointed in my arranged marriage. Every other woman looks more beautiful than her...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6787 days ago

22 September 2005 (M) - Hi, I got married some six months ago..I had seen my wife 2 times before saying yes to this relationship. Typically that happens in arranged marriages. I find every other woman more attractive and beautiful then my wife. She is an average looking ...

Since I found out my husband was texting an old girlfriend, I can't get it out of my mind!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6787 days ago

22 September 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, After 21 years of marriage, during last year my husband's old girlfriend turned up to see him (not at home of course). I suppose just after the last baby we had a few problems and with him working nights and me days we drifted apart...

As my husband and I got to know each other, I found that he really loves someone else!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6790 days ago

22 September 2005 (F) - Hi I am "x" and married last December. In fact I had a very unusual marriage. It was an arranged marriage and I got married in 4 days. Really did not know the man to whom I got married. He left for abroad in 5 days and I joined him after nearly 9...

Reeling from my husband's announcement that he wants a divorce. Opinions?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6787 days ago

21 September 2005 (F) - My spouse of nearly 7 years came to me on Labor Day and said that he was no longer happy with himself and that he wanted a Divorce. He has moved into his barracks so that he may have the time apart he asked for. He has said that he needs to find ...

Out of the blue, my husband announced that he doesn't think he loves me any more!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6791 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I've been married to my gorgeous husband 3 years, we have a 15 month old baby. Four weeks ago he announced he is no longer happy in the marriage, he has said we have nothing in common, we are drifting apart, our sex life is poor and he doesn't ...

Beer with his buddies is more important than time with me... Am I selfish to want to start over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6792 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my husband for about 10 years (8 married). I have a 16 yr old from before we met. I love him and we have never cheated on one another. I am not interested in any other man and he is not interested in another woman. I am however ...

My husband rubs himself... and rubs... and frankly, it turns me off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6793 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - My husband is always rubbing himself. When he watches TV, he slowly rubs one foot over the other, and back and forth. It drives me crazy. He also rubs his thighs, and sometimes his arms. He also sticks his hand inside his shirt, and hangs his hand ...

I want to end my 8-year affair, but how do I do it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6793 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I have been having an affair off and on for the last 8 yrs, with the same person. I have been married for 18yrs. Right now I am trying to figure out how to stop seeing this man that I know is not for me, although I love him deeply and I am so ...

I'm married and a father. but I long to be with my lover...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6794 days ago

19 September 2005 (M) - I am 25 and have been married to my wife for only 16 months. We have a wonderful baby daughter of 6 months. The problem is we don't have anything in common and don't share any interests. I don't feel in love with her anymore, and I suspect she feel...

After a fight, my husband can sulk for days...

This question has 38 answers - newest was posted 4146 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I have only been married for 4 months and even though we are very much in love, whenever we argue my husband sulks for about 3 days. He has occasionally spent the night at his parents when we have fallen out, knowing it upsets me. He also punishes ...

My husband and I have been separated for 9 years, but we still talk and we're still married...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6793 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I just wanted to see if anyone can help me. I've been separated from my husband for 9 years and he's been with this other woman for 8 years. He has asked her to marry him a long time ago, but of course that has never happened, because he's still ...

My husband's religious fervour has driven me away!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6796 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - My husband has become a Jehovah's Witness and is now totally fanatical about every aspect of it, even though he's only been going for 2-3 months. I couldn't cope so left him as I love everything in life which they don't - which is almost everything ...

My husband gambled our money for bills, and he just doesn't trust me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6802 days ago

10 September 2005 (F) - I am thinking of asking my husband of 4 years for a divorce. When we first hooked up, he was in recovery for a gambling problem. Within our first year of marriage, I had an affair because of his guilty feelings of leaving his ex girlfriend and ...

My wedding was hell... My husband disappeared, he ripped up the marriage certificate and the best man peed in front of our house!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6801 days ago

10 September 2005 (F) - We're been married for two weeks and I am already thinking of divorce... The month running up to our wedding was very stressful. Not only the normal wedding stress, but also becuase my husband lost a lot of money at work. Money which should hav...

My husband won't stand up and say NO to anyone...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5927 days ago

8 September 2005 (F) - I have been married for 8 years and have had it with the fact my husband don't have a backbone. He can't say NO to anyone except ME. He lets his friend use him and when I get fed up and mad and tell him he better tell them or I will, he still won't. ...

My wife wants a baby... Will a pregnancy calm down her anger?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6805 days ago

8 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid - I remarried 4 yrs ago. My new wife and I decided to move to a new country and set up a business a year ago based on a business plan that we did together. It has suceeded through hard work and we are beginning to see the benefits (new ...

My trust issues are exacerbated by my husband's behaviour toward me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6805 days ago

8 September 2005 (F) - After just having read one of your question and answers I am impressed with the responses. I have a similar problem with trust/insecurity issues only I am in my late forties. I didn't feel loved as a child and every man I know or have known, with ...

Can I win back the husband who's fallen in love with another woman?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

8 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my husband for 6 years and we have generally had a happy marriage. Last night he told me he doesn't love me anymore and is in love with one of our mutual friends. He has agreed to try some counselling but says he can't continue our ...

Now that my wife is finally ready to have a child, my feelings for her have moved on...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6696 days ago

7 September 2005 (M) - Ok, need some help here. Married for 14 years, no kids. I've always wanted children, but she just kept saying she wasn't ready, and she worked on her career. I've never really felt we've connected, and it's becoming more obvious to me as the ...

I'm madly in love with another woman, but how do I cope until she decides about her own marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6803 days ago

6 September 2005 (M) - Can anyone help me with this...? My wife sits home every night and drinks scotch. I guess I use that for an excuse, but I have fallen in love with a woman who is married and we are madly in love, mentally and physically. I'm lost, confused and miss...

I' lost interest in sex with my wife after the baby was born...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6807 days ago

5 September 2005 (M) - After my wife had a baby, I don't want to have sex with her. I don't know why....

Is my sexual obsession with my sister-in-law healthy... Or not?!

This question has 116 answers - newest was posted 4632 days ago

5 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, I really need to know if I am "normal" and if this problem I have is common among married men. Cut the story short, I have been having sexual fantasies about my wife's older sister for almost a year now. I'm so afraid its getting u...

Why are my tattoos an issue, all of a sudden?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6810 days ago

2 September 2005 (F) - I am a white woman who married a black man. We have been married now for 4 years and recently he is always bothering me about six tatoos I have had since I was in my 20's. I am now 40. Why is this happening now?...

My wife doesn't want to work on fixing our marriage... she just wants "her own life"!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

1 September 2005 (M) - My wife and I just separated 2 months ago, after 12 years of marriage. We have 2 young children. I had a one night affair 5 years ago and became very angry and critical towards everyone, especially my wife. She says she wants her own life and does...