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female
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41-50,
*endy2011
writes:I we have been married for six months. i have a child and my husband has non. My husband gets moody and sulky about my daughter's dad. last night, my daughter who lives in a diferent town, was in my town and i saw him when i was with my husband. apparently, he is in arrears on the child maintenace, so when i saw him, i immediately called him and told him i had just seen him drive past me, and that am surprised he could come in my town without even letting me kno (he usually informs me so that he sees his dota). i thot it would be a good chance to talk with him over the arears of mentaiance. i then cut the line after he told me he would call me the following day. i told my husband about it. he just became quiet and has been sulky ever since. this is the third time he is acting like this. the first time, he was upset that my dota's father attended my mother's funeral (his dota's granny). is this acceptable behaviour? was i in the wrong and how can i sort it out? apparently, my husband has no concern whatsoever in the welfare of my child, he doesnt even ask about how much i pay for her fees and would never spend a scent on her, or get concerned about anything like her performance at school, or her health. she is just like ' any other kid in the house'. He does not mistreat her though.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 No you have not done anything wrong and there is nothing you can change in order for him to stop sulking. He is behaving like this because he is jealous of your ex and you sharing a child together and probably feels left out. You just need to stand up to your husband and tell him that your ex will always be part of your life due to your daughter, reassure him that it is him that you love.
Also I would talk to him about trying harder with your daughter. You may not think much of it, but this can effect your child without you even realising it. Your home should be based on family life for your daughter, and if your husband is not showing her attention she will begin to notice it the older she gets and start to feel left out and resentful. You need to talk to your husband about this and ask him to try harder. When he married you it should have been made clear to him that you and your daughter come as a package. Good luck.
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