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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2011): Hello OP
Its Thursday 27 October and I just wanted to wish you well on this your 10th anniversary. I know u will be very emotional today but cry your cries, then take a deep breathe, and go out and conquer the world. Go catch a movie, have supper. Go out with friends. make your day special. You deserve it.
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reader, deepgemini  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 The emotional letting go of a relationhip is very difficult especially if one of you wants to keep trying but it takes two to try and make it work. Ask yourself what you are expecting back from sending the card and also how you will feel if it doesnt happen the way you'd like it to. Your a strong woman give yourself time to adjust.
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Don't send him anything. He has gone separate ways and doesn't love you anymore. Why would you lower yourself and proclaim your love and hope for a future with him when he doesn't feel the same? You can't change his feelings for you - he either loves you, or he doesn't. Have some self-respect and hold your head up high. Forget this card and try to move on with your life instead of sending love sentiments to someone, who couldn't care less.
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reader, CuddlyLovely  +, writes (25 October 2011):
Just say something honest and sincere - what is truly on your mind. Don't expect him to reciprocate or anything, just say what you want to say.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 I'd love to hear from my ex that this is to recognize all the good year we had before the bad years happened. but on the other hand why bother?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 October 2011):
 I'm so sorry this has to be so hard for you. You could send him a card and tell him you love him and wish you could work it out with him.. that you are willing to move heaven and earth to make it work...
but if he no longer loves you and wants out of the marriage there sadly is NOTHING you can say or do that will change that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Write straight from the heart and tell him exactly what you are feeling. But am afraid if he has decided that the love has gone well then it may be hard for you to change his mind and try again. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): send him photos of your previous anniversary celebtations. "not bad memories are they?"
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