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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5384 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issu...

I am pondering an affair because my husband won't initiate intercourse!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5393 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Thanks for reading my question... My husband has over the last few months lost interest in me sexually. At first i didnt notice, we are busy and all. But suddenly realised that it had been 4 months... I spoke to him and said hon, whats happenin...

My husband told me he has feelings for my Dad! How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Last night I was shocked by my husband's revelation. He said "Sit down. We need to talk, it's important." I asked him what it was, and he said "I've got sexual feelings for your dad. I hate myself for having them, I mean, I've never felt this ...

I feel like our sex life is drying up. Any suggestions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Hi, i don't know if i have a problem or if it's just me, it's that i have been married to my wife now for 27 months and although i love her with all my heart, and i know she loves me, i feel like our sex life is already drying up. Before we had our ...

Did my husband text her acknowledging a lunchtime blowjob?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi again everyone. Just an update about the 'situation' and more need for help. I am the wife trying to come to terms with the texting husband and discovered more texts on his old phone, one calling her a 'dirty little minx' but none of ...

When will I fall for my husband again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - When will I fall for my husband again??? I got married to my husband 7 yrs ago and Im still not in love? I only got married cause I was profiside to marry him very stupid reason thats cause he knew the whole truth and didn't care. Actually when I w...

I'm so frustrated I think I want out of my marriage!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5395 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok so me and my husband have been married for 3 years going on 4 next month. We have our ups n downs but lately we have been fussin just bout anything and I got to the point where I want out of the marriage.he keeps trying to control me (at least ...

Have I made the right choice?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5391 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok, I need some advice to know whether I have made the right choice. If you only have negative things to say, dont bother, I am not here for a bashing, I just want to know if I have done the right thing. I have been married 13 years, and have ...

My wife had filed divorce because of my internet addiction, how can I get her back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for almost six years. It is a second marriage for the both of us. When we first started dating the passion and love making was amazing. As we continued dating and became engaged, things stayed fantastic. As we ...

I feel hopeless... Is he ever going to stand up for me? Should I leave and try to find a new life without him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I feel hopeless, violated and disrespected I have been with the same man for over 7 years, also we love each other very much, of late it seems like nothing is happening. We have some problems, but three of the most prominent are the constant int...

We stayed together after her affair, but she's not happy!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5380 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - My wife had an affair last year. We are still together as I was desperate to keep things together. The thing is, she doesn't seem very happy. I'm certain she's not seeing this chap anymore but she seems so miserable all the time and cry's whenev...

My husband is too shy in the bedroom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My husband is a little shy in some ways in the bedroom. I know what i want and i have talked to him about having a desire to fulfill his fantasies as well as he fulfill mine, but he seems to intimidated, and doesn't. Sex is really good, but its ...

Should I go or stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5389 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Iam 30 yrs old and married to a wonderful, extremely caring, gentle and patient guy for the last 4 years and we share a common passion for holidays, food, wine, countryside etc. which we enjoy doing together. I couldnt ask for a better husband, ...

I really love him but the lack of affection is making me miserable!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5397 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi, my husband has said that he does not feel like sex because he is tired, sick of work, etc. We have sex about once every 3 weeks, which is sending me crazy. He is late 40's and I am mid 30's. He has been like this since I put on 20kg (after ...

I think I still love my ex even though I'm married and haven't seen him for 6 years!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been married for three years and I do not enjoy sex with my husband. My ex-boyfriend (before I met my husband) was very good in bed and I think I still love him. I haven't seen him for 6 years no but still think about him. What should I do?...

I've lied to my husband to see him just like he did to me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have serious issues. I'm in my late 30's I've been married 2 years, been with my husbad for 7 total. We don't have any kids (thank God!). Before him I was in two consecutive 3 year relationships. I broke up with both of them. In each of those ...

Should I forgive my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - After 32 years of reasonably happy marriage, I suspected my husband was messing around with another woman. I asked him what was going on he told me his feelings for me had changed. He had strong feelings for another woman and she felt the same. It ...

My husband doesn't know that I found out about his cheating, what should I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5369 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My husband tells me he loves me but he has been texting this lady since 2008 up until now. I see the number on the phone bill but he doesn't know I know. What should I do?...

He dosen't want marriage but I do, should I leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Does it make any sense to end a great relationship over marriage? We have a great relationship. We have been together for 6 years and have a daughter. When we first started this relationship I asked his views on marrage, and made it very clear that ...

Did my husband REALLY mean what he said???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Ok now im confused. My husband and I had a fight last night and he pretty much told me the only reason he's staying with me is because it's cheaper to keep me than divorce and pay child support on 3 kids. Then later he tries to apologize and says ...

I don't know how to handle my wife!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4292 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - my wife abuses me pysicologically and every so often phisically, she has had a bad up bringing eg rape, abandonment,irrashional behaviour and thoughts. she has an iq of 138 and uses this against me, she has an alcohol problem also, we have very big ...

Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...

He accuses me of cheating and is suspicious of my questions

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29 July 2009 (F) - I've got a small problem. My husband and I are having some issues. I consider them major issues, but in the scheme of things, they probably aren't. I'm new to this whole marriage thing. This is my first marriage and his third. He's the first serious ...

Just married and hardly having sex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5398 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi, This is a very long post, sorry about that. I have been with my partner (now husband) for almost 10 years and we have had our share of ups and downs. However we have finally decided to spend the rest of our lives together. Before marriage...

I still love her..but does she love me?

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29 July 2009 (M) - hi i am in a separation with my wife we have 2 kids ,one she had with another guy before me but i have been there since her birth. i love them and i still love her. we have broke up before and in a matter a days she has found someone to date. one of ...

What is acceptable when it comes to your husband looking at other women?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I was wondering what's okay when it comes to your husband looking at other women. I don't mind my husband looking, but I absolutely hate it when he stares (and he ALWAYS stares). I know men will always look, heck, even I look once in awhile, but do ...

Problems with pornography!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5380 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I have got a problem. Last thing I would ever have expected, but there you go… Pornography. Yeah-yeah, you’ve heard it all before, right… But listen. About 6 month ago I find porn on my married-for-a-long-time husband's computer. I try not to over ...

My husband thinks about freeloading to get anything or everything! What is going on with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've become concerned about my husband lately, he seems to have taken a rather different attitude to life lately, and thinks about freeloading to get anything or everything. No-one can freeload for everything anyway, can they? He won't say wh...

Husband never wants me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am a married woman of 5 years, been with my husband for 6. I have noticed in the last like 3 months, maybe 4 that he has not been acting what I would call "normal". I dont know if its just me, or is there anything I should worry about? Typically ...

I'm being pursued by a married man! Not interested! Is it time for me to find another job?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I work with a married man..nice guy but married so I am not interested. The problem is that he is interested in me...I think. He will talk about his wife all day long and then email me in the evening saying he is looking forward to seeing me the ...

How should I tackle things with my cheating hubby...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Dear Readers Hi! I'm a 31 years married lady and mother of two young kids. I'm beautiful fair and my hubby and his family and friends thought him to be very lucy to wed me I'm married for past 7 years. I can't recall a single day when i could ha...

I think my husband is having online affairs!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - think he is at it again my husband was caught internet cheating 2 months or so ago and hes suppossedly was behaving but in the last 2 weeks or more hes deleting his internet stuff off the phone again (our only access to internet at home) im sure ...

My husband cannot have children and suggested that I sleep with another man so I will get pregnant!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2995 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My husband cannot have children and he has asked me to consider sleeping with another man to have children. Problem is i do not want to sleep with another man just to have children. Plus i feel it will have a bad effect on our relationship. i feel ...

We had an affair, then became just good friends. But his wife found out, so now he has stopped contacting me, and I am left heartbroken...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5398 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Ive just been told its over by my best friend/ex lover. Me and this married guy had an affair about 2 years ago. It lasted for a year and then we stopped seeing each other like that. But we remained in touch. Gradually we built up a friendship, a ...

I love him but he shuts down when I mention sex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I'm not really sure who to turn to so I guess I came here. I'm 21 years old and I have been married a year and a few months, but I have been with my husband a year before. So about 2 1/2 years together total. When we first got together we just...

He walked out on me and doesn't want to be found!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - My husband walked out on me over 2 weeks ago... I had no idea why, so I got the police to look for him. They eventually found him, but wouldn't tell me where he was, as they said he didn't want to be found. I feel dejected, depressed, empty ...

What would you do if you found your 40 husband in bed with a girl age 18-21? Help me

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girls blonde, young everything he would like and i even found texts on his phone where he told her she was hotter than me, and would prefer h...

I fear my husband isn't attracted to me anymore and is having an affair! Is anyone like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I'm a housewife since our son was born 5 years ago. Taking meds to get preg for 2nd baby.I'm tired most of the time(due to medicines i think)I'm overweight and I know my husband is not attracted to me though we have sex twice a week. I'm scared o...

I need an unbiased opinion. There's a lack of passion in our marriage due to her illness.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - I have been married for 8 years. When we started dating (12 years ago), we had a great time. She was not as passionate or as romantic as I was but I was able to look that over because she had many other great qualities that I was attracted to. ...

In material terms I have everything I want, so why do I feel so dissatisfied with my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - Hi All I am desperate and could really do with some advice. I am 41 year old male, married with two beautiful children aged 7 and 9. I met by partner some 20 years ago and we have now been married for 12 years. I am successful in business and ...

My wife went into the gents with another guy but claims she cant remember what happened in there!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - When a girl drinks a lot and she kisses another man and he takes her in the gents loo for some more action, will she be able to stop going all the way and will she remember everything what happened in there? she remembers what they were talking ...

I've been married 15 years and am having an affair

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I thought maybe it could have been just a one time incident, but now we have had sex three times sneaking away about once ever three weeks. I have been married for 15 years and never thought I would do this. I have always had men find me ...

Do I tell my wife I haven't really ended the affair?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I have recently separated from my wife after I had an affair, I told my wife that I was no longer seeing the other woman, to save her any further upset, but I am still seeing her and want to be with her, my wife sends me malicious emails, texts and ...

My husband isn't intrested in a sexual relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - Hai, I am Mrs. V. MY husband is not interested in sexual relationship but he is a very good person He likes me very much. Out of great dfficulty I have a son ,he just comes to me very rarely, above all he is perfectly well at his health what should ...

He says he wants to be with his family but calls his mistress every chance he has!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - help me! i was with my ex husband for 37 years and during that marriage he had a mistress for 30 years . when he left me the last time i got the divore . he had left me 3 times before! i believed the words of god (only on to him) and look what ...

Great marriage so what's my problem?!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - The first time I wrote my long, drawnout alcohol-induced (couldn't sleep) description of my problem, it didn't post, so I'm going to give the Clifs Notes version now (just looking for general advice/words of wisdom): *Married, happily, for over 5 y...

My wife is cheating but I love her and don't want to lose her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5400 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - Hey .. my name is iyad I be married for over 3 years ... I am 26 .. my wife kerri she is 22 years .. she work 2 jobs and hard jobs she is a manger for store and scond job is delivery news pepars .. so from frist of july she change her life with me ...

Husband wants to stay in the family home while continuing his affair

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5211 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - Hi there I would really appreciate people's perspective on my situation. I'm dealing with a lot of emotional pain having learnt that my husband of nearly 21 years has been seeing another woman. Admittedly our marriage was a struggle wi...

Very complicated....Two men in my life!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5386 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - I have been sleeping with my oldest child's father for the last 2 1/2 years....However I have been married for 12 1/2. My husband and I have definitely had major hurdles in our marriage and I feel very unappreciated and he takes me for granted,I had ...

I found my 40 year old husband in bed with a blonde 20 year old!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5400 days ago

27 July 2009 (F) - What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girl being young, blonde everything he would like, he gets paid about 4K a month and his credit card bill was higher than usual so i dont kno...