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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Boyfriend or best friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - right okay. i have been best friends with this boy for almost 2 years now, and ive been going out with his bestfriend now for 7 months. recently my bestfriend told me he loved me,so i was in abit of a situation .... i decided to tell my boyfriend that my bestfriend was i... (224 words)

Is she with me out of guilt?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok, my girlfriend and I haven't been going out for long, coming up for five months quite soon, and I'm starting to get worried. To begin with, we were just friends, and when I say "Just" friends I mean "best" friends. We would text each other all the time, call each other ... (594 words)

How can I be happy on Christmas without my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! I started uni about 3 months ago and met my boyfriend in the first week! We have practically been living together since then. We've been sharing a bed for about 3 months bur I'm not a slut as I waited 2 months till we slept together! Now it's Christmas and I ... (90 words)

Why doesn't he want anyone to know he gave me a card?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age - What does it mean when a guy gives you a card then says shhhh...don't say anything to anyone that I gave you this card? (we sorta work somewhat with the same people, but different companies). Does it mean 1) he is embarrassed to let people know that he gave me a card because he ... (180 words)

I am tempted to call or text him. Should I just do it or wait?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5247 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - My ex and i broke up over a year ago..not due to anything that couldn't be repaired..noone cheated..i know what i did wrong and my regrets and left him a voicemail in september. He called me back about 5 minutes later. I told him directly my intentions, my regrets, and that I ... (342 words)

Can this affair work? I am planning on divorcing my husband.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have asked my husband of 18 years for a divorce about 7 months ago. We have 2 kids, over the age of 10. I have had several affairs because for years I haven't been attracted to my husband, and married him dishonestly-because he seemed like a good catch because of his career ... (278 words)

Is he too scared to come over while my parents are away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My parents are going away for the holidays and I'm gonna be home alone for a week. I've mentioned this to my boyfriend and we joked about me inviting him over for dinner one day and in the end I promised him to invite him over as soon as they're gone. (I always brag about how ... (262 words)

How can she trust that guy again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I need serious help,um 20,single all the way. i love this girl ,she s my first love. I asked her out 9months ago. She rejected me. I was upset, life was hard. I was gettin over her. But failed ,couldn like any other girl .cant think of anyone except her. So, 3weeks she had cut ... (244 words)

Is my husband using me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - is my husband using me ?? i been marreid to my husband 7 yeras we been to gether total 9 years we have 3 children to gether and i had 2 grils from previous marrige things were good intil he quit his job with out no reason then i told him to fine a new jobwhile i was working ... (381 words)

26 Living at home and not a great salary - anyone else in the same boat?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5242 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Is anyone else out there in the same boat as me? I'm 26, living at home, changed career so not on a great wage (less than £20k a year). I don't have much to complain about tbh, I have my health, good friends and a brilliant family. But recently my boyfriend and I brok... (155 words)

He got me to agree to threesomes but it's so hurtful, now he's having sex with other men

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a gay man and have been in a relationship now with my partner for 10 months. We have so many things in common and he is both very caring and loving. We came to a point where he wanted to have threesomes and at first I was okay with this and said we would try it to see how ... (208 words)

My sexually active girlfriend has lost all of her sex drive, should I feel this guilty about asking for it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5240 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, thanks for taking the time to read my post, but I just needed to let off a little steam and see if I could find some well needed answers to this seemingly impossible to answer question. Well, to put a long story short, my girlfriend, who has been very sexually active ... (554 words)

I cheated on my husband now I can't get over him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i cheated my husband with another guy after having a very mess sex relationship with my husband,i really feel guilty everytime i do it but the problem is that i always say i wont do it again but it keep on happening,i really love this guy but i am married and am trying to get ... (111 words)

Everything in life seems against me right now

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5244 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Look I don't know why but I always find myself depressed. I lost all my friends. My family is a broken one in which I have no one to relate to. My school work is terrible at this rate i don't see myself succeeding much in life. I'm also gay it's all there I come home stressed ... (199 words)

They grew up exactly the same together but are totally different, how do you handle that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - How can two kids who are about 1 year apart, who came from the same parents, shared the same household, yet they grow up with two completely different perspectives about their lives? They are both in their 20's now; the older child is respectful, somewhat well adjusted for a ... (351 words)

Should I listen to my priest and forgive her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - went to church this am and while the priest was saying the homily he looked in my direction he said u must strive to forgive, love unconditionally, and be understanding. He looked in my direction and said you have to be the one to do this no matter how bad you were hurt, no ... (178 words)

Do some girls just not like oral sex?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5244 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello, well i'm with my GF for 6 months, and we love and trust each other, maybe in 2-3 months she will move to my place.We're having sex really often each 2-3 days, but as i noticed she likes blowjobs but dislike when i'm performing it to her(oral sex)I had lot's of partners ... (109 words)

Can sperm on clothes make you pregnant?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Here`s the thing... I`m virgin and last night I had a wonderful time with my boyfriend, but I`m wondering; can girl be pregnant if guy ejaculate in his pants and she sits close on him? Can the sperme go trough clothes and so on? I know this is a pretty stupid question, but I ... (59 words)

Should we stay together even though we are in different places in our lives?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I am in a long term relationship with my partner but we seem to be in different places in our lives. I am a student and in my early twenties. I want to travel and see the world before I settle down. He is in his late 30's has a son from a previous relationship and... (132 words)

How do I get my wife to have sex with me more?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age - what do I do to get my wife of 24 yrs. to have sex with me? I bet we have had sex maybe 30 times in the last 15yrs. Thats over 5400 nights in the same bed. When we first got married she was like a nimpho. She wanted it all the time, now its is her way of controling me. I ... (365 words)

Should I walk away if he got another girl pregnant?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hello im just wondering what i should do.my boyfriend of 5years got another girl pregnant an it hurts me soo much cause i was there an he didnt want me to have mine.but allowing this girl to have her baby.he say he love me an want to work it out wit me but it hurts to know he ... (135 words)

Why aren't I happy with a man who gives me everything?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been married once, it feel apart 3 years ago and I moved to a new city where i met Angus. We now live together and everything is fairly sweet, he's an artist and I'm in business promoting that kind of thing. Angus cares for me so much, he looks after me like a prince... (347 words)

Should I leave? I need an outsiders point of view please..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I find my relationship problems difficult to talk to with my friends and family. I dont like them to see me as weak or troubled or i guess burden them with my troubles so i normally keep everything to myself and try to deal with things. But i have come to a point in my life ... (460 words)

Doomed to fail?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and some months now. We were great, happy doing things always together. Slowly she started to introduce negativity saying things like you'll stop loving me one day, things will change and i'd have to reassure her that ... (282 words)

Since he is unemployed he has become controlling.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - helo n merry xmas to every1.i have a bit of a prob.my hubby is unemployed and we have 3 kids together.a few yrs ago he had an affair which resulted in a child.we are stil together.but now that he's unemployed he's very controlling and wants to know what i do with every cent of ... (87 words)

I want to help my ex but I'm not sure how, please advise?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5167 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok guys, this question is kind of a follow up to the original problem I was dealing,with, but seems to be a whole different monster, my girlfriend of 8 years, has a very unique and beautiful quality about her, but it is also a double edge sword, she is very vey very giving, ... (503 words)

Still a virgin at 25, considering the use of a prostitute, please help?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4699 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - There have been many posts like this I'm sure, but I'll share with you my story anyway. It's Christmas, and I had promised myself that by this time, I would have lost my virginity, well, I haven't. My entire life, from my earliest childhood memory, I've felt inadequate, an... (719 words)

Does he like me, am I paranoid or is he messing with me? Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5247 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i really like a guy i met at a roller rank, he kinda follows me, but in a good way. like ill be with friends and go to the snack bar, and he will then leave, then i would go back, and he'd follow. i like him but i think he is older than me. a year Maximum. My friend was arguing ... (105 words)

Do you think my wife will cheat again?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife has been cheating on me for so many times and i still forgive her.I know its stupid of me but i don't want our family to be torn apart.shes a good liar and a really selfish bitch.One time,she said shes going to throw the trash and i was watching TV at that time.I notice ... (153 words)

Why do I always feel dead inside?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5093 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I don't know why but I'm in my late 20's and just lack the motivation to do anything. I find everything boring. I've never had a GF and couldn't be bothered, I've never had sex because it feels like too much hard work to bother with. I feel tired all the time. I just want to ... (143 words)

Am I being selfish for feeling hurt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend recently allowed his brother and sister-in-law to move into his house with him. My boyfriend is 25 and his brother and sister-in-law are 21. He has a pet name for his sister-in-law, he calls her clair-bear even in front of me. It makes me cringe when he does ... (141 words)

If he cheats on her with me, doesn't that mean he has feelings for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I was dating a guy for around 2 years, and we have a 5 mth old baby together. We stopped dating about 6 mths ago when he got together with his current girlfriend. He says he has no emotional feelings for me, but has been cheating on his girlfriend with me for the past 2 mths. ... (120 words)

He's a big time creep, right?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5249 days ago

25 December 2009 (?) age 36-40 - My friend met a guy during her doctor's appointment. She's only seen him twice, both while she was there to see her doctor. They exchanged numbers and have been texting. Now they haven't even been on a date and already this guy is asking her what happens if things work out, ... (167 words)

What can I do about my anger problem?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - So I was sexually assaulted several times in high school. It's now years and years later, and I'm with my first serious boyfriend. Everything was going great and he is supportive of me and all that's happened. However, I randomly find myself lashing out at him for being a man. ... (149 words)

How can I stop being clingy and possessive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - i have been with this girl since 2 years...she has always been very excited and caring to me since the beginning....we dated for 6 months and broke off and again dated and broke off for some reason ...even though we are(perhaps were) the bestest friends for each other, we never ... (751 words)

How do I improve our intimacy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and for most of the time we had a good sex life as well as intimacy. Ever since I was recovering from Breast Cancer our love making as well as any form of intimacy has become non existent. I have talked to him ... (121 words)

What should I do about getting depressed when seeing other couples?

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25 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I feel depressed when I see other couples. I guess this is a weakness for me...dating or finding a gf. I feel jealous that I can't find a mate right now. I'm only 23, and the only gf I had pretty much broke up with me on prom back in high school. I've gone to bars/dance ... (116 words)

Since I'm on a time limit, I am not sure what to do about my crush!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok I really like this guy from school. He is one of the hottest guys I've ever seen and my heart stops everytime I see him. Other than the fact he is gorgeous, we get along really well and we always have fun talking to each other. I never feel this way. My dilemma is, he does ... (165 words)

I don't feel the same so should I break up with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm with a girl now who meens a lot to me. She is my first and only girlfriend. We dated in highschool, she cheated on me and I forgave her, but the then she broke up with me when we went off to college. I eventually quit talking to her though I moved to the same school but ... (292 words)

He hunts for girls that are tight like virgins. How do I make myself like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I am in relationship with a divorce man whose got kids as well. He lives in a city and I work for a project in another province, comes home only twice a month. I have a long term relationship with him as well as in business. My favourite past time is at the massage, reading... (173 words)

Am I just fooling him and myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I've met a guy on some social networking site. We have corresponded over that SNS, then later we've moved onto the messenger. Since then, we've chatted almost everyday. Before I get to the gist of my narrative, I'll give you first a brief background about myself. I ... (477 words)

Wooing the boss?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5086 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a crush on my boss. At times it subsides some and then comes back again. I have remained professional. I never flirt or show signs I like him. I have had a crush on him for nearly eleven months and recently I decided that I should find another job since this is not ... (235 words)

How do I not ruin Christmas by not covering for my sister?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay, so a few months ago, in march, my older sister threw a party while i sat upstairs. my parents kept trying to call me because they were stuck at the seattle airport and i ignored the calls because my sister, "hannah" told me she would never forgive me if i answered... (180 words)

Why does she assume I'm always telling her what to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - my g/f reacts as if "i'm telling her what to do" in every possible situation that comes up..I say "hey , why don't you come up and go Christmas shopping near my house so we can spend some time together before the holidays", that is telling her what to do..She asks me to travel ... (339 words)

Is he just scared to show his feelings for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5249 days ago

25 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing someone casually, for about 5 months now, we met on an online dating agency, we agreed that we would carry on seeing each other for fun, as after a couple of dates he told me he was going travelling, which I was quite upset about, as I found that I got to r... (845 words)

Does wanting to bite her neck make me like a vampire?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - HI im 14 and i have a girlfriend and we cuddle and all that stuff but every time she puts he neck by my fae i want to bite her its wierd and scary, it like vampire shit... (38 words)

How do I handle this without hurting him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5249 days ago

25 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello , I met a guy 2 month ago and i had a nice feeling for him , after 3 weeks of dating him i cooled down and i didnt want to see him again , i dont know why ? but i found out that he is not the right one and we are totally different and he is untidy and other stuff i didn... (251 words)