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writes:Hello, well i'm with my GF for 6 months, and we love and trust each other, maybe in 2-3 months she will move to my place.We're having sex really often each 2-3 days, but as i noticed she likes blowjobs but dislike when i'm performing it to her(oral sex)I had lot's of partners and they really liked it.But she doesn't have such a sex experience so she told me today, that she loves sex with me, and likes giving BJ, but dislikes when i do it.I'm a bit confused, and i don't know can it be that some girls don't really like it?)thank you for your answers
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reader, doom +, writes (29 December 2009):
doom is verified as being by the original poster of the question well
w0trh-it- gues i should say thanks to her, that she is so nice, to me.
q1605 - i think you say good things, i have this stereotip idea, that if she gives me pleasur then , i should give her imperatively.And it's all in my head, if it works then let it be how it is
Thanks again for ALL your pleasent, and good answers, i apreciate it a lot!!
Good luck and a happpy new year to you all
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reader, w0trh-it  +, writes (28 December 2009):
just be happy shes giving you a blow job and she likes it too,unlike my wife. I actually have to convince my wife or treat her to dinner before she even give me some. Your lucky.I think her motto should be its better to give than to received.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Many women will literally melt at the tip of your tongue if you are good at it. Fine cunnilingus is a matter of timing and technique, which I think most women greatly enjoy if performed well. But if you can otherwise first please your girlfriend, and she enjoys finishing you orally, then congratulations!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): I can tell you first hand, I don't enjoy receiving oral. I am among a small group of women who orgasims when vaginally stimulated. It is a fact, that some women do not orgasm with clitoral stimulation alone. Therefore, if you want to try again, use you fingers 'vigorously' at the same time that your tongue is on her clitorus. You can even use a vibrator. It may take a while for her to relax, but when she does, wow!
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reader, doom +, writes (26 December 2009):
doom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i'll try to talk and reason or change something. But the thing that there exist girls who don't really like receiving, that kind of helps me a bit.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 December 2009):
 Just because she likes giving you blowjobs doesn't mean she likes oral sex in general. Giving a blowjob is VERY different than a woman receiving oral sex. They are completely different acts. You need to make her comfortable. Plus, your "skills" may not do it for her and she may need something different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): im much more comfortable giving than receiving...it is slowly changing but i cant say im that comfortable even yet...be patient. Mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): im much more comfortable giving than receiving...it is slowly changing but i cant say im that comfortable even yet...be patient. Mal
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reader, doom +, writes (25 December 2009):
doom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i gues the probleme isn't that she doens't like it....she does like it, but only when she is doing it to me,she told me that it turns her on 10 times more when giving me a blowjob.And i'm a bit confused about it.May be it's because of her past that she had a bad experience don't know.
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reader, Davethegamer +, writes (25 December 2009):
maybe it could be ur technique are you flicking er clck like crazy with ur tounge, or giving it some sensual lapping and sucking, if shes had it it the past, which bringing her past up can cause problems, but maybe its also what these other posters are saying, she just needs to open up and is a little uncomfortable. hope u can keep eatin tha kitty lol
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 December 2009):
I've always been too self conscious to relax and enjoy it, after a drunk guy doing it told me he hated the way girls smell down there, always. It's taken me a full, I dunno, maybe 8 months to relax enough to even vaguely like it. I'm getting there now though. Just reassure her you love the way she smells and looks. Tell her how much it turns you on doing it. If she smells funny or it doesn't turn you on, lie! Also make sure you know what she likes. Listen to her and ask.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (25 December 2009):
If she has no experience with it then maybe its just a matter of getting her comfortable about it. This may take time. Women often like to be clean and bathed so jumping her when she is just coming in from work is not a good idea. Also, if you tell her that its for your enjoyment too then she might be more willing. Just remember very very wet tongue and very gentle sucking only. Dryness, hard sucking, pulling and teeth are a big turn off. I used to hate it too until once when my partner gently insisted that he only wanted to see it up close and wouldn't do anything. I reluctantly agreed, then without warning he firmly pinned my hands down and gave me the best oral ever. Since then I won't even look twice at a guy who doesnt go down!! Have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): A woman who does not like you giving her oral is hung up on how she smells, or how she might taste. She may also have difficulty "letting go" and allowing herself to lose control of herself. Also it may be a turn off for you to try and kiss her after you've gone down on her so try to think about these things. I think women who tend to be "givers" have a hard time being "receivers" or at the very least, it takes them time to accept a different role. This may take awhile; she may eventually learn to accept your lead and giving up control of herself to enjoy absolute ecstacy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): i was just like your girl. Im not sure why, but it made me extremely self conscious and uncomfortable. I couldnt loosen up and enjoy it at all. I even suspect that maybe it was embarrassing to lose control? I couldnt believe that he wasnt secretly repulsed. Lol just give her time and space and try every once in a while to get a little closer to that area. Time sometimes changes things :) mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): It is a matter of personal reference. Some girls really do not like oral sex and in your case, your girlfriend has made things clear. In fact, some people don't even masturbate at all. If you do want to initiate her interest in oral sex, you can try cultivating her interest by brushing up your skills and add some porno perhaps in your sex life.
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