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writes:Hello, I am in a long term relationship with my partner but we seem to be in different places in our lives. I am a student and in my early twenties. I want to travel and see the world before I settle down. He is in his late 30's has a son from a previous relationship and has no desire to travel or do anything that is not the usual domestic routine. He likes to go out for coffee and on dates to films etc but really do anything exciting or fun. Otherwise he is a wonderful man, very loyal, trust worthy and a great support to me in whatever I do. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): A friend once said to me that if there is little or no common interests between 2 ppl and if they both dont want do some things together in a r/ship and have some long term plans that are simliar then, its hard to make it work long term.
2 differnt ppl, no matter how much u love each other neither of u is doing what yr heart wants and this will drive u apart in the end.
You need to talk to him and work out what important to you both, if he values a quieter life and wants to keep life on the quieter side and you want to travel and see the world thats OK, but.. If you rally love him and want to try to make this r/ship work you both may need to compromise a bit and think about what the other person wants too, other wise it may be better to end it now, hard as it is, as u wont be truly happy never doing what yr heart wants, you both might just be to different.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): Consider what both of you want in the long run and negotiate how both you will deal with each others' needs. It is not impossible to make the relationship work if both of you want it. They don't say nothing is impossible for nothing ;)
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